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All we have in life is what is in front of us. The best way to live well
is to put a magnifying glass up to the common, making and creating
little rituals, ceremonies, and celebrations as we flow through the day.
What a joyful way to choose to live our brief life, not taking anything
for
granted, being aware, being present to all the sensuous delights
available
to us, right where we are.
How dreadful to go through life with one long “to do” list, working
at everything so hard that we’re exhausted, anxious, and burned out.
There are big once-in-a-lifetime events that shouldn’t have to be
fraught
with tension. We are meant to enjoy our own wedding ceremony, not
be glad when it is over. You plan and plan and plan and then the big
day is here. Are you here? Are you in a position to feel the great joy of
your commitment and love? Are you present, fully concentrating on
the
meaning of the ritual, the beauty of the ceremony, the music, the
flowers,
family and loved ones?
Some people find it difficult to truly enjoy their own dinner parties
because they are so busy doing that they aren’t being relaxed and
receptive
to the conversation and enjoyment of being a host, having loved ones
in
their home.
One of the greatest pleasures in life is to choose to create everyday
ceremonies for living well, for our own sense of contentment and
happiness.
pleasure in it, when we are alone, it is obvious we will feel great pride
in
sharing our private world with others. Do you have a pitcher of yellow
roses on the kitchen table in a favorite hand-painted pitcher? Do you
use an underplate to add elegance to the appearance of a cup of soup
or
a salad? Do you use colorful napkins for everyday meals? Create little
rituals that awaken a greater intensity, a more vital love of life. I fi nd
that the more little moments I appreciate alone, the greater my ability
to
embrace and enjoy the company of others. When we celebrate our
inner
resources privately, we are in a position to share them with others
more
authentically.
Some people have a specific place and time for their meditation. I
believe we should consider meditation not so much a method for
stress
management but a pathway toward greater inner light. When we
ritualize our life, we expose goodness and hidden beauty everywhere.
In
this consciousness, we can meditate whenever and wherever we are.
Last summer Peter and I were having lunch at a nearby restaurant on
a dock overlooking the Stonington harbor. It was one of those magical
moments when a refreshing breeze was blowing after days of
blistering
heat. A cup of cold gazpacho appeared, served by a friend, Ainslie,
who
runs the restaurant. “I made this from all the fresh vegetables from
the
farmers’ market—tomatoes, cucumbers, cilantro, onions, peppers, and
herbs. I thought it would be refreshing for you before you enjoy your
lobster salad.” She served this ambrosia in stemmed glasses on
cobaltblue
plates, garnished with fresh green and purple basil from her own
garden. We were surprised and delighted, and we’ve never had better
gazpacho in our lives than Ainslie’s.
One of our small ceremonies when we go to Ainslie’s restaurant is
that we “BYO” organic tomatoes, grown in nearby Rhode Island by
Max,
whose tomatoes are the best I’ve ever tasted. We bring our own blue-
andwhite-
handled tomato knife that has a sharp serrated edge. Often Ainslie
wants to plate our tomato in the kitchen. This magical day, she chose
to
go wild! Out came a large blue glass plate brimming with organic
greens,
buffalo mozzarella cheese balls, big slices of the tomato with chopped
basil, Italian parsley, and the best olive oil that looked bright
chartreuse on
the cheese. Sometimes when you’re extremely lucky, when you have
good
friends, when the weather is perfect, you can have a surprise pleasure
that
turns into a grand celebration for two.
When corn is in season, treat your family to Sunday night supper of
corn on the cob, some ripe tomatoes, and some watermelon. When
my
daughters were young, one night a week we’d order in Chinese food.
I’d
put the foods in lacquered bowls and we’d eat with chopsticks. There’s
no
need to cook Chinese food if we can order it on the telephone and
have
it delivered to our door. In the winter months, Sunday night was souffl
é
night. We made the souffl és together.
Whether you have a festive picnic at the beach or have a ritual of
all holding hands at the dinner table before you begin your meal, your
pleasure will bring lasting happiness if you continue to create these
little
happy moments for yourself and others that give life more meaning.
Start your own list of ways to appreciate the little pleasures around
you.
Choose to celebrate small ceremonies, capturing the moments
tenderly.
Let these small acts interconnect all you think and do, making you
more
fully aware of ways you can live a good life every day.