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when I say the first I'll prayer it's
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usually the first openers nice headgear
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but then I say then I said can I ask you
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a kind of an unusual question now why do
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i put in the word unusual because i'm
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building a little bit of tension she's
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thinking of what what's he going to ask
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me and then when you ask something
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that's actually nice the tension gets
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discharged so a good opener often will
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actually build a little tension and then
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discharge it do you get it when I do the
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second piece look here we're going to go
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through it step by step
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look here before you write when I do the
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second piece look here that's when I
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change my point out and my tempo a
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little bit also can I ask you a kind of
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unusual question she'll say well say can
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you fight do you do martial art and
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whatever she says I said because you
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carry yourself pause here's what I start
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the pause look at me here guys because
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you carry yourself why don't I say right
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away how she carries herself what am i
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doing by pausing I'm building response
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potential how does he carry me how do i
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because you carry yourself with
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discipline and elegance it's a very
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unique combination now how come I didn't
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say it's a very attractive combination I
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think it's really attractive I said when
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I say it's a very unique combination
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it's almost giving the compliment that
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not quite unique could be like uniquely
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bad uniquely weird you understand what
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I'm saying
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oftentimes you will find she's yeah a
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kickboxer yes I dunno how did you know
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that I mean if she says how did you know
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that I said well haven't you ever met
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someone who just felt like this person
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understands you totally
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hmm um sandy just set it up back there
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or anywhere you want I love an English
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woman serving key pull the first black
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tee because it's just pay attention here
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ignore her
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look here okay so you carry yourself
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pause with discipline pause and elegance
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it's a very unique combination while at
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that point Wow then you're going to see
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here you go
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then you and that's when you then
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introduce yourself you say my name is
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can I borrow your hand for a minute
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sandy it's more important important that
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you put the tea down just for a second
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yeah us to come up here do you mind
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being on camera come it doesn't matter
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don't worry I'll say so I'll say I'll
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say my name's Ross and then for a minute
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I do what I call the intrusion principle
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which is I hold the hand a little bit
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longer whose shit my head again this is
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a normal handshake yeah but this is a
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slightly my name's Ross I'll hold it
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just a little bit longer why because I
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want to see you can go ahead and I want
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to intrude just a little bit to see how
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she responds to power does she respond
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to me holding on a little bit longer
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with like this or does she pull back I
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want to immediately begin to show a
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little bit of domination a little bit of
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strength outside of the ordinary because
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what am i doing in that within that
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first two minutes of pay attention here
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when in that first two minutes of
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talking what am i doing I'm establishing
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number one that I'm fearless number two
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that I'm unique number three that I
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observe something about her outside of
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her actual physical appearance I'm
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observing how she holds herself how she
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moves number four
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I'm not drooling over her about it I'm
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stating it matter of fact number five
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I'm being a little bit a little bit over
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a little bit intrusive just a little bit
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does this make sense