Working Together to Solve Problems

September 24, 2018

Dear Families,

Over the past several weeks, we have been talking about “problems” and
“solutions” in our everyday lives. We have brainstormed and discussed
problems that arise in our classroom, playground, cafeteria and life outside
of school. We discussed and role-played problems and brainstormed
solutions to help us solve different problems we may have at school or at
home.

We often try to relate their childhood frustrations to similar experiences we have as adults.
We refer to the coping skills wheel and solution kit visuals as we describe how we respond to
problems. For example, we share stories of how we respond when someone cuts us in line at
the grocery store or our cars. We do not just slam our carts or crash our cars into someone to
get them out of the way because we were there first. We let it go so we can be kind and be
safe.

We have visual supports that portray different solutions and coping strategies. As
a whole class, small groups, and partners, we practice problem-solving skills with
appropriate solutions and coping strategies. We have the visuals displayed in the
classroom, and easily accessible in “Solution Kits” (small plastic containers with a
handwritten label – have your child decorate the label!).

I am sending home a copy of each of the visual tools. The visuals are very effective and the
children enjoy using them. As conflicts arise between siblings and at play-dates, you can
encourage your child to think about the problem, think of some possible solutions and coping
strategies, evaluate the solution, and then give it a try.

When non-emergency problems arise and children approach us, before intervening we ask
them, “Which solutions did you try?” If they have not tried any, we say, “Try three before me,
please.” They need to try three solutions and/or coping strategies before coming to an adult. If
the problem persists, and they have tried three solutions and told us what happened after
each try, we assist children with resolving the issue. By having children attempt it on their own
first, it helps provide them with an increased senses of independence, ownership of the
solution and the ability to advocate for themselves.

Please feel free to contact me with any questions or ideas. Have a fantastic day!

Mrs. Ficco