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Dying
Dying
Death in family
Separation
Divorce
Physical Illness
Work failure disappointments
1. Denial
Initial response to protect the self from anxiety.
“No not me”, “Its not true”, “Its not impossible”
May continue to make impractical/unrealistic plans
May comment that a mistake has been made about the diagnosis of terminal illness
May appear normal and can continued ADL as if nothing is wrong
May not conform with the advised treatment regimen
Adaptive response – crying, verbal denial
Maladptive response – absence or reaction such as crying.
2. Anger
Individual feel that they are victims of incompetence or a vengeful God (they did something
wrong so they are being punished), fate (karma), circumstances (wrong place and wrong
time).
“Why me”, “What did I do to deserve this?”
They seek for reasons, answers and explanations
May express anger overtly – being irritable, impatient, critical verbally abusive.
May express anger covertly by neglecting self, not eating, nor going to check ups, committing
suicide, drinking alcohol.
Adaptive response – verbal expression
Maladaptive – persistent guilt or low self esteem, aggression, self destructive ideation or
behavior.
3. Bargaining
The person try to inhibit good behavior, make up for perceived wrong doings or other engage
in behaviors that would please GOD so he will be given more time-an extension of life or
granted recovery.
“Yes, me but”
“If I live until Christmas or until my child’s graduation ( So many if’s), I will do this…”
Adaptive response – bargains for treatment control, express wish to be alive for specific
events in the near future.
Maladaptive response – bargains for unrealistic activities or events in the distant future.
4. Depression
Occurs when the reality of loss or impending loss cannot be ignored anymore and the person
grieves for himself and those he will leave behind, for the things that he can no longer
accomplish or experience.
“Yes, I’m dying”
Withdrawn, has no energy and interest to interact.
Cries
Makes few demands
Adaptive response – crying, withdrawing from interaction
Maladaptive response – self destructive actions, despair.
5. Acceptance
Occurs when the person has come to peace with himself and others
“Yes, I am ready”
Stage of affective void – not happy nor sad
Only persons who are highly significant to him stimulates a reaction. Others are merely
tolerated.
Makes realistic preparation
Adaptive response – may wish to be alone, limit conversation, complete personal and family
business.
Nursing Interventions:
Assess; specific loss, meaning of loss, coping skills, support persons.
Accept the client; do not respond personally to the client.
Support adaptive responses; allow to express feelings
Support defense mechanism – reassure client that denial and wanting to be alone is normal.
Help find constructive outlets of anger. Do not take clients hostility personally. Do no
retaliate.
Monitor for self destructive behaviors
Help express feelings: Ask how they feel
Meet needs
Allow as much decision making as possible to maintain dignity by giving choices and
alternatives.