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Evidence Regrets From The Dying
This evidence is divided into two parts. Read the instructions below and make
sure you complete both tasks.
Fuente: SENA
A. In 2012, Bronnie Ware, an Australian palliative nurse, wrote a book called “The
Top Five Regrets of the Dying”. Read the following article about that book and
answer the questions below.
Source: http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2012/feb/01/top-five-regrets-
of-the-dying
Top five regrets of the dying
A nurse has recorded the most common regrets of the dying, and among the
top ones is 'I wish I hadn't worked so hard'. What would your biggest regret be
if this was your last day of life?
There was no mention of more sex or bungee jumps. A palliative nurse who
has counselled the dying in their last days has revealed the most common
regrets we have at the end of our lives. And among the top, from men in
particular, is 'I wish I hadn't worked so hard'.
Ware writes of the phenomenal clarity of vision that people gain at the end of
their lives, and how we might learn from their wisdom. "When questioned
about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently," she says,
"common themes surfaced again and again".
Here are the top five regrets of the dying, as witnessed by Ware:
1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others
expected of me.
"This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life
is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many
dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of
their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had
made, or not made. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no
longer have it".
"This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their
children's youth and their partner's companionship. Women also spoke of
this regret, but as most were from an older generation, many of the female
patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply
regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work
existence".
3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.
"Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others.
As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who
they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to
the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result".
"Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their
dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had
become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships
slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving
friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their
friends when they are dying".
"This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that
happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits.
The so-called 'comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well
as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and
to their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to
laugh properly and have silliness in their life again".
What's your greatest regret so far, and what will you set out to achieve or
change before you die?
Questions:
1. What is one of the most common regrets dying people, particularly men,
have?
2. When dying people are asked about their regrets, what are the most
common themes they mention?
3. In the article they mentioned that happiness is a choice. What do you think
this means?
Answers:
1. One of the most common regrets in men are, they wish they had not
worked so hard, they lamented spending so much of their lives on the
treadmill of a working existence.
2. The most common themes are, to work so hard and have no time for
their relatives, they regret about have no courage to express their
feelings and live their life in sadness because they didn't let
themselves be happy by thinking in others opinion, also they regret
about no stayed in touch with their friends.
B. Using the answers from part A question 2, describe how things would have
been different if they had changed their actions in each situation. Read the
example below:
Example:
Reflection: If they hadn’t wasted time on silly arguments, they would have
enjoyed the company of others more.
Answer:
Regret:
They wish they had the courage to live a life true to themselves, and not the
life others expected of them.
Reflection:
If you had been faithful to yourself you would not regret it for living in a farce,
otherwise you would live your life.
Regret:
They wish they hadn't worked so hard.
Reflection:
If you had enjoyed your life and had entertained yourself, you would not
have created a routine in your life and you would not regret having worked
so hard.
Regret:
They wish they had the courage to express their feelings.
Reflection:
If they had the courage to express their feelings, they would have been
happy because they'd have enjoyed their life.
Regret:
They wish they had stayed in touch with their friends.
Reflection:
We must not leave friends aside because remorse will hurt us later. If they
had stayed in touch with their friends they would have shared their life with
people, who really care of them.
Regret:
They wish they had let themselves be happier.
Reflection:
If they had allowed themselves to be happier, they would not regret their life
and would have ended their lives knowing that they had enjoyed it to the
fullest.
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