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Paige Duckworth

Communication 1010

April Cordova

9 September 2019

Self Assessment

After having taken the six assessment tests, I am not very surprised. I think the majority

of my results are accurate, however I did originally think that some of my results would be

higher than they were. I am fairly good at articulating my needs and especially my concerns and

opinions. I always let people know what I need from them, mainly in relationships. As far as

expressing my concerns, I try and tell people how I feel about their situation, without passing too

much of my own opinion into the situation. Expressing my opinion is something I try and work

on not doing as much of, while I am never harsh or mean to people, I think sometimes people

just simply do not want to hear others opinions and I have a hard time with that.

As far as listening, I received a score of 38, meaning I listen well but not as great as I

could. This was kind of surprising to me as I genuinely care about what people are telling me and

I try my best to listen effectively. One thing I marked lower for myself was “focusing on delivery

rather than on what the speaker says” I marked myself a three, because when people use

improper wording or grammar while speaking, it always distracts me and I immediately resort to

the thought that they are uneducated.

One aspect of my nonverbal behavior that is effective is my empathy towards others. I am

a very emotional person and I can easily put myself in the shoes of others when considering their

situation. I think that this is very important when communicating with people, because you never

know what someone is going through. One nonverbal behavior that I could improve my ability to
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control my emotions when I am in situations that I do not find enjoyable. I tend to wear my

emotions on my face, but I hate to hurt people’s feelings, so if I was better able to control my

facial emotions I would make a better communicator.

Some communication strengths that I have is my ability to adapt to any social situation

while also remaining true to myself and my beliefs. Being able to adapt to a situation means

knowing how to be respectful of people, which I think is important. I would be upset if someone

in a certain social setting was acting inappropriately or rude towards others in that setting. As far

as a communication weakness is my tendency to get emotionally involved in every situation I am

presented. Sometimes I take things insanely personal and have a hard time disconnecting from

the situation and getting back to myself. I saw this behavior a lot with my parents divorce, I had

a hard time taking myself out of their problems and just being their kid. I tried to fix their

problems, when I should not have been as involved in the first place.

When having a conversation with me, I think that most people tend to recognize that I

love to tell stories and give examples of similar things that have happened to me, that relate to

what the person I was communicating with was talking about. However, I think I balance talking

about myself, responding to their story and listening pretty well. I always hate getting talked over

or dismissed so I make sure to pay special attention to how I am at being a listener. When talking

with me, I think people will notice my constant reassuring sounds, which I make sure to

vocalize. I would hope that communicating with me is a pleasant experience and that the person I

am talking with feels validated after our conversation.