EMPOWERING THE SELF MODULE 1
Carmen de Luna
History of CEU:
Façade of CEU – 2 pillars (post): Science & Virtue
JS Prom – Sampaguita Interlude
Auditorium Mendiola: 1000 seater
Malolos – 1978
Mendiola – 1907
Makati - 2005 (GP); 2007 (LV)
Librada Avelino
- January 18, 1873
- Pandacan Manila (elementary)
- Municipal School in Sta. Cruz: Government
Teacher’s Examination (school of Doña
Margarita Lopez in tondo)
- Youngest among the examinees obtained
the highest grade “sobresaliente”
- After board exam, she converted her
father’s house into a school – free
admission to students who can’t afford
- Concordia College – dress cutting and
embroidery; Assumption Convent –
highschool teacher diploma
- Major in pedagogy, literature, and
mathematics.
- At the age of 20 (1893) – high school
teacher’s teacher’s certificate w/ highest
honors
- Met Carmen de Luna at Assumption
Don Vicente Gonzales: refuge at Ada’s home
(Sta. Cruz, Manila: launch new school)
Miss Margarita Oliva: Ada’s cousin joined the new
school, Centro Escolar de Señoritas
Doña Ada – principal of Pandacan Girl’s School
(highest paid Filipino teacher during her time)
Centro Escolar de Señoritas
- Establised at 1907
- Librada Avelino, Carmen de Luna,
Fernando Salas – 250pesos for the new
school
- Total of 123 students
1922 – college of Pharmacy
1990s – college of Liberal Arts & college of
Education
1925 – college of Dentistry
1928 – college of Optometry
1929 – Librada Avelino opened the College of
Medicine but she died at 1934.
- Second president of Centro Escolar de
Señoritas (1934-1962)
- Graduates had outstanding performance on
various board examinations
- University gained international recognition
- School became a member of:
a. American Association of Colleges in
United States
b. International Association of
Universirties under UNESCO
c. Association of Southeast Asian
Institutions of Higher Learning
First building – rented for 150 pesos/month at
Calzada de Iris (former Paseo de Azacarraga and
now Claro M. Recto Avenue)
Facilities – 3-4 benches w/o backa; blackborad;
few books
1926 – bigger lot & building along Mendiola street
1039 – entire schol populace occupied the
Mendiola building
University Presdients
 Doña Librada Avelino
- Founder
- First president (1907-1934)
 Doña Carmen de Luna
- Co-founder
- Second president (1934-1962)
 Pilar H. Lim
- Third president (1962-1972)
- One of the founders of GSP
 Dionisio C. Tiongco
- Fourth presideny (1972-1992)
- Renowned scholar and educator
- Rapid modernization of facilities
 Dr. Lourdes T. Echauz
- Fifth president (1992-2002)
- Philantropist and educator in field of
Pharmacy
 Dr. Rosita L. Navarro
- ISO
- Autonomous
- Programs – level 4
 Dr. Ma. Cristina D. Padolina
- Seventh president (2006-present)
- CEU Centennial President
- Open University Chancellor of the University
of the Philippines
- Commissioner of the CHED
History & Features of CEU Mendiola, Makti, and
Malolos

CEU Manila
 3.8 hectares; 14 buildings
 25,000 students a year
 Mendiola street – “Heart of Manila’s”
“University Belt”
 Administration building – Librada Avenue
Hall
CEU Makati
 2005 – Gil Puyat Campus
 Hotel and Restaurant Management,
Tourism Management, Information
Technology, Computer Science, Business
Administration, Mass Communication major
in Broadcasting, Master of Business
Administration
 First class health science prpograms
include Doctor of Dental Medicine, Medical
Technology, Nursing, Pharmacy, Doctor of
Pharmacy, Psychology
 2007 – LV Campus,
 2009 – School of Law and Jurisprudence,
establishment on Professional and
Continuing Education

CEU Malolos
 7 hectare property along McArthur Highway
in Bulacan
 1st branch in the CEU System to be
established outside the boundaries of Metro
Manila
 Ada Hotel – replication of a 5-star hotel
 Centrodome – gymnasium

CEU Seal – documents

Ciencia y Virtud – smart & intellectual w/ values
education

CEU Logo – marketing; advertisements

- Pink – university’s quintessential core value
and caring for others
- Curving silhouttes – representatives of the
torch
1930 - Conservatory of Music was founded
- 1907-1938 – “Buencamino Era”
- Directorship of the Music department
- CEU Hymn was composed
EMPOWERING THE SELF
- To empower the self means to bring out
the
winner in you.
- Being the person that god wants you to
be.
Winner
• Someone who has a positive view of
oneself.
• Knows his strong points and is aware of
his feelings and limitations but is not
afraid of them
• Does not hesitate to think and decide
for himself.
• Does not play “helpless” nor blame
others
Loser
• A person with a negative view of
oneself.
• With low self-esteem.
• Do not have enough belief in oneself.
• To hide his weaknesses, he resorts to
blaming others.
• He argues that it is actually the people
around him that lack skills and not him
or her.
• He thinks poorly of himself, to cover up
he becomes very assertive and
aggressive.
• He tries to catch attention by assuming
an attitude of superiority, even worse he
may resort to outbursts, illness, or some
anti-social behaviour.
• He pretends to be somebody that he is
not.
Self-Empowerment
• The ability to recognize one’s inner
strength and beliefs that one is capable
of influencing the events.
• Gaining control over oneself.
• Making one’s own decisions.
• Engaging oneself intellectually and
emotionally in the course of his/her
choices.
1. Look into your thoughts and feelings.
 Self concept
a. It is an organized set of
characteristics that the individual
perceives as being peculiar to
himself
b. It is the way you consider “I” or
“me”
c. It is what an individual
understand about himself/herself.
2. Your experiences in life
 Unhappiest or happiest moments
 This represents the foundation on
which you stand your consciousness
is expressed through this foundation.
3. Getting along well with yourself
 Taking control of your approach to
life and others or finding direction in
your life.
 How? Ask yourself the following
questions:
o What do you like to
accomplish?
o What kind of person do you
want to become?
 FIND OUT YOUR INNER FLAMES OR
YOUR PASSION.
Reasons for empowering the self
1. For yourself
2. For others
3. For the Giver of Life
1. For yourself
 ”Love your neighbor as you love
yourself.”
 Take responsibility for one’s own life.
 You owe it to yourself to grow and
be happy. When we accept this we
become open to share yourself with
others genuinely.
2. For others
 You want to share the best of
yourself with the person who mean
the most to you.
 Only when you understand yourself
can you extend understanding to
others.
 Only when you discover your best
can you inspire others to discover
their best too.
3. For the giver of life
 To be empowered is something that
you owe to your Creator.
Barriers to empowering the Self
1. Lack of awareness
2. Egoism
3. Fear of Change
1. Lack of awareness
 It is not how far you have gone and
conquered but how deep you have
entered into yourself. There is so
much to discover in you.
2. Egoism
 Self-centeredness gets in the way
and an egoistic person is one who is
trapped in a world alone, he
believes that nothing remains to be
discovered.
 For us to truly appreciate the
splendor of the things around us, it is
important that we appreciate
ourselves first.
 But this appreciation comes only
when we are open to all that we
can still discover in ourselves.
 It is dangerous to close ourselves.
“For when one thinks he knows
himself fully, he stops reflecting, thus
he stops growing.”
3. Fear of change
 We avoid knowing ourselves well
because we do not want to break the
status quo or to rock the boat.
 We rather stick to our old self rather than
discover something new.
 We are afraid of changes because they
often entail great or big responsibilities.
Factors that affect the Self-concept
1. Relationships in the family
2. Peers
3. Intelligence and abilities
4. Socio-economic status
5. Names and Nicknames
6. Appearance
1. Relationships in the family
The significant persons in his life affect an
individual’s concept early.
Our parents have the greatest and most lasting
impact on their child’s self concept. They
begin to have understanding of the world and
himself through them. “His idea of what the
world is like is based on how his parents
presented it through their family life.”
The effect of the parents view of the child’s
view of himself
If a child lives with criticism
He learns to condemn.
If he lives with pity
He learns to be sorry for himself.
If he lives with ridicule,
He learns to be shy.
If he lives with shame,
He learns to be ashamed of himself.
If he lives in tolerance,
He learns to be patient.
If he lives with encouragement,
He learns to be confident.
If he lives with praise,
He learns to be appreciative.
If he lives in acceptance,
He learns to love.
If he lives in approval,
He learns to like himself.
If he lives with recognition,
He learns to have a goal.
If he lives with security,
He learns to have faith in himself and others.
-Dorothy Law Nolte
2. Peers
• The significant others in your life
would include your friends.
Because of your need to belong
or to be in the group, you value
your friends dearly. As such, they
become very influential with you.
They influence your self-concept
in 2 ways:
1. Your need for approval and
acceptance – they drive you
to possess their qualities and
characteristics, thus you strive
to be like them.
2. You value each other’s
“barkada” opinions, you
regard their opinions as very
important. You imbibe them
as your own opinion.
“In every human encounter, you invite a
person to live or to die”
• How every word of encouragement to a
friend like “You did great! I’m always
behind you”, “Go first and I know you
can do it!” you encourage him to feel
 good about himself, thus makes him live.
But everytime you give him a cruel
remark or response, mischievous laugh,
you discourage him, you invite to die.
• Think of your circle of friends and do you
invite one another to live or die????
3. Intelligence and abilities
• Those who excel, those who are
smart and those who have
talents usually have good images
of themselves.
• They believe they can make a
significant contribution to society.
4. Socio-economic status
• Studies show that teens in the
middle and high socio-economic
strata have higher self esteem
than those from the lower level.
• Those who experience financial
difficulties may feel resentment
over what they cannot afford,
they feel less privileged and
therefore less important.
5. Names and Nicknames
• Names affect how a person
perceives himself. If one’s name is
perceived unfavorably, he/she
may become embarrassed.
• Pet names or names used when
“teasing” can affect the way a
person conducts himself.
6. Appearance
• Good-looking people – may be
more at ease and confidant.
• Those who see themselves as
ordinary or ugly – may have
lower self esteem and just remain
in the background.
Ways to empowering yourself
Strategies for empowering the self and Building
self-esteem
• Take responsibility for your own growth.
• Have an optimistic view in life.
• Recognize your potentials and
accomplishments and accept your
weaknesses and limitations.
• Learn to prioritize things and set
attainable goals.
• Read literature.
• Enter into meaningful relationships.
• Deepen your concern for others.
• Grow in your prayer life.
• Lead a virtuous life.
1. Take responsibility of your own growth.
 The best person that can help you
improve is yourself. Be open to
change.
 Focus on your potentials and not on
your limitations.
 Devote yourself to something you do
best.
 See yourself as successful.
 Break away from other’s options.
Stop being what other people want
you to be.
 Build a network of supportive
relationships.
What is a life coach?
• A life coach is one who provides
guidance and direction about how one
can lead a meaningful life
BE YOUR OWN LIFE COACH
• Spend time thinking about your own life.
• Plan a good life for yourself with
strategies to bring out your best.
• There are countless self-help books that
contain wise words that can guide you.
• Parents, Teachers, and friends can
inspire you.
• You have to examine your life and
evaluate where it is headed.
• Ask yourself: What do you want to
devote your life to? What do you want
to do that will make you feel that you
have accomplished much?
What is a mission statement?
• A mission statement is a simple way of
saying what you would want your life to
be. It contains the things you hold most
important.
• Have a mission statement for your life.
When writing your life’s mission
statement, consider:
1. People you admire – It will lead you their
good qualities and accomplishments that
you also aim for.
2. What inspires you – What moves you and
inspires you to do your best
3. What you are good at
4. What you would like to learn about –
what you are interested in.
5. What things you love to do – your passion!
Your mission in life will likely involve
something you are passionate about.
6. What God dreams for you – REFLECT. The
situations that happen in your lives
manifests God’s plan for you. Dream God’s
dream for you.
Your life’s key areas
1. Your body (Physical)
-“Health is wealth.” A healthy body will help
you have the energy to work and reach
your goals. Look into your eating and
exercise habits. Consider how you look and
carry yourself.
2. Your heart (Emotional)
-Be aware of your feelings and accept it.
Harness one’s emotions to keep them
motivated to persist in their goals.
3. Your mind (Cognitive)
-includes your ability to think, to learn and
apply it to life.
4. Your soul (Spiritual)
-Look into your prayer life, your relationship
with God, and the service you can do for
others.
2. Have an optimistic view in life.
 Those who have a negative view in
life will subscribe Murphy’s Law –
“What can go wrong, will go wrong”
 They see the strong possibility of
failure over success.
 There is so much beauty to see in life.
It should be seen as a mystery to be
lived.
 “The Secret” by Ronda Byrne
o States that “YOUR THOUGHTS
BECOME REALITY”
o If you think positively, positive
things will manifest.
3. Recognize your potentials and
accomplishments and accept your
weaknesses and limitations.
 We need to accept praises to
discover our strengths.
 Knowing our strengths will make us
feel good and produce good results.
 At the same time, open your eyes
and be aware of your weaknesses,
faults and shortcomings – as a
platform for self-knowledge and
improvement.
4. Learn to prioritize things and set
attainable goals.
 Prioritize the essentials to keep
yourself focused.
 Do not set goals beyond your
abilities. This will only increase the
likelihood of failure which brings
discouragement and reinforces the
feeling of inadequacy.
 Start from the bottom and work your
way up. Try a more challenging task
each time.
5. Read literature
 Read books which are enlightening
and instructive.
 Can seek self-understanding through
reading.
 Reading can bring up certain
situations and lessons in life that we
can learn from and understand.
6. Enter into meaningful relationships
 Significant people in your life can
affect the way you see yourself.
 Meaningful relationships founded on
openness, respect, trust and honesty
are necessary to foster a healthy self-
image.
 It is the quality of friends, not quantity
that matters.
7. Deepen your concern for others
 Our self-worth is based on how much
we are loved but also, more deeply
on HOW WE HAVE LOVED OTHERS.
 Respect, care and show compassion
for others.
 Smile at people, Take every
opportunity to help others.
8. Grow in your prayer life.
 Devote at least a few minutes every
day to thank Him for all the positive
qualities that you have.
 Learning to thank God makes us feel
good about ourselves and the world
we live in.
  If you pray regularly,
discouragement will find it hard to
prey upon your heart.
What is vulgarity?
• Vulgarity means words and action,
attitudes and behaviors, offensive to
good taste. Avoid vulgarity in dress,
choice of films, reading materials,
fashions, etc.
9. Lead a virtuous life.
 Avoid vulgarity.
 Be indulgent.
 Be a lady/gentleman.
 Be tolerant.
 Choose your companions.
 Avoid egotism.
 Forgive and forget.
 Control yourself.
 Listen to excellent advice.
 Be a paragon of thoughtfulness and
kindness.
 Treat others kindly.
 Strengthen your will.
Who is Hitler?
• One of the CRUELEST tyrants
• Ordered the MASSACRE of SIX MILLION
JEWS
• “In my fortresses of the Teutonic Order, a
young generation will grow up before
which the world will tremble. I want the
young to be violent, domineering,
undismayed, and cruel. They must be
able to bear pain. There must be nothing
weak or gentle about them. That way
they can create something new.”
- Adolf Hitler
• At a young/very young age he was
already beaten repeatedly, and
regularly.
• It was also long and intense.
• He became a hurt person (physically,
emotionally) and so he wanted to hurt
others too.
HORROR PARENTS
GHOST
- Ghost parents are ABSENTEE PARENTS
- Examples are: OFW, Divorced Parents,
Single Parent, abandoned or orphaned
children w/o parents
- Child grew up without a parent
WHAT TO DO WITH THESE KIND OF PARENTS:
1. Forgive them for their mistakes
2. Accept them for who or what they are
3. Be Thankful because they brought you
into this world
4. Love Them whether you like them or not
5. Honor them and give them due respect
even though they where never there for you.
They’re still your parents.
6. Move on and do not harbor any hatred to
them or else you might end up being one to
your own children or worse.
ZOMBIE
• Zombies are apathetic parents.
• They are physically present but mentally
and emotionally absent for their child
• Parents who are too busy with other
things in life like work, business, self leisure,
etc.
• Passive and uninvolved
• Do not instruct, do not discipline their kids
• Let their kids run wild
WHAT TO DO WITH THESE KIND OF PARENTS:
1. Forgive them for their mistakes, they just
don’t know how to express their love and
care for you.
2. Accept them for who or what they are
3. Be Thankful because they brought you
into this world
4. Love them whether you like them or not
5. Honor them and give them due respect
even though they were never there for you.
They’re still your parents.
6. Move on and do not harbor any hatred to
them or else you might end up being one to
your own children or worse.
VAMPIRE
• Vampires are absolute parents
• Over-parents
• Over-controlling
• Over-possessive
• Over-protecting
• Parenting is not age appropriate
• It is their way of showing that they love
you
WEREWOLF
• Werewolves are abusive parents
• Verbally abusive
• Emotionally abusive
• Physically abusive
• Sexually abusive
• Spiritually abusive
• Verbal abuse is deadly because words
are prophetic.

HONOR YOUR FATHER AND YOUR MOTHER

THAT YOUR DAYS MAY BE LONG IN THE LAND
THAT THE LORD YOUR GOD IS GIVING YOU.
-EXODUS 20:12

“CHILDREN, OBEY YOUR PARENTS IN

EVERYTHING, FOR THIS PLEASES THE LORD”.
COLOSSIANS 3:20

HERE’S THE TRUTH: ALL PARENTS MAKE

MISTAKES. AND THEREFORE, ALL PARENTS
HAVE BECOME PART-TIME HORROR PARENTS.

THE REALITY IS THAT A LOT OF ADULTS

HAVE ENRESOLVED ISSUES WITH THEIR
PARENTS. MAYBE YOUR PARENTS FAILED YOU,
OR YOUR PARENTS ABUSED YOU, OR YOUR
PARENTS ABANDONED YOU. AND YOU’RE
NURSING A “HEART WOUND” THAT IS
AFFECTING YOUR LIFE TODAY.

• BURIED PAIN DOESN’T DIE. IT WILL SIMPLY

RESURRECT AND HAUNT YOUR OWN
FAMILY FOR MANY GENERATIONS.
• IT’S A CYCLE. MOST OF THE TIME,
HORROR PARENTS PRODUCE CHILDREN
WHO BECOME HORROR PARENTS. NOT
ALWAYS. THER ARE EXCEPTIONS. BUT
MOST OF THE TIME, THE SIN OF
UNCONTROLLED TEMPER,
ABANDONMENT, VIOLENCE, CRUELTY-
EVEN ADDICTIONS, GREED, ADULTERY-
ARE PASSED ON FROM PARENTS TO
CHILDREN TO GRANDCHILDREN TO
GREAT GRANDCHILDREN.

BIBLE SAYS THAT THE SINS OF “THE FATHERS

ARE VISITED UP TO THE THIRD AND FOURTH
GENERATIONS”
- EXODUS 20:5