What does it look like? What does it feel like? What is it not?

Family-
Looks Like: Unconditional support, giving comfort, there in times of need, being
concerned
Sounds Like: “I’m here for you”, “Are you okay?”, “I promise to keep your heart safe”,
Feels Like: involvement, not being alone,
What It Is Not: Being intentionally hurtful,

Loyalty-
Looks Like: Defending someone’s name when they are not around, integrity, staying
true, being faithful
Sounds Like: “I got your back”, defending someone, “you’re not alone”, “I’m here”, “we
are in this together”
Feels Like: relieving, presence, having support, security
What It Is Not: switching sides, going behind somebody’s back

Trust-
Looks Like: comfort, vulnerability, reliability, caring, (Letting people push me across the
park)
Sounds Like: “I can count on you”, Deep talks,
Feels Like: vulnerability, security, a shoulder to lean on,
What It Is Not: insecurity, doubt,

Humility-
Looks Like: admitting your failures, modesty, taking the blame, selfless
Sounds Like: “My bad”, “I need help”, sportsmanship, silence, gratitude
Feels Like: Knowing your worth, taking responsibility, positive touch,
What It Is Not: vanity,

Identity-
Looks Like: Individuality, confidence, self-worth, uniqueness, your style/ your brand
Sounds Like: “I am who I am”, your name, “I got this”, your voice
Feels Like: growth, confidence, acceptance, empowerment
What It Is Not: Following the group, piggy-backing,

Patience-
Looks Like: tolerance, supportive, flexibility, understanding,
Sounds Like: “We got this”, “It’s okay”, “Keep calm”, “Try it again”, “Breathe”
Feels Like: Support,
 What It Is Not: Rushing others, frustration, condescending,

Equality-
Looks Like: outside help, support, being held to the same expectations, taking
responsibility for your actions/ not blaming others,
Sounds Like: “come in after school”, “let’s split this”,
Feels Like: Everyone matters, inclusion,
What is it Not: slowing everybody else down, isolation, (exception)

Love-
Looks Like: presence, (unconditional) support, sacrifice, encouragement, affection
(hug, forehead kisses), engaged (involved) with the person, comfort, (smile), communication,
laughing, listening, (spending) time, dedication, passionate, displaying emotion, vulnerability,
compromises, honesty, commitment, expectation of growth
Sounds Like: laughter, I’m here for you (I got you), encouragement, sincerity, I choose
you, (singing), (affectionate tone), (be safe, drive safe, text me when you get home), “What do
you need” (How can I help you? Let me help you), “You’re doing great” (You got this), “NO”,
hard conversations, we and us vs. you and me,
Feels Like: affection (hugs, forehead kissing, hand holding in support), nervous, security
(safe), warmth, comfort, acceptance, vulnerability, understanding, peace