UNIVERSITY OF SAN CARLOS SOUTH CAMPUS

COURTSHIP AND DATING

HEALTH 8

SHAULA FERNELLI Z. SANTIAGO

SUBMITTED TO: MRS. ALINO

SUBMITTED BY: SHAULA SANTIAGO, GRADE 8-SAJ
#31
INTERVIEW QUESTIONS:

1. HOW DID THE COUPLE MEET EACH

OTHER?
 MAMA: YOUR PAPA KNOWS WHERE.
 PAPA: I FIRST GOT SIGHT OF YOUR MAMA
IN AN EARLY MORNING MASS IN STO
ROSARIO CHURCH.
IT WAS AN INFORMAL MEET AND GREET
SITUATION ARRANGED BY MY AUNT TIYA CHIT.
I AM NOT SURE IF YOUR MAMA EVEN NOTICED
ME DURING THAT FLEETING MOMENT BUT BY
THE TIME I LEFT THE CHURCH I ALREADY HAD
MY SIGHT SET ON THE CURLY HAIRED WOMAN
THAT IMMEDIATELY CAPTURED MY HEART
FOREVER.
2. WHY DID THEY LIKE/LOVE EACH
OTHER?
 MAMA: I GOT MAGNETIZED BY THE TALL,
DARK AND ENIGMATIC ISLANDER BOY
THAT MELTED MY HEART.
  PAPA: IMY LONELY HEART WAS
MESMERIZED BY THE CURLY HAIRED
BEAUTY PASSING IN FRONT OF ME AT THE
CHURCH.
3. DID THE MARRIAGE/RELATIONSHIP
START WITH A COURTSHIP AND DATING?
HOW?
 MAMA: A VERY LACONIC COURTSHIP
FOLLOWED BY A LONG DISTANCE LOVE
AFFAIR.
 PAPA: IT STARTED WITH AN INFORMAL
INTRODUCTION FROM MY TIYO BEN AND
TIYA CHIT DURING THEIR VISIT TO OUR
BOARDING HOUSE IN URGELLO STREET.
WHEN THE NAME ‘ERNA’ WAS
MENTIONED, MY INTEREST WAS
IMMEDIATELY CAUGHT IN MID-STRIDE AND
I GOT HOOKED ON THE BEAUTIFUL
SOUNDING NAME.
I ALMOST GAVE UP WHEN MY FIRST
INTRODUCTORY LETTER FAILED TO GET A
REPLY FROM YOUR MAMA.
LUCKILY MY TIYO BEN AND TIYA CHIT DIDN’T
GIVE UP ON ME AND ASKED ME TO TRY AND
WRITE ANOTHER LETTER IN CASE THE FIRST
ONE GOT LOST IN THE MAIL.
MY ONE PARAGRAPH LETTER LUCKILY FOUND
ITS WAY TO YOUR ‘NANAY SALING’ IN GSIS
AND AS MY TIYO BEN DESCRIBED IT, WAS MET
WITH A ‘RESOUNDING APPROVAL’ AMONG
YOUR MAMA’S COLLEAGUES WHEN
DELIVERED IN MLHUILLIER COLON.
MORE LETTERS FOLLOWED AND SOME
PICTURES BEFORE WE FINALLY MET WHEN I
CAME HOME FOR MY VACATION IN MARCH OF
1993.
I DECIDED NOT TO LET GO OF MY DREAM
GIRL AND ASKED HER TO MARRY ME WHEN I
GET HOME THE NEXT YEAR (JANUARY 1994) –
AND SHE SAID YES.
4. IS COURTSHIP AND DATING IMPORTANT
TO THEM IN CHOOSING A LIFE TIME
PARTNER? WHY?
 YES IT IS. IS IT WHERE BOTH GETS TO
KNOW EACH OTHER MUCH BETTER AND
WHERE ADJUSTMENTS ARE MADE BEFORE
PROCEEDING HEAD-ON WITH THE
DECISION TO GET MARRIED – WHERE
EVERYTHING IS FINALIZED BEFORE GOD
AND MEN.
5. WHAT MESSAGE CAN YOU DRAW FROM
THE INFORMATION THAT YOU GATHERED
FROM YOUR PARENTS OR COUPLE?
 FOR ME IN CHOOSING A LIFETIME
PARTNER YOUU SHOULD CHOOSE
SOMEONE THAT CAN UNDERSTAND YOU
AT YOUR WORST AND CHEER YOU UP
WHEN YOUR SAD AND YOU SHOULD
UNDERSTAND EACH OTHERS ATTITUDE TO
DEVELOP TALKING WITH EACH OTHER,
YOU SHOULD UNDERSTAND THE PAIN YOU
RECEIVED AND LEARN FROM IT AND TRY
AGAIN, MISTAKES ARE PROF YOU ARE
TRYING, WHEN HE/SHE SEE’S YOU
WORKING HARD THAT MEANS YOU ARE
SPEACIAL TO HIM/HER. YOU SHOULD
ACCEPT ALL THE MEAN FEEDBACKS FROM
 OTHER PEOPLE AND DON’T LISTEN TO IT
AGAIN, YOU SHOULD LISTEN TO
YOURSELF, IF YOU LOVE THAT, PERSON
YOU TRY YOUR BEST TO SHOW
EVERYTHING THAT YOU CAN GIVE OR
SHOW TO HIM/HER.

ERWIN P. SANTIAGO ERNA Z.

SANTIAG0
FATHER MOTHER

INTERVIEWER:
SHAULA SANTIAGO,
DAUGHTER OF ERWIN AND ERNA