I Went To New York City

I Went to New York City's Top Hookup
Bars Alone and 'Tried' To Get Picked Up,

and Here's What Happened
By GABRIELLE MOSS
Jan 7 2015
When I was growing up, my recently-divorced mother had a group of recently-
divorced friends who all used to go out and try to meet men together. All of them
were looking for love — or whatever rough approximation of it that they could fit
in between work, family, and some surprisingly contentious PTA meetings — but
my mother had one friend who seemed to be looking a little harder than everyone
else. Her name was Lydia, and her drive for companionship seemed to make her
a bit of a pariah among the singles mixer crew (all of whom were legit looking for
second husbands like it was their second job). How could I tell that Lydia was
"desperate," as my mom often described her? Because Lydia went to bars by
herself. "That's just trashy," my mother had told me nonchalantly, the hidden
meaning obvious even then to my My Little Pony-loving self: Lydia was a slut.
Decades later, now grown up into an introvert with a "colorful" personality, I do
tons of things alone. I eat out alone, go to the movies alone, and I once traveled
to Austria alone. But somehow, going to bars alone to relax has never made it
into my regular rotation. I mean, I hadgone out to bars alone in the past — but
always with the express purpose of getting laid, and generally after I had drinks
with a group of friends beforehand. In fact, I met my boyfriend of four years while
alone at a bar ... which kind of ended my doing that. But even when it was a
regular part of my life, I had never really enjoyed doing it. I always saw it more as
a means to an end than anything else. And now that I was partnered, I had a
hard time imagining what I'd get out of drinking alone.
I'm a feminist, and believe that everyone should be allowed to do whatever they
want, whenever they want. And yet, in my own life, going to a bar alone feels
unseemly. Even though I am no longer out on the prowl for fresh peen, when I
enter a bar alone, it feels like everyone must assume that I am. Bars are many
things — refuges from the working world, places in which to hide your secret
drinking problem — but they're also highly-charged sexual marketplaces. And I

can't tell which frightens me more; the idea that some men might try to put the
moves on me, or the idea that no one will.
We women are told that any male attention is risky, but also that a lack of male attention
makes you worthless. And nowhere does that horrible package deal seem to play out
more sharply than when we're alone at the bar.
And so, when I was asked to go to some of New York City's top hookup bars by
myself for the sake of this experiment, I took all of those complicated (and,
frankly, embarrassing) feelings along with me.
We laid out the rules: Go in alone. Stay for a minimum of 20 minutes or one
beer; whichever comes first. No books or playing around on your cell phone. See
if anyone talks to you.
My Preparation: Before I could do my first solo Jaegerbomb, I had to figure out
how to get people to talk to me. I have many (or at least several) good qualities,
but appearing approachable is not one of them. Even when I was very actively
single, coming off as hateful and unapproachable has always kind of been my
"brand." I have an affliction just a hair worse than Resting Bitch Face, which I
think of as "Resting Murderer Face." Here I am trying to appear friendly and
relaxed inside my own home:

This perma-frown is not because I go through all of my days thinking of nothing
but pain, mayhem, and Tim Burton. I've just always had a hard time appearing
friendly. See?
And so I Googled the second-saddest phrase I have ever Googled in my life:
"How to look more approachable at bars." (The saddest phrase I have ever
googled was "Is Mad About You streaming?" — the answer to which is "No, of
course not.")
Some of the first advice I came across was from the Millionaire Matchmaker
herself, Patti Stanger. She noted that you shouldn't cross your arms if you want
to meet people — "It clearly sends a message of disinterest." Remember to smile
and only cross your legs "strategically." What counts as "strategic" leg-crossing?
Like, when you have to pee? To show that you're a sexy sex lady who has all of
her joints in working order?
Also on Stanger's list of no-nos? So-called "extreme appearance," which includes
stuff like dark lipstick, and extreme emotional behavior, like oversharing. Since
dark lipstick and oversharing are pretty much my only hobbies, I decided to go
back to the smile thing. A Match.com article recommended practicing smiling in
front of a mirror to make sure that your smile is "natural and welcoming." And so I
tried. I really, really tried.

Hey, you people thought it was cute when that cat from the Internet had a shitty
attitude! It's hardly fair to start changing the rules just for me.
Eventually, I gave up and decided to just not wear lipstick and hope that would
read as "friendly" enough.
Hello, sailor!
But as I read further about the art of bar approachability, I found that a nude lip
gloss would only take me so far. The number of people you're out with is also a
factor. Apparently, rolling in a group of five is too large to seem approachable,
and one to two are too few. Setting out solo, the experts warned, could
potentially give off the vibe that you're a scary man-eater, or there to drink away
your troubles alone because your cat just died.
So, scary man-eating cat-mourner that I am, I set off into the night to see what
happens when a lady rolls into a hookup bar alone. Here's what happened.
The Hipster Watering Hole: Black Rabbit
Choice Yelp Quote: "I would not recommend venturing here alone late at night,
as it can be a little depressing."
The Black Rabbit once hosted a speed-dating event aimed exclusively at fans of
the Smiths and Morrissey, which should tell you pretty much everything you need
to know about it. It's a bar for slightly older indie rockers who may or may not be
on mood-stabilizing medication. So needless to say, I have been here a billion
times — though I've never picked up more than a hangover.
What Happened: I sat down at the very end of the near-empty bar, ordered a
beer, and within moments, overheard a man talking about White Russians. "You
can call them Caucasians," he said to his companion. He then turned to me.
"Right?" "Yeah," I said, "like in The Big Lebowski." "Exactly," he said. "'You make
one helluva Caucasian, Jackie.'"
Within seconds, Lebowski and I were outside, smoking cigarettes and discussing
why we had both stayed in the city for Christmas. We talked about our
dysfunctional families. We even talked, for a second, about the Smiths. We went
back inside, where his two very friendly (married) friends told me that Lebowski
had been a three-time winner on Jeopardy. I had been afraid of feeling
vulnerable if I went out to a bar alone, but this evening was already presenting a
very different challenge. Bars are full of people who are sexually attractive and
who are also not your partner. Part of me was able to picture a moment of
temporary insanity in which I'd grab Lebowski, pull him into a booth, and ruin my
entire life.
Lebowski pronounced himself "too drunk to hit on me," and then offered to buy
me a beer. "You shouldn't," I said. "I have a boyfriend." "Women make 70 cents
to a man's dollar," he told me, slapping down some ones and handing me a beer.
"Until the world rectifies that, you should let men buy you a beer."
I left an hour later, kind of flushed and embarrassed, but confused and happy.
The idea of bars being a minefield of temptation was messed up, but infinitely
more thrilling than the idea of a bar as a minefield of rejection.
The Sports Pub: Joshua Tree

Choice Yelp Quote: "Now that I'm not in my early 20s anymore, this
environment is more annoying than entertaining."
What Happened: Remember that thing I said about bars being a minefield of
temptation rather than humiliation? I spoke too soon. I walked into Joshua Tree,
settled down at the only open seat I could find, and ordered my beer. Things
seemed as chill here as they had at the Black Rabbit — it was a weeknight, and
people seemed clustered in small groups, watching the game on the big
overhead TVs — but try as I might, I could not summon the same degree of
comfort that I had at the other bar.
Joshua Tree is a sports-bar-cum-infamous-pickup-spot aimed at post-frat types
and the women who love them, and I had avoided it for many years not because
I thought I was too good for it, but because the thought of being so far out of my
element made me uncomfortable. Going to bars alone is a lot like being a new
kid in a high school cafeteria. It's thrilling if you find your table, but if you don't,
the urge to just to call the whole thing off and eat lunch alone in the bathroom is
overwhelming.
I was afraid of having no one talk to me, I was afraid of having someone talk to
me and ask me a question that I couldn't answer. I was afraid, period.
A very attentive male bartender doted on me — not in a "you are a sexy pile of
sex" way, but in a "you appear to be a sad lost Victorian orphan" kind of way —
and handed me a plate of complimentary popcorn. To my left, a group of guys
around my age watched the game, ate burgers, and tried to explain the Iggy
Azalea "Fancy" video to each other. "So it's making fun of Clueless?" said one
guy in a blue shirt. I watched the game, understanding nothing.
I had vowed not to use my phone during this experiment, but after 10 minutes in
the bar, I caved. I paired my texting with frequent glances at the doorway, as if I
was expecting someone, putting on a show that mattered to no one except me.
What the hell was I doing here? I felt embarrassed for myself. I was so clearly not
interested in the game being shown on TV. I could only imagine the other patrons
thinking that I was cruising for D or drinking away the pain. Either way, they
steered clear of me.
I waited until the bartender was in the bathroom to leave, because I was afraid of
him sweetly asking me if I was okay. "So wait," I overheard the guy in blue say as
I left, "is that video about Clueless or what?"
The Rock 'N' Roll-ish Dive: Niagara
Choice Yelp Quote: "This place is your typical dive bar, there is absolutely
nothing special about it."
Niagara was the site of some of my own youthful debauchery — I got bounced
from there in 2003 after I tried to pay for a $7 drink with quarters. So I thought
that rolling in here after the anxiety of Joshua Tree would be easy like Sunday
morning.
What Happened: I went in around 8 p.m. on a weeknight, and found the bar
dotted with clumps of attractive men, all in intimidating groups of five or more. I
sat at the first open spot I saw at the bar, and was almost immediately asked to
move one seat over by a couple on a date.
The bartender, again, was kinder to me than any bartender I had ever
encountered in my life. While I had met funny bartenders and chill bartenders in
the past, I had never before encountered so many male bartenders who treated
me tenderly, like a puppy with its leg in a cast. "Our stereo is having problems,"
he told me sheepishly, which is how I came to drink my beer in that most
terrifying of bar environs: near-silence.
As I watched the overheard TV (which here silently played old classic rock videos
instead of sports), I began to obsessively wonder what I looked like to the people
here. Must they be wondering what's wrong with me? The bartender certainly
seemed to. Did people think I was a loser for being here alone? The fact that I
had many friends and a boyfriend and had gone here on purpose without any of
them didn't seem to ease my nerves.
The bartender came over and passed me a drink token. "Happy hour's over," he
said, "but I thought maybe you could use this extra one." I smiled, thanked him,
and again waited until he was in the bathroom to grab my coat and leave. The
closest relationships I had formed at these bars were with the bartenders, and
like all relationships that get too intense too fast, I couldn't think of any way to
end it besides ghosting.
The Hookup Bar To End All Hookup Bars: Union Pool
Choice Yelp Quotes: "Packs of strangers roam around looking for whoever
wants to fit their parts inside of each other." "Kinda reminds me of a middle
school auditorium-gymnasium, but maybe it's all the grinding and makings-out."
About ten years ago, Union Pool was the place in the greater Brooklyn area to
find no-strings-attached sex and some-strings-attached cocaine. Though it
has lost some of its louche luster in the intervening decade, when I rolled in at 10
p.m. on a Monday night, the place was still absolutely packed, which seemed like
a good sign. Surely, this wouldn't be the site of yet another lonely humiliation,
right? Goddamn it, I've already had sex with strangers I met at this bar! I'm pre-
approved!
What Happened: Here, the bartenders were too busy to feel sorry for me. They
had to pay attention to the seemingly millions of couples on sloppy-drunk second
dates instead. Without an attentive bartender to indulge my feelings of infinite
sadness, I leaned back and took in all the coy elbow-touching and tipsy "I love
this song!" enthusiasm going on around me. Young women pushed past me to
order drinks — not rudely, but like I just didn't register. The woman closest to me
rubbed her huge mane of curly hair across my face by accident as she ordered. I
could smell her fruit shampoo. I felt like a ghost of a single person.
I didn't have to wait for the bartender to go to the bathroom to leave this time. In
fact, when I went to the bathroom, I came back to find that my seat had already
been taken.
I didn't feel shame as I walked away from Union Pool, the way I had leaving
Joshua Tree or Niagara. I also didn't feel the pang of "Still got it!" that I did upon
exiting Black Rabbit. I simply felt a wave of relief. I was ashamed about how
happy I was to be done with going to bars alone.
What I'm Taking Home: During this experiment, I was reminded of guys in
college who would make declarations like "women can have sex whenever they
want," and then followed it up muttering "except the ugly ones." So many of us
women spend so much of our lives trying to figure out if we are one of "the ugly
ones." I have spent so much of my life trying to figure out if I am one of "the ugly
ones."
And while I know plenty of women who like going to bars alone for completely
nonsexual reasons, for me, a bar was still a place to trade attention for self-
confidence back and forth with some man in sick, sad loop. A place to do
research on my own beauty or worth. A place to try to finally establish for myself
that I'm not one of "the ugly ones."
We women are are told that any male attention is risky, but also that a lack of
male attention makes you worthless. And nowhere does that horrible package
deal seem to play out more sharply than when we're alone at the bar. I was sent
into a shame spiral by being ignored (I spent a good half hour after getting home
massaging various pricey creams into my face), and yet also felt tremendous
relief that I hadn't been hit on or harassed by someone who didn't see me as a
person, but merely as a body whose anxieties could be exploited — or worse, as
a potential victim.
We're supposed to accept trading risk for approval, told that these are the rules
of going out. This is supposed to be the life of a woman alone at a bar.
I thought back to Lydia. "Lydia thinks she's hot shit," my mother, who never went
to bars, would mutter. She pictured Lydia trading risk for approval on a grand
scale, hooking up with every dude she met, receiving confirmation that she
wasn't one of the ugly ones. Looking back on it now, I think that Lydia probably
just wanted a place to drink a beer away from her seven-year-old kid. We all
want a place to be alone with our thoughts and away from the people we live
with, although it's still pretty taboo for women to admit it.
But for me, a bar still doesn't feel like a place where I can safely be alone with my
thoughts. Going to bars alone didn't feel like a refuge for me, but merely another
place in life to put on my makeup and ball gown and await the judge's score.
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That_One_Guy_Inc
98 points·8 months ago
I was once kicked out of a bar before I ever got inside. When I asked the reason they told me
"Because you're friends with HIM..." and pointed to my drunk asshole friend who was being
belligerent outside.
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runawaycity2000
this is when you say " no man...I have no idea who that loser is"
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cptrekt
1 point·8 months ago
Same thing happened except it was a bottle shop and I was the drunk asshole friend.
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bizcliz6969
i was strutting around like Ric Flair around the edge of the dance floor, vaguely remembered
being grabbed by a butch lady bouncer and being told "you gotta go"
level 2
FieldMarshalFry
WOO!
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Godisdeadbutimnot
Why did this make me think of the game
Continue this thread
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billbapapa
Girl I took on a date revealed herself to be a super bitch and was mean/super rude to the waitress.
I was super embarrassed so I was happy when the Manger came over and told us we had to leave.
I thanked him quietly as he escorted us out.
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Luckboy28
You could have walked out at any time, too. =P
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SwolestSauce
I'd tell her to leave. If you can't be nice to wait staff I'm assuming you're a shit person.
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realcooltime
I've never been kicked out myself. I have a friend who got kicked out for eating the bars flowers on
the patio and when the bouncer asked him to stop he tried to fight him.
level 1
ryatt
Underage drinking....a very ling time ago.
level 2
DesolationComes
Me too
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dtestme
2 of our 10 person party, because they were driving, weren't getting enough drinks to satisfy the
whims of one of the 4 shitty regulars.
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automator3000
A series of dares escalated to going behind the bar and drinking frozen maragaritas directly out of
the machines.
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JimmyExplodes
No weezing the juice!
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HeyyJosh
A group of us were at Steak n Shake and we were talking about kids who threw their lives away
and smoked a lot of pot instead of going to school. We literally said the word "pot" and some lady
plus her trailer trash family got pissed. They went to the manager and said we were talking non
stop about drugs and her kids were present. We said the word pot like 5 times in two minutes and
switched topics.
Anyway we didn't know this until they brought all of our food to us in to go bags and were asked
to pay and leave. The manager was really nice, but this lady was getting ready to make a scene
and she was already demanding a free meal from him. It was probably the kindest throwing out
you can ever have and caught all us off guard. It was nice out so we all went to a gas station
bought some drinks and went a park. That lady looked so proud and we more confused than
anything else.
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[deleted]
Fuck that. Kick her out then.
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-Words-Words-Words-
I got drunk and stupid in an old bar while in college. I was in the back and started punching out
these little panes of glass in a back room window. The bouncer, who was a friend of mine, came
over and grabbed me and was like "What the fuck are you doing? Now I have to throw your
stupid ass out!" and sure enough, I got physically thrown out. My friend was nice enough to throw
me into a snowbank though. I sobered up the next day and replaced the window panes with the
owner, on my own dime of course.
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caligo_ky
Back in my younger days of more adventurous fashion choices, I'd gone out for a night with some
friends wearing what was basically a collared dickie as a shirt. We wanted to go for a bite to eat at
one of the local greasy spoons, and they wouldn't let me stay because of my shirt allowing my
nipples to be seen. To which one of my friends interjected, "But she's a boy!" We still randomly
throw that line out for a laugh.
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BLUMPKINFORCE
A friend and I were standing on a table doing Tequila shots and shouting "We are fucking Vikings".
Neither of us are of Vikings.
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40WeightSoundsNice
I have droopy drunk eyes so when i'm a 7 or 8 out of 10 smashed i look 10 out of 10.
I've been kicked out bars more than once
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BigJCote
Tim?
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Barneski8819
Stealing peoples pitchers of beer off their tables. It was like $1 pitchers or something so there were
hundreds all over the place. Joes on Weed St.
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blazebot4200
Once at a crowded club my buddy lifted a bottle of liquor out of a cooler in the VIP section. We
each took a big gulp and passed it off into the crowd never to be seen again. That’s what you call
the alcoholic Robin Hood.
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dogbert617
Heh, that's amusing you were doing that. In fairness I'd probably try to pull off doing the same, IF I
was sure I wouldn't be caught. I've only last been to that bar a great and long while ago
myself(slightly before the smoking ban started in I believe 2007), and didn't realize they still do the
cheap beer pitchers deal.
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Rise_ToThe_Occasion
My mother got kicked out of a bar for being too intoxicated.
...She was stonecold sober.
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Restopp
I was once kicked out of a bar for throwing a drink at the DJ. I had walked in only a couple
moments prior, had not even made it to the bar yet, and was sober. I hadn't even been near the
dj, but apparently I did it. Had 3 other sober friends kicked out or refused entrance for various
infractions related to overconsumption on different days. Everyone was pretty sure their policy was
to kick out or deny the sober friend or DD to keep the drunk people there buying drinks.
Surprisingly enough, their liquor license was revoked after about a year of weekly fights, sexual
harassment police calls, attacks by bouncers, and several health code violations.
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witchycrystals
I got cut off before I even had one drink once. The entrance to the bar had a small ledge, I was
wearing some weird strappy sandals & the sole caught. I didn't even stumble lol. Bartender
watched me tighten the straps so the sole wasn't so loose on my foot...then told me "you're too
drunk." I get it, I bartend too, you can't risk overserving. But it was kind of ridiculous. It was early in
the evening and obvious I was stone sober. I should also note we were regulars there (bf's dad
managed the place), she hated bfs dad, and I guess us by proxy too. Oh well, life went on.
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[deleted]
Yea one time a bouncer said I "stumbled." I was like I live across the street and am on a study
break to eat some wings....
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draculacletus
My mom got kicked out (politely) of a comedy club for laughing too loud :( I wasn't there but it still
hurts my feelings that she might've been embarrassed.
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Klaxon722
Doing coke in the women's room. They had covered the flat surfaces in the mens room with tar.
And removed the top of the toilet tank. So I tried to make due.
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CloverGreenbush
As someone who cleaned bathrooms for a couple years, you couldn’t pay me to snort something
off a surface anywhere in one.
“Oh, it’s not like they shit and piss on the sink counter, toilet tank lid, paper towel dispenser, hand
dryer right?” That’s what I call “ill fated optimism”
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Batchagaloop
This has to be in Florida
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biniross
...You know they sell little folding mirrors you can carry in your pocket, right? No one would blink
at a woman having one, if you're a dude you just insist you're hella vain.
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Latrodectus702
Where there is a will, there is a way.
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MrBobsVagene
8 points·8 months ago·edited 8 months ago
Not me, but a I used to work at a bar/restaurant with a bartender (let's call him Santos).
He was scheduled to work a double shift. He got drunk his first shift. The bartenders at this joint
always drank on the job so it was nothing out of the ordinary, but he was noticeably inebriated this
time. The owner took notice and told him to go sober up during his break before his 2nd shift. He
instead left with his buddies to go drinking during his break. He never showed up for his 2nd shift.
Owner was pissed.
A couple hours into the evening shift, one of the staff members noticed that one of the bathrooms
had been locked for a few hours. The owner knocks on the door to see if anyone is in there/if
they're okay in there/if they need medical help. No response.
The owner unlocks the bathroom door and finds Santos lying on the bathroom floor, butt naked
next to the toilet in a fetal position with his clothes floating on the vomit covered floor. Turns out
he was trying to take a shit, but was so drunk he passed out, fell off the toilet and threw up
everywhere.
Suffice to say, he doesn't work there anymore
Edit: tldr
TLDR: bartender got drunk during 1st shift. Never showed up to 2nd shift. Owner found him
passed out butt naked in a fetal position in the bathroom, halfway into the 2nd shift.
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treesus_123
My brother and I were all drunk one night after going out to some bars together, and decided on
our stumble back home, we would stop and get some snacks at 7-11. I’m paying for my snacks and
my brother is behind me, just chowing down on a taquito. He was going to pay for it, but was just
eating it in line. The cashier told him to stop eating it until he paid for it, and my brothers response
was to slowly raise the taquito to his mouth, while maintaining direct eye contact with the cashier,
and take another bite. Instantly, “YOURE OUT OF HERE BUDDY GET OUT OF MY STORE NOW!”
His loss though my brother got a free taquito
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Im_homer_simpson
You throw up in the bathroom at bar once on your 21st birthday, banned for life! The bartender
was pissed I guess I should have lifted the toilet seat first
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Bloodwings98
When I was five I puked on a Waiter's shoes and my dad said it was like three feet of straight puke.
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Vlaed
Was in University and this local bar had a drink called a "Pink drink." It was like a long island on
speed. You could get smashed for $10 or less, depending on your limits. We went there before a
football game once and a friend decided to double down on his pink drinks. The bar owner came
out at one point and described a certain gentleman in the bathroom. We agreed and asked why.
He apparently had peed in the trash bin and then puked in the urinal. We were told to collect him
and get out.
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CaptnD
Saying to my friend "Didn't know our drinks came with a side of bitch" as the bartender with a bad
attitude walked away.
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Goodlordbadlord
I was waiting in line at a bar that I didn’t even want to go into. I was pretty tipsy but I wasn’t
drunk... finally got to the door and I took my ID out and while the people in front of me were
getting their ID’s checked I decided it was a good idea to take mine on the podium next to the
door and use my ID as a makeshift skateboard.
After successfully landing a couple of gnarly kick-flips I dropped my ID ONE time and the door
guy told me I couldn’t come in “because I was drunk”. I told him “yeah... I’m on 6th street on a
Saturday night what else would I be?” Pissed him off more and he told me to fuck off.
Only regret is I didn’t get sponsored by Sprite
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melon_sky_
Ah, Austin.
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BigBearSD
Many years ago I had a friend who had a crush on a bartender at this dive / rock kind of bar
downtown. They were friends. He said he was going to be there at a certain time. I wanted to try
this new found favorite bar of his. I got one of our other mutual friends to DD, and offered to buy
him a drink, and pay for gas (since commuting form the burbs / other city in to the downtown of
major city). My DD friend was super late, as always. My other friend had been at the bar for a
while and was already getting a little drunk.
Well his favorite bartender was flirting with him and giving him free drinks left and right, and same
with me. I didn't say no. I would pay for a drink and get a free one after. She also would make the
drinks double or triple the alcohol content. I am a large man (big and tall), and my friend was
shorter and slighter build. But I wanted to play catch up.
Well playing catch up when drinking with someone who has been drinking for a few hours, at a
place where the bartender is basically handing out free drinks and over pouring is going to equal
a bad time... I remember drinking at the bar. Then smoking outside. Then nothing. Then drinking
more at the bar an hour or two later. Then being thrown outside with vomit all over myself.
Apparently I had projectile vomited allover myself and the bar... I was ejected by the bouncer.
My DD friend wanted to stop for dinner at Denny's or something. I didn't want to eat covered in
vomit. He eventually dropped me back off at my place. However managed to leave a probably 5
mile long puke streak.
The friend who was at the bar ended up not hooking up with the bartender, and ended up going
back a few times only to be told she was fired for stealing from the bar (giving free drinks and
getting great tips because of it).
That is the only time in my life i've been kicked out of a bar. I've been with friends who were
ejected, but that was the one and only time for me.
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BATTLECATHOTS
I walked up to the DJ and told him his music selection was ass since no one was on the dance
floor. Gave some pointers like open up with some rap songs then transition to house. He did not
appreciate this advice. Then his side kick came and got in my face to which I think (i was heavily
intoxicated) he put his hand on me and I told him if he touches me again I would beat the fuck out
of him. 2 minutes later a large bouncer appears to escort me out. Fun night!
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badlydrawnhamster
When I was 17 I didn't really like the taste of beer that much so I thought I'd experiment with spirits
and ordered a southern comfort and lemonade. I liked it a fair bit but didn't really feel that drunk,
so started ordering doubles. By the time I drank my seventh (about an hour later) it all hit me in
one massive go, and though my memories of the night from that point on are a bit vague I do
remember playing darts despite being nowhere near the dart board, crawling around on the floor
as I'd lost my glasses, and trying to throw a friends jumper out of the window with others trying to
stop me, and at one point I bit in to it to try and get it back. At that point the landlord suggested
to my friends that I leave, and as soon as I did much vomiting took place. So yeah, it's not my
proudest moment and the mere smell of southern comfort makes me retch to this day, I once
kissed a woman who had been drinking it without my knowledge and had to rush to the toilet to
throw up. Somehow we dated for a good few months after that, so I guess she didn't take it
personally at least.
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fattypigfatty
Southern comfort is seemingly famous for that. Once you are done with it you are done with it for
life.
level 1
PrettyMuchAlright
Two of my friends clinked their beer glasses together too hard when doing a cheers and shattered
both glasses.
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Ezisola
Didn't get kicked out in the end but came close.
Was in the back garden of a very busy pub/club which was surrounded by a high fence. One of
my housemates had apparently walked home and managed to snap the door handle off our front
door. He didn't have his phone on him so came back to the pub (where they refused him entry for
being too drunk) and proceeded to shout over the top of the fence trying to get my attention.
I eventually faintly hear my name called from behind the fence but can't make out what else he is
saying. Eventually he gets frustrated and just throws the broken doorhandle over the fence. I pick
it up and a second later am at the bottom of a pile of 4 bouncers who had all dived ontop of me.
Eventually they haul me up and demand to know where the drugs were. They'd seen something
fly over the fence and me pocket it so assumed it was a drugs package. The look on their faces
when I produced a door handle... Priceless.
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karthikulo
At my bachelor party, a friend of mine arrived in Vegas the hours before us. We met at a club and
he was already a few too many drinks in. We had one round and he threw up beside the bar.
Nobody noticed and he went on like nothing happened. A few minutes later, the staff noticed the
puke and started cleaning up. And then it happened. He my intelligent friend snot-rocketed on
the floor as the dude was mopping. His argument was that the guy was cleaning up anyways . He
was promptly removed from the bar.
He also lost his wallet and all forms of identification on the way home.
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DrBasia
I was 21 and took a road trip up to Massachusetts with my boyfriend (now husband) to meet his
university friends. We went out to a bar and I got drunk very quickly. During a conversation with
one of my husband's friends, he pointed out I was wearing the same thing as all the
bartenders/waitresses (white top, black pants). The conversation turned to trying to figure out how
old a group of women were (looked like 40s). He was saying they were much older.
He then triple dog dared me to ID them.
So I did. I went up to them pretending to work there and pulled my drunkenness together enough
to be like "sorry girls, gotta card everyone tonight, had some problems with the underage crowd!"
They all giggle and show me their licenses. I don't think I even saw a thing on them (again, I was
so drunk), thanked them, and walked back to cheers and high fives from my husband's group of
friends.
These women weren't too happy, and came up to me about 3 minutes later, irate, screaming, "you
don't work here, do you?!?" To which I, like an asshole, smiled and said no. They got the manager
and explained what happened, who came up to me, obviously entertained, and said with a smirk,
"yeah, you can't do that".
My husband thankfully saw this as our cue to leave because again, these women were pissed,
screaming how I now know where they live (impossible, see: very drunk) and followed us out to
our car. They then blocked the entrance to the parking lot -- thinking it was the exit. We left
unscathed.
I don't think I'm allowed back there.
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selfmade117
I wasn’t kicked out, but I can’t go back. Every Tuesday we’d go to trivia night at this pizza place in
town. There was this other group that came every time and always won because they had like 12
people in their group. Everyone else had 2-4. They always brought their baby with them. My
brother was in town so we decided to invite him. He’s absolutely insane, and is super loud and
obnoxious when he drinks. Things are getting pretty competitive a few rounds in, and we are on
the other side of the restaurant from the large group. My brother shouts and points “SOMEBODY
SET THAT BABY ON FIRE!!” to the group. 🤦🏻🤦 The whole restaurant heard him loud and clear.
The Dj that hosted it was supposed to do our wedding that year. He never returned my calls after
that.
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renegadext88
Threw up on a bouncer. Made it to toilets but they were all taken up and I couldn't hold it
anymore so exploded on this bouncers back as he was taking a piss in the only cubicle. He walked
me out from there lol.
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PM_ME_UR_SPACEMEN
My buddy got kicked out of a bar for stealing a big stack of plastic shot cups. Then after the
bouncer threw my buddy out, I asked him if his pinky ring gave him extra bouncer powers, and if
he was planning on going home and pleasuring himself to roadhouse after closing time. He did
not like that and I got myself kicked out. Our other friend came outside and asked WTF happened,
and after telling him he paid the cover to get back into the bar to berate the bouncer himself. He
made it about two steps in the door and got kicked out too.
Tl;Dr: stealing plastic cups ends up in me and two friends looking like fools
level 1
BigJCote
My buddy got kicked out for flirting with a group of girls, he was visiting me from out of town and
we went to one of the college bars, he doesnt know anybody in the area except for me,
apparently the group of girls had boyfriends who were friends with the bouncers(all of which went
to my college, i didnt know the girls), the bouncers didn't like him flirting with them despite the
girls having no problem with my friend. so the bouncer kicked him out. Most bullshit experience
ever, after he got tossed i came out of the bathroom and the first question i got from the girls was
"Where did tim go?" i went out on to the deck and sure enough theres tim on the street with his
arms out like "wtf".
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[deleted]
When I was little we’d go out to restaurants with family friends. There were about 6 of us kids and
we were being little shits and making a play area out of the furniture and just generally being
annoying while our parents remained at the table.
A waitress came over to my father and asked “Sir, are those your kids?” He doesn’t even glance
back and just says “Nope.”
So she decides to come over to me and ask where my father is, I gleefully point him out.
We were kicked out not long after. I still remember my godmother imitating the waitress storming
off. Looking back on it now I feel really bad for her and all the other patrons we disturbed but it
still makes me laugh to remember the time my father semi disowned his kids so he could finish his
beer.
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dmjones6591
I was at a strip club in Montreal (it was my first time, I’m female) and I was quite hammered. Got
kicked out for screaming things like “do your parents know where you are?” and “what would your
mother say?”
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Jebjeba
What a bummer
level 1
VictorBlimpmuscle
I got kicked out for getting tackled by another guy unprovoked - one night in college, out with
friends at a very loud bar/club, and I was trying to get across the dance floor to head to the bar,
and came across a group of 3 guys who were way bigger than me, and as I tried to go around
them, the one on the end said something to me and put his arm to prevent me from going any
further. I couldn’t really hear what he said to me, so I said to him I was just going that way to get
to the bar, to which he responded “not this way”, which I took to mean that the bar wasn’t that
way, so I corrected him and said “yeah, right there” and proceeded to go around again, to which
he more forcefully this time thrust his massive arm out and said “not this way go around!” or
something similar, to which at this point I just thought “fuck this” and kept going, figuring this guy
was just drunk and stupid, which was correct, but I misgauged how drunk and stupid and angry he
was because his response was putting me in a bear hug and tackling me very awkwardly, which
was a stroke of fortune for me because we landed more me on top of him, saving me from the
brunt of the fall. Next thing I know an even bigger arm is ripping me up off the floor and puts me
an arm lock, at which point I realize I’ve been saved from getting pummeled by this lummox that
just tackled me by one of the bouncers, but then it dawned on me that I was getting kicked out as
well, which I was pretty pissed about. No sooner do I realize all of this, the next thing I know, me
and the lummox are both kicked out at the same time, and now I’m standing next to this towering
jerk-off who probably still wants to beat my ass, at which point he turns to me and slur-yells at me,
“Hey pal, I know you! You’re in my Econ class! It’s me - Lou, man!” I had no idea who he was, and
by that point my friends had come out to get me, and I just wanted to get away from this crazy
fucker, so I said “Yeah Lou, right, right! Whatever man...” figuring theres no way this guy is in my
class and I’ll never see him again, and I’ve got an amusing bar tale out of it too. Sure enough
though, 2 days later, as soon as I walked into my next Econ class, lo and behold, from the back of
the room I hear “Hey pal!” and it’s fuckin’ Lou. From that day forward, every time I saw him
anywhere on campus or otherwise, he would always greet me with a hearty “Hey pal!”
level 1
Invict_Spectrum
Had a shot race with the most disgusting combos we could imagine, puked all over the toilet the
stormed out from the toilet to a table where some girls were drinking, decided to have a nap on
their table. They didnt appreciate me sleeping on their table or me turning all their drinks over,
bouncer threw me out and the bartender told me to never come back again.
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picksandchooses
The bartender was gone a long time. I went behind the bar and fixed my own drink. I left the
money for it on the bar. I got kicked out for that.
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ephemeralkitten
i was at a nightclub and in a back room people were passing a joint around. it gets to me and i
take a hit then feel a tap on my shoulder. i turn to pass it to the person tapping on me and it's the
bouncer. yeah... got kicked out. my friend who was my ride decided to stay though, so i had to
wait in his car until he was done having fun. lame night.
level 1
fortyhandz1738
Got kicked out for smoking a joint indoors, probably not one of my better ideas. Was 2 hits in
when a bouncer legit picked me up and carried me outside.
level 1
totalimmoral
My friends and I were once kicked out of a bar for arm wrestling too enthusiastically
level 1
adultinglikewhoa
I was booted from a Denny's for spending too much time throwing up in the bathroom... in my
defense, I was SUUUUUUUUUUUPER drunk
level 1
Desalvo23
All-you-can-eat Ribs night at Montana's. Apparently a guy my size isn't supposed to be able to eat
that amount of food.
level 1
hangman021
Peeing off their back patio. In my defense, on $1 beer night, if I give you a $5, I should get back a
beer and $4 in cash. I feel that if you give me 5 beers it's partially your fault.
level 1
Unicornhole87
Got thrown out of a bar for throwing a snowball at a small kids head. Now that might sound
terrible, but the kid deserved it. They were having a little fire on the back patio of the restaurant so
I go out there, a couple whiskeys deep at this point and notice these two brothers probably
between 8 and 10 picking mercilessly on their little sister. Parents are not paying attention at all.
Well kids are always drawn to me whether i want them to be or not, so this little girl starts chatting
with me and just genuinely trying to get away from her shithead brothers. So I talk and play in the
snow with her for about 10 minutes. Well the parents decide its time for them to go and as they're
leaving the shit head brothers decide to throw what are essentially iceballs at their sister and me. It
was like an instant reaction, I dont even remember making a concious decisin to do it, but i picked
up a snowball and hucked it at the older brothers head and hit the kid right in the face. His little
shit eating grin disappeared pretty quickly and little sister got a good laugh. The funny thing is the
parents weren't even upset... the owner who witnessed the whole thing go down however, not so
impressed. I got banned for a couple months and my boyfriend won't let me forget that i got
kicked out of a bar for hitting a child in the face with a snowball. Oh well.... it was worth it. 10/10
would do again.
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benlara
Falling asleep on the bathroom floor completely naked with the door locked from the inside. They
had to knock it down I was banned for about a year. I tried sneaking in a few times after that but
they would catch me and kick me out. It wasn’t my fault at all though, I blame it all in the alcohol!!!
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2 points·8 months ago·edited 8 months ago
This is going to be a good one
My bestfriend at the time was going through a brake up so me being the adventurous one out of
the two I decided that “I’m taking your ass out and you gonna love it” jumped into a cab and went
to a gentlemen’s club with all male dancers (best-friend’s gay, I’m not). Got some drinks going,
gave him his one’s, big smile on his face and here I am feeling accomplished by turning his mood
around. As the night went on we step outside for a quick smoke. He’s standing there talking about
his two-faced psychological projecting piece-of-shit of an ex again, I tell him to pay give no fucks
just for tonight and redirect his mopey little ass back inside. As I’m making my way through the
backdoor I realize my bestfriend is no longer next to me and is standing outside arguing with
some tall, older, rugged faced man in a cowboy hat. I brake up the dispute and again redirect my
friend inside (Still to this day idk what or why they started arguing). The moment we walked in my
bestfriend was set on being upset sitting in his chair like a toddler in time out for the rest of the
night. The man in the cowboy hat walks by and give us a not so pleasant look. My bestfriend is
saying over and over “I’m gonna fight him” and I said “no you’re not I’ve never seen you fight
anyone”. Before I finished giggling at the idea of my 130lbs 7’8” friend throwing a right hook, he
stands up walks over with drink in hand and I’m thinking “he’s not gonna do it, he’s not gonna do
it”. Sure enough he chucks his drink at cowboy hat man and I jump up, sprint over to try and pry
my bestfriend away but he’s a lot stronger than I thought. See bouncer coming at me to my left,
round house kick him straight center in the chest and his ass goes flying knocking over a few
chairs. I’m amazed at wtf I just did but there’s not time to celebrate, grab my best friend and angry
hulk him over my shoulder and run for the front door. The bouncer at the door oblivious to what
happened 100 feet away says “thanks for coming, have a nice night”. Jump in a cab back to my
apartment, best friend nose dripping blood in the back starts laughing and I tell him “wtf man” and
he says “he was the owner” and I’m thinking “wow that could’ve ended a lot worse”. Later we find
out that the cops were called right after we left and that the same night the place was shut down
for sex-trafficking. The owner was running a sex ring and is now in prison.
level 1
Seeker_Of_Defeat
Having a drink thrown in my face
level 1
KatieGatie
Not me.....my bf gave a stripper rolls of pennies.
level 1
wallbanging
Set a bar countertop on fire when I had too many flaming dr peppers. There is a video
level 1
Finniemc
Singing the "woo-hoo" part from Blur's Song 2 for 10 minutes straight. We were very, very drunk.
level 1
shinn3n
Somone tried to punch friend and i stepped infront off him then i got throwned out cuz i looked
angry or something
level 1
thegeekwholived
Called a bouncer an asshole after he walked up and demanded to see my ID. It was a military
enlisted club, and allowed all ages inside. Active-duty who were under 21 were still allowed to
drink beer, just no hard liquor. I had a mixed drink in hand, so he thought he was going to get me
in trouble. When he stalked away after looking at my ID, I turned to a friend and said "What an
asshole". Bouncer heard me and kicked me out of the club.
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ElToberino
I had sprained my ankle and got kicked out of sherlock's pub in Addison, TX, because I was
stumbling, before I even had a chance to get a single beer. I showed the bouncer the wrap on my
ankle and he still threatened to call the cops unless I left immediately, because apparently a
bouncer deciding you're drunk is like pass interference, where the call can't be overturned no
matter how obvious the evidence that it was wrong.
level 1
Bumblebus
The end of my shift at the restaurant.
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insertcaffeine
My mean aunt and her stupid loud mouth.
Mom, Aunt, my brothers, and I were in the bar area of a restaurant, in a smaller room off to the
side. In that room, there was a big screen TV. At first, we were the only patrons, so Aunt got the
waitress to change the TV to Looney Tunes. (My brothers and I were kids, so this was awesome)
A couple of other customers came in and asked to watch a sportsball game. (Don't remember
which one, and anyway, it's irrelevant) Waitress changed the channel, thinking (correctly) that the
sportsball game would be more popular with other customers.
Aunt told Waitress to change it back. Waitress refused.
Aunt went over to the other table and told them to leave, since the sportsball game was on the
smaller TV in the bar. The other guys refused. Aunt started yelling at them. They yelled back.
Waitress kindly asked Aunt to return to her table. Aunt yelled at Waitress and asked to speak to
the manager.
Manager kicked us out. :(
Mom left a huge tip, I left a tip (my change from getting a slurpee at 7-11 or something, it was just
coins), Twin Bro apologized to the waitress, and Aunt yelled at all of us on the way out.
We didn't go back for YEARS. When we did go back, there was a little label on the TV stating that
"Only the shift manager has the authority to change the TV - no customer requests."
level 1
Krunzuku
I was once in a biker bar, with a few bikers I knew, but not actually a member of anything. And I
hulk ripped my flannel shirt in half, sending buttons flying everywhere. The bar tender was pissed
but let it go. a minute later i was like fuck it imma double down. So i then ripped my sleeveless
white t shirt in half too right down the middle. Instantly booted, and banned.
level 1
Blinsin
It wasn't me, but my friend in college. She got too drunk that night and, somehow, did a
somersault off the coach she was sitting on when I turned to say something to a friend.
I ended up walking her home. She could walk on her own free will and all, but I was getting too
drunk to continue drinking myself so I decided to just leave with her.
level 1
peachrings93
Taking a bottle Rose that a dancer was holding onto as she dropped from the ceiling on strings in
a Hollywood California club. Apparently it wasn't free. My Tennessee hick ass thought I was the
nights big winner until that big ol' boy tossed me out.
level 1
jacoobz
Wearing green boots in Mount Everest
level 1
Milk_dud21
Four loko
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raquille-
Rolling a joint on the dance floor. I shouldn’t have done it. I lost my weed as well.
level 1
somePeopleAreStrange
So I was hanging out with some workmates at a bar after work and an old ex girlfriend comes in.
At the time I was dating a girl from this small, well established company me and my mates work at.
I start doing this drunk oh god what do I do I wanna fuck her routine. It goes on for half an hour
before one of the guys nonchalantly goes "I fucked your girlfriend last night." He gives me this "will
you please shut the fuck up" look which I interpret as "you a little bitch" look. Now he's a small but
well built guy and an ex marine but I'm young and stupid.
So I first try to chuck the contents of my beer bottle at him and then immediately throw the beer
bottle at him. Now we are both kicked out and yelling at each other in the street.
He goes "You won't throw a punch yah yah".
So thinking I'm gonna get my ass beat anyway I swing on him and it doesn't do anything. He looks
at me and goes "wow didn't think you would do it".
I admit I'm being an asshole and buy the guy a beer. We later get kicked out of the second bar for
general rowdyness. The next day at work we grimace at each other and bond over our severe
hangovers.
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1800sexylegs
I went to a bar with some friends and while they went to the bar for drinks, I went to play pool
with someone random. Later I see them being escorted out by security so I run over to ask what
happened when they tell me that my friends ex cane up and started abusing her, so she hit him
and they all got kicked out.
I wasn’t even with them when it happened but because security saw me with them as they were
escorted out, they decided to kick me out too.
We ended up going to a different bar and I went outside for a smoke and I happened to see my
friends ex outside. Having a few drinks in me and angry I got kicked out of the last bar for no
reason, I walked up to him and punched him in the nose... right as the police walked around the
corner.
Ended up getting a 10 day ban from the city centre where all the bars were.
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_fingerblaster
Railing blow in the washroom
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gayvibes1
I had to walk my gf at the time into the girls bathroom. Not past the door mind you, but I had to
open the door for her. The girls doing their makeup at the sinks weren't impressed.
level 1
Xhira
I started sucking on his fingers.
level 1
Bluesman104
A cocaine-laden stripper.
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[deleted]
I threw someone onto/Pretty much over a table
level 1
frontpage123098
It wasn't me, but a friend was very drunk on Saint Paddy's while we were bar hopping, and a
bouncer wouldn't let him in to get more drunk.
level 1
EaseMeReleaseMe
Wore a Mötley Crüe t-shirt, bouncer thought Saints of Los Angeles was some sort of gang...
level 1
Jesse_w07
I'm a 5'2 105 lb girl and the bouncer dragged me out for throwing a beer bottle at the bar.
Except I wasn't even the one who threw it and I had no idea what was happening because I was
halfway across the room from it....
:(
level 1
memaiddorito09
Being black-out drunk, throwing up on myself and then falling down. In that order.
level 1
sarah_the_intern
When I was 20 and in college, some friends and I pre-gamed at their apartment and then had a
friend drive us to a bar/club that was 18+. One of the girls and I were fine, but the third girl was
not. She couldn’t stay standing and kept sitting/slumping on the floor. We tried to discreetly get
her to the bathroom to get her some water. The other non-drunk girl spotted a little water
machine about midway to the bathroom and had the drunk friend sit down so she could grab her
some water. A bouncer was just a few feet away and spotted an underage (20 years old) girl who
couldn’t even keep her head up. He stormed over, shined his flashlight in her eyes, then yelled at
my other friend and I about her being drunk. The non-drunk girl tried to convince him she was
fine, but he threatened to call the cops if we didn’t leave. We found the friend who drove us there
and left ASAP.
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sactokingsfan
I was once kicked out of the tiki bar in the Piedmont neighborhood of Oakland CA. I told the
bartender he was being a prissy bitch because he was complaining to a customer for having a
meet up there without calling ahead. The bar was the normal amount of crowded for a Thursday
night and the bartender was a new face. Never saw him there again.
level 1
AmJusAskin
In Sydney being drunk is all the reason they need to kick you out of bars.
I have a tee total mate who has been kicked out for being to drunk, just because she looked like
she was having a good time.
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jeff_the_nurse
My brothers and I were watching game 5 of the 2011 NLDS (Brewers vs. Diamondbacks) at a bar.
After the Brewers' Nyjer Morgan drove in the winning run, we all chugged our drinks and threw
the glasses on the floor. We got kicked out, but it was worth it. The adrenaline we were riding was
pretty fucking fantastic.
level 1
alexburnshred
Some of my friends and I went to an all-you-can-eat buffet and we took the entire tray of wings
right out of the buffet table and took it back to ours.
level 1
BZH_JJM
I was part of a touring rugby team that got collectively kicked out of all bars and clubs in Cork.
They could tell because we were all wearing the same outfit.
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MonsterMashGraveyard
I went to a Nightclub with my parents once, (Don't ask we are a young family) But there was this
gorgeous blonde who was very drunk and dancing with her friends. After a few drinks, I took to
the stage and with my unapologetic dancing, I got her attention. She got frisky with me in front of
my parents, and since I was drunk and not thinking, I brought her downstairs to the staff room and
we started hooking up. A bouncer saw me take her downstairs and before we could get to freaky,
he kicks the door down and brings the two of us upstairs and throws us out of the bar. My mom
was very disappointed in me....my father was not.
level 1
FieldMarshalFry
I was drinking a bottle of Pepsi I got from outside, I'm not paying £3 for a watered down glass of
cola, if I want something sugary and non alcoholic I'll grab something from the Tesco down the
road, but nope, apparently you're not allowed to drink other things and be allowed back in
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pachap
First Time - Was at a restaurant with a group from work. We were sitting at a big, round table.
Waitress walked really close by and slipped, causing her her to fall back and sit down right in the
lap of a guy in our group. He had just swiveled his chair out to stand up, and the waitress sat
down right in his lap. There were a few laughs, he asked if she was ok, but she acted a little miffed.
She walked in the back, he manager came out and made a beeline to our table and told us to go.
Waitress had told her manager that the guy had grabbed her. She must have been embarrassed.
Second Time - Out of town trip with friends and we were in a bar. We didn’t know when last call
was or anything and it was getting late. Friend gets up from our table and goes up to the bar and
order a Bud Light. Bartender says it’s after last call. Friend says well gimme an O’Douls. Bartender
signals the bouncer and GTFO.
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heyitsdanny
For sitting down at the bar with a box of Frosted Flakes and a gallon jug of milk. But the bouncer
let me in!
level 1
ShotGunSinner13
I got kicked out of a bar on my birthday once for taking my stilettos off. I wasn't even that drunk,
my feet just really fucking hurt. Normally I would NEVER set my bare feet on the floor of a club,
but I found a stool and took the heels off just to give my feet a break for a minute. And then I got
kicked out because apparently having stilettos that want to murder your feet mean you're
automatically too drunk to stay inside. Stupid logic.
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Dr-Skeptic
for taking about 10 lines of coke at the restaurant/bar bathroom.
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drone42
For almost starting a fight with a drunk douche that took an open container out to his friends
vehicle, then threw it at my truck.
My truck might be a piece of shit, but it's my piece of shit. He had fifteen years on me, easily, but I
still made the old bastard crawl under my truck and retrieve it.
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spinach1991
Me and a friend went into a toilet cubicle to put our hands in a bag. We were pretty drunk already
so we didn't notice how unsubtle we were being. Some pissing narc narc'd us hard to the
bouncers and they crashed the door open on us and frogmarched us out.
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caillouuu
put our hands in a bag
Huh?
level 1
Raz0rking
With my uncle, his wife and my sister in a restaurant.
At 2pm one of the service guys told us to please leave because staff had other stuff to do.
Well, fuck that place then
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RileyD
I’m a male with long hair and a beard. I go to grouping of bars where they’re having some sort of
death metal festival. So a lot of people looked just like me, long hair and a beard. I go to the
bathroom and there was a man face down in the handicap stall passed out. His friends were trying
to pick him up, but easier said than done with a basically unconscious body. I return to the
bathroom shortly after since I have broken the “pee seal” and I’m now having to constantly pee. A
big bouncer comes in, grabs me by the bicep and escorts me out claiming I was sleeping in the
bathroom. He refuses to believe me and insists it was me.
I call up my friends, tell them what happened, pay the bouncer to get again, which he didn’t think I
was too drunk, and continue on with my night.
14 Things That Got People

Kicked Out of Bars and
Restaurants
"Apparently snorting lines of sugar like it was cocaine is not something they
appreciate at the Old Country Buffet."
By Maria Yagoda
April 05, 2018
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We all make mistakes, and sometimes, those mistakes have consequences—

including, but not limited to, being kicked out of a private establishment for
making Daughtry play on the jukebox for four hours straight. Almost everyone
can recall witnessing a patron get kicked out of a bar or restaurant, but the
reasons for the extraction aren't always what you'd think ... though vomiting,
extreme drunkenness, and abuse of jukeboxes seem to be motifs.
We asked Twitter, friends, and internet strangers to share stories of times

they've been asked to leave an establishment because of their behavior. So, here
are things you should definitely avoid doing next time you are out to eat or
drink:
1. "I once got kicked out of a wretched bar in Poughkeepsie because the person
I was seeing at the time put 'Under Pressure' on the jukebox about 700 times in
a row. When it came on for maybe the fifth time, the bartender practically lept
over the bar and dragged us both out."
2. "I was kicked out of this bar in Atlanta. We used to joke about turning over
tables when angry, and one night I made the joke using the table as a prop,
except it was a shitty bar height table and it fell over, breaking all bottles on
top. I was carried out by security guards, movie-style."
3. "Boy Scouts trip to Minnesota for a week of canoeing. Convoy of about

eighteen Boy Scouts, six adults. Stopped off at an Old Country Buffet for
dinner. Adults sat apart from us. Apparently snorting lines of sugar like it was
cocaine is not something they appreciate at the Old Country Buffet."
4. "I puked under a table. I was banned."
5. "I had to vomit and didn't make it to the toilet."
6. "I started juggling bottles and dropped one."
7. "Some awful drunk misogynist made some gross sexual comment to the
owner's wife when she was sitting next to him at the bar, and he was standing
right there and heard, so he said, 'You can finish that drink, but after that you
need to leave and never come back.'"
8. "My group was kicked out of a Waffle House in probably '98 in the middle
of the night because one my friends paid for 'Block Rockin' Beats' by The
Chemical Brothers to play 14 times on the jukebox."
9. "There were several incidents in college, but back then, just getting let into
the club was a victory, so getting kicked out wasn't a big deal."
10. "At a restaurant in New Jersey. August 2015. They told us we had five
minutes to gather our shit before they physically remove us. We'd been playing
rosé pong all afternoon."
11. "I got kicked out of a crappy college bar for drinking Goldschlager and then
puking in a trashcan. The bouncer was mad because it was outside liquor, but it
wasn’t even mine."
12. "I've been kicked out of two bars. One on my 21st birthday for dancing to
'In your Eyes.' They told me, 'This bar doesn't have a dance floor, get out.' The
second time was for tripping and falling in a bar. They said I was too drunk
and told me to leave. (I wasn't that drunk; I just tripped.)"
13. "I went to the door and claimed I was someone from the radio station that
promotes the band; I knew the guy's name. After half an hour, the bouncers and
real radio guy found me and kicked me out. Then I climbed on the roof of the
building next door, jumped across the gap and got in again. And then I got
kicked out again."
14. "I got kicked out of an Olive Garden for taking 'Unlimited Breadsticks'
seriously. If they are going to have the gall to call it unlimited, why would they
kick me out after 2.5 hours?"
All stories have been edited for length and clarity.
Have you ever been kicked out of a bar for being

too drunk?
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Duncan Wallace, works at Self-Employment

Answered Nov 8, 2018
tl;dr They carried me out of the bar and gingerely set me down on the sidewalk
were I lay in my own puke till 7am.
DNA Lounge in SF, 1990. I was there with 5 really close friends and was the light
weight alcohol consumer of the 5 of us. I, for some reason still unknown to me,
looked at friend Bob and yelled, “I will drink you under the table!!!”. I will forever
remember the quizzical look he proffered, as if to say, “You’re kidding, right?
Duncan?” I exclaimed “Dude, you will be hugging table legs!!” He turned, looked
at my friends Lon and Blake, who looked at me with a WTF your kidding righ...
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Bethany Moe, studied at Western Boone Junior - Senior High School (2018)
Answered Jan 11
I’ve not, but I was with my friend when he was.
I should probably clarify too that it wasn’t really a bar, but a club that had a bar in
it. Either way, he got really drunk and had to leave.
I don’t remember exactly how many drinks my friend had but I think it was
around ten. After the first few he was in a really great mood and was having a lot
of fun dancing. I was having a lot of fun watching him.
A few more, and he was stumbling around quite a bit. He was doing gymnastics
in open spaces and tried to do splits and such on the main dance floor. At one
point he went to the bar again and offere...
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Scott Randolph, lives in New Orleans (1965-present)

Answered Nov 8, 2018
Is the Pope Catholic?! I live in New Orleans!
I honestly and literally can’t tell you how many times I (and many times my friends
with me) have been asked to leave, then told to leave, then kicked out of a bar.
I’m not proud of it. It’s just kind of a rite of passage here. It’s kind of like that old
saying, “If you haven’t heard a siren within an hour in New Orleans, you a’int in New
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1.
o Justin N.
o Los Angeles, CA
o 2076 friends
o 632 reviews
o Elite ’19
So I got booted from a bar last night, total bullshit, and they know it. Basically some
bartender with a bug up her ass didn't like my sarcastic tone and had the door guy boot me.
Hi-larious, especially because I wasn't being sarcastic and she just felt stupid. She told me
they were out of Fernet, yet her co-worker found more in the back like I knew they had, and
she didn't like being wrong so she pinned it on me.
Anyway, so I'm thinking I'll never go back. Right? I mean that's fucked up, I go there lots and
this was my first time seeing this bartender. So I hit up the owner by email and he's crazy
apologetic. Told me he called her, she apologized as she was "having a bad day" and knew
she was in the wrong. She wanted to apologize as he did.
I'm still thinking I won't go back, but he included a note saying that I can eat and drink
whatever I want for free for the remainder of June. Should I do it? I'm torn, on one side
principal says fuck the free shit, I was disrespected. But on the other side I can drink a LOT,
and there are 22 days left in June. Lots'o'time. The other bartenders are super awesome, I
usually love it there, so is it worth a second chance considering the golden lining of free liver
abuse for 3 weeks?
Report as inappropriate
6/8/2011
2.
o G L.
o San Francisco, CA
o 68 friends
o 90 reviews
Yes
6/8/2011
3.
o Jay Z.
o Oakland, CA
o 308 friends
o 311 reviews
Oh my god Justin I can not believe you are asking this question. OF COURSE YOU GO
BACK DUDE.
6/8/2011
4.
o Jillian M.
o New Orleans, LA
o 386 friends
o 150 reviews
Free stuff Justin. FREE. STUFF.
Fuck respect, go for booze.

6/8/2011
5.
o Valeria R.
o San Francisco, CA
o 361 friends
o 424 reviews
o Elite ’19
I can't believe this is even a question.
*shakes Justin by the shoulders*
Snap out of it, get yer ass back to that bar, and start guzzling!
6/8/2011
6.
o Valeria R.
o San Francisco, CA
o 361 friends
o 424 reviews
o Elite ’19
Lulz...look at all the lushes on this thread.
6/8/2011
7.
o Valeria R.
o San Francisco, CA
o 361 friends
o 424 reviews
o Elite ’19
Your liver is still young...it can handle it.
6/8/2011
8.
o .Hon H.
o Oakland, CA
o 235 friends
o 1253 reviews
No question - go back and party til you puke.
6/8/2011
9.
o Justin N.
o Los Angeles, CA
o 2076 friends
o 632 reviews
o Elite ’19
I was leaning that way, but I was just so fucking irritated it made me hesitate.
6/8/2011
10.
o Bad Y.
o New Hope, PA
o 183 friends
o 58 reviews
The answer is "duh", and the only reason you told this story is to look like a an 86'd bad ass
and to make us totes jelly, which we are.
WINNING!
6/8/2011
11.
o G L.
o San Francisco, CA
o 68 friends
o 90 reviews
I got kicked out of that shithole Yancy's 12 years ago and I still have a vengful boycott on
that place....but it was the owner who was a dick to me so it is very differnt.
but that said: Fuck Yancy's

6/8/2011
12.
o Rachel H.
o San Francisco, CA
o 51 friends
o 252 reviews
Do they have ribs?
6/8/2011
13.
o Valeria R.
o San Francisco, CA
o 361 friends
o 424 reviews
o Elite ’19
Justin "Milwaukee's Best" N. says: I was leaning that way, but I was just so fucking irritated it
made me hesitate.
~~~~~~~~~~~~
Never let pride get in the way of beer.

6/8/2011
14.
o Roger L.
o San Francisco, CA
o 136 friends
o 0 reviews
why not write a review about it?
6/8/2011
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19.
o Brad R.
o San Francisco, CA
o 187 friends
o 91 reviews
you should go collect your free shit man. if they wrongly 86'd you, you should bleed them for
all the free booze and food you can, imho.
6/8/2011
20.
o R J.
o San Francisco, CA
o 211 friends
o 317 reviews
Get you a free beer each day this month and once the month is up find a new place till that
crappy bartender is gone.
6/8/2011
22.
o Vagizzle J.
o San Francisco, CA
o 20 friends
o 0 reviews
You should not ever leave.
6/8/2011
23.
o R J.
o San Francisco, CA
o 211 friends
o 317 reviews
oh yea and don't tip that crappy bartender.
6/8/2011
24.
o J T.
o Indianapolis, IN
o 170 friends
o 841 reviews
Justin, give your free drinks to the bartender who was having a bad day, get her drunk and
then get her fired.
Just kidding.
Yeah go back.
6/8/2011
25.
o Elaine L.
o San Jose, CA
o 250 friends
o 229 reviews
Yes, GO! Also, I love that this is posted under 'Family and Parenting'.
6/8/2011
26.
o Valeria R.
o San Francisco, CA
o 361 friends
o 424 reviews
o Elite ’19
Stop that crazy talk, Asi!!!
;-p
6/8/2011
27.
o Kurt P.
o Fairfield, CA
o 1 friend
o 85 reviews
Don't get too hung up on some bizarre notion of being "disrespected" (that's thugspeak
BTW). Life is short, man.
She admitted losing her cool, owner aplogized, free libations for the duration. WTH, dude?
Move on. Go get u some inexpensive relax time.
Dang, could use me some 'freshies on the house

Peace, mate.
6/8/2011

29.
o Justin N.
o Los Angeles, CA
o 2076 friends
o 632 reviews
o Elite ’19
JT is gettin diabolical with this shit.
6/8/2011
30.
o Valeria R.
o San Francisco, CA
o 361 friends
o 424 reviews
o Elite ’19
Janice "Junderpants" G. says: What is wrong with you people? Have you no shame?
~~~~~~~~~~~
Shame...beer.
Beer...shame.
Which one is more delicious?

6/8/2011
32.
o David K.
o Pacifica, CA
o 132 friends
o 352 reviews
don't drink their free pale ale
6/8/2011
33.
o Justin N.
o Los Angeles, CA
o 2076 friends
o 632 reviews
o Elite ’19
I like it when Janice drops F bombs.
6/8/2011
34.
o Valeria R.
o San Francisco, CA
o 361 friends
o 424 reviews
o Elite ’19
Lollers, David!
6/8/2011
36.
o Martin B.
o San Jose, CA
o 116 friends
o 236 reviews
Drink all the free booze you can get, but try something a little more manly than frenet. Like
some bourbon or vodka.
6/8/2011
37.
o Luis M.
o San Diego, CA
o 934 friends
o 695 reviews
I hope you go back and get hit over the head with a bottle
6/8/2011
38.
o Justin N.
o Los Angeles, CA
o 2076 friends
o 632 reviews
o Elite ’19
Thanks Luis
6/8/2011
42.
o Coach P. C.
o Mountain View, CA
o 124 friends
o 137 reviews
I have nothing constructive to add to this conversation. I'm cheap, so my advice:
GET YO FREE SHIT
Go every single day you can.
Is the food any good?
6/8/2011
43.
o Justin N.
o Los Angeles, CA
o 2076 friends
o 632 reviews
o Elite ’19
I think pbc might be the first person ever to call me emo.
And the food is standard bar grub. Pizza, burgers, wings, etc
6/8/2011
44.
o Gerald C.
o Oakland, CA
o 116 friends
o 640 reviews
1) Bygones.
2) Make sure you drink all the expensive stuff.
6/8/2011
45.
o Coach P. C.
o Mountain View, CA
o 124 friends
o 137 reviews
Did they give you some sorta libary card looking thing that says "Free Pass?' Or are they
going to make you explain yourself each time? Because that would suck.
6/8/2011
46.
o Joe P.
o Sacramento, CA
o 10 friends
o 152 reviews
go back till the end of june and then find a new watering hole !
6/8/2011
47.
o Lora M.
o San Francisco, CA
o 182 friends
o 417 reviews
Did the owner also asked you to write a topic on Talk about it?
6/8/2011
48.
o Dru P.
o Lafayette, IN
o 291 friends
o 224 reviews
Don't sweat it mang. I have been dragged from bars by the whole security staff and come
back the next night to treat everyone to a drink. People lose thier cool once in a while and
you gotta keep in mind that bad days happen to everyone.
6/8/2011
49.
o Johnny L.
o Lafayette, CA
o 119 friends
o 511 reviews
I say go back, drink their booze, eat their food and bent that bartender over a table and roger
her real well.
6/8/2011
50.
o Justin N.
o Los Angeles, CA
o 2076 friends
o 632 reviews
o Elite ’19
Dru is wise.
As for the talk thread, I didn't mention the place, and I go to a lot of bars so it's not like I
busted them out.
6/8/2011
51.
o Lora M.
o San Francisco, CA
o 182 friends
o 417 reviews
You know......you could go back there without taking the free foods and drinks.
6/8/2011
52.
o Justin N.
o Los Angeles, CA
o 2076 friends
o 632 reviews
o Elite ’19
Points to Laura for being the only person to suggest that
6/8/2011
53.
o Coach P. C.
o Mountain View, CA
o 124 friends
o 137 reviews
I'm really not that cheap. If I did go back to get the free stuff, I'd probably just end up
overtipping the staff.
6/8/2011
54.
o Bill M.
o San Francisco, CA
o 509 friends
o 129 reviews
Walk in like you own the place, have a drink.
Then walk out because you just realized the place sucks anyway.
6/8/2011
55.
o Gerald C.
o Oakland, CA
o 116 friends
o 640 reviews
So what bar is this, where I can get disrespected in exchange for all-you-can-eat-and-drink?
6/8/2011
57.
o Seymour G.
o Los Angeles, CA
o 8 friends
o 10 reviews
Owner is an idiot, if he exists.
6/8/2011
59.
o Mary S.
o Fremont, CA
o 64 friends
o 87 reviews
I would take one night of free drinks and then call it even. Otherwise it 's somehow dickish.
"Hi, it's me again. I'm here for another night of free shit....because the OWNER said so. Nah
nah nah nah."
6/8/2011
60.
o Justin N.
o Los Angeles, CA
o 2076 friends
o 632 reviews
o Elite ’19
Oh the owner does exist, I've met him before which is why I didn't hesitate to shoot him an
email right after it went down.
And yes Mary, as much as free drinks for a month sounds rad it would feel dickish to me too.
I think a few trips, some Fernet (which is fucking delicious Eye!) and I'll call it square.
6/8/2011
61.
o Dru P.
o Lafayette, IN
o 291 friends
o 224 reviews
If you are drinking Fernet you should never show your face there again. ;-)
6/8/2011
62.
o Anthony Y.
o San Francisco, CA
o 49 friends
o 256 reviews
When I was a little younger I got 86'd out of a lot of bars. I was a good patron at all of
them. Not one 86-ing lasted more than 1 month except for Bacchus which lasted about 3
months, persistence is key. I deserved to be kicked out of all of them. I no longer really go
to bars unless I'm with my wife so my life has changed quite a bit and my days of getting
drunk at a bar are long gone.
I say you go back and drink and have good times for free.
6/8/2011
63.
o Mary S.
o Fremont, CA
o 64 friends
o 87 reviews
googling Fernet
6/8/2011
64.
o Mary S.
o Fremont, CA
o 64 friends
o 87 reviews
Because of its list of ingredients, a number of home remedies call for fernet, including for the
treatment of menstrual and gastrointestinal discomfort, hangovers, baby colic, and (formerly)
cholera.
Its flavor has been described as "like black licorice-flavored Listerine."

6/8/2011
65.
o Junglist S.
o San Francisco, CA
o 634 friends
o 147 reviews
I didn't know guys get all pussyhurt like this.
6/8/2011
66.
o Jay Z.
o Oakland, CA
o 308 friends
o 311 reviews
It's Jäger for hipsters Mary.
6/8/2011
67.
o Jay Z.
o Oakland, CA
o 308 friends
o 311 reviews
Sorry, Sophisticated Hipsters.
6/8/2011
68.
o Dru P.
o Lafayette, IN
o 291 friends
o 224 reviews
lollers@ menstrual treatment.
6/8/2011
69.
o Gary L.
o San Francisco, CA
o 117 friends
o 36 reviews
Junglist S. says:
I didn't know guys get all pussyhurt like this.
-----
+1
6/8/2011
70.
o Jay Z.
o Oakland, CA
o 308 friends
o 311 reviews
Justin is cool. I don't blame him for thinking fuck this place. But I would blame him for turning
down free booze.
6/8/2011
71.
o Coach P. C.
o Mountain View, CA
o 124 friends
o 137 reviews
Shouldn't it be "penishurt?"
6/8/2011
72.
o Justin N.
o Los Angeles, CA
o 2076 friends
o 632 reviews
o Elite ’19
pussyhurt would be inaccurate, i was livid at the time but i left without blowing up. that was
some bullshit, maybe some guys enjoy trying to relax at a bar and then being asked to leave
in the middle of the fucking drink while you're trying to watch the game, but call me crazy, i'm
not a fan.
6/8/2011
75.
o Justin N.
o Los Angeles, CA
o 2076 friends
o 632 reviews
o Elite ’19
they combined the two Che, those clever bastards
6/8/2011

82.
o Justin N.
o Los Angeles, CA
o 2076 friends
o 632 reviews
o Elite ’19
Marie is trying to get me sent to jail lol.
And yes to the skinny jeans thing, if I wear baggy pants it looks ridiculous, they are "fitted".
6/8/2011
83.
o Dru P.
o Lafayette, IN
o 291 friends
o 224 reviews
I second (or third or fourth) the vote to take advantage of free drinks. Maybe if you piss her
off again you will get comped for the year.
6/8/2011
86.
o Henry S.
o Dublin, CA
o 382 friends
o 1512 reviews
Hell yeah...eat and drink for free for the rest of the month THEN stop going.
6/8/2011
87.
o Terry Y.
o San Francisco, CA
o 42 friends
o 11 reviews
The way I look at it, the owner is trying to atone for his dumb bartender. Get your free drink
on and get your apologies from the bartender chick and who knows, she might give you a BJ
if you really make her feel bad. Win, win situation. Even sans BJ, she's pretty much your
bartender bitch now.
6/8/2011
88.
o Justin N.
o Los Angeles, CA
o 2076 friends
o 632 reviews
o Elite ’19
Haha, Im pretty sure it's just me Che
6/8/2011
89.
o Rebekah T.
o San Francisco, CA
o 4772 friends
o 2218 reviews
o Elite ’19
I think you should drink Fernet and give them the stink eye the WHOLE time.
6/8/2011
90.
o Jilldo B.
o San Francisco, CA
o 2 friends
o 0 reviews
Go back and order a kombucha on the rocks.
6/8/2011
91.
o Jane K.
o San Francisco, CA
o 0 friends
o 0 reviews
I say you go and get all Rick James like effe yo couch on them
6/8/2011
92.
o Peter L.
o Dublin, CA
o 36 friends
o 81 reviews
So much drama. I'd kick you out again just for writing that.
6/8/2011

94.
o Tsada K.
o Oakland, CA
o 809 friends
o 273 reviews
What would Jesus do?
6/8/2011
95.
o May T.
o Wellington, New Zealand
o 288 friends
o 588 reviews
i'd go back, refuse the freebies, and buy that particular bartender a drink and say "no hard
feelings". you basically ratted her out, and although she was totally in the wrong, it'll show
you're a bigger person.
also, if you ever order a drink from her again, you won't need to think twice about whether
there's glass in it or not.
6/8/2011
96.
o Ruby D.
o Mission District, San Francisco, CA
o 187 friends
o 6 reviews
Hell yeah,go for it ...they made nice & apologized, that's what second chances are all
about.Don't dwell on
stoopid shit.
Grudges are for punks! ;p

6/8/2011
97.
o Gil S.
o San Francisco, CA
o 362 friends
o 1088 reviews
I'm too lazy to read this whole thing. Has anyone yet suggested shagging the bartender? It
sounds like she's hot for you, she just has trouble expressing it.
6/8/2011
98.
o Bill M.
o San Francisco, CA
o 509 friends
o 129 reviews
You never know Gil...you never know;)
Stay up Justin.
6/8/2011
99.
o Lib P.
o Pacifica, CA
o 30 friends
o 9 reviews
May and Dan has it right.
6/8/2011

101.
o Pickle R.
o San Francisco, CA
o 354 friends
o 764 reviews
so which begs the question, what is the name of the establishment?
6/8/2011
102.
o Jhoe G.
o Vallejo, CA
o 896 friends
o 158 reviews
Dude. Cool
It on the sarcasm man
6/8/2011
103.
o Julie N.
o Fremont, CA
o 557 friends
o 57 reviews
Uh ya and bring me with you, I recently got a similar offer from some db from rays crab
shack, that isn't worth the stomachache if they paid me. But free food and booze?! :) I'm free
Friday's after gym, gracias!
6/8/2011

105.
o Al D.
o Santa Clara, CA
o 11 friends
o 10 reviews
another alcohol-related death.
6/8/2011
106.
o Justin N.
o Los Angeles, CA
o 2076 friends
o 632 reviews
o Elite ’19
Just started my first round of freebies and I was served with a smile and news that said
bartender is "no longer with the company." free scotch, mmmmmm
6/13/2011
109.
o Christopher N.
o Chicago, IL
o 34 friends
o 112 reviews
Tsada K. says:
What would Jesus do?
___________________
He'd go, drink a case of the foul red they serve, wander back to the store room and die.
Three days later he would come back out and inquire to see if the staff and menu has
changed.
6/13/2011
112.
o Justin N.
o Los Angeles, CA
o 2076 friends
o 632 reviews
o Elite ’19
@eye
I feel bad :(
6/13/2011
114.
o Kolohe C.
o Daly City, CA
o 40 friends
o 26 reviews
I love it how some bartenders take advantage of the fact that you've been drinking and fuq
with you knowing you can't really argue back due to the alcohol and manage to make you
look like the jerk when it's the other way around. And he/she has the power to throw you out
or stop serving you.
6/13/2011
115.
o Umesh T.
o Richmond, CA
o 1854 friends
o 427 reviews
o Elite ’19
Hell no, dude! Self respect is worth more than 20 days of whatever!
6/13/2011
116.
o Valeria R.
o San Francisco, CA
o 361 friends
o 424 reviews
o Elite ’19
Pipe down, Umerz. Nobody asked ya!
6/13/2011
117.
o gurth y.
o West Menlo Park, CA
o 0 friends
o 0 reviews
get a table full of free food and a milkshake, take one bite, and then ask for a To-Go box.
then never go back.
6/13/2011
118.
o Sue P.
o San Francisco, CA
o 4 friends
o 9 reviews
dude, who cares, get over it, it's a freakin bar, shit happens
6/26/2011
120.
o Justin N.
o Los Angeles, CA
o 2076 friends
o 632 reviews
o Elite ’19
Way to bump old shit
6/26/2011
123.
o Pickle R.
o San Francisco, CA
o 354 friends
o 764 reviews
i hear that bartender got another gig.
6/26/2011
125.
o Joshua W.
o San Francisco, CA
o 255 friends
o 501 reviews
Since Lance ain't around anymore...
youtube.com/watch?v=m4Zq…
6/26/2011
126.
o Sue P.
o San Francisco, CA
o 4 friends
o 9 reviews
mc, fat heavy with diabetes, try getting your ged fore you talk
6/26/2011
127.
o Jhoe G.
o Vallejo, CA
o 896 friends
o 158 reviews
It's jmr
6/26/2011
128.
o Al D.
o Santa Clara, CA
o 11 friends
o 10 reviews
it's the CAT that has diabetes. MC just has MRSA, Dengue Fever, and Ebola
6/26/2011
129.
o John F.
o San Francisco, CA
o 562 friends
o 325 reviews
Dru "Stupid Gorilla" P. says:
Don't sweat it mang. I have been dragged from bars by the whole security staff and come
back the next night to treat everyone to a drink. People lose thier cool once in a while and
you gotta keep in mind that bad days happen to everyone.
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Dru too heavy to drag out
6/26/2011
130.
o John F.
o San Francisco, CA
o 562 friends
o 325 reviews
how about july fourth
6/26/2011
131.
o Justin N.
o Los Angeles, CA
o 2076 friends
o 632 reviews
o Elite ’19
Stop bumping old shit yo
But for the record, I've had like $200 I booze lol
6/26/2011
Gallery: Ask a Bartender:

What Behavior Gets
Someone Kicked Out of
Your Bar?
CAREY JONES
"Rudeness to staff or customers, of course… and eating my garnishes, that's a
big one. I had a woman the other night pick up a Thai chili, pretend to put it in her
mouth, and then put it back in the garnish cup with all the others. That got her
thrown out…" — John McCarthy (Mulberry Project, Vinatta Project)
"Someone who starts spilling drinks and/or invading the space and calm of other
patrons is likely to get a free taxi ride home. Oh, and ordering a Bloody Mary
after 9 PM on a Saturday. (JK! I'll make one but charge you $15 for it.)" —
Michael Lazar (Hog & Rocks)
"Getting into a loud, drunken argument with another customer, especially about
any of the following topics: religion, politics, regional styles of barbecue, New
York or Chicago pizza, Pat's vs. Geno's, or the supremacy of your preferred
college football conference." — Chad Musick (The Green Room)
"There’s a few...harassing other guests or staff, to the point of discomfort, will get
you 86’d. Throwing up into your hand and all over yourself is a good way to get
yourself kicked out. If you’re caught stealing, particularly things like our tiki mugs,
whiskey glasses, menus, etc you will probably be asked to return them, and
taking pride in your theft is a rock-solid way to be disinvited. Also, when the lights
are up, the music is off, the bar is empty, and three different people have asked
you to vacate the bar, standing your ground and throwing a temper tantrum is an
easy way to expedite the bouncing process. 'The freedom to swing your fist ends
where the next person’s nose begins.'" —Mike Ryan (Sable)
"Ordering drinks named after sexual acts and porn stars. We should be better at
drinking with age; if you are 40 and ordering a blow job shot, you shouldn't go out
in public." — Jeremy Strawn (Black Hound Bar & Lounge)
"People who are unkind. I was raised by the principle of "you catch more flies
with honey," which is just a cutesy way of saying be nice and you will win more
often than not. It's a basic principle, which is easy to follow. Kindness spreads
and makes the environment more fun, which is the point after all." — Megan
Knox (Bluestem)
"Verbal assaults are never acceptable behavior in my eyes. Rude people aren't
cool and have nothing to add to the mix." — Elizabeth Powell (Liberty Bar)
"Don't talk about my mom." — Sarah Mengoni (South Water Kitchen)
"Someone being rude to another client; I will never accept that." — Thibault de
Lepinay (L’Amant)
"Trying to step behind the bar, I'm a bit territorial." — Cory Fitzsimmons (Angolo
SoHo)
"Bothering other patrons and interfering with their experience. You can't bother
people while they're enjoying their night out." — Chris James (The Ryland Inn)
"The Meat Market Man is the villain in my Bar Story, and the first to be shown the
door. I am, myself, not a woman, however I feel confident in speaking for all
womanhood that sometimes you just want a damn drink. Remember, gents: if at
first you don't succeed, try again! And when that doesn't work, give up. I think
that's good advice for life as a whole." — Dan Bronson (The Strand
Smokehouse) & (Cresent & Vine)
"Definitely someone that has came into my bar all ready over served. Anyone
that thinks it's okay to overstep their boundaries by butting into someone else’s
conversation as well. I've seen couples enjoying themselves at dinner and
someone drinking alone and then scooting next to them. It's like something out of
a bad movie, where someone talks your ear off and then you're the one leaving
instead of them. I've also had to tell people to leave the bar for harassing a few
ladies before. It's really not that hard to be a gentlemen, just do what your
momma taught ya, unless your mom is Darth Vader." —Brian Means (Fifth Floor)
"Stealing my muddler, bitters, or bar tools off the bar top... and climbing the fire
escape (it has happened more than once)." —Kevin Diedrich (Jasper's Corner
Tap & Kitchen)
"Being creepy. Being obnoxious. Coming in drunk. All pretty self-explanatory
really..." —John Cummins (The Dawson Lounge)
How to (Safely) Kick a

Customer Out at Your
Bar
By Loren Bornstein
Loren BornsteinSeptember 25, 2017
Posted in Bar Management, Bar Owner, Bartending,Hospitality, Industry & Culture .
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“You f&*$ing b*$%@!”
I looked up in time to see my coworker get an unfortunate piña colada bath. The
guest kept screaming obscenities as security carried them away. It was a busy
Saturday night at our very high volume restaurant. At a venue like ours, it was
only a matter of time before the mixture of alcohol, adrenaline, and competition
resulted in people making poor behavioral decisions.
While not every situation of a guest being cut off ends with a coconut-scented
shower, that kind of aggression is an all-too-common experience for bartenders.
Part of the problem is we, the bar staff, are educated to understand alcohol, but
our guests aren’t.
It’s a common problem that various establishments approach differently. I
surveyed a group of 25 fellow hospitality professionals to better understand why
they kick out customers and how they handle the conflict.
Handling conflict: You’re cut
off
When the bar is full, there’s never an easy way to tell someone they can’t have
their booze. Cutting off a guest puts the bartender in an awkward and sometimes
dangerous position. With the exception of one time, most guests I’ve confronted
usually become aggressive, defensive, and menacing.

Mark Schettler of New Orleans’ Bar Tonique had this to say, “I think that the
baseline job of any bartender is to keep everyone, staff included, feeling safe and
comfortable. If a guest, or staff member, isn’t able to abide that, they’re gone.
Sometimes, a warning and/or redirect is in order and suffices, sometimes the line
is crossed so egregiously that the offending party has to be immediately 86’d.”
It’s a bartender’s job to make sure that their customers have a great experience,
and are safe in the process. We aren’t looking to kick people out when we cut
them off, but that seems to be the assumption by many, and a cut off
unfortunately can turn into getting kicked out.
Why do customers get kicked

out?
While closing time was the number-one surveyed reason for kicking out a
customer, harassment was the most common selection on the first day I released
the survey. It was also a main anecdote cited by those who shared stories. One
person who took the survey shared this, “[I have] almost too many [stories] to
share. I have had bottles thrown at me, been called every name you can possibly
imagine, been challenged to countless fights, stepped into the middle of several
others, tackled fleeing felons, and even been threatened with a glass that a guest
had just broken over the bar.”
How to kick them out, safely

If you have to kick someone out, make sure the person who does it is someone
with authority and autonomy to make bigger decisions, such as a head bartender
or manager. While the law empowers any bartender to refuse service, it’s best to
let those above you handle the situation.
Managers should also be trained on how to best handle cut-offs. Keep your cool
to avoid triggering an emotional response. Get the story from the guest and be
empathetic, but don’t throw your bartenders under the bus. Your responsibility
as a manager is to protect your business, which includes your bar staff and your
guests.
Whether you’re a bartender or a bar manager dealing with the situation,
document everything so that everyone can learn from the experience. It’s good
practice to keep a notebook for bartenders to fill out with details on each day. The
notebook was incredibly useful in instances where I had to document an event
with police.
Teamwork is key
Communication is key to running a successful bar and bar team, especially in
times of conflict. After the event, gather the team together to discuss what
happened and document it together. Nobody likes to kick people out, but when
you demonstrate solidarity in doing right by the business and each other, the
situation will be easier to handle and you’ll be better prepared for the future
Getting kicked out of a bar/club for no reason
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(._.)
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Anybody ever have this happen to them? It's really hard for me to let shit go and it almost
ruined my night. apparently I was fighting outside with some fat bald guy over some fat girl
:S
WAT
I was inside playing pool with some 7 & 8/10 girls
LOL
bleh. They still have my card too. I wasn't even drunk. Have to drive back to this shitty bar
tomorrow to close my tab. The place was alright too so I'm trying really hard to see it from
their perspective so I don't get bitter and never go back. They didn't even wanna hear my
side they just said you gotta go. Nothing from my end. I think they mistakened me for
somebody else. On the way out some fat girl called me a "faggot." WHO THE FUCK USES
THAT WORD IN 2013? jesus chrsit. I never got the last word :[
I hate bars sometimes.
discuss.
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Yaboosh
Super Sleuth
Mar 8, 2013
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You are drunk now so you were probably drunker then.
Maximus.
Member
Mar 8, 2013
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I've been rejected from coming in because I was "drunk" when I actually was sober. Bouncers
are dicks.
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Yaboosh said:
You are drunk now so you were probably drunker then.
No, I was DD. That's why I took it so personally. Had like 2 beers and a bit of wine. Not drunk
now at all. Was hardly tipsy then. felt like I was getting charged with shit I didn't do. Just
unfortunate :[
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Homeboyd
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BankaiZaraki
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The only time I was ever kicked out of a bar/club was on St. Patrick's Day a couple years ago.
Got shitface wasted and was stumbling all over the place bumping into people. Bouncers
noticed and told me I had to go. I agreed with them but forgot to close my tab so I went
back in and closed it and drove home drunk. I still feel like they should've stopped me from
doing that.
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Lionel Mandrake
Member
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(._.) said:
No, I was DD. That's why I took it so personally. Had like 2 beers and a bit of wine. Not drunk
now at all. Was hardly tipsy then. felt like I was getting charged with shit I didn't do. Just
unfortunate :[
You are not a very good one.
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B For Bendetta
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Mar 8, 2013
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BankaiZaraki said:
The only time I was ever kicked out of a bar/club was on St. Patrick's Day a couple years ago. Got
shitface wasted and was stumbling all over the place bumping into people. Bouncers noticed and
told me I had to go. I agreed with them but forgot to close my tab so I went back in and closed it
and drove home drunk. I still feel like they should've stopped me from doing that.
You should probably rephrase/edit part of that out completely. And yeah no one is buying
your alibi OP
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DJMicLuv
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Mar 8, 2013
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jesus chrsit!
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Joe
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Mar 8, 2013
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A few years ago I drank almost two Four Lokos, smoked some JWH and then headed to a bar
with a bunch of my friends. Apparently I found a deck of cards and said "HEY GUYS LOOK
MAGIC" and proceeded to fling them 1-by-1. I remember the bouncer chasing me around
the bar and I avoided him by weaving in and out of people and then heading out the front
door, straight into a cab, and then home to pass out.
The kicker was the next day my friends said that all happened in the first 15 minutes of
getting there.
Other than that I don't think I've ever been officially kicked out of a place although I'm trying
to remember. I've been involved in shenanigans but I almost always make a point to be really
friendly with the bouncers and befriending them if I frequent a place. Helps out so much.
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Phonomezer
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I am not at all surprised considering the OP.
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Steelrain
Member
Mar 8, 2013
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Shit happens. Doesn't sound like it was a very good bar if there were fat girls hanging
around.
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Sho_Nuff82
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We always kick people out for a reason.
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CPS2
Member
Mar 8, 2013
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I was standing near the entrance to a club once and the bouncer says "you can't come in
here with tracksuit pants," and i was like "i'm not trying to get in there and these aren't
tracksuit pants..." then i just kinda stared at the smug douchebag for a second and went off
on my merry way.
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Devolution
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Mar 8, 2013
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(._.) said:
No, I was DD. That's why I took it so personally. Had like 2 beers and a bit of wine. Not drunk now
at all. Was hardly tipsy then. felt like I was getting charged with shit I didn't do. Just unfortunate :[
How were you the DD?
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SlickShoesRUCrazy
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yep
BadAss2961
Member
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I love how you rated the girls you were hanging out with. lol
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freenudemacusers
Member
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drunk driving all up in this thread lol
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Trouble
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I've never been kicked out of a bar. I've been cut off when I was crazy drunk once or twice,
but not kicked out.
Speaking of, I used to have a roommate who would constantly get 86'ed at bars because
when he got wasted he had no off switch and bartenders were seriously worried we was
going to drink himself to death. He never caused a scene, but would just be so amazingly
blind drunk but somehow still on his feet.
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Amagon
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Stahp it, your drunk.
Go to sleep.
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lush
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So what happened with the fat girl?
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Lionel Mandrake said:
I'm sober!!! OMFG I swear
Sho_Nuff82 said:
We always kick people out for a reason.
You a tender? can you please elaborate? I know that it may make your job easier which I
respect since I'm sure you deal with a lot of shit. Somebody complains and points. You go
and kick out who they pointed at to keep the peace. My friend told me why they kicked me
out when he went to pay. They told him I was trying to start fights... WHATTTTT
LeBrick James said:
STANDARDS breh
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freenudemacusers
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maybe you are a 4/10 and below the standards of the bar.
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Devolution
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Is there a pic of the OP somewhere, that could answer some questions.
BadAss2961
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lush said:
So what happened with the fat girl?
Yeah OP... Why do you think she called you a faggot?
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EnderWiggles
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I'm willing to bet that the OP told the girls his ratings of them.
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dreamcastmaster
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Lionel Mandrake said:
Thread backfire incoming?
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Devolution said:
Is there a pic of the OP somewhere, that could answer some questions.
http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showpost.php?p=49417446&postcount=2570
YOU HAPPY?
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OnkelC
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Sho_Nuff82
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(._.) said:
I'm sober!!! OMFG I swear
You a tender? can you please elaborate? I know that it may make your job easier which I respect
since I'm sure you deal with a lot of shit. Somebody complains and points. You go and kick out
who they pointed at to keep the peace. My friend told me why they kicked me out when he went
to pay. They told him I was trying to start fights... WHATTTTT
STANDARDS breh
Click to expand...
I'm a bouncer. We get a fair amount of leeway in solving most problems on the floor, but if a
bartender says you are out, you are out. For he said/she said confrontations where no
punches are thrown, we generally just tell both parties to walk to opposite sides of the bar. If
it's something like sexual harassment, a warning will usually do the trick, though
inappropriate groping will get you tossed. Mostly it's just people who are too drunk or piss
off the waitstaff.
As to your situation... are you sure you didn't say anything to (or about)this girl at all? Did
you have anyone to vouch for your whereabouts during the incident in question? Did you
respond calmly, or were you all "don't put your fucking hands on me? "
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Devolution
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Mar 8, 2013
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(._.) said:
YOU HAPPY?
Saw the pic in pyp, you kind of look like other people (don't take that the wrong way) so it's
probably why some dude called you out in a bar, was it low lit?
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Amory
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Mar 8, 2013
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apparently the way I walk after drinking makes me look drunker than I actually am. People
tell me that and I always ask what they mean but no one can explain it. Bouncers are always
questioning me really hard when I'm not even buzzed. Pisses me off.
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Devolution said:
Saw the pic in pyp, you kind of look like other people (don't take that the wrong way) so it's
probably why some dude called you out in a bar, was it low lit?
not taken the wrong way at all. it was very dark.
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Devolution
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Mar 8, 2013
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(._.) said:
not taken the wrong way at all. it was very dark.
That's probably what did it. Drunk ass punk was probably just looking to finger anyone who
remotely looked like the guy.
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Hanmik
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LeBrick James said:
he didn´t rate them.. he mentioned their age. (just kidding)
I have been thrown out once for getting a window in the back of my head (someone broke it
with a beer and it shattered on me), and they thought I should stop bleeding all over their
place.
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BankaiZaraki
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B For Bendetta said:
You should probably rephrase/edit part of that out completely. And yeah no one is buying your
alibi OP
Why should I? It happened. I feel like if you are leaving a club/bar visibly drunk, the club/bar
should prevent you from getting in your car and leaving drunk. It's not like it just happened
last night or anything. It was 2 years ago.
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Sho_Nuff82 said:
I'm a bouncer. We get a fair amount of leeway in solving most problems on the floor, but if a
bartender says you are out, you are out. For he said/she said confrontations where no punches
are thrown, we generally just tell both parties to walk to opposite sides of the bar. If it's
something like sexual harassment, a warning will usually do the trick, though inappropriate
groping will get you tossed. Mostly it's just people who are too drunk or piss off the waitstaff.
As to your situation... are you sure you didn't say anything to (or about)this girl at all? Did you
have anyone to vouch for your whereabouts during the incident in question? Did you respond
calmly, or were you all "don't put your fucking hands on me? "
I was very calm and sensible actually. One of the reasons I took it so personally was
something similar happened to me earlier in the week where I got in a big fight with a friend
virtually over nothing. I was very calm and I started apologising right away saying I had no
idea what they were talking about. I was starting to work it out with one of the tenders when
the big one came up and said I had to go. Maybe they weren't play games that night and just
wanted it over with ASAP? Either way I flt like they should have at least let me clear my name.
I did absolutely nothing. I don't "fight over" girls that look like her in "the the game room"
when I go to bars ._.
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Sho_Nuff82
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(._.) said:
I was very calm and sensible. I was starting to work it out with one of the tenders when the big
one came up and said I had to go. Maybe they weren't play games that night? I did absolutely
nothing I don't "fight over" girls that look like her in "the the game room" when I go to bars ._.
That's a damn shame man. Sounds like mistaken identity. Aside from ruining your night, the
asshole who caused the trouble got off Scott free.
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B For Bendetta
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Mar 8, 2013
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BankaiZaraki said:
Why should I? It happened. I feel like if you are leaving a club/bar visibly drunk, the club/bar
should prevent you from getting in your car and leaving drunk. It's not like it just happened last
night or anything. It was 2 years ago.
The very vocal community on GAF on the topic will probably focus on your lack of
responsibility rather than the establishment's. If you want to start the argument that is your
prerogative obviously.
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Dr.Acula
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Mar 8, 2013
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My buddy once lit a joint at a table in a club and a bouncer found him within five seconds.
And this was when cigarettes were allowed, so I'm surprised this happened so quickly.
"You can't smoke that here, you need to leave."
"Is this not cool? Can I not do this here?"
"No."
"Okay man, sorry about that."
"No problem."
We all just got up and left. Pretty funny. He's like 6'6" and a solid if unathletic build, so you
could tell the bouncer was pretty glad that he left without any trouble.
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Sho_Nuff82 said:
That's a damn shame man. Sounds like mistaken identity. Aside from ruining your night, the
asshole who caused the trouble got off Scott free.
Yeah it was, thanks for being understanding. Just felt like going home after that shit. Either
way it's over now so whatever. Overall a good night however. Just never been accused of
stuff I'v never did liek that so the feels made me all bitter and stuff :[
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KingofGourds
Member
Mar 8, 2013
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I always felt bad for a friend of mine. A big fellow, probably 6'10 and hefty, he was always
friendly, never aggressive, but whenever we went clubbing other blokes would get drunk and
try to fight him and he always ended up getting thrown out.
The bouncers were also almost always roided up Napoleons too, and would always go over
the top with swagger in dragging him out.
Poor bastard stopped going out altogether in the end.
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Steelrain said:
Shit happens. Doesn't sound like it was a very good bar if there were fat girls hanging around.
nah it was alright, like 3 planets. a lot of good looking chicks I mingled with. all a few years
too old for me though but I was there just to have fun anyways so doesn't matter.
BadAss2961
Member
Mar 8, 2013
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(._.) said:
YOU HAPPY?
I would've preferred pics of the 7 & 8/10 girls.
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Steelrain
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Hanmik said:
he didn´t rate them.. he mentioned their age. (just kidding)
I have been thrown out once for getting a window in the back of my head (someone broke it with
a beer and it shattered on me), and they thought I should stop bleeding all over their place.
Not an unreasonable request to want you to stop leaking everywhere.
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Devolution
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Mar 8, 2013
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KingofGourds said:
I always felt bad for a friend of mine. A big fellow, probably 6'10 and hefty, he was always friendly,
never aggressive, but whenever we went clubbing other blokes would get drunk and try to fight
him and he always ended up getting thrown out.
The bouncers were also almost always roided up Napoleons too, and would always go over the
top with swagger in dragging him out.
Poor bastard stopped going out altogether in the end.
I've caught dudes sizing TD up but no one's ever made a move.
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Scratch
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Mar 8, 2013
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Phonomezer said:
I am not at all surprised considering the OP.
wait a minute...corgis can't drink!
D.Lo
Member
Mar 8, 2013
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Yeah few times I've been refused entry for being drunk when stone sober.
Bouncers make a call based on a laugh or something, and never, ever back down no matter
what, because it is a job that attracts the unintelligent.
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D.Lo said:
Yeah few times I've been refused entry for being drunk when stone sober.
Bouncers make a call based on a laugh or something, and never, ever back down no matter what,
because it is a job that attracts the unintelligent.
it was one of the bartenders that threw me out :S
the chunk guy who was buff also. he was just doing his job and I know he would have let me
clear my name if he was in a more reasonable mood. just feel mad as hell he at least let me
explain that they were kicking out the wrong guy.
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BigJonsson
Member
Mar 8, 2013
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Liquor licenses are hard to get and easy to lose, bars need to be very careful with what goes
on inside
fter being kicked out?
asdaven
Xper 6
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So about a week ago I got kicked out of my local bar for no reason. I was about to leave
the bathroom and a bouncer grabs me and asks me to step outside with him. So I
cooperate and do so willingly. We het outside and he said I'm gonna have to kick you out
tonight because you were acting drunk and a bartender complained you were knocking
over drinks on the bar, which wasn't true at all and I wasn't even near the bar , I was by
the dance floor. So, either he or the bartender mistook my identity for someone else who
was doing what he said I was doing or he made up a bunch of bs just to throw someone
out for the fun of it or because they let too many people in (was a very busy night), or I
wasn't buying a lot if beer and spending lots of $$$ (was only a second beer in 2 hours,
was not drunk). But the guy basically acted like even if I am wrong your already kicked
out too bad. a**hole. And as he started to go back in I barely walked into the doorway
(not trying to go back in) , and told him basically okay fine, I know its busy tonight, ill take
one for the team, if I'm out I'm out and ill take the fall for something I didint do , but I still
have a tab open and the bartender has my credit card and I need my tab closed out and
my credit card back. So he got all pissed off so I backed away and chose not to escalate
it. So two hours waiting out in the cold, my buddy finally comes out ( who is actually
drunk). So I teold him what happened so I get him to back in to close my tab. And the
bartender gives him a hardtime getting the bouncers involved almost kicking him out but
finally they give in.
So, thing is this is my local bar that I always goto. I've never had a problem, I'm always
courtious to the bouncers and bartenders there. Some of them I even know as I'm a
regular. This night the people working I had never seen before. I always follow the rules
and don't cause any trouble or get too drunk. And if I had gotten kicked out for a
legitimate reason I wouldve left and not contested. But I mean I goto bars a lot and have
never gotten kicked out and always get along with the bouncers and bartenders. And I
understand that bouncing just like being a cop can be a rough job and there's reasons
they're not always nice people. So, I'm not saying bouncers are a**holes.
But anyhow, I still want to go back and I'm willing to put that night behind me even
though it kind of pissed me off because I was labeled as a "troublemaker" or "riff-raff"
when I'm not and wasn't doing anything wrong. So my question is from your experience
if you get kicked out of a bar for something like this is it just for the night or your not
allowed to come back?
Updates:
+1 y
I don't know who the manager was. I asked to speak to a manager and the bouncer basically
said "this time of night we are the management." And I wasn't trying to provoke a fight or
argument I just wanted to explain my side of the story. But once you been marked to get
kicked out, your considered a "threat". And I'm debating whether calling up and complaining
about this will make it a bigger deal then it has to be. I'm thinking about giving a few weeks
then just going back.
hen Bartenders and Regulars

Become More Than Just
Drinking Buddies
By JENA ELLENWOODPublished On 10/10/2017

Mark Yocca / Supercall
I will never forget how the EMTs that frequented the first coffee shop I ever
worked in took their medium hot chocolate and coffee in large cups to
avoid spillage in the ambulance; that the Second Avenue subway
contractor, who hadn't touched booze in eight years, preferred lemon in his
water but no straw; that Janet in East Hampton liked to finish her first glass
of North Fork Chardonnay before ordering the roast chicken, all the while
glued to a romance novel. There is an intimacy in reading your regulars—
those folks who come in week after week or even day after day. You come
to know instinctively who is having what sort of day, what liquid will salve
which wound or set the mood just right.
I suppose it's addicting, this knowledge that someone is coming back just
for you, that you hold the power to make their day by setting down their
usual before they even ask. But it’s even more of an opiate when you start
to feel the same way about them.
One night after I got off work, I reclined in the corner of the bar with a few
coworkers and a bottle of wine. As we bantered, I noticed a handsome
stranger nervously alight on a barstool and order a beer. "Bar four is hot," I
whispered to my friend (also my manager), who promptly snagged the
bartender and made him send Bar 4 a shot on me. I raised my wine glass,
prepared to "cheers" him from across the bar as soon as he looked up to
thank me. I waited, my glass growing heavy. I watched the shot,
untouched. He sipped his beer. He went to the bathroom. The shot began
to sweat, or maybe that was me—we were both feeling overtly ignored.
Then, as if by divine fate, an unruly birthday party gathered around him,

demanding drinks and jostling him out of his seat. The guy, his beer and
my shot relocated to a table directly behind my stool. I looked at my friend,
the two of us utterly confused—why in the ever loving hell was he not
saying thank you or, at the very least, taking the damn shot? Behind the
bar, the bartender was equally amazed. He grabbed a dollar off the bar
and yelled, "Hey, bro, you forgot your change!" As the stranger
approached to take "his" dollar, my friend spun around and said "Hey, this
is Jena. She works here, and now you have to say thank you for that shot!"
He stared, wide-eyed, and stuttered hello and that he lived upstairs. We
began to chat and then, without word or warning, he disappeared out the
door.
Friday rolled around again, and I was just about to sit down and pour
myself some wine when in he walked—Bar 4. He sat down, ordered a
beer, and this time, he struck up a conversation.
For the better part of a year, I had a fake date every Friday night with the
regular from upstairs. The last half hour of my shift, he would arrive and try
to score his favorite seat, right at the end of the bar where he knew I would
sit to eat my dinner and have a glass of wine. If I sat at a table, he would
join me. We laughed, we flirted, he occasionally brushed my arm or found
an excuse to lean in closer. But, in an entire year of fake dinner dates, the
man never once asked me out. Not once.
The role of bartender/friend/flirt/performer can feel like a balancing act at

times. In the act of listening and building a relationship with a regular, it's
all too easy to feel human first and forget all about the structure and rules
that come with the exchange of goods and services. Yes, there are plenty
of professionals who don't you-know-what where they eat, but for every
one of those there is also the perfect alignment of energies that leads to
something else. Is it laziness or hope that urges us to see where the night
takes us in the place we spend a majority of our time and, in theory, make
a living? If Bar 4 had asked me out, what would've happened then?
"My first bar gig in New York, I had a regular from Spain,” my friend Elijah
said, sipping his vermouth-heavy Manhattan. "She was always drawing in
her notebook at the bar, but she would never show me what she was
rabidly sketching. One night, my friend glanced over her shoulder and
realized she was drawing me! He came up to me and said, 'Dude, ask her
out!'" Elijah laughed. “She said yes to a beer. She was only in New York for
the summer finishing her degree. One night, I took her to DUMBO and we
went on the carousel. I took her hand and leaned over and kissed her. It
was crazy hot. We were both kind of drunk and started fooling around on
the subway on the way back—there was no one else on the train and so
we took it up to the next level. I won't lie, I'm a bit of an exhibitionist."
Images of Tom Cruise in Risky Businessbegan flashing in my brain as he
continued. "It got to the point where we'd have sex everywhere. She'd
wear a lot of skirts..." He trailed off, a gleam in his eye. "I was closing the
bar one night and, as we were about to leave, she turned off the lights and
said 'close the gate' before leading me back to the bar. My manager texted
me the next day and said, 'Yo, stick to the back left corner next time! Our
cameras work.' She moved at the end of the summer; the break up sex on
my roof was incredible."
Elijah's story was fresh in my mind when I went into work the next day and
found myself across the bar from one very hungover friend. I slid her an
iced Irish Coffee and asked, "Hey, got any 'and then I did the bartender'
stories?"
"Boy do I," Elizabeth laughed. "I mean, I definitely had sex in the
manager's office during the World Series. I was a patron and he was
working and we had a quickie during his shift." I resisted the urge to bust
out a home run joke.
"This was a guy that had also lifted me up on a dumpster one night after
closing the bar. It was hot. We were classy,” she said. “I used to be the
queen of bar bathroom hook ups. The absolute worst was coming out of
the bar in broad daylight in the East Village."
Not to be outdone, the regular next to her, who happened to be a

bartender from an old school Midtown institution, chimed in: "I once had a
chick lean over my bar and say, 'How about you lick my p*ssy with that
beard?'"
Elizabeth and I paused and looked at him with raised eyebrows. She
continued: "Being a bartender is flirtatious—I used to have regulars back
when I was in the industry and I'd always wonder what if. It's just a matter
of the moment being right: the stars align, there's a blizzard." She chewed
her straw. "A blizzard?" I asked. "I literally hooked up with a bartender and
cheated on my boyfriend because there was a blizzard and I couldn't catch
a cab,” she said.
"There was a time when I was cl-opening a bar in the city and living way
out in Brooklyn and I'd wait to see if any patrons had hotel room keys on
the bar—I just really didn't want to pay for cab fare," my friend Kristina
said, putting a saison in front of me. "But the real story, I suppose, is my
affair with a superhero." She whispered his name and I choked on my
beer. "It's actually an amazing story—his agent hooked him up with an
apartment next to my old bar. He'd feed me sushi and throw me around
because he's, well, a superhero. He was here shooting a series and he'd
come into the bar when I worked lunch and order wings and whatever IPA
I recommended. We loved each other's company but we initially said that
nothing could happen. I mean, he was married. Then we had too many
Yuzu Margaritas and he kissed me on the lobby couch—and he's a terrible
kisser. The superhero is a terrible kisser! But he's probably the hottest
thing I'll ever have sex with...getting thrown around by that man. Ooooo
lawd!" My eyes must have been as big as the superhero's resplendent
biceps, his prolific pectorals, his—we'll just leave it at that. She
sighed. "No one knew who he was when we were seeing each other. He's
too high profile now. I never gave him my number, but he always knew
where to find me. He'd call to make sure I was working."
"People fetishize you behind the bar, dude. You know it's true,” another
friend told me. “This beautiful woman I met at Imbibe Ball used to come
into my bar after we first met.” This particular friend happened to work at
one of the foremost cocktail bars in the country. "She would come in and
flirt like wild. One night she slid her panties over the bar while I was
working! Thank the lord my uniform involved something with pockets. We
had this intense, whirlwind romance. She moved, and the last time we had
goodbye sex I pulled a muscle in my arm. I had to wear a sling from break-
up sex!" He raised his Martinez, "I still have those panties in my closet."
My first bar gig in the city came with an interesting crew of regulars. They
would primarily congregate around the end of the downstairs bar, spilling
into the serving area where they were able to avoid the theater goers and
tourists who ran rampant in those parts. One particular regular happened
to not only be young, witty, single and attractive, but he also happened to
live right upstairs. It was fairly common knowledge that he'd already dated
one of the waitresses. He was a good-natured dude, easy going, and it
didn't hurt that he also had a ridiculously adorable dog.
I'm not entirely sure how it happened, but at one point in time, one of my
coworkers was carrying on simultaneous affairs with this upstairs dude
with the dog, her out of state ex-boyfriend and her live-in boyfriend. I
remember one particular New Year's Eve when all three of them happened
to be on different floors of the restaurant, seemingly oblivious to each other
while she swigged Jim Beam and hyperventilated in the keg room. She'd
done a pretty stellar job at keeping the affair upstairs a secret, until one
morning she stumbled out of his front door and ran directly into another co-
worker of ours who was headed in to work the lunch shift. The jig was up.
After she ended the fling, homeboy made a pass at me to which I replied,
"No thanks, man. You've already slept with too many of my friends." I
guess some of my other coworkers didn't share the same sentiment; there
were plenty more upstairs affairs.
As I was excavating the alcohol-soaked images of the past, I realized there
was one friend I had never really talked to about her now decade-old fling
with one of her regulars, who happened to be a detective for the NYPD.
Lucky for me, she was more than happy to fill me in. "The whole thing was
so weird, I was so afraid it would come back and my boss would find out,”
she said. “There was this super late night and he was super drunk and he
asked me out. I ran upstairs and asked my coworker, 'Didn't he just get
married? I can't do that!' And she said, 'Yes, you can, because he's not
anymore.' I guess he'd only been married about a month. Never really
asked him what happened. Anyway, I just always thought he flirted with
everyone. He was always telling me what a great cook he was."
"So what made you say 'OK,’” I asked. “I mean, I remember him being witty
and kind of hunky but wasn't he—” “Like, 10 years older?" She laughed
into the phone. "Yeah, he was. I think I was 26 and he was 36/37. I don't
know," she paused. "He was sweet and so I met him at a beer garden in
Queens. We wound up back at his place, which had no furniture except for
this super ugly orange couch—I mean, he'd just gotten divorced. After that,
we saw each other every weekend for about five months. Then I went to
Germany to study, and he kept threatening to show up and whisk me to
Belgium," she laughed. "And you know he was the kind of crazy who would
actually do that! After I got back, he went away on a trip to Paris. But the
bar was his first stop back after the airport. He rushed right in and kissed
me in front of my boss! I got the hot sweats for weeks but my boss never
said anything."
"So, what happened?"

"It just kind of fizzled, I think he realized I wanted more than a weekend
sex buddy no one knew about. I do think about him. Even though he drank
a lot, he was such a nice guy. After sex once, he put on the song
from Flashdance and put on sweatbands and spandex—he'd been trying
to get into working out. And then he danced around." I could feel her
smiling through the phone. “God, it was so not sexy but it was hilarious!
And I thought, 'You must really like me if you're willing to embarrass
yourself,' and then we had sex again."
Plenty of bartenders use the allure of availability to sell spirits. Have a

boyfriend? Not at work ya don't! Live with your lady? Never mention her to
the women at the bar. In my experience, those routines don't usually lead
to stories that result in anyone’s panties being slid over the bar. But if they
do, there’s one of two outcomes: awesome, no-strings-attached sex or
heartbreak.
In college, a friend of mine dragged me to a karaoke night on Bleecker

because she was "dating the bartender." The "boyfriend" in question
seductively leaned over the bar, taking orders from glossy-lipped gals
while his female co-workers peddled Jello Shots in their crop-tops. One
look around the room and I had to ask, "Have you ever gone on a date with
him?" To which she replied, "No, but I meet him after work." “Yeah, yeah
but has the man ever slept over?” I gazed at the trio of scantily clad coeds
twirling on the stripper pole. "Oh, um no." “You're not dating him,” I
informed her. “You're renting.” She paled. I then proceeded to do all the
free Jello Shots passed my way.
I'm pretty sure that night was my friend's last hurrah with that bartender—
we certainly never attended another karaoke night in that fine
establishment. Her stint as a regular there ended, just like that.
Of course, not all bartender-regular affairs end with one of the parties
permanently exiting the bar. There's nothing quite like walking into a room
and realizing one or more of the people bending their elbows at the bar
have seen you naked. Reinstating the equilibrium after doing the deed can
be tricky. But hey, maybe you should've thought about that before you
gave into temptation while serving that Happy Hour hottie her usual.
7 levels of a bar hook-up

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There are those nights when you truly just want to grab a beer (or seven), hang out with your friends, and
complain about work. But then there are the other nights when you use up all your hair gel, iron your jeans,
and truly just want to get laid. Once you spot a girl at the bar and reel her in with your subtle-yet-strong eye
contact, you’ve began a modern day phenomenon known by scientists as the bar relationship. It can either
either end right at that very bar or it can actually progress into a full-fledged committed relationship.
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7 Flirtatious relationship
You say something insanely witty, she says something sexual back, and before you know it conversation is
flying back and forth faster than the girl can keep adding her drinks to your tab. Either she signals her friends
with a loud sneeze, gives you a phone number that starts with 1-800, and starts talking to another guy at the
bar.
Or you move onto …
6 A bar make-out session

Throughout the night your heads are getting closer and closer until finally the inevitable kiss happens. You
both look at each other, laugh, and say I’m not really into PDA. Ten seconds later you’re having a full-on-
hands-up-the-shirt make-out sesh that’s being filmed for a Youtube premiere by the creepy loner in the
corner. Either she’s serious about not liking PDA and causes a huge scene by telling you to seriously stop.
5 Bathroom stall groping

Things are starting to get a little too hot and heavy for the bar and after hearing one too many whistles from
spectators, you head towards the bathroom. Once that stall door is locked (and you drown out the angry
yells from people in the bathroom line) bras come off and belts are loosened. Either you sneak out of the
stall while she tries to get her heel unjammed from the toilet bowl…
4 A one night stand

You bring her back to your place, give her a mini tour (point to the bedroom) and then put on the Marvin
Gaye mix you made just for a night like this. Before either of you can go over each other’s names again, all
clothes are off, and you’re praying your condoms aren’t expired. Either you snore loudly and pretend to be
asleep as she prepares herself for the time-honored walk-of-shame.
Or you move onto…
3 A weekend fling
Neither of you want to get out of bed when you wake up in the morning. You bring up a funny story from last
night, she shows you a weird shaped bruise she got when you couldn’t hold her up against the wall
anymore.You spend the next two days tangled up in sheets sharing your life dreams, confessing your
biggest fears, and coming up with a quality safe word. Either she takes the confessions too far and admits
she was technically born a man.
Or you move onto…
2 Booty call
You can’t always recall where she’s from or what exactly she does for a living, but you do remember that
she can do it in handstand position. Over the next month or so you call each other when either person is
horny, lonely, and/or bored. Either you start to develop a strange rash that she explains away by saying that
it will come and go for the rest of your life.
Or you move onto…
1 A serious relationship
Not only is she a cirque du soleil alum in bed, but you actually enjoy spending time with her doing other
things like eating out at restaurants and holding hands in public. You’re just dying to meet her parents and
you don’t get so angry anymore when she calls you by a cutesy nickname. Either this ends in a horrific
break-up scene where the neighbors call the cops or you get married and entertain yourself for the next 50
years telling everyone that your wife was supposed to only be a one-night stand.
How to Hook Up with a Girl at a

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Updated: August 8, 2019

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Are you single and struggling to meet girls? Though there are many dating apps
out there, you may be able to meet women the old fashioned way: in a bar. If you
are looking to hook up with a girl at a bar, you should first prepare appropriately
for a night out, work hard to get a girl’s attention, and create an opportunity for a
hook up.
1
Part
Increasing Your Chances of Success

1.
1
Practice good hygiene and grooming. Present your most attractive self by practicing
good hygiene and grooming. Take a hot shower, style your hair, trim your beard or
shave (if necessary), and put on cologne. Try not to throw on too much cologne, as the
overwhelming smell may turn off potential dates at the bar.
2.
2
Choose a bar that will have a higher likelihood of single women. You may want to
be strategic when selecting a bar to meet single women, as not all bars are created
equal in terms of having a high number of single women. The atmosphere of a bar over
a club or a lounge is often more conducive to meeting single people, with its casual
environment and cheaper drink prices. There are three primary types of bars:[1]
 Neighborhood bars: This is your local pub or sports bar, with a gang of regulars and
familiar faces. While these bars may be fun to go to with close friends every weekend,
they may not be the ideal spot to pick up girls. If you go to your neighborhood bar often,
you will likely know everyone who frequents the bar and are not as likely to meet new
single women in this type of venue.
 Popular bars: These bars are known hang out spots in the downtown area of your town
or city, or franchise pubs that are often packed on the weekends. While these bars are
often crowded with people, new and familiar, it may be more difficult to get a girl’s
attention in this environment, especially in a large crowd.
 Dive bars: These bars are considered a little seedy or dank, with cheap drink specials
and a casual atmosphere. You may find that dive bars are one of the best settings to
meet single women, as the people in the bar are likely less image conscious and are
accustomed to the bar scene.
3.
3
Ask friends where they go to pick up girls. You can also reach out to friends who are
single and often go out to pick up girls or friends who are in the know. Ask them which
bars they prefer and if any particular nights are popular, such as Ladies’ Night or
Single’s Night at a certain night spot.
 You can also try searching online reviews of certain bars or pubs to determine if they are
good spots to meet single women. Read the reviews of a bar before you go, as it may tip
you off as to if you are walking into a prime hook up spot.
4.
4
Wear clothing that will fit the atmosphere of the bar.You should dress according to
the setting. Choose a more relaxed outfit, like a clean t-shirt and jeans, if you are going
to a dive bar or a neighborhood bar. You may decide to get a bit more dressed up if you
are going to a popular bar, such as a collared shirt and slacks.
5.
5
Invite a few friends to support you. Reach out to one or two friends who are willing to
act as wingmen for you at the bar. Choose friends who are confident and have had
success with girls in the past, or a few single friends who are also interested in meeting
single women.
 Try not to go out with a big group of friends or a pack of other guys, as this can
overwhelm potential dates and make it difficult to focus on the single girls in the room.
Part2
Getting a Girl’s Attention
1.
1
Make eye contact with her. Once you notice a girl you are attracted to or interested in,
you should make fleeting eye contact with her. Avoid staring or leering at her. Instead,
glance at her periodically and smile at her. If she returns your glances and smiles, she
may also be interested in you.[2]
 You should also display open body language to show her you are engaged in her. Keep
your hands relaxed at your sides or casually holding a drink, with your body facing
towards her and your head facing her direction.
2.
2
Buy her a drink, and her friends a drink. Really get her attention by sending over a
few drinks to her table or offering to pay for her drink at the bar. Look at what she is
already drinking before you order something and ask the bartender what she is drinking.
You should then order her the same thing or something similar.[3]
 Offering her friends drinks as well will show her that you can be considerate of her
company and are not trying to impress just her. Buying her friends a drink, as well as
her, will also appear non threatening and friendly.
 Remember that a girl does not owe you any of her attention just because you bought a
drink. Buy her a drink as a friendly way to notify her of your presence, but not as an
excuse to aggressively pursue her or push yourself on her.
3.
3
Gather up the courage to introduce yourself. If she accepts your drink, you can take
this as a sign that she is open to engaging with you. Take a deep breath and gather up
the courage to walk over and say “hi” to her. Tell her your name and ask her about
herself. Be relaxed and casual in your introduction, using open and non-threatening
body language.[4]
 Maintain eye contact when you speak to her and do not shy away from talking to her
friends, as well. Show her that you can handle talking to her friends and be personable
as you speak to them. But keep your primary focus on her, using small talk like “What do
you do?” or “I love this song, do you like this band?”
 Early compliments about her physical appearance are risky, unless she's obviously into
you. Get in her good graces first by showing enthusiasm for her hobbies, interests or
other topics that come up in conversation.
Part3
Closing in on the Hook Up
1.
1
Offer to play pool or throw darts with her. Suggest that you do a fun activity together,
like play pool or throw darts. If the bar has arcade games, challenge her to a game.
Doing a fun activity together can help to break the ice and allow you both to relax and
enjoy each other’s company.[5]
 She may prefer to sit and talk with you over a few more drinks, rather than play a game
or do an activity. You may suggest a fun drinking game you can play, your friends, and
her friends together. This can be a fun way to get to know each other and have fun in a
comfortable, casual way.
2.
2
Encourage open and casual conversation. As the night goes on, you should focus on
talking to the girl you are interested in. This may mean staying close to her and making
jokes to keep the mood light or maintaining fun, light banter while you both play a game
or have more drinks.[6]
 In the opening conversation, follow up on her statements with open ended questions,
such as "Oh, you're a football fan. What's your favorite team?" or "What are you studying
at college?" If she stick around and continues to pay attention to you, keep the banter
light and quick instead. "Enjoying your night?" leads to more flirtation than an interview
about her travel history.
3.
3
Determine if she is single and interested. By this point you probably already know
whether she's interested, but asking whether she's single is an obvious signal that you
want to take things further. If she says no or seems uncomfortable, the two of you aren't
on the same page.
 You can also try to read her body language throughout the night to get a sense of her
intentions. Notice if she maintains eye contact with you, laughs at your jokes, and
displays open body language, with her body relaxed and turned towards you.
4.
4
Make a move and gauge her reaction. Once you feel confident that she is single and
possibly interested, you may make a move. The type of move you make will depend on
your intentions. If you are looking for a casual hook up, you may mention that your place
is close by or that you both could have a drink at your place to cap off the night. This is a
clear hint that you are making a move.[7] If you're looking for a date — or you suspect
she won't be into the one night stand — hand her your phone and say "Why don't you
put your number in there?"
 You can become more physically intimate with her by placing your hand on her waist or
touching her hair or face. Only do this if she seems interested in you and she displays
open body language, where she appears into touching and becoming more intimate in
public.
 If she says no or appears uncomfortable by your hook up suggestion, back off and
apologize. Tell her that you misread her intentions and respect her decision. Never try to
force yourself on a girl or convince her to come home with you.
5.
5
Use protection if the hook up occurs. If you are successful and you hook up with her,
you should always use protection. Put on a condom before you have sex and ask her if
she is on birth control. Make sure you are safe with any type of sexual contact, as you
want to ensure you both have fun and do not have any regrets the next morning.
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How To Hook Up With A

Girl At A Bar Without Being
A Total Creep
Jay Dawson October 11th 2017 Entertainment
Tinder has changed the dating scene forever. Once upon a time
we'd all have to go out to sweaty clubs and shout at girls to get a
date, and now it's as easy as swiping right and sending a couple
of emojis. The art has been lost, but it's still just as important as
ever. Girls still go to bars, and when you're out on the town,
there's still plenty of opportunities. You just need to know what to
do - which is where this ultimate guide comes in...
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Choose The Right Bar

First things first: the location. Hollywood will tell you that you can
pick up any lonely woman in any scummy dive bar, so long as
you turn up around closing time. But that's not true at all. You
need to pick a place that attracts women who are open to having
fun, but also not too loud. Keep an eye on what's new in the
neighborhood, because the curious and fun girls will always flock
to the next hip thing.
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Dress Smart
The other first is also vitally important - first impressions, that is.
And there's no greater impact on your first impression than what
you're wearing. It says a lot about you as a person, so you don't
want to look desperate or nerdy. There's also such a thing as
dressing up too much, although James Bond would disagree.
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Don't Live With Your Parents...

Seriously
Not only is it a supreme libido-killer to take a girl back to your
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sleeping with her that night. If you're old enough to drink, you're
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Have A Strategy
When we say "have a strategy", we don't necessarily mean what
you're going to say to her or when you're going to caress her leg
or whatever. No, that should mostly be played by ear. We mean
what will happen as the night draws to a close. Do you have a
car to drive you both home? A bottle of wine waiting in the
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Check Your Vibes

Once upon a time, approaching a girl in the bar would be
considered fairly normal, if a little annoying. Now, many girls see
it as downright creepy. That's not to say it's wrong - it's just
openly approaching anyone these days makes you look weird.
So make sure you're being as non-weird as possible, with
clothes, grooming, binoculars, mouth-breathing, etc., before you
sidle up to her, just to tip the odds in your favor.
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Just Use A Glance

Want to know how to be definitely non-creepy? Don't drill a hole
into her chest with your laser-focused eyes. It's as simple as
that. A glance, and a smile, and that should say it all before you
approach. No more.
Assess The Situation

Now to find out whether you do have a chance, or whether
you've already been tagged for the rejection bin. If she returns
your glance and smile with one of her own, then that's a very
good start. If she's already deep in a serious conversation, cool it
for just a second and re-read the situation later.
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Make Sure She's Not Hammered

Also, hitting on drunk girls is not cool at all. Really, really not
cool. If you're both tipsy and having a laugh, then that's great.
But if she's already slurring, then you're just plain taking
advantage of a vulnerable person. Besides, the conversation's
going to be less than sparkling, which is really what you're there
for, right?
Or Already With Another Guy

If you've ever been cock-blocked before, then you know the pain
and frustration already. Why would you want to try that on one of
your fellow bros? That's right, you don't. Us bros gotta stick
together and respect each other's moves. There's plenty of
ladies for everyone, so try another.
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Don't Mindlessly Send Drinks

Okay, so we're pretty sure that no-one's sent over a drink to
someone else since about three decades ago, when everyone
unironically had mustaches. So we don't need to remind you that
this is still as super sleazy and super cheesy as it ever was. No,
not in a good way.
Hide Your Insecurities

Girls love confident guys, but as it turns out pretty much
everyone in the world is a little bit insecure. Especially when
you're walking up to someone you don't know in a public arena
of potential embarrassment. So what do the all those so-called
"confident" people do? Simple: they fake it.
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Drop The One-Liners

Drop the one-liners, drop the cheese, drop the pick-up lines that
even your dad groans at. Not drop them like they're hot, or drop
them like a phat beat at a psytrance rave. Drop them like they're
an underperforming sports player. And keep them on the bench
for the rest of the game.
And Avoid Pick-Up Techniques

Most horny dudes would have at least heard of the Game, if not
picked up a few hints here and there about negging and sarging
and all that mumbo-jumbo. Trust us when we say that it doesn't
work, so don't use it. Women have a very good bullshit-o-meter,
and you're about to set it off.
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Basically, Be Genuine
What's the alternative to psychological warfare in order to get

laid? We're glad you asked. All you have to do, really, is be
genuine with the girl. Sometimes it might not work, and
sometimes the two of you really won't see eye to eye. But she'll
appreciate and recognize that you're not putting on an act.
Say Hello
That's all you have to do when you finally make your nerve-
wracking approach: say "hello". If you keep it simple, don't
mention anything about angels and falling out of heaven, and
definitely don't offer to buy her a drink immediately, you're in with
your best chance yet.
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Continue With Normal, Average

Conversation
Now that you've shocked her into complete silence with your
utterly normal opening, you have the chance to strike. You have
the chance to follow up with another barrage of completely
average, normal conversation. Go on, try it. Pretend like you're
talking to a friend.
Don't Be Afraid To Joke

At this point, things should be going smoothly, but inside you'll
still be a jittery bundle of nerves. Most people wouldn't attempt a
joke, since it can totally fall flat and make it all worse, but if
there's something you think is funny, by all means try it out.
Chicks dig humor - even attempts at humor.
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Chill On The Unsolicited Compliments

If you've just approached a woman at a bar, you'd better make it
worth her while. She could be doing literally anything else
instead of listening to you, so don't bore her with a barrage of
compliments that she's heard before a million times. It just
screams desperation.
Although Ladies Do Love Them

Of course, that doesn't mean that ladies hate being
complimented. Far from it - like any average human, they love to
be told that they look great and are totally radical every now and
again. So why can't you compliment them if they like it so much?
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Timing Is Everything
The key is in the timing and the delivery of the compliments. Like
we said before, don't lay it on thick with the unsolicited
compliments, but if the situation calls for it, and you genuinely
have meaning behind the words, by all means deliver a subtle
nod to the fact that she's crazy hot.
Occupy Her Girls

No girl - or at least, hardly any girl - is going to be out on the
prowl all alone. If she's not with her man, then she's going to be
with her gal pals. They actually will have a lot of influence on her
decisions, so you better treat them just as good as your love
interest. Be friendly with them, joke with them, and talk to them
too.
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But Don't Be A Sleaze

However, you shouldn't be flirting with all of her friends. Not only
is it totally obvious that you're just fishing for some sex and don't
care what you reel in, but you'll also go mad trying to maintain
four different flirting sessions at the same time.
Seem Interested In Her

So what you have to do is not be totally focused on her, but not
throw your attention all over the place. You need to seem really
interested in her, to make her feel like she's special too. In fact,
don't just seem interested - be interested! If you listen up to what
she's saying, you'll probably find that she is actually a pretty
awesome chick with plenty in common with you.
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And Uninterested In Sex

On the flipside, don't make it look like you're only in it for the
nooky. Again, it's totally obvious if you start playing it like it's a
cold-blooded sex strategy. If things look like they're headed that
way, then fine. Then, and only then, can you start the heavy
petting.
Keep Her Engaged

A bar is a busy place, filled with endless delights for the single
lady. Your job is to make it seem like you're the only delight
worth having, and by that you have to be engaging. You can't let
her mind wander, so keep the attention on her and her life. She'll
be unable to resist.
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Don't Spill Your Innermost Thoughts...

Yet
At the same time, you've got to keep things light. Probing
conversations into someone's life can quickly spiral in to deep,
dark territory, which will kill the mood quicker than you can blink.
You don't want to be spilling all your hang-ups and old dramas,
either.
Get Some One-On-One Time

By this point, if you've been following this guide, an hour or two
has slipped by and there's no denying the chemistry between
you two. Now's the point that you should get some time alone
from both the noisy bar and her girlfriends. She should have no
problem following you to a quiet corner to continue the flirting.
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Phone Number Or Your Place?

We know that you've come all this way to get your rocks off, but
not every night has to end in sex. Sometimes, a great time and a
phone number is just as good, and almost a guarantee for
bedroom fun later down the line anyway. You should be able to
read the mood, so don't push it if she looks like she isn't up for it.
Confidently Close
Whether you're angling for a phone number or taking it a couple
of steps further, the method of sealing the deal is exactly the
same. Again, keep it simple and state it confidently. Just say
you've had a great night (which you have) and then either ask
her whether she wants to come back to yours for a drink, or
whether you could get her phone number. Bam. That's it.
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Watch, Learn, And Cope With Rejection

Sometimes, no matter how hard you try and how much you
follow the guidelines, things just aren't going to work out your
way. That's life. Just don't get mad, because it won't help.
Rejection is totally normal, and in fact a positive. Rejection
means you get to see what went wrong, analyze it, and do it
better next time.
Best Bar a guy can go to alone and
hookup with girls?
I havent gone out all 2018 because all my friends work, have kids or just dont like going out as
much anymore. This is causing me to get lonely and depressed. I'm 25, I work Monday-Friday 40+
hour weeks and do NOTHING but sit home alone on weekends. I want to go out, get drunk and
hookup with a hot girl for the night, so i figured i stop depending on friends and try going out
alone.
Im very intorverted though and have slight social anxiety so i have some questions,
What are some good bars a guy can go too alone on a friday/saturday night and meet girls down
to hookup?
How can i go out alone and approach a girl without seeming like a weird creep?
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BassDrive
24 points·1 year ago
The only word of advice I can give in this scenario is to not make hooking up the objective when
you go out as you subconsciously can come off looking thirsty to any potential woman.
level 2
Bossdon247
-1 points·1 year ago
so if i go out alone what are some tips to get a hookup without looking thirst?
level 1
postwarmutant

Honestly, based on how you've described yourself here, I don't think going to a bar or club to try
and hook up is going to work out for you. You'd be better off online dating or, as someone else
already suggested, become a regular somewhere. In the latter situation, you might become
friendly with the bartender (who can vouch that you're not a creep to a girl) or with another
regular (who happens to be a girl that you hit it off with).
The number of people who go to bars and hook up with people for the night is greatly
exaggerated; most people don't make it a regular thing.
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Bossdon247
1 point·1 year ago
l, the good news is you live in NYC and there are girls at basically every bar in the city every single
night. There's no magic place for this. Just pick one where you feel comfortable and be yourself
and see what happens. Really, though, just get to swiping o
i try / tried the tinder thing during weekdays but it just adds to the depression, in a week i'll get
like 4-5 matches, 3 wont write back, the other 2 will write back for a few then nothing. in the end it
all leads to nothing and im back at square 1. Any tips?
level 1
LouisSeize
I have heard rumors of an establishment called Union Pool in Williamsburg.

level 2
SuperSavvvy
1 point·1 year ago
I can say that this isn't the sort of place and introvert walks into alone. This sort of a lions den in
there and will peak social anxiety. Cudos to you. If you enter and succeed here alone, but this
establishment is sorta wingman necessary. I've gone here with a former lover looking to spice up
our sex life with another lady, and no such luck. It's huge with tons of people from all walks of life
here.
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Bossdon247
-1 points·1 year ago

i read a thread on here with a lot of people saying Union Pool is the #1 hookup spot, your almost
guranteed to leave with a girl etc etc but in the same thread people were saying, if your a lonely
or "forever alone" type its actually the worse bar to go to alone and youll leave feeling more shitty
then when u came in so idk, mixed signals on union pool, what do u think?
level 1
parkerpyne
I suggest you rather hang out at your local watering hole and make yourself a regular there. This
won't instantly hook you up with anyone but down the road it might. Just hang out at the bar and
be ready to talk with everyone.
I advise against going to some bar that is allegedly good for hookups. It's going to be full of frat
bros and will ultimately leave you more frustrated than before.
level 1
sokpuppet1
If you're very introverted and have social anxiety the issue isn't with the bar you choose to go to.
No bar will solve that problem. It's not like theres a bar where desperate women go to meet guys
who are scared to talk to them.
A therapist might help, or a psychiatrist who can proscribe anxiety medication.
I'll echo others here--use dating apps to break the ice. For some it's easier to ease into
conversation if there's some textual interaction first. Also, hooking up should not be the goal.
Meeting should be the goal. Gotta walk before you can run.
level 2
Vucinic9
Damn bro he just asked for some good bars to go to, not for a random nigga on reddit to evalute
his life and tell him to go to a therapist lol
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Bossdon247

i try / tried the tinder thing during weekdays but it just adds to the depression, in a week i'll get
like 4-5 matches, 3 wont write back, the other 2 will write back for a few then nothing. in the end it
all leads to nothing and im back at square 1. Any tips?
level 1
redhotbellpepper
Whenever I've had a hook up, it's been completely random and unplanned. Don't plan it. Let
nature take it's course, use that beautiful charm you may or may not have, and throw yourself out
into the world.
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SlowerEastSide
2 points·1 year ago·edited 1 year ago
Step 1: Make yourself a regular at any bar that you like

Step 2: make friends with as many of the bartenders that work there as possible, that way you'll
always know someone who is there no matter when you go. A good bartender can help you break
the ice with other people at the bar easier too ("Hey Jenny, have you met my friend
Bossdon247?")
Step 3: Get good at drinking and holding your liquor
Step 4: ???
Step 5: Profit
Source: Am bartender
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HadyHeron
1 point·1 year ago
Nice explanation.
level 1
bluechipmonk
This advice is if you don't want to go to bars. Like /u/CHlVE said just go to Union sq, Washington
Sq, and all those parks and sit down next to some girl/girls. Then just start chatting, ask if they are
tourist or student and where they are from etc. If you see some cutie walking, just smile and
approach and say "hey can ask you something? I just wanted to say you're super cute and do you
have boyfriend? are you busy? let's go have a drink or can I have your number then?".. you can
drink a little to feel a bit more confident before approaching. I recently came from Japan and
Korea and I saw guys just boldly approaching girls on the streets. I usually never see that in NYC
though which is strange.
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CHlVE
1 point·1 year ago
Wait you saw guys approaching in Japan and Korea?? Time to re-learn everything I thought I knew
about those places haha. Yeah from my experience I have not seen 1 person doing approaches in
NYC at all, like ever. Really weird tbh but since I don't necessarily look for it maybe it goes
unnoticed. You know what now that I think about it, in contrast to America as a whole Japan and
South Korea's youth spend more time online on average than people in the US so maybe the
whole 'pick up/self development' audience is bigger there just because of the sheer volume of
users. Also not to mention that in Korea specifically the country is more urban on average too
compared to the US so there are less small suburbs/natural friend circles people meet in as
opposed to here. Idk, very interesting though because from what I've heard anyway about JA and
SK it's more socially conditioned there, it could be that tourist areas like Tokyo or Seoul are
different though which is true for the US as well
level 1
flowerb0mbs
1 point·1 year ago
Just be friendly. Easier said than done, sure, but you probably just need practice. Try going out for
happy hour on a weekday once in a while too. A good bartender will happily chat with a lone
customer (unless it's packed/loud). Make conversation with other people seated at the bar. Talk to
everyone you can, get comfortable, and then talk to girls. Go back to the same bar if you like the
vibe or bartender; try a different one if you don't.
A person probably isn't going to go home with you unless you can build a rapport with them.
How "creepy" you seem is generally negatively correlated with how attractive a person finds you.
Don't take it to heart -- even [insert beautiful celebrity here] is unattractive to someone. (And girls
aren't wild animals; you can talk to them without scaring them away.)
Also, don't just go to bars, try going to EVENTS. Whatever you're into or want to check out, the
city has so.many.events. including mixers for single people. Find them on Facebook, on apps,
online.
As far as dating apps go, Tinder is old news. Try happn, Hinge, CoffeeMeetsBagel, or Bumble.
Learn how to carry a conversation, be interested in the person you're talking to, and be
interesting. (Maybe check r/OnlineDating and r/dating_advice.)
edit: fixed link
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LouisSeize
1 point·1 year ago
As far as dating apps go, Tinder is old news. Try happn, Hinge, CoffeeMeetsBagel, or Bumble.
That depends. OP is looking to get laid. His ideal app is the straight equivalent of Grindr. Which
would you recommend him?
level 1
Vucinic9
1 point·1 year ago
I'm in the same boat as you, all my friends got new jobs and are busy all the time now, I dont have
social anxiety and am very extroverted especially when I'm out, but haven't really gone out for
weeks now, what part of the city u lookin for?
level 1
CHlVE
1 point·1 year ago
I would just go to places like Washington Sq, Central and Bryant park and talk to girls there
durring the daytime. There's a few yt channels that helped me out with this too such as RSDTyler.
Make the objective to just have a good time. Be more social and you'll be good in a few months.
Nobody is going to care if you go up to some cute girl and talk to them, and chances are if you
make her smile you'll be a positive influence on thier day that they probably are bored of
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A GENTLEMAN’S GUIDE TO BEING A GOOD
BAR REGULAR
Everybody ends up at a bar at some point or another: to grab a quick
drink, to celebrate a new job, to watch a sporting event, or to stumble
through a Tinder date. But there’s a marked difference between going to
bars sometimes and inhabiting the delicate balance of being a bar
regular, a fine line that separates the rookie from the pro, the drinker
from the friend, the boozer from the bar fly. Becoming a regular requires
a consistent, polite, easygoing temperament to win the hearts and
minds of bartenders, and reap untold rewards in the form of faster
service, free drinks and general respect.
The New York Times recently wrote a piece on how to get and keep a
bartender’s attention. In it, Alan Yuhas advises on the myriad ways to
endear a bartender to your particular plight of needing social lubricant,
with tips that range from not pulling dick behavior like expecting free
drinks, waving around a $20 to get faster attention, or ordering labor-
intensive cocktails (mojitos, anyone?) when the bar customers are
packed like sardines.
But we were most interested in Yuhas’ section on “good bar citizenship,”

which offers a couple of tips on what it takes to be a good bar regular.
Anyone with a local bar in stumbling distance knows that showing your
face a few times a week to the same people is a tricky business. After
all, they know who you are, what you drink, and what you tip.
Yuhas deduces from talking to seasoned bartenders that the crux of this
art form is actually pretty simple: It’s just being a friendly person. Pitch in
if the bar is littered with empty glasses, a bartender tells him. Make
conversation, but don’t treat the bartender like a therapist, another
suggests. Tip well — that means, bare minimum, $1 for a beer or wine;
$2 for a cocktail.
But, we politely assert, there’s a bit more to remaining welcome in a

space filled with soused-up assholes ready to assert their power, throw
down, or get frisky in a public space.
In order to get the primo service at your local watering hole, you must
adopt the bulletproof low-maintenance of someone who needs little,
understands the natural order of things, and respects the vibe. So we
asked a few bartenders to elaborate precisely on what makes a good
regular at a bar, and the dos and don’ts that are typical of all great
repeat customers.
RESPECT THE RUSH

Anyone with sense will realize they won’t get immediate service on a
Friday night with a line out the street. But good regulars never
overburden their bartenders. “Regulars I love know what to order — and
what not to order — when it’s busy,” bartender and MEL contributor
Haley Hamilton, who wrote the Gentleman’s Guide to Paying a Bar Tab,
told me. “If I made them this crazy amazing cocktail one time when they
came in at midnight on a Monday and it was dead, they know not to ask
for it next time they come in at 8 p.m. on a Friday when we’re slammed.”
ORDER LIKE A PRO
It’s not just how you order, but also what you order. “Ordering sweet,
garbage cocktails like Long Island Ice Teas and asking them to be ‘top
shelf’” is one rookie giveaway,” former bartender Matt Bell, who now
manages Nashville venue Mercy Lounge, tells me. “As if you can tell the
difference, or as if the spirit upgrade has any bearing on the inevitable
hangover from drinking liquor mixed with a cup of sugar.”
That said, how you order is also a clear tell on whether you’re worthy of
regular status. “Pro drinkers know what they want, wait patiently and
have their payment method ready,” Bell says.
“We’re loud, so there’s not a lot of the typical small talk that
neighborhood bars have,” he adds. But regulars know what not to do
when ordering. That includes what Bell describes as “obvious
amateurish behavior” like “waving cash, ordering drinks and turning
around to talk to someone, not knowing what you want when the bar is
busy, wet bills, and asking for drinks to be strong, and saying you’re
going to ‘hook them up’ with a tip at the end of the night.”
DON’T EMBARRASS YOURSELF

It goes without saying that cherished regulars aren’t drama queens, but
let’s say it anyway: If you’re the sort of person who gets in fights, easily
dissolves into sobbing or stirs up shit, no bartender is going to treat you
like a regular, just a drunk they’re ready to call security on when you
cross the line.
TIP WELL
Always. While that’s bare minimum for intermittent bar-going, regulars
tend to get slipped free drinks enough that overtipping by normal
standards becomes commonplace. That means when your bartender
doesn’t charge you for the first drink, you make up for it in a tip and
don’t make a big show of it. “Tip a minimum of 30 percent,” bartender
Brandy Flowers, who’s been manning the oak at 3 Crow Bar in
Nashville for nearly a decade, tells me.
KNOW WHEN TO SPLIT
Good bar regulars “don’t outstay their welcome,” Hamilton told me.
“When the lights come up and the music goes off, unless you work there
or you’re fucking someone who does, it doesn’t matter how much time
or money you spend there. GTFO.” Honoring such boundaries means
you’re more likely to be let in a few minutes early when the bar’s not
even set up, and less likely to be hassled at last call.
BE FRIENDLY
Good regulars are polite and considerate enough to maintain a friendly
but professional rapport. “They ask about you, too,” Hamilton said. I’d
take this one step further to include that you don’t overburden your
bartenders with your shitty life story. Sure, you’re going to talk honestly
about your life, just as they might, with repeated exposure and
something like actual friendship developing. I’m a regular enough at a
few local bars that I can show them a picture of my kid, but I also
remember when a bartender is finishing up a master’s, or just got back
from a vacation in France, and I remember to ask.
This still requires the emotional and social intelligence to understand

that they have a job to do, and have other customers to attend to, and
shouldn’t have to spend the entire shift listening to you gripe about a
romantic rejection or a lost promotion.
DON’T GET WASTED

“A good bar regular usually handles their booze,” Flowers tells me. If
you don’t, you’re not a regular—you’re a problem.
DON’T START SHIT
Flowers says the lack of drama is also a recurring theme in the good
regular. “They treat the bar with respect,” she says. “Almost as if it is
their home. They are the type of people you look forward to seeing, and
become like family. They know the rules and follow them. They don’t
start problems.” Because of this, you earn the bartender’s trust, so when
shit isn’t going right or the pour is bad, they believe you. “If they ever
complain,” Flowers adds, “you best be assured that it’s valid; a
bartender can trust them.”
DON’T MACK ON YOUR BARTENDER
While male bartenders get their fair share of come-ons, women
bartenders are far more likely to get male patrons who mistake their
friendliness for sexual interest. Hamilton says good regulars crucially
never confuse this boundary, and it makes all the difference.
“Not hitting on me when I’m clearly not interested transports you from ‘a
guy who sits at my bar all the time’ to a regular,” Hamilton says.
“Regulars either know me well enough to know I’m not interested, or
know enough about bars in general to not ask me out.”
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It's Like To Get Kicked Out Of A Bar
Getting kicked out of a bar isn't too much of a science: all it takes is the
perfect storm of alcohol, words, and fists to get yourself picked up by a
bouncer and thrown out onto the sidewalk for all the world to see. Some
people get thrown out for unjust reasons such as the bar staff assuming
they were underaged when they weren't. Some people are righteously
kicked out for trying to punch cops. No matter the reason, we can all
agree that getting kicked out of a bar is never fun, but sure can be
funny.
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Falling over in the bar can get misconstrued as being too wasted
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Somewhere
It's all about how you play it off

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Industry, California, US
If you spend enough, they will refrain from kicking you out
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Tucson, Arizona, US
OOPS.
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Florida
Jealous much?!
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Ciudad Juárez
Some people wear their glorious exit from the club as a badge of
pride
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Lapeer
Even fighting for what is right will get you booted

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Plainview
Underaged drinking is difficult when you are not actually

underaged
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Eustace, Texas, US
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Somewhere
No tipping = getting kicked out

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Somewhere
Tickling is also a no-go

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Stockport, England, GB
That moment when you're honest but nobody can handle it

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Somewhere
Your pupper may get you ousted too!

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Laredo
Some folks get militant when asked to leave

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Donner
Don't pick up people and throw them around the bar. It's rude.
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Leeds
Yikes!!!
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Newark
Getting kicked out can lead to unforeseen injuries

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Phoenix, Arizona, US
Don't ever swing at a cop

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Dunn
It's a tough situation when your concept of "drunk" doesn't line up

with the bar staff's
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Ohio State University
Definitely not the best move dude.

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Doylestown
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Bars Alone and 'Tried' To Get Picked Up,

When I was growing up, my recently-divorced mother had a group of recently-

"desperate," as my mom often described her? Because Lydia went to bars by

Decades later, now grown up into an introvert with a "colorful" personality, I do

hard time imagining what I'd get out of drinking alone.

drinking problem — but they're also highly-charged sexual marketplaces. And I

moves on me, or the idea that no one will.

frankly, embarrassing) feelings along with me.

if anyone talks to you.

My Preparation: Before I could do my first solo Jaegerbomb, I had to figure out

think of as "Resting Murderer Face." Here I am trying to appear friendly and

relaxed inside my own home:

to meet people — "It clearly sends a message of disinterest." Remember to smile

her joints in working order?

Also on Stanger's list of no-nos? So-called "extreme appearance," which includes

back to the smile thing. A Match.com article recommended practicing smiling in

tried. I really, really tried.

read as "friendly" enough.

factor. Apparently, rolling in a group of five is too large to seem approachable,

your troubles alone because your cat just died.

The Hipster Watering Hole: Black Rabbit

as it can be a little depressing."

on mood-stabilizing medication. So needless to say, I have been here a billion

times — though I've never picked up more than a hangover.

one helluva Caucasian, Jackie.'"

had been a three-time winner on Jeopardy. I had been afraid of feeling

more thrilling than the idea of a bar as a minefield of rejection.

The Sports Pub: Joshua Tree

environment is more annoying than entertaining."

comfort that I had at the other bar.

Joshua Tree is a sports-bar-cum-infamous-pickup-spot aimed at post-frat types

me and ask me a question that I couldn't answer. I was afraid, period.

guy in a blue shirt. I watched the game, understanding nothing.

steered clear of me.

I left, "is that video about Clueless or what?"

The Rock 'N' Roll-ish Dive: Niagara

nothing special about it."

move one seat over by a couple on a date.

he told me sheepishly, which is how I came to drink my beer in that most

terrifying of bar environs: near-silence.

them didn't seem to ease my nerves.

end it besides ghosting.

The Hookup Bar To End All Hookup Bars: Union Pool

find no-strings-attached sex and some-strings-attached cocaine. Though it

had to pay attention to the seemingly millions of couples on sloppy-drunk second

dates instead. Without an attentive bartender to indulge my feelings of infinite

happy I was to be done with going to bars alone.

that I'm not one of "the ugly ones."

person, but merely as a body whose anxieties could be exploited — or worse, as

of going out. This is supposed to be the life of a woman alone at a bar.

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hat got you kicked out out of a bar or

14 Things That Got People

We all make mistakes, and sometimes, those mistakes have consequences—

We asked Twitter, friends, and internet strangers to share stories of times

3. "Boy Scouts trip to Minnesota for a week of canoeing. Convoy of about

4. "I puked under a table. I was banned."

5. "I had to vomit and didn't make it to the toilet."

6. "I started juggling bottles and dropped one."

All stories have been edited for length and clarity.

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