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9 Rules To Live by If You Text
9 Rules To Live by If You Text
Text messaging is amazing: It helps us stay connected to other people in our lives
quickly, efficiently, and while on the go. But it can also make us seem cold, flaky,
or confusing when we're not careful with our texts.
Here are a few tips to help you find a middle ground that works for you. And to
clarify, when I say "text message," I'm referring to direct messages, Google
Hangouts, What’s App, and more — basically any form of written conversation
sent through a phone.
Put all the words you need in the same message. “Hi!” “How are you?” and
“What’s the plan for tonight?” can all go in the same message. Nobody wants to
hear their phone buzz three times consecutively; it’s anxiety-inducing.
Yes!
Yes!!
Yes.
Yes
The first is enthusiastic, the second is excited, the third is direct (or possibly
sassy), and the fourth leaves something to be desired. If it’s not possible to show
the meaning of your message with punctuation, it’s time to choose a different
word.
If you’re happy, try absolutely, sure thing, or let’s do this. And if you’re not so
happy, try whatever you say, if you insist, or only if you really want to. While
the second set don’t sound nearly as friendly, at least the recipient will know what
you’re trying to say.
The more “lols” you throw into the conversation, the less sincere it feels. This is
especially important if you are delivering bad news. Consider the following
messages:
While that final lol is meant to be playful, it may come off as “I didn’t care enough
to read the invitation correctly the first time.” Make sure to use lolonly if the
situation is actually funny, and even then, use it sparingly.
Once you’re in a conversation, there’s no way out. Not only can it be annoying to
have your phone go off constantly, but my co-workers and I once ran up a $400
bill for my boss. (Although, in fairness, he should have known better than to start
a huge group text message announcing his engagement while he was home in
India.)
If you send a text message and immediately know it’s unclear, send a follow-up
text. A quick “sorry, what I meant to say was…” or “no sarcasm” can save
clarifications later. Also, feel free to be honest if you're confused about how to
reply. A simple note like “I couldn’t tell what tone that was said with…” can save
you some potential embarrassment or emotional turmoil later.
In fact, take this as a sign that it's time to pick up the phone. (If you're confused
about whether or not you should text, call, or talk in person, read this.)
If you texted somebody, give your friend at least a full workday to respond before
you make a big deal out of it. If you really need a response, pick up the phone and
call. People aren't in front of their phones all day — and we've all been the person
who forgot our charger before heading out for the day. And remember, texting
isn't everyone's preferred method of communication, so if you haven't heard
back, think about whether your friend might prefer email or Facebook messaging.
Personally, I'm very prompt on email, but I may not remember to respond to a
text message for close to 24 hours.
If you're out with a group of friends or family, remember to enjoy the company
you’re with. The text messages will be there upon your return and you’ll be able to
be more present with the people you love.