Professional Documents
Culture Documents
Mercedes Macarena-Galloway
Professor Campbell
UWRT 1103
31 October 2019
Imagine you are five years old again. It is Christmas morning and after opening all of
your presents, you get in trouble for leaving the wrapping paper all over the ground. Your dad
screams at you saying, “ALL YOU EVER DO IS MAKE MESSES, CLEAN THAT UP RIGHT
NOW!” You do as your father says in fear of him severely punishing you.
Now imagine the same scenario, instead, your mom is the one who tells you to clean up.
She calmly says, “Sweetie, we’ve talked about this. You have to clean up after yourself.” She
then takes your hand and helps you clean up the mess.
Each of these scenarios can drastically impact the way a child will develop. Each of the
scenarios above exhibit parents with different parenting styles. The first scenario is an example
parenting style. The second example is the most ideal parenting style, authoritative, while your
mother tells you what to do, she does not do it in an aggressive manner, she also offers to help
There are four types of parenting styles, according to Parenting for Brain, an easy to
understand website for parents that is supported by scientific research. The four styles are
authoritarian, authoritative, permissive and uninvolved. Authoritarian parents have high demands
of their children and low responsiveness. Although they have high standards, they do not provide
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much feedback in the way of achieving those high standards. Authoritative parents are
responsive to their child’s emotional needs and have high standards. They are warmer and more
responsive when compared to authoritarian parents. On the other hand, permissive parents have a
more relaxed parenting style. They require little from their children; they’re more responsive
than they are confrontational. Lastly, the uninvolved parenting style is often related to neglectful
parenting. These parents have few demands of their child and are not very responsive.
Parenting styles are important because the development of children, our future, can either
be positively or negatively impacted by the way they are raised by their parents. Parents may
think they are doing a good job by following the example set by their parents but some parents
have not done any research on how to be a better parent. According to Zero To Three, a website
which works to ensure that babies and toddlers benefit from the early connections that are critical
to their well-being and development, 69% of parents say that if they knew more positive
parenting strategies they would use them. Also, 54% of parents wish they had more information
parents are authoritative, 23% are permissive, 19% are uninvolved and 8% are authoritarian.
Although half of parents are found to be the most ideal parenting style, which is authoritative,
this is still not a good statistic. That means that 50% of children are being raised in an
The debate over parenting styles and their effects on children began in the 1960’s.
Clinical and developmental psychologist Diane Baumrind, first piqued an interest in parenting
styles while observing different behaviors among preschoolers. She believed each child’s
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behavior was directly correlated to their relationship with their parents. After much observation
and interviews, Baumrind identified three types of parenting styles (authoritarian, authoritative
and permissive). It wasn’t until 1983 when Elanor Maccoby, chair of the department of
psychology at Stanford University and John Martin, graduate of both Harvard and Stanford
Universities, introduced a fourth parenting style known as uninvolved (Parenting for Brain).
with over 5000 researchers, states: “Yet, our understanding of the processes through which
parenting styles influence adolescent development remains limited”. Although parenting styles
have been observed and established, they were only used to observe how the family functions,
only recently have they been used to observe the impact on children.
responsiveness. This means parents have very high expectations of their children but yet do not
offer a way in achieving those high expectations. If a child is to make a mistake, they will most
likely be severely punished by an authoritarian parent. In addition, these parents can seem very
harsh. They value discipline over fun and live by the rule that children should be seen and not
heard.
This parenting style has many downsides such as causing low self-esteem issues. Kids
have low self-esteem because throughout the entirety of their childhood, they feel forced to
please their parents. The way children feel about themselves is based off of how the parents feel
about that child. It is typical of an authoritarian parent to overreact when a simple mistake has
been made, to a child who does not know any better, they assume they have made a huge mistake
and will feel bad about themselves. Because authoritarian parents choose to focus on the
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negatives more than the positives, children often gain the mentality that they are never able to do
anything right. A study from the European Journal of Personality was conducted in 2008 in
which high school students were given a survey in order to determine the parenting style of their
parents. It was found that: “Perceptions of parental authoritarianism were related to low self-
esteem with females manifesting lower self-esteem than boys” (Heaven). Although this study did
not involve direct contact with the parents of the high schoolers, it gives an insight to the
negative effects authoritarian, or perceived authoritarian, parents have on their children’s self-
esteem.
On the other hand, children of authoritarian parents tend to rebel. These kids have to
follow the strict rules of their parents. Once the child reaches an age to which they realize their
parents are overly strict, they may begin to act out to see the extent of bad behavior they can get
away with. “Unfortunately, strong punishment leads to more misbehavior, rebellion and results
in constant power struggles” (Authoritarian Parenting). This often leads into adulthood where
children will often make decisions in spite of their parents, even if it is not what the child wants.
homeschooling, argues that children of authoritarian parents are goal oriented. She says, because
children grow up with very explicit expectations, they are more likely to set goals for
themselves. Although this may be true, some of the goals children want to achieve may not be in
their best interest, like mentioned above, children often rebel against their parents. “Uber-strict
parents who rule with a controlling, iron fist -- while not giving their children a chance to speak their
mind -- are more likely to raise children who are disrespectful and engage in delinquent behaviors.”
(Mann). These goals may not be what the child wants but instead it will be with the parents do
not want.
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Permissive parents are very loving but do not set many rules for their children. These
parents do not expect mature behavior and often seem more like a friend than a parental figure.
In addition, these parents do not offer much guidance in life, they allow children to make their
own decisions and may not correct the child if they are doing something wrong in fear of causing
One downfall of the permissive parenting style may include struggling to establish who
has the authority in the relationship. As the child gets older, they realize the power they have
over their parent and may begin to abuse it. If a parent tries to tell the child what to do then the
child may argue back and the parent being the type of parent they are, may not know how to get
their child under control. Since these parents do not place much rules on their children, they
seem more like a friendly figure than a parental figure. These parents often times do not want to
see their child upset so they will do everything in their power to keep them happy. According to
WebMD, “Some overly permissive parents are more concerned with their teenagers liking them than
being effective authority figures.” Although this may be a positive thing, these kids do not benefit
from having a figure in their lives to tell them what to do or guide them in the right direction.
The parents let their kids do whatever they please which may lead to that child making poor
Another negative of the permissive parenting style is that the child may lack motivation.
The child grows up with very few limitations on what they are allowed to do. These parents do
not establish any boundaries which gives the child nothing to push. As I am sure you have heard
“Boundaries are meant to be broken” countless amounts of times. One area this may affect is
Education and Professionalism, children of permissive parents have the lowest level of academic
Critics argue that there is minimal conflict in a child-parent relationship where the parent
is permissive. These parents tend to avoid conflict as all costs. While this may be a positive, it has
more negative effects such as the children being disrespectful and exhibiting defiant behavior.
“They’re not used to hearing ‘no,’ so they can sometimes lash out when they head this from
authorities or elders outside their home” (Guerrere). Often times the child does not know what
Uninvolved parents place little rules on their children, if any. This parenting style is also
referred to as neglectful parenting. These parents do not offer much help in raising their children
and leave much of everything up to the child. They act indifferent, dismissive or completely
One negative of uninvolved parenting is that children often develop a sense of loneliness.
This occurs because the parents do not pay much attention to their child. Even if a child asks for
help the parent may just brush them to the side. This leaves a young child feeling like they have
no one there for them. During the early stages of a child’s development, it was found that
children require a lot of attention in order to develop to their full potential. “A close relationship
between the child and the caregiver is the best way to nourish the child’s growing brain” (Child
Development). Uninvolved parents lack that close relationship needed in order to help the child’s
development.
awkward. During the first few years of a child’s life, they are around their parents almost 100%
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of the time. “If our parents aren’t taking the time to engage in conversations or invest in us
emotionally, we will become distant and introvert beings” (Tony). Children learn most of their
social skills at a very young age, if they are not communicated with on a regular basis, it could
Critics argue that children of uninvolved parents may be able to figure out how to do
things quicker than children of other parenting styles since they have to figure most everything
out for themselves. Consequently, the way children may do things may not necessarily be the
correct or easiest way of doing it since they were not taught by an adult. In the long run, this can
overwhelm a child because they receive little to no help and have to learn the hard way in order
Authoritative parents are characterized by high responsiveness and also high demands.
These parents will not overreact if a child makes a mistake but instead will give the child advice,
so they do not make the same mistake again. This is the best parenting style because it has a
balance of responsiveness and demands. In addition, all of the issues other parenting styles may
Now you may be wondering why this is seen as the best parenting style. Let’s take a look
at issues the other parenting styles may cause. Authoritarian: low self-esteem and children tend
to rebel, permissive: struggle of authority and lack of motivation in the child and, uninvolved:
Why is authoritative is better than authoritarian? The authoritative parenting style does
not cause low self-esteem, nor produce rebellious children. Authoritative parents pay a good
amount of attention to their children. They are very responsive and will not tear a child down if
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they make a simple mistake. “Adolescents from authoritative families scored higher than
adolescents from authoritarian and neglectful families in three self-esteem dimensions, academic,
social and family” (Martínez). In addition, authoritative parents establish a moderate number of
rules, which makes a child less likely to rebel. These parents understand the child’s needs/wants
and try their best to meet them. Authoritative parents are less strict and more emotional when
Why is authoritative is better than permissive? The authoritative style does not have a
struggle of establishing authority or cause a lack of motivation in the child. Authoritative parents
are seen more like parents than they are friends to their children. These parents set rules unlike a
permissive parent. Also, children of authoritative parents are not likely to have a lack of
motivation. Authoritative parents push their children to be successful, for example, they may
offer incentives for getting good grades on their report card. “Carol Dweck, a social and
developmental psychologist at Stanford university, has done research that indicated why
authoritative parents raise more motivated, and thus more successful, children” (Levine). Dweck
concluded children of authoritative parents are more motivated because they have higher self-
esteems. This directly correlates with children having higher levels of motivation.
not likely to cause a sense of loneliness or cause their children to be socially awkward.
Authoritative parents are very involved in the lives of their children, they make sure to have
conversations with their children about how their day ways and problems they may be going
through. Also, if a child is going through a crisis, the parent will be there to offer help. These
interactions also help children of authoritative children to develop social skills, making them less
In conclusion, here are many ways to raise a child, almost every interaction parents have
with their children has some type of impact on the person they become. Some parents may rely
on advice given by others or how their parents raised them in order to raise their child. Parents
need to do their own research in order to find the most effective way to raise their child, which
would be to adapt an authoritative parenting style. Authoritative parents raise the most successful
children while also preparing the child to be a good parent to their future children.
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