ADINA BOTIȘ MATANIE,ANCA AXENTE,2011,DISCIPLINAREA

POZITIVĂ SAU CUM SĂ DISCIPLINEZI FĂRĂ SĂ RĂNEȘTI.

CLUJ-NAPOCA,ASCR.THIRD EDITION.127pp

This book” Disciplinarea pozitivă sau cum să disciplinezi fără să rănești”(Positive

discipline or how to dicipline without hurting) appeared in 2011,in the collection of the
publisher ASCR,”Psychology and life”,as conceived by Adina Botiș Matanie and Anca
Axente.This book contains six chapters:1.”What is discipline?”,2.”Let’s talk about child
behaviour”,3.”The ingredients of good discipline”,4.”Steps in applying
discipline”,”5.Application” and 6.”Suggestions for exhausted parents”.

The book is addressed to parents,educators,school counsellors and other people who

interact with children.It offers informations to parents,educators and other people who
interact with children about efficient modalities of child behavior modification from the
positive discipline perspective. The main objective of this book is how to discipline a child
through positive methods. Although discipline is often confused with punishment,the
discipline is about encouragement and promoting the learning of new behaviours and
adaptive atitudes. Discipline must teach the child self-control and self-confidence by focusing
on what we want to learn. It is the basis for guidance on how children can be in harmony with
themselves, how to understand their own behavior, how to take initiative, be responsible for
their own choices, how to respect themselves and others.

I choose to make this book review because,as teacher, I am very interested in

choosing the appropriate method for disciplining children. The book teaches us methods
which we may apply as positive discipline and in this way we can see how it act on the child's
personality.As teacher I want to change the negative behavior in positive behavior and
reading this book was a good idea because I learn something new and interesting. Behaviour
can be defined as "everything we do", including positive , neutral or negative aspects.To learn
a new behaviour,positive behavior the children need to know what they did well, what of his
behavior is achieved in optimal conditions. To teach the child positive behaviors, like adults
he needs reinforcement / constant reward.In the” Positive discipline or how to dicipline
without hurting” I found a lot of inofmations on the realization of children's positive
behavior.
 Adina Botiș Matanie one of the writers of this book is one of the founders of
„Asociatia de psihologie a copilului si a adolescentului din Romania”-APCAR(Association of
Psychology of child and adolescent in Romania) in which works as a psychologist in the field
of cognitive-behavioral.The main activities of she are :psychotherapy services,training and
specialist materials of mental health of the child,adolescent and family.

Anca Axente the last writer is a psychologist specializing in clinical psychology.She

has extensive experience in psychological counseling practice of child and family and has
extensive experience in support of seminars targeting areas:ADHD,autism, communication
within the family.

Adina Botiș Matanie and Anca Axente organized the book „Positive discipline or how
to dicipline without hurting” in six parts,every part with subchapters.So we have:

1.What is discipline?
-Discipline as it was seen in the past
- Discipline as it was seen in the present
-Positive discipline an punishment
2.Let’s talk about child behaviour
-Which are the needs that motivate child behaviour?
-When should a child’s behaviour worry us?
-What is the difference between behavior and labeling?
3.The ingredients of good discipline
Discipline begins with good communication
-Active listening
-Formulating and transmitting the message
Methods that help in child discipline
-Positive reinforcement
-The control of the environment
-Logical and natural consequences
-Behavioural contract
-Applications
4.Steps in applying discipline
5.Applications
-Pre-schoolers
-Elementary school children
-Pre-adolescents and adolescents
6.Suggetions for exhausted parent
The first chapter” What is discipline?”compares the way discipline was seen in the
past and how it seen in the present and refers the way in which it was perceived and executed
by parents and teachers. It also offers a number of features of methods of positive discipline
of execution , suggesting exactly what it really means.
The second chapter “Let’s talk about child behavior” refers to behaviour and its needs
and when should we worry about it, putting accent on various grounds. Also, it highlights the
difference between behavior and labeling.
In the third chapter”The ingredients of good discipline”is about they way in which
we talk with children and which behavioural methods are most used in the discipline of
children. This chapter includes words that express happiness and words that reflect
anger,while the fourth chapter"Steps in applying discipline" talks about how to be put into
practice discipline.
The fifth chapter “Applictions”suggests some disciplining performance applications
and the sixth chapter offers "Suggestions for exhausted parents" by giving them support and
strengthen in the process.
So, the book is about positive discipline which is a way to change the negative
behaviour by strengthening those aspects that we want to get them more often, but not by
punishing actions. In this regard, besides to increase the chances of positive change, the child
will have sense of value and he will get the "emotional nutrition".
Child's behaviour is always motivated by a need. Essential needs may be related to
survival (food, clothing, housing, adequate temperature in the house, hygiene, etc.); others to
adjust to the social environment in which the child lives (education, training), the physical
and mental health (medical examination, vaccines, medical care in case of illness, sports,
healthy eating, and the alternation between work, learning and leisure taking age-appropriate
responsibilities, etc.) and others are emotional needs. These include the need for: love,
honesty, respect, the understanding, acceptance, patience, fairness.
Positive discipline is a set of principles that can be applied in a wide range of
situations. These principles can guide all of your interactions with your children, not just the
challenging ones. They also can guide your teaching of academic skills, not just social and
behavioural skills. Positive discipline is:
 • non-violent
• solution-focused
• respectful
• based on child development principles
Punishment is not discipline. Punishment can discourage students, erode their self-
confidence and lead them to dislike, or even hate school. Physical punishment and
humiliation can leave lasting scars on students’ self-confidence.
Disciplining a child is one of the less appealing tasks of parent or teacher. So what
should be done when the child is unwanted behavior?
This book” Positive discipline or how to dicipline without hurting” answers exactly at
this question. This book gives us all the answers to our questions. I believe that positive
discipline is very important to children since an early age, because in this way the child is
ready to enter in society. I think the educator must manage firmly the hostile or aggressive
behavior of the child, but also those behaviors which involving power games and
manipulation, such as: crying unjustified, tantrums, the role of victim, self-destructive
behavior, attempts to make others feel guilty, etc. If we not managed in childhood these
behaviors its will become long-term behavioral and will affect personal relationships in
adulthood.
In my opinion this book is very good and I recommend to all people who believe they
have some difficulties in disciplining children.I think it is very important for a parent to know
how to discipline his child.I suggest to people to read this book,because if they wiil read and
will learn these methods they will be pround of the behaviour of their child.
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