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Psychological Manipulation Techniques & Tactics because you might run risk of sabotaging the whole negotiation

with an insulting demand.


 Never show people that you are upset, for it makes you appear  Similar to the Foot in the Door technique. Ask them for a small
weak. Social Justice Warriors take notice! favour and if they agree, follow up with a larger request.
 If someone makes a joke at your expenses, pretend that you didn’t  If you want people to agree to your request, offer to do a little part
hear it, while looking straight into his eyes. A joke that has to be of it, they are much more likely to agree if they see your good will
explained or repeated loses its’ sting. and that you are prepared to put in some effort.
 Utilise the Law of Reciprocity (By Robert Cialdini): People will  The Placebo Information. Give people any reason using “because”
feel obligated do a favour for you in return for your in your request. Studies have shown that the compliance can
gift/kindness/favour. skyrocket, when giving any reason for your request. For example:
 Attractiveness affects how we are treated. Multiple studies have Can you join me at the event tonight because I need an escort.
found that clean shaven, well-dressed men are treated more  Propaganda masterminds know that repetition is an excellent way
favourably by judges. to convince people of their point of view. The sweet spot for
 Learn to use fallacies, cognitive biases and dissonance to your repeating something lies between 3-5 times, according to studies.
favour. After that diminishing returns set in.
 If you want to gain access into a person’s life, especially of one of  Overwhelm people by speaking quickly and overload their brain
the opposite sex, use subtle flattery. Overt flattery will most likely with information or your views. This psychological manipulation
be too obvious and have a reverse effect. techniques may both be used offensively as well as defensively.
 Whenever possible try to assume the role of the father (to women)  People love people who like them.
or brother (to men). People will easily submit their trust to you.  Use positive affirmations. Tell yourself that you like your vis-à-vis
 The basis of authority? Body language, clothing style, financial or that you are not only the greatest, but the double greatest. Our
resources, likeability/charm and intelligence. Combine them to lay subconscious minds affect the way we act and treat people.
the groundwork for all the other psychological manipulation  People hate people who hate them.
techniques.  In a conversation always be present, don’t let your mind wander
 The Deference Principle: People will trust you and follow your but instead show keen interest in the other person. This will make
instructions if you appear to be a person of authority. the other person like you a lot more.
 Walk like a King to be treated like one. If you act like and appear  Whenever you want someone to cooperate, agree with you or want
to be in a position of power, you will soon find yourself in one. them to calm down when angry, stand in a 45° angle to them or
 Use the Door in the Face technique. Make an enormous request next to them.
(like https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cristobal_Colon did when  Standing or sitting in a direct line of a person tricks the brain into
asking for funding of his expedition) without the intention of believing that the vis-à-vis is an enemy. Avoid this in interactions
having anyone accept the unrealistic offer. If you follow up with a where your aim is cooperation.
small request afterwards, you are much more likely to have your  People will be more likely to do you favors if you make more
request granted. Avoid making too big of a request/demand though physical, platonic contact with them. Note the word “platonic”.
Unless they are attracted to you, flirtatious behavior will make  It is possible to manipulate feelings and perceptions based on an
them more aloof. One of the highly successful psychological object someone is touching. Heavy object = thinks more seriously
manipulation techniques, frequently used subconsciously. about things. Rough object = pessimistic train of thought, bad
 Be aware of whether a person is a “thinker” or a “feeler” and target mood.
your message accordingly. Most people though value emotion over  Hard chairs make for a hard negotiation. People sitting on them are
rationality. less likely to cooperate.
 The three elements of every speech or debate? Logos (the  Women seem men wearing red as attractive and desirable. Men
Content/Argument), Ethos (credibility/authority) and Pathos wearing blue as more stable, as boyfriend material. White =
(means to influence his audience or opponent, emotional appeal). innocence.
 Caffeine increases the situation awareness and alertness. Usually a  A two-sided argument refuting the opposite argument is more
good thing, though it can be used for mental manipulation persuasive than a one-sided argument. Read the definition here.
purposes. A person on caffeine is more easily influenced than he  Light swearing at the beginning or end of a speech, debate, etc is
would otherwise be. A study found out that people is 35% more often beneficial as it increases the audience’s perception of the
inclined to agree with you, if they are “high” on coffee. speaker’s intensity.
 Reversal: People, who are tired, are easier to manipulate as well.  What everyone is aiming for: Affiliation, being liked, accuracy and
 As a woman it is mandatory to never wear too much or too little a positive self-concept and protection of his ego?
makeup, unless you wish to come across as untrustworthy and  Tell people that they look/are exactly the type of person who
unsympathetic. would do xyz.
 Ask for a favour at a time most convenient for your target, making  Convince them that you are Jesus Christ reborn. Pretend to be
him less likely to refuse. No brainer, but I still want to empathize loved by everyone to create massive social proof.
the need for proper timing.  Never use qualifying words (maybe, probably,…) when trying to
 If you want to manipulate people, alter their mental state. A scared, influence people. Instead, frame your words in a way that makes
stressed, shocked or anxious person has less inclination to refuse. them sound like you are only stating confirmed, definite facts.
Reason is that they think with their primitive limbic system, which  How to manipulate people into thinking that you pose no threat?
only knows black & white, but no shades of grey. Look harmless and pretend to be an innocent sheep while actually
 Of course, the modern Machiavelli must not only use mental being the big bad wolf in a sheep’s hide. Perception is reality.
manipulation techniques but must also know how to recognize  Charles Manson tips on recruiting: Always keep the mood positive,
emotional manipulation, to not end up being the one deceived. A tire them out, get attractive people to charm them. Interesting fact:
stoic mind helps and allows you to focus and think rational, his most favourite book, the foundation of his artful psychological
making it easy to spot the characteristics of a manipulative manipulation techniques is the following book: How to Win
personality. Friends & Influence People
 Chew gum before or during a stressful situation to trick your mind  Show interest in other people. If you do, people are more likely to
into thinking that there can’t be an immediate danger, because you like you. Ask them questions and focus on making the
are “eating”. conversation about them, their experiences, dreams and interests.
 People gravitate towards those with a strong, flawless reputation,  Give people the illusion of choice. Make them play with the cards
even if their gut tells them that someone else, though more you deal.
obscure, is a better leader. Keep this in mind while mentally  Women who tilt their heads back come across as less feminine,
manipulating groups. chin down = more attractive. Making the orgasm face (think of
 Want to keep people down whose nutrition you can dictate? Keep Marilyn Monroe) makes them more attractive, as well as signs of
their schedule busy and feed them a sugar-based diet. Useful for submission like high eyebrows or revealing the neck.
prison camp directors or people like Fritzl or Priklopil  Obey your father. This was already written in the bible (I believe)
 When dealing with a religious person, swear to god that you are and can be used to effectively deliver advice. Say “my father once
telling the truth, when lying. told me, that it is best to do xyz that way”.
 A person who frequently draws attention to his genitals(scratching,  Men who tilt their head back are considered more masculine. Men
adjusting down there. Holding his belt with his thumbs, ergo taking who show signs of submission are less attractive.
a manly stance) values his masculinity. Attacks on his masculinity  Calibration is an essential tool of the skilful manipulator. Gauge
will hurt him much more while he will love to hear compliments reactions and emotions and adjust accordingly. If you see that you
about it. are overwhelming someone, slow down.
 Mirror other people’s body language and actions. Don’t do it  Different wording can make all the difference in manipulation
instantly, because they will catch up on it, but do it with some time attempts. Spin doctors excel at this and re-word a massive tax
delay. Attention: People trained in NLP will most likely catch your increase in a way that makes voters agree with it.
mirroring attempts.  It is much easier to make an optimist passionate for something.
 Repeat a person’s name often during a conversation. Not only will Avoid the toxic & pessimistic people, because they often are
this help you remember it, it makes him like you more. Don’t harder to fall victim to psychological manipulation techniques.
overuse it and pay attention to how they react. There are some  One of the strongest tools to shame someone is to accuse them of
people who hate if their name is used in a conversation, hence being creepy. This is a word nobody wants to be associated with.
calibration is important.  Emphasize scarcity. People want what they can’t have, or at least
 Match your speech (speed, use of words, pitch) to your vis-à-vis to what might be running short.
build rapport  Reversal: Abundance. If you come from a place of abundance, are
 Match your breathing, blinking and walking speed to their. In NLP known for or appear to not be needing the deal/the girl/the job, you
referred to as “mirroring”. are in a favourable position.
 Belief and emotion trumps rationality and logic.  Dominance is sexy. Women are more likely to agree with
 Show, don’t tell. Manipulation is much easier if you base it upon something, if they are touched on the arm during the request.
tangible things and emotion instead of talk. Win through your  Squeeze people for the last penny. Be bold with your demands.
actions, never through argument. Show no mercy because you will not be shown any. If you give
 Avoid the bright spotlight. The darkness and shadows are your someone a finger, they will take your whole arm.
friend.
 Science confirms that strong emotions make people fall in love  People who have recently eaten are easier to convince of
faster. Watch horror movies, rob a bank, go on a roller-coaster something. Maslow’s Pyramid of needs at work.
ride; create adrenaline.  Never immediately end a conversation after getting the information
 Want someone to agree with you? Start asking them something you need. Ask a couple of inconsequential questions or chat a
you know they are going to agree upon, even if unrelated. For little. Later, when the target tries to remember the conversation,
example ask a liberal person “I hate Hitler, do you like him?”. they will most likely only recall the last 2 questions.
Follow up with the question or request you wish your vis-á-vis to  Human minds best remember the beginning and the end of, well,
agree upon. basically everything. A phone call, a job interview, a speech. Use
 Find out your common interests and strengths and exaggerate this to your advantage (come first/last to a job interview,
them, while downplaying or ignoring any differences that may emphasize important points at the beginning/end,…)
exist between you.  Security is often an illusion. Never drop your guard, especially not
 Women who smile are more attractive. Men who smile less at a business party, never reveal too much.
attractive but if they appear serious, men are more attractive.  Never believe a conversation to be confidential.
Attractive equals charisma and makes it easier for you to use  Whatever you do, pretend like it is getting videotaped, whatever
psychological manipulation techniques on your target. you say, pretend like it is getting recorded. This is of utmost
 When you asked the buying question, shut your trap. Never make importance if you are a person standing in public focus.
the mistake of talking yourself out of a deal.  A man convinced against his will is of the same opinion still.
 If you were forced to make an apology, delivered it artfully and it While you may force someone to comply, remember that they will
was accepted, the same rule applies. Immediately stop apologizing despise you for it.
lest you want to talk yourself out of the apology.  Avoid the direct confrontation when arguing with someone who
 Usually, when your apology has been accepted under protest and might be a potential ally.
grumbling, it is best to not apologize again, for you might draw  When asking for a favour, it is only beneficial if you ask for it in
upon you resentments waiting to come at you. Giving it a little front of the public/other people. If they agree, they look kind, and
space and time is the preferred course of action here. they fear that if they disagree they might look cold.
 Never ever make the mistake to give your target reasons to not do  If you want your target to agree with you, nod while asking the
what you want them to do. Sounds basic? It is not. Do not talk question. If you want him to disagree, shake your head.
down your own qualities.  When asking for a favour, it is beneficial to appear dominant. Look
 People like people who are like them. A narcissistic HR person is them straight into their eyes. Intimidation is an excellent
most likely to hire a narcissistic candidate. foundation for psychological manipulation techniques.
 It is human nature to trust their fellow man, hence are naturally  Dominate & intimidate by looking at your vis-à-vis’ forehead or
born naive, susceptible to psychological manipulation techniques. hairline. This is going to subconsciously evoke feelings of
The higher up you move on the food chain, the less naive and inferiority and insecurity in them.
careless people are.  Speaking of dominance, muscles do help, as well as a bald or
clean-shaven head have been shown to have a positive effect on
your ability to follow up with psychological manipulation  Ask questions to throw people off balance. For example, if
techniques. someone is playing well (Poker, Sports, …), ask him what he
 Being thin and therefore having a chiseled jaw makes you appear changed about his game because he usually never plays that good.
more dominant. A wide chin is a sign of high testosterone.  Using a frame breaker in the form of doing something unexpected
 Don’t overdo it but take a sentence, rephrase it and feed it back to or asking annoying questions can be used in many other Situations
them. This gives them the illusion that you are an avid listener and as well.
interested in them. Also known as “reflective listening”.  Arrogant sales people sell more to rich buyers in outlet stores. This
 Many people enjoy helping, hence, if you have a request, you can also applies to real estate. Adapt to your customer and you might
start by stating that you need their help. even find psychological manipulation techniques obsolete in some
 If you see a bum and know that he is going to turn to aggressive scenarios.
begging techniques, ask him for money first to utterly confuse him.  The illusion of irrevocability says that people will change the way
 If you feel like someone is telling only half the truth, utilize the they think about something to justify their behaviour. If you gas
tension of silence and stare at them. enough people of a particular race/ideology because it is your job,
 Develop a stare that would make Mussolini proud. Staring you are guaranteed to despise those people.
someone down can be very beneficial during a confrontation.  Never underestimate the importance of a first impression. This
 Keep eye contact but don’t overdo it. People who lie often hold combined with the halo effect can be either beneficial or
strong eye contact, despite popular opinion that they look away. catastrophic for you.
This falls under the “silent” psychological manipulation  Divide & Conquer. Alienate people to make them depend on you
techniques. or to weaken the enemy from within.
 Don’t give signs of confirmation all the time while listening. Ergo  People who think that you are a good-for-nothing-asshole are
don’t nod all the time or say “mhm/I agree”. This reveals your going to convince themselves that you indeed are, even if you start
approval seeking agenda. handing out soup to the homeless and rescue kittens in your free
 Flatter, but never flatter too much. Also, be careful when people time. People hate being wrong and hence will try to convince
are shy, because they will often resent compliments. Confident themselves that their opinion of you was true.
narcissists can’t get enough of them on the other hand.  Be bold, be confident, ask for more rather than less, exaggerate
 Not only observe your target, but also the reactions of their friends. your skills and achievements, dress and groom well. The basics of
Sometimes the friends reveal your targets real thoughts. every job interview or political speech.
 Taunt your target into delivering excellent results, but questioning  Use reinforcement to manipulate people. Positive and negative as
his abilities. Enraged people will go out of their way to prove you well as intermittent or partial reinforcement.
wrong. Use sparingly.  Use sugar bread & whip, rewards & punishment. Use selective
 Touching guests, having a cheerful mood, giving them free sweets generosity to lower defenses.
and drawing a smiley on the bill, increases the tips of waiters (and  Enthusiasm is contagious. Always be in a cheerful, positive mood
of prostitutes). and others will start to love you for it. The opposite is also true.
 A couple of confidence instilling tricks… the key to confidence is processing the data and the feelings. Emotions also trigger the
walking into a room, and assuming everyone there already likes memory centers in the brain.
and respects you. Make a habit of smiling at people… smile more  If I told you that 2 jumbo jets full of people died of smoking, and if
and see how good you will feel about yourself, in the process you I told someone else that x number of people die of smoking, who
will make others feel good, and you will render yourself open to do you think would remember?
making more friends/associates. When alone, try making the  What does it take to become a Machiavellian strategist? Strong
biggest smile possible, you’ll automatically feel happier and more manipulation skills as well as excellent analytical cold-reading
outgoing. Also, if you start acting like you’re a confident and skills. Hone them.
assertive person, people will believe you are indeed that – ‘fake it  If you are a bad liar and people can tell that you lie based on a
until you make it’. specific tell-tale sign, incorporate this specific action in your
 Read more about a favourable first impression as well as the art of everyday behavior. Example, I sometimes swallow when I bluff
forming a smile in my comprehensive summary of Law #12 – Use during Poker, hence I swallow all the time (reading this sounds so
Selective Honesty and Generosity to disarm your Victim. wrong…)
 Get comfortable hiding & holding a knife behind a smile. The  People love progress and are highly motivated by it. Even small
knife that is not expected cuts deep. victories keep them happy and motivated to continue doing what
 Act like you belong, like you are an authority, and many people they are doing. Example if your girlfriend tries to change you, give
will not question whether you belong somewhere or have bad her something and pretend that you have changed. You can always
intentions. revert back to your old ways later on. Change a small behaviour to
 Writing things by hand improves the retention of the information, justify a huge, terrible behaviour.
as students know, but also boost the likelihood of commitment to  People lie most often on the telephone than they do during writing.
whatever has been written down. Writing non-electronically decreases the amount and size of lies
 People are lazy and will always try to take a shortcut. Abuse this. even more.
 In the same turn, think twice and hard about accepting a seemingly  Body language and facial expression can change your mood. Stand
free lunch. Favours often are attempted psychological like a king and you shall feel like a king. Smile and you will feel
manipulation techniques in a sugarcoat disguise. happier in an instant.
 “’Cuz when niggers are scared, that’s when white folks are safe.”  We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but
“The only time black folks are safe, is when white folks is a habit. If you play the game of power, you will get better at it.
disarmed. And this letter had the desired effect of disarming white  People often ignore or overlook discrepancies in favour of things
folks.” Quotes from the Hateful Eight. Use fear to secure your that are congruent with what they believe to be true. Therefore a
power. prince may appear as he wishes to be seen.
 Avoid filler words whenever possible. Substitute the “ähms” for  Always be nice & polite, until it is time to stop being nice & polite.
silence and recollect your thoughts.  Depending on your opposite, it can be useful to appear meek,
 Anecdotes persuade people better than data does. Anecdotes humble and non-threatening
invoke empathy, which triggers emotional reactions that assist in
 Never hold a grudge against another person because it will cloud you how I can save you money on your insurance. When is the best
your judgment. time?”
 Never fight a battle if you gain nothing by winning.  Also assume that everyone loves you, that every word from your
 Thank people often and congratulate them on the choices they mouth is golden and that your poop smells like flowers.
made. This will reinforce their belief of having made a great  Even better is to combine this approach with limited options. Make
decision. people choose between 20:00 and 21:30.
 Never believe anyone who constantly tells you what a great  More on options: never give people too many options. If you do,
decision you have made. They are out to get you. they will feel overwhelmed and do nothing.
 Ask people for their opinions and possibly follow the advice they  Don’t fear rejection, be confident and never ever let anyone know
gave you. Thank them later on for the great advice. that they have power over you, because you fear their rejection.
 The beauty of mob mentality and social proof. Never forget that  Gifts randomly given can have a huge positive impact. A gift
human beings are only a small step above sheep. Social proof and constantly given in a row (3+ times) ceases to be a gift, but
social pressure can be your ally. becomes an obligation instead.
 Wear a cross necklace. Many people believe religious people to be  The beginning and the end are remembered. The middle usually
good, righteous people. not. You can apply this law of human nature in various situations.
 (Pretend to) be nice to animals. Many people believe animal lovers  If you appear to be reluctant to ask for a favour or seem to be
to be good, righteous people. distressed, people are more likely to help you out.
 Want an answer to a question? Instead of asking the question, post  If a person blinks fast they are usually bored with the conversation,
a wrong answer. People are much more likely to correct you than but it is also a sign of distress. A relaxed person, or someone
answer a question. interested in you/the conversation will blink less.
 Everyone wants to be liked, admired and be right.  With chewing gum it is the opposite. A person who enjoys
 Not what you say matters, but how you say it. As well as who says something will chew faster. Offering gum to a woman you are
it. trying to seduce can be a good move if you want to gauge her
 People will believe a person they like and defend their viewpoint, interest.
even if they are unsure of the truth content of said statement.  Be clear, concise and bold. Never say “do not hesitate to call me, if
 There is only one radio station people listen to. WII.FM. what’s in you like me” instead be bold and say “call me on Monday”
it for me?  Never RAP with strangers. Don’t talk about Religion, Abortion,
 I have a great memory but pretend that I don’t. If I was honest, I Politics and other controversial topics.
would rob myself of an excuse.  Be prepared for the unexpected. Make sure to have a Plan B.
 Plausible deniability is your friend. Use it yourself to avert  If you are in dire need of a flood of motivation, burn down your
repercussions. Use it on others to make them admit an error, ships and bridges and don’t have a backup plan.
submit information or not feel as bad.  Analyze yourself; assess your strengths and weaknesses. You need
 Assumption Principle: Assume that the other person agrees with to know how you look and behave when you are in various
your terms. Example “I am going to come to your place and show
situations, for example when not telling the truth. Realizing  Having much information on your enemy gives you the upper
something is the first step to recover. hand. Adjust your dealings accordingly and lure them with the bait
 Act dumb, uneducated, naïve or inexperienced. Others will become most suited for them.
arrogant and prone to mistakes if they underestimate you and  According to the Needs Principle, a person who knows what
believe that every psychological manipulation technique used another man needs can easily manipulate him.
against you was going succeed without any resistance.  Draw attention to something by mentioning it. I am certain that
 Be like a social chameleon and adapt to your environment. Think you know the “don’t think about an elephant” trick. Use this
as you like but behave like others. cognitive loophole to manipulate people into thinking about a
 Always keep frame, never lower your mask even for the fraction of certain thing. For example, tell someone about a house that burned
a second, because if you lose your mask, the mask is lost forever. down and then ask him if he has turned down the oven.
Keep in mind that you must guard your reputation with your life.  Make sure you only surround yourself with people beneficial to
 Never fight a battle if you don’t gain anything substantial when your goal. If you want to look like a sophisticated gentleman, don’t
winning. Play through all the possible scenarios in your head, or let it known that your friends are hooligans. Your company will
even better on paper, before making a decision. always fade upon you.
 Master the art of storytelling to charm victims with contagious  If your target starts raising their voice, tell them that you’ll
stories. understand them better if they talk calmly. This phrase is
 Mastery comes through practice. Practice speeches, practice provocative because everyone wants to be understood in a debate.
persuasion attempts, practice facial expressions in the mirror. Same goes for a sudden increase in speed.
 The general who wins the battle makes many calculations in his  Put the con in confidence. Never show weakness or seem hesitant.
temple before the battle is fought. The general who loses makes People despise weakness and will see right through your act if you
but few calculations beforehand. Fortuna loves preparation and the fake it.
modern Machiavelli must pay close attention to his plans  Learn from your own mistakes, learn from other’s mistakes, and
 Always have a clear goal in mind and make sure to never shoot amplify their mistakes to gain leverage.
past the aim.  Don’t make the mistake of forgetting about the peripheral vision.
 Analyze your target. Find out as much as possible about his Just because someone isn’t directly looking at you doesn’t mean
strengths and weaknesses. You never know what kind of that he doesn’t notice what’s going on. Women have a much better
information can benefit you, or be used against him. peripheral vision; this is the reason they are good at finding stuff in
 It is said that if you know your enemies and know yourself, you the fridge and their bags.
will not be imperiled in a hundred battles; if you do not know your  Make people jump through your hoops. It will make it easier to
enemies but do know yourself, you will win one and lose one; if ultimately get them to buy. If they have to make a little effort, they
you do not know your enemies nor yourself, you will be imperiled are going to value you or your service much more.
in every single battle.  people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did,
but people will never forget how you made them feel.
 The strong eat the weak. If you push someone, he won’t notice you
stealing his wallet. If you accuse your opponent of a huge case of
corruption, people forget that you are accused of being a Nazi.
 Learn how to flash an authentic looking fake smile. Smile with
your eyes, form the smile slowly. Don’t smile for no reason at all,
or you will be perceived like Forrest Gump.
 Use your body language as a tool in the psychological
manipulation process. Stay tuned for a post on body language
hacks and tricks to read non-verbal clues.
 When going to McDonalds, you don’t have to take their shit in
silence. If you buy a burger, demand to have it made fresh. If you
order Coke, drink a chunk of it and then complain that there is not
enough gas in the Coke and have them change the gas cartridge.
Why? Because a man requires constant confrontation to not lose
his bite. Life is a constant struggle and just like you need to lift
heavy object to retain or increase muscle mass, you need
confrontation to be able to regularly and successfully utilize
psychological manipulation techniques in those situations that
really count.
 You can never fool 100% of the people 100% of the time, just like
you can’t force compliance indefinitely.
 Question everything, never believe anything without haven given it
a quick, better yet thorough, think.
 If you can’t be 100% certain that someone is telling you the truth,
better assume that he is lying.
 Never sweat the small stuff. Trusting someone’s word is good, but
rereading the contract or checking the car for small damages is
better. Remember what Il Duce said: It is good to trust people, but
not doing so is much better.
 Not only is it important to know your terrain, but you must also
know your body. Be aware of it, know what is good for him and
treat him in a royal fashion. Know how you react to various drugs
and supplements and whenever needed, don’t be hesitant to aid
your concentration or relaxation. Know the supplements that give
you a mental edge over your opponents (read up on nootropics)

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