Invisible Influence (2016) is all about the effect other people have on the clothes you

wear, the music you like and the decisions you make. These blinks explain how your actions, thoughts
and preferences are shaped by others, and how by understanding this process, you can have greater
control over these influences.

Who should read this.?

* Anybody who wants to exert more control over their choices

* People who regularly need to make objective, unbiased decisions

* Readers interested in how social influences affect them on a daily basis

Who wrote this book.?

Jonah Berger is a professor of marketing at the University of Pennsylvania’s Wharton School. He is the
recipient of several academic awards for his research and teaching, and is a contributor to the New York
Times, Wired and various other magazines. Berger is the author of the New York Times best seller
Contagious: Why Things Catch On.

What’s in it for me? Find out about the forces that shape your decisions.

It often seems as if some of those around us are influenced far too easily. People appear willing to
change their opinions because of just one tweet that comes up on their feeds, or will follow some
foolish fashion trend that clashes not only with their body types, but their country’s climate. But of
course, you would never let yourself be influenced in such obvious ways – or would you?

As these blinks will demonstrate, our thoughts and behaviors are influenced by external forces and
factors far more than we might like to admit. Luckily, you can learn how to spot this invisible influence,
and even use it to your advantage.

In these blinks, you’ll learn

• about the unexpected benefits of attending every class session in your college course;

• why some people get paid for not wearing something – without being nude models; and

• how a big hurricane might influence the name you give to your baby.
Every decision you make is affected by others, and identifying this influence can help you overcome it.

Have you ever thought of the reasons behind the clothes you wear or the car you drive?

Most people would chalk these things up to objective features like price, mileage or design, but this
doesn’t tell the whole story. In reality, we’re quite easily influenced by social pressure. While many of us
are reluctant to admit that others have power over us, they most certainly do; they affect our actions,
preferences and even our self-perceptions.

Consider the neighborhood you grew up in: it has a profound impact on you because of things like the
quality of nearby schools and the peers that surround you. If every kid in your neighborhood teased
bookworms, think about how that could cause you to develop negative feelings toward reading.

But what is it about humans that allows us to be so easily influenced by others?

One reason is that we’re vulnerable to all manner of subtle factors. Take one study by psychologist
Richard Moreland of the University of Pittsburgh: he instructed four women who were considered
equally attractive to attend a large college class and act like normal students. The four women were to
attend zero, five, 10 and 15 sessions of the class, respectively.

At the end of the semester, Moreland gave the students photographs of all four women and asked the
students to rate the women based on their looks. The majority of the class preferred the woman who’d
attended 15 sessions, but weren’t aware of ever having seen her!

Simply put, the study suggests that we prefer familiar people, and social influence is a powerful force in
this regard. However, if you are aware of it, it will have less of an effect on you.

A child may not help but be influenced by the bookworm-hating kids in your neighborhood – that is,
until she realizes how they’re influencing her. After that, the other kids won’t be able to discourage her
so easily.

When faced with such an issue, she might ask herself whether people who read a lot are, in fact, losers.
She might then consider all the prolific, illustrious scientists and writers who immersed themselves in
books, and be encouraged by them instead.

We’re inclined to imitate others and adopt their opinions.

Knowing what you now know about social influence, do you still think you’re a totally independent
person?
Well, if you do, you’d be wrong; we’re highly prone to adopting the behavior and opinions of those
around us.

One reason for doing so is simply that it saves time, because we don’t have to figure things out for
ourselves. But we also do it because of social pressure.

For example, in 1951, psychologist Solomon Asch did an experiment in which groups of people were
asked to match the length of a line shown to them on a card with one of three other lines drawn on
another card. Each participant was then called on individually to match them.

The correct answer should have been obvious – except six of the seven participants were actors, all
instructed to give the same, incorrect answer. The one real participant was called on last and, in one-
third of the cases, he or she conformed to the group opinion and gave a clearly incorrect answer.

But imitation doesn’t just affect logic. Another such type of conformity is called emotional mimicry,
wherein, when we see another person expressing an emotion – say, smiling joyfully – cells in our brain,
called mirror neurons, begin to fire, making us smile as well.

Imitation can even explain various forms of media hype. While publishers and producers would love to
know how popular a book, song or movie will be, it’s nearly impossible to tell because of the power of
social influence.

Just take a study in which teens were asked to listen to songs by unknown artists and download the
ones they liked. One group of participants undertook the process without outside influence, while the
second group could see the number of previous downloads within their group.

The second group gravitated toward songs that had been frequently downloaded by previous
participants, showing that participants affected one another’s choices. However, the songs that were
popular in the first, independent group, did also experience some popularity within the second,
indicating that quality also played a role.

So, what others think can influence us tremendously. But there are also instances when we don’t imitate
others – that is to say, we don’t always want to be like everyone else. Let’s take a look at this important
factor next.

Many people want to stand out in some way – but not everyone.

Imagine you’re in love with a new band that only a select few people know exists. Then, all of a sudden,
the group goes mainstream and everyone else is obsessed with them too. Would you be annoyed by
this?

If so, you might be a bit of a snob – but you’re definitely not alone.

Traditional economic theory argues that we make choices based on quality and price. In this system of
thought, if outside influences have any effect, it’s that we follow others’ lead. But there’s actually
another force at play: the snob effect, which refers to the basic principle that the more the general
population likes something, the less interested many of us become.

People like this don’t just want to appear different; they want to appear better, smarter, richer or more
sophisticated. This yearning to differentiate oneself may even explain why so many well-known athletes
have at least one older sibling. The first born often strives for academic achievement and the second, in
an attempt to differentiate himself, gets into sports.

While some people do yearn to distinguish themselves, not all of us do. The truth is, the extent to which
such distinction matters to you is a result of your background.

For instance, in the United States, people feel a strong need to differentiate themselves, whereas the
average East Asian cares more about societal harmony and connectedness. But there are also
differences within the United States, especially along class lines. So, while a middle-class person will be
more eager to set herself apart, say by owning different material objects, working-class people are more
likely to imitate one another’s choices.

In fact, people from lower-income backgrounds will often like something more if many others do too.
This might be because, in working-class communities, familiarity and cooperation are valued more than
uniqueness.

Brands and people work hard to show what they’re not, sometimes with negative results.

Can you imagine a brand paying you to not wear their clothes? Well, for celebrities like Mike Sorrentino,
a character on MTV’s reality show Jersey Shore, this is a reality.

In fact, brands and people alike go to great lengths to ensure that they’re not confused with something
or someone else – especially if that other entity is undesirable. Brand-name clothing is one way to
communicate something about the identity of the wearer, and brands work hard to distance
themselves, and their customers, from unfitting identities.

For instance, Abercrombie & Fitch paid Sorrentino to not wear their clothes because he didn’t conform
to the brand’s preppy image.

Or take the luxury brand Burberry, whose unique Burberry pattern used to mark its wearer as a
distinguished gentleman. Nowadays, however, this upscale image has been overtaken by a very
different one: certain groups of soccer hooligans have made the pattern integral to their uniform. As a
result, Burberry removed the pattern from the majority of their product line.

So, proving what you’re not can be just as important as proving what you are, and sometimes people
harm themselves trying to do the former. For instance, studies have found that many young African-
Americans, especially those with lighter skin tone, intentionally underperform at school to avoid being
misidentified as white, or as “acting white,” and end up damaging their career prospects in the process.

Taking this into account, if you want to distinguish yourself, it’s safer to stick with costly and disposable
goods. After all, you can’t stick out by using something that everyone needs and can afford, like bread or
toilet paper. Expensive products and activities, on the other hand, are great for distinguishing oneself, as
long as others see you using or performing them.

In the end, the fact that not everyone can afford these inessential things makes them inherently
exclusive. Such costs could be monetary, like purchasing a yacht; time costs, like the time required to
learn Esperanto; or an opportunity cost, like risking unemployability by sporting lots of piercings.

People crave familiarity, difference and a balance of the two.

Imagine an evil witch has cursed you and, from now on, every single breakfast you eat for the rest of
your life will consist solely of chocolate pudding. That doesn’t sound so terrible, does it? After all, who
doesn’t love familiarity – or chocolate for that matter?

Humans tend to prefer familiar people and things, and with good evolutionary reasons: being attracted
to familiar people increases our chances of forming close-knit groups. Likewise, familiar foods, even
chocolate pudding, are a better bet for survival than those interesting-looking mushrooms in the garden.

In fact, this pull toward the familiar goes so far that, in the wake of big hurricanes, parents often give
their children names that begin with the same letter as that of the storm, like a family in New Orleans
naming their daughter Kathy after Hurricane Katrina. These parents prefer such names simply because
they’ve been exposed to the sound of the letter so much.

But, while familiarity is a favored attribute that we seek out, humans also crave novelty. Just like all
other mammals, we are always searching for new experiences. For instance, the Coolidge effect
describes a mammal, a male hamster for instance, losing all interest in a female of the same species
after copulating with her several times.

Then, when a new female is introduced, the hamster in this case becomes frisky, excited by the
potential for a new experience. The same effect takes place in females, although it’s not as powerful.

But regardless of how much we desire a new person or thing, we’ll often remain on guard until we know
that it’s safe. In this sense, what we’re really seeking is the middle ground – and that goes for our
identity as well: we want to be familiar and different.

For example, we all want to be unique in our social circles. But to be a part of such a group in the first
place, you also need to be familiar. So, you might diverge from your peers by driving a white car instead
of a silver one, but won’t go so far as to insist on driving a tractor.

Other people can be a source of great motivation or a major distraction, depending on the task at hand.

Why do so many people join groups when working toward goals like losing weight or qualifying for
competitions?
Well, it’s often because others can help us perform better. But they can also distract, and whether or
not social influences will help or hinder us depends on how complex a task is.

When a task is relatively simple, we perform better under the gaze of spectators, competitors or
companions, since such people keep us motivated. For instance, you’re more likely to stick with a diet if
other people are holding you accountable; similarly, you’ll run faster when in competition with others.

However, if the task is quite difficult and involves learning, the presence of others can hamper your
performance for a variety of reasons. First off, other people can be distracting, either because they
make us focus on looking good instead of completing the task at hand, or because they involve you in
activities unrelated to your goal.

But the presence of others will also make you more physically alert. Your body will be ready to fight, flee
or play, none of which are much help when solving a complex mathematical equation.

At the same time, you can use social influence to motivate others to act differently, but this tool has its
limits. For example, you can make people consume less energy in their households by appealing to their
competitive spirit. In one study, when it came to energy consumption, the thing people cared most
about was how much energy they saved relative to their neighbors. This turned out to be a much bigger
motivating factor than, say, protecting the environment.

However, this strategy only works if there’s hope that you can beat out the competition. So, if a student
is so far behind in his schoolwork that he has no chance of catching up, comparing him to his classmates
will only be of further detriment to his morale.

Final summary

The key message in this book:

We’re influenced by others in everything we do, even if we’re not aware of it. From imitating someone
word for word, to doing the exact opposite of someone else just to be different, other people are always
guiding our actions. The good news is, the more we understand this influence, the better we can handle
it.

Actionable Advice

Mimic your negotiation partner.

The next time you’re in a negotiation and things aren’t looking good, try using mimicry to win the other
person’s trust. By simply leaning back when your interlocutor does, scratching your head when he
scratches his and otherwise subtly copying his behavior, you’ll make the other party feel more
connected and trusting. Negotiators who mirror their counterpart’s behavior are five times more likely
to reach an acceptable agreement.

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