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Brian Edwards
Instructor: Malcolm Campbell
UWRT 1104
11/08/2018
The Paradox of Fulfillment: Changing Ourselves to Change the World
There are many complex issues that exist in the world today. When one problem is solved
it is as if there is an even greater one lurking in its shadow. This is something that is also
occurring in all our lives. We each aspire and have a desire for something moreWe each have
aspirations and goals even if those goals are to just keep up the great work. Whether we strive for
change or strive for consistency, either road This carries the burden of having to overcome
problems and learn something new about ourselvesyourself. What if that journey is the key to
solving the greater problems that exist in society and the world at large? Perhaps if we embraced
the hardships and failures as much as the glory and success and faced the adversity that comes
with the lifelong journey of becoming the best version of ourselves self-actualization, then we
Everyone is living a different life. Their minds influenced by past experiences, present
conditions, and future endeavors. In the same manner that each of us perceive the world
differently and have our own experiences, there are many ways to achieve self-actualization and
ultimately realize who you are and what you want. There have been psychological studies based
around this idea phenomenon, one of which dates back all the way to the 1960s done by
describes the self-actualized person as someone who can, “tie the past and the future to the
present in meaningful continuity.” Often there are people that argue that they cannot be
successful in something they are pursuing or once pursued due to their circumstances. They
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believe that they were not born with the right talents or maybe they have just failed so many
times that it just seems like an exercise in futility to even try anymore. It is very true that all of us
have different lives and different ways of going about them, as I stated earlier. However, the key
is not becoming a slave to the events of the past. First and foremost, even those that seem to have
a high aptitude naturally for their field or fields had to put in a considerable amount of work to
achieve that which they set out to achieve. The deck is stacked against us all in different ways,
and no one has reached success without deep introspection, dreaming, and calculating. The past
is meant as a reflection point and not a dwelling point. Thinking about what can be done better
instead of simply wallowing in that instance of failure can propel you closer to your desired
results.
Psychiatrist, Carl Jung talks about this topic of understanding more about one’s psyche in
his book titled, The Undiscovered Self “The Undiscovered Self”. He pinpoints a different
terminology called self-knowledge that states that we interact with our the mind and the body in
a similar fashion. behave similarly in that Aalthough it is something that we live in and use daily,
with it is something that we have very little profound knowledge of if the proper research has not
been done prior. What this shows is that if the proper precautions are not taken to assess the
situation at hand, people’s perspectives are often based upon a spontaneous reaction to the things
that are presented to them. That is when people begin to take on the futile exercise of searching
for answers outside of themselves instead of facing the truth about themselves or past events.
The simple difference between people that have reached the point of self-actualization in
A writer and columnist, Pagan Kennedy, wrote an article for the New York Times
chronicling the life of novelist, William Styron and his battle with depression during a time
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where there was a harsh stigma attached to such a mental illness. William Styron was labeled by
brain scientist, Alice Flaherty as “the great god of depression” due to his deep level of insight
into depression. His book, Darkness Visible, “Darkness Visible” became required reading in
some medical schools and inspired others to write about their experiences with depressions and
other related mental issues in a time where people that were diagnosed with depression were
seen as “pathetic and even dangerous”. Before dying of cancer in 2006, he Styron had one final
“Everyone must keep up the struggle, for it is always likely that you will win the battle
and nearly a certainty you will win the war. To all of you, sufferers and nonsufferers alike, I send
my abiding love.”
is depressed can have a high understanding of their purpose. He William felt that after writing
extensively on the matter, he felt that it was his duty to take on the role as the “guru of
depression” as stated in the article. This shows that one’s fulfillment and ultimate contribution to
the world is dependent on the way in which they one utilizes their circumstances and not just
their one’s circumstances alone. In William Styron’s case, he has shown the dichotomy between
succumbing to the mental and physical ailments that come with depression and fighting to be
I have suffered from much of the same issue. For a very long time I never really liked
myself. I felt hopeless, spiteful, and worst of all suicidal. I wanted more than anything to do
something impactful and inspire other people but at the same time I had given up because I
always felt that I was not good enough. Until I realized one day that doing something great and
creating an impactful legacy comes from the will to do so and not simply from being good at
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something. After all, your talent will take you places your character cannot keep you. Since then,
I have made that effort everyday to be something more than I was before and inspire others to do
the same.
So what steps should we take to reach a point of self-actualization in each of our lives?
This of course is not going to concern itself with specific career paths or aspirations. Rather, it is
about the basic principles and behaviors that can be used as a guide for the actions that one takes
The first thing would be to embrace the serendipity that life offers.
Life is essentially random. However, this is to our advantage. That means that all it takes
is one moment, one person, one idea to change the course of your entire life. There is a story told
in the self-improvement book, Think and Grow Rich “Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill
that talks about how a mining company had sold off all their equipment for a few hundred dollars
after tirelessly working to mine for gold during the gold rush. The person that purchased the
equipment got a mining engineer to do some research and found out that the only problem was
that the owners were unfamiliar with fault lines and that just mining three feet from where they
stopped would open the vein of gold. This is a common problem that stems from a person’s lack
of trust in the serendipitous nature of the world and even more so, a lack of belief in the thing
As the book explains, too often people quit due to being “overtaken by temporary
defeat”. Truly believing in what you are doing is what prevents that. I have come to realize in my
own life and other people’s lives, that quitting shows that you never really bought into the idea in
the first place. Again, pointing back to the importance of mindset and perspective. Those that
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understand their mission, do not have the ubiquitous, “believe it when I see it” mentality. It goes
beyond confidence, and into the realm of simply understanding the laws that dictate success on a
physical level. These miners clearly did not enjoy the process of mining and doing the proper
research for it. Otherwise, they would have made the adjustments that were required to achieve
their desired result. When we are blinded by an end result, like money in this case, we tend to
overlook the things we must do to get there. However, when we fully embrace the obstacles and
process of improvement, we suddenly seem to have more control over the outcome .
Another example of someone who embraces this process is Sir Dave Brailsford, cycling
coach and general manager of team sky. In the team’s 76 year cycling history they had only won
a single gold medal. In 2008 however, thanks to Sir Dave’s coaching, they were able to win
seven out of the ten gold medals cycling gold medals. What changed exactly? Sir Dave applied a
rule called the theory of marginal gains, which is the theory that improving each factor of
something by just one percent can create massive improvement in the long-term. Sir Dave
“It struck me that we should think small, not big, and adopt a philosophy of continuous
Just as not feeling the earth’s rotation is not enough evidence to say that it is not
happening, the absence of overwhelmingly vast changes and improvements is not enough to say
that improvements are not being made. Those with a goal that satisfies their long-term
fulfillment, like Sir Dave, tend to be are always able to “focus on progression” and see this
progress from even the most minute of occurrences. They also are aware of another important
Knowing your opportunities. One should not Don’t shy away from them. It is important
to not let the fear and self-doubt dilute blur your situational awareness. I never wanted to accept
offers from others mainly because I felt that I was not worth it. However, I learned later that the
biggest mistake that you can make is feeling like you are not worth it. You should always grab
hold of the opportunities that align with your goal, especially when someone is willing to take a
chance on you. Too often people do not take such opportunities because they believe that they
are not good enough. However, tThe more you actively try to better yourself and others through
your goals, the more you realize that people do not always need the best. Sometimes they might
not even want that. They just need someone that is willing to be of service to those around them
help and learn in order to and be better than before. If you reject opportunities because you think
you “are not ready” then you most likely will never be ready.
Professor at the University of Toronto, Jordan Peterson, uses sports as an example of something
that clearly represents the one thing that we all crave in an interview with Lewis Howes on the
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of the “idea of aim” and on top of that “the pursuit of excellence in pursuit of that aim”. In other
words, it is common sense to know that if you do not have something you need, your job at that
moment is to get it in whatever way you deem possible. That same thinking should be applied to
your goals, whatever that goal might be, and the knowledge necessary to achieve that goal them.
requires that you be willing to go through the process of being woefully ignorant first. Moreover,
knowing that that condition is one that changes as naturally as day turns to night.
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Jordan Peterson. That is something that should be exemplified. Because this suffering can be
justified, as you come out the other end as someone with newfound knowledge and integrity.
Ready to bear the burden of the next challenge that awaits you. We I still have many experiences
left in our lives my life. And as a result, have many failures and pitfalls left as well that and they
still hurt in spite of our my anticipation of them. But, in the end we should bear in mind I know
that as long as we I stay true to our my mission of seeing the good in ourselves in order to see the
good in others helping others see the good in themselves, our my suffering is worthwhile. It is as
Jordan Peterson says, “…it’s not naive optimism. It’s a very different thing…things aren’t
terrible: they’re brutal, and you are so damn tough you can’t believe it.”
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Howes, Lewis, Responsibility and Meaning, School of Greatness Podcast, Jordan Peterson 8 Jul
Jung, Carl, The Undiscovered Self, Little, Brown and Company, 1957
Kennedy, Pagan, The Great God of Depression, 3 Aug 2018. New York Times,
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