Using empathetic visualization

For a healthier relationship

Author Note

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Manuscript last updated on 27 July 2019

Some of the best solutions are the simplest ones. It is like the saying goes, “the
answer is right beneath your nose.” Seek the compromising route: Give people what
they want, in order to get what you want. Communicate with the person whom you are
speaking to, by pretending to speak from the perspective of the person sitting opposite of
you.

People love to talk to other people who are as much like them impossible (but without
mimicking them, for that would be insulting). Furthermore, most of us enjoy being in the
company of those that we feel can relate to us. Most people never seek to insult or hurt
others, but instead most of us seek to create relationships and situations that compliment
our lives and others. However, what becomes challenging is the fact that we have
different values, beliefs, needs, and we are all on varying schedules. It is almost
astronomically impossible to make everyone happy all the time and every time.

On the other hand, it is very possible to offer compromise. The law of relationships is
based upon equal or opposite exchange. In this case, seeking compromise by visualizing
yourself in the role of others is highly recommended. The reason for this is because there
is a much better chance that more of our interpersonal relationships will fall in our favors,
if we at least make an attempt at offering others something that they want in exchange for
some thing that we want in return.

This can be challenging in the beginning, but just continue to use your imagination while
speaking to others, in order to visualize what it will be like to be them in the moment that
they are speaking to you. Try this instead of imagining what you will say next. You
may eventually begin to see the understanding of the other person’s perspective.
Your thought patterns precede emotions, so it is through sufficient visualization that
you may also begin to experience emotions appropriately associated with what the
person across from you is feeling.