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husband. A family refers to a social unit that consists of children and their parents. Particularly,
in my analysis, I will dig deeper in to arranged marriage and love marriage of Vietnamese and
British to grasp a better understanding of marriage culture as well as marriage value of people in
two nations.
In the UK, arranged marriage is not highly encouraged, especially forced marriage is illegal.
Arranged marriage is generally planned by parents, family and religious leaders. It may
sometimes involve emotional abuse, physical abuse or even sexual abuse. In some particular
families, parents may want to arrange marriage for children because some parents consider it as
an important part of region and culture. They are even worried about family’s tradition and
honor, they want to maintain family values and honor which have been passed down from
generation to generation and they themselves feel a sense of responsibility in keeping them. This
places pressure on both parents and their children. As well as that, even though same-sex
marriage is nationally accepted and gains tremendous support from the community, there are
even some severe overturnings to LGBTQ marriage as parents do not approve of their children
being gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender. Therefore, parents may want to make a thorough and
careful preparation for children’s marriage in advance. Unlike forced marriage, which is an
abuse of human rights and people are not entitled to the freedom to make their own decisions and
choices, arranged mariage is perceived as a cultural tradition and people actually have a choice,
even though these two forms of marriage share a lot of mutual similarities. In fact, arranged
marriage is common in many regions in the UK and can affect both boys and girls. It doesn’t
only happen to young people, adults may suffer too. It should be acknowledged that arranged
marriage may sometimes give rise to forced marriage. If people are made to marry someone who
they do not want to, they have the right to no and choose who they marry, when and whether
they want to get married or not. They can make their own decisions and be able to tell someone
about and seek help for what’s happening to them. People may worry that if they tell someone
then their parents and other people could get into trouble and everything can get worse and fall
into a chaos. They literally don’t have to deal with that on their own. Undoubtedly, there are
people who will not judge them, always stand by them and give them significant support for
what they are going through. They can totally contact a counsellor in private at any time and talk
about anything. In my opinion, to be quite frank, the British are typically open-minded and they
are utterly supportive and respecful for their children’s decisions in marriage. Parents generally
are not manipulated by others’ opinions, but rather they want to share their happiness and delight
For several decades, in Vietnam, marriage has been considered as a social contract and it was
arranged by parents previously. For the most part, parents’ choices were impacted by traditional
opinions affecting the welfare of the lineage rather than the preferences of each individual. These
days, even though arranged marriage is against the law, many parents still choose to make plans
for their children’s marriage, often with the help of their relatives and even fortunetellers and
strong influence of elders. Obviously, children are expected to adhere to their parents’ proposal
to repay them for the gift of life. Going against their desires is conceived to be dishonorable.
Conventionally, partners were selected on the basis of social status, wealth and religion. The
mother of the girls have always been personally sensitive to the possibility of being disrespected
and went out of her way to make sure everything checked out carefully before agreeing to the
marriage. Apparently, the final decision was made after consulting the fortunetellers who made
predictions for the spouses’ future and ensured the heroscopes of two people went well and
matched with each other. If everything run smoothly, an engagement party was hosted by the
husband’s family with the very presence of important participants in two families (especially
their relatives) and one of the members in husband’s family would be on behalf of the family to
make proposal and ask for the girl’s hand and girl’s family responded by listing out good virtues
of their daughter
In modern day, Western culture has influenced Vietnamese a great deal, parents now tend to be
of more an advisory role in the decision-making process of their childrens’ mate and Vietnam
not too unusual to see parents hold the expectation of a high-status mate with a lucartive
profession since they are interested in helping decide a mate for their children out of concern for
their future. Even though children from time to time consult their parents, parents are more open
and respectful to the children’s choice compared to the past. If both the children and parent reach
an agreement over a mate, they will soon arrange an appointment with their counterpart’s family
and make engagement for marrying. By contrast, if parents oppose to the children’s decision,
they will probably try to convince them otherwise, but will cease if their children are still
insistent. Even though parents hardly over give absolute choice, they still bear great influence on
the their children’s decision to get married. After marriage, in some cases, when some spouces
are unable to self-afford their own living, they have no other choice but be dependent on their
family. In contrast, the couple will be likely to establish their household instead of maintaining in
their family and receiving financial aids from their parents. To sum up, from my perspective
while Vietnamse are widely open to the decision of their children to choose their life-long
counterpart, some families are still holding an anticiquated belief to make absolute arrangement
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