WHY WE’RE HERE:

https://youtu.be/qzfo4txaQJA

We are working together to gain

a healthy image of sex in order to
stay healthy and free or change
to a healthier lifestyle.
H E A L T H Y
MOST DESIRABLE
FUNCTIONING WITH
FREEDOM FROM ILLNESS
AND DISEASE.
1. RESPECT EACH OTHER'S OPINION
2. ALLOW EACH OTHER TO SPEAK W/O
INTERRUPTION
3. RAISE YOUR HAND TO SPEAK
4. KEEP WHAT IS SHARED WITHIN THE
GROUP
5. WHEN SHARING DO NOT MENTION
NAMES
6. ALL MUST AGREE BEFORE WE MOVE
FORWARD
What is your pot of gold?
 RAINBOW PATH TO SUCCESS:
TOOLS TO HELP BUILD MY
DREAM
1. Self control – managing impulses
2. Personal responsibility
3. Honesty/Integrity
4. Kindness/Respect for yourself and
others
5. Tenacity/Perseverance -- Failing
forward – learning from my mistakes
6. Communication – talking and
listening/understanding and being
understood
7. Doing your best and enjoying it
 MOVING ON!

I am an encourager,
I want to succeed, and
I want my brothers and sisters to
succeed.
THINK TRUTH TODAY PROJECT:
HOW DO I TELL MY FRIENDS…
AVOIDING SEXUAL RISKS AT OUR AGE IS THE ONLY
100% EFFECTIVE WAY TO PREVENT HIV, OTHER STDS, AND
PREGNANCY.

IT CAN ALSO HELP US AVOID CONTINUALLY GETTING HURT

BECAUSE OF BAD RELATIONSHIPS.

LET’S FIGHT FOR HEALTHY MINDS, HEALTHY BODIES,

AND HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS!

WE CAN DO THIS!!
GOT A
DREAM?

WRITE IT
DOWN.
 HEALTHY/SAFE
SEX
Having sex only with your
uninfected marriage partner
who
is having sex only with you.

SEX is
POWERFUL
STUFF!!
 SEXUAL
ACTIVITY

Touching one’s self

or another in an act
of sexual stimulation.

Vaginal sex
Anal sex
Oral sex
Mutual masturbation
SAFE SEX IS NOT:

IT IS
POWERFUL
STUFF!
BENEFITS/PURPOSE OF
SEX WITHIN MARRIAGE

♥ PROCREATION
♥ INTIMACY
♥ PLEASURE
POWERFUL
STUFF
Your friends play a major
role in the decisions you
make.
Think about it…
 ABSTINENCE

to avoid the use of alcoholic

beverages, cigarettes, unhealthy
foods; to avoid any type of
sexual activity. It requires
self-control.
Even in Economics…
Smart business people put aside something
they could use now, money, in order to have
more money to enjoy later.
CHASTITY:
MORE THAN
ABSTINENCE
FREEDOM FROM ALL
SEXUAL ACTIVITY
BEFORE MARRIAGE
AND
BEING FAITHFUL
AFTER MARRIAGE.
 WHEN WE DON’T KNOW THE
PURPOSE OF A THING, WE
MISUSE OR ABUSE IT!
Sexual Reverence Sexual Respect
Sex is sacred, Not to be taken
special, something to lightly or used for
be treasured and own pleasure
saved for marriage/
commitment
Sexual Restraint
Self-control – the
only certain way
to avoid
pregnancy before
marriage and
STD’s.
 MAKING BETTER
CHOICES

WATCH AND
LISTEN CAREFULLY
THE HUMAN BRAIN

• Three pounds
• 10 billion neurons
• 100 billion support cells
• 100 trillion connections
(more than all of the
internet connections in the
world)
Humans are hardwired to
connect. Weinberger, et al. The Adolescent Brain, 2005
 Dopamine
Dopamine is secreted into the
brain in response to:

–excitement
–pleasure
–new things
–adventure
–risk taking
–addictive drugs
 Oxytocin and
Bonding

Oxytocin promotes bonding

between mother and baby

Oxytocin is released into a

woman’s brain when she is
touched in a warm,
meaningful and intimate
way.
  The male brain has many
Vasopressin more receptors for
vasopressin. The female
brain has many more
receptors for oxytocin.1
 Sexual intercourse
releases large amounts of
vasopressin into the male
brain.1
 Vasopressin in the male
brain promotes bonding
with a sexual partner.1
 Sex – Powerful
Brain
Experience
Two powerful brain events occur with sex:
1.Attachment (“bonding”) to the
sexual partner
2.Desire for repetition of sex acts
(“addiction”)
 Bottom line on sexual
monogamy
“Human beings brains seem to be
structured to experience sex in an
exclusive lifelong mutually faithful
and monogamous relationship.”

What?!
Dr. Freda Bush, MISH
 Healthy Brain
Remolding
 The brain is “plastic” and can be
remolded.
 Young people can trump the
negative messages of peers, media
and society.

Dr. Freda Bush, MISH

 Teen Pregnancy
 1 in 3 become pregnant at least once before age
20.

 Most teen fathers (8 out of 10) don’t marry the

teen mother of their baby.

 Most unmarried mothers receive no financial

support from the fathers of their children

 Less than 2 out of 3 teen mothers graduate

from high school or earn a GED within two years
of giving birth.
 Teen Birth Outcomes:
Consequences for Teen Mothers
• More likely to live in poverty
• Less likely to complete high school
• Less likely to attend college
• More likely to be and remain single parents

Source: Kirby, D. (2007). Emerging Answers 2007: Research Findings on Programs to Reduce Teen Pregnancy and Sexually
Transmitted Disease. Washington, D.C.: National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy
 Teen Birth Outcomes:
Consequences for Teen Fathers
More likely to:
– Drop out of school
– Have poor involvement
with their children
– Have decreased
economic stability,
income, and
occupational
attainment
– Engage in substance
abuse and illegal
activity
– Conceive children with
multiple women
 SEXUALLY
TRANSMITTED
INFECTION/DISEASE
Infectious organisms (infections/
diseases) that are transmitted
through sexual activity.
#1 Risk Factor --
Multiple sex partners

#2 highest risk factor --

Early sexual initiation

Another pain -- emotional

 Emotional Consequences
of
Sexual Activity
 Pain and suffering from breaking up a lot
 Fear, confusion about romantic feelings
 Negative self-esteem
 Feeling betrayed and abandoned
 Guilt, depression and emotional
rollercoaster: more teens who are having
sex are depressed than those who are not
having sex.
 Harder to have healthy relationships that
last a long time
 Sexually Transmitted Diseases
are an American Epidemic!

 20 million new sexually transmitted

infections reported each year

 ½ of all STDs are in ages 15-24 y/o

Centers for Disease Control and Prevention Fact Sheet, 2015; Reported STDs in the United States.
Incidence, Prevalence, and Cost of Sexually Transmitted Infections in the United States Fact Sheet, 2013.
Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, Sexually Transmitted Disease Surveillance 2012.
 Sex in the Media -
Music
• Checking in with youth
after one year, youth who
listened to degrading
music lyrics were more
likely than those who did
not to:
• Start having sex (sexual
debut)
• Increase sexual activity
and different types of sex
• Have negative attitudes Source: Martino SC, et al. Pediatrics. 2006.
toward women
 Healthy Brain Remolding
 Decision to
change;

 Write it down,

 Tell someone
else who can
help hold you
accountable,

 Put it into
Dr. Freda Bush, MISH
practice.
 Delay of Intercourse Reduces Number of
Partners
25

20

Average number of
lifetime partners
15

10

0
-12 13-14 15-18 19-20 21-25 26+

Age at sexual debut

AVOID THE RISK
BE SAFE!
Avoid all sexual activity
for
healthy minds, healthy bodies,
healthy relationships!
The only 100% effective way to prevent getting
pregnant and getting diseases from sex.
We have the
ability to think and
make choices. This
makes us uniquely
human. We must use
this uniqueness
to help us reach our
goals and potential, to
have healthy
relationships, and
eventually healthy
marriages and
families.
THINK & BELIEVE
YOU ARE:
LOVED
VALUABLE
PRECIOUS
(RARE/ONE OF A KIND)
What does sex at your age have to do
with your goals/dreams?
 LOVE

The choice to give

of yourself
virtuously.

PHILIA
 RELEASE VS. RELATIONSHIP
(LUST) (LOVE)
An Based on Based on
emotion physical In love Devotion shared In love
attraction or with love “Grow experiences, with a
“Fall into” popularity into” beliefs, person
attitudes
Taking/ “I want
you” Temporary
Possessive “I love
Giving you” Lasting

Feelings
become Feelings
weaker over
Love of self become Love of
Infatuation (narcissism) stronger over Intimacy self and
time or if
separated time or during others
separations
 TRUE LOVE TEST:
How would you rate?
 Many young people say:
 More than four out of five say that
marriage is an important goal.

 Almost every young woman (96 percent)

agrees that if she does get married, she
wants her marriage to last a lifetime.

 And most (86 percent) expect that their

marriage will endure.
 MARRIAGE

The choice of a
man and a woman
to commit to one another
as husband and wife
for life.
 Believe it or not,
MARRIAGE is a
boundary!
 commitment  trust  faithfulness
 freedom from disease and continually
broken heart
 WORKING TOWARDS A
HEALTHY MARRIAGE
 JOINING TOGETHER AS
FIRST TIME SEXUAL PARTNERS
 FREE OF SEXUAL DISEASES
PROVIDING THE BEST POTENTIAL
ENVIRONMENT FOR
PRODUCING EMOTIONALLY AND
PHYSICALLY SECURE AND HEALTHY
CHILDREN.
Hurricane Sandy was the deadliest
and most destructive hurricane of
the 2012 Atlantic hurricane season,
as well as the third-costliest
hurricane in United States history.
 THE BOTTOM
LINE

Abstinence is the ONLY 100%

Effective Method for the Prevention
of STD’s and Pregnancy.

Be Safe! It’s Worth It

It & So Are You!
WATCH YOUR WORDS!
TAKING BACK
CONTROL
 MANHOOD

www.ted.com/talks/tony_porter_a_c
all_to_men
MANHOOD

The qualities of a
virtuous man.
 WHICH WOULD YOU PREFER?
https://youtu.be/HgVNsCLd8iY

MARRIAGE CO-HABITATION SINGLE PARENT

health risk of illness risk of illness
money lack of money poverty
child doing well in school child doing poorly child failing
child feels good child depressed child abused
child getting along with others child misbehaving child in jail
happiness anger depression
long life shorter life shorter life
protected/supported abused loneliness
one stable relationship broken relationship different partners
faithfulness cheating being alone
 HOW SELF-CONTROL
MANY FOCUS
PARTNERS
DO YOU
REALLY
SEX IS NOT A
HAVE? GAME!
CONSIDER

YOUR

ROOTS
WATCH YOUR WORDS!
SOMETHING

TO

THINK ABOUT
MORE AND MORE YOUNG PEOPLE ARE CHOOSING
TO AVOID SEXUAL RISKS UNTIL THEY ARE MARRIED:

They want to live free & healthy lives,

They want the best,
&
They know they are worth it!
TAKING BACK
CONTROL
MODESTY
THE QUALITY WHICH LEADS
PEOPLE TO AVOID SEXUAL
DISPLAYS.
Oxytocin
Contraception
 Intimacy
 “Dating” – what is it to you?

https://youtu.be/He1pu4VwKdM
 WHICH WOULD YOU PREFER?
https://youtu.be/HgVNsCLd8iY

MARRIAGE CO-HABITATION SINGLE PARENT

health risk of illness risk of illness
money lack of money poverty
child doing well in school child doing poorly child failing
child feels good child depressed child abused
child getting along with others child misbehaving child in jail
happiness anger depression
long life shorter life shorter life
protected/supported abused loneliness
one stable relationship broken relationship different partners
faithfulness cheating being alone
MANHOOD

The qualities of a
virtuous man.
TAKE THE CHALLENGE
TO
RAISE THE STANDARD

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CONSIDER

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WATCH YOUR WORDS!
SOMETHING

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THINK ABOUT
MORE AND MORE YOUNG PEOPLE ARE CHOOSING
TO AVOID SEXUAL RISKS UNTIL THEY ARE MARRIED:

They want to live free & healthy lives,

They want the best,
&
They know they are worth it!
 HEALTHY BRAIN
REMOLDING
 Decision to change;

 Write it down,

 Tell someone else who

can help hold you
accountable,

 Put it into practice.

THINK TRUTH TODAY PROJECT:
HOW DO I TELL MY FRIENDS…
AVOIDING SEXUAL RISKS AT OUR AGE IS THE ONLY
100% EFFECTIVE WAY TO PREVENT HIV, OTHER STDS, AND
PREGNANCY.

IT CAN ALSO HELP US AVOID CONTINUALLY GETTING HURT

BECAUSE OF BAD RELATIONSHIPS.

LET’S FIGHT FOR HEALTHY MINDS, HEALTHY BODIES,

AND HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS!

WE CAN DO THIS!!
MAKE THE
COMMITMENT

CHOOSE LIFE & HEALTH!!!

YOU’RE WORTH IT!!

(AND YOU ARE NOT ALONE)

THINK TRUTH TODAY
Healthy The truth is Today is the
choices​ YOUR life beginning of
matters! the rest of
Healthy your life.​
relationships
​Choose
Healthy healthy
marriages relationships