the Internet is not always trustworthy, it contains a lot of falsehood, deception and lies, and a

little honesty. One of the consequences of relying on the network is the problems of marriage
resulting from an acquaintance through modern media, without real knowledge on the ground,
leading to unpleasant surprises for both parties, as a result of deceiving one party or
overconfidence of another.

The following lines highlight experiences based on e-marriage, some of which have succeeded
and others have failed.

Zakaria Arshad, a young man married to a girl who grows older after a 3-year online dating
relationship, according to his vision, online dating is a good way to choose mentally rather than
emotionally to provide a minimum chance of success and marital life. "People judge these
experiments with a pre-emptive view of hearsay here and there, and they don't give any logical
reasons to oppose them," he said. "Although these experiments may be more successful than they
are on the ground, there is indeed a strong element of surprise, but it is not so much." That may
lead to relationship failure. Regarding the trauma he experienced after seeing his wife on the
ground, he said: `` It was not a shock in the full sense of the word, but a small surprise. In
electronic chats, I did not feel that she was really older, but after I traveled to her country and
saw her for the first time, I felt this, but this feeling remained hidden in My heart without sharing
with anyone, what was essential was clear to me, because I decided to marry her for good
manners and religion.

His wife, Ibtisam Shaker, adds that even I did not believe in this type of experience or marriage,
because there are not enough guarantees for the credibility of the information that each party
gives about himself, especially since we are good at talking about our positives. The negatives
are not easy for everyone to explain. Or talk about it frankly, so digital dating may create a
virtual imaginary image of each party to the other, but we managed to put the facts in perspective
and to make this subject in the right way to be crowned marriage.

She points out that the biggest mistake may be made by those who married after an online dating
relationship, is to enter into comparisons before marriage and after, because human change is
normal and this is not a forgery as some consider. Regarding the surprise I was shocked to say: I
was not surprised by anything after getting to know us face to face, but happened to discover
something else after months of marriage, during our online conversations he showed me some
kind of kindness in his heart, and at the same time he is very nervous, but I was surprised by how
fast he was nervous and his serious handling of life, and that makes me live in constant fear of
making a mistake that might irritate him.
According to Faten Mahmoud, a pharmacist, the problem is the result of the pink dating period,
whether electronic or realistic, because in this period both parties try to show each other their
best, and when put to the test everything is exposed and shock.

This view was formed by Faten as a result of a failed experience experienced by her intimate
friend, who met on Facebook to a young man living in Cairo while living in Kuwait and never
met, and after a short period of acquaintance and exchange of images the young man decided to
link to them according to social norms, and quickly after 3 Months came a resounding shock in
the decision of the couple's separation after the failure of the relationship was confirmed, as the
couple discovered that what they were doing on the Internet is different in nature from their lives
together, and the imaginary image painted by each party is only reflections and emotional
dreams. She stresses that a woman is often the victim of an unequal marital life with a man she
married, built high hopes and then disappointed her after she revealed that he was hiding a lot of
negative things.

Fouad al-Ali's vision, a legal advisor, maybe almost acceptable to many when he talks about the
crisis of Arab immigrants, and says: I adhere to the social customs and customs that I grew up, so
I refused to link with a foreigner during my stay in a European country, so I had only to find an
opportunity to get to know Through the Internet.

He adds: five years ago I found the one I was looking for, and I asked her before marriage that
she is an ambitious, polite and serious young woman in her life, and after marriage I found her as
well, but I was shocked in a recipe that I never expected, namely laziness and the frequent
postponement of important things, and I try to deal with them wisely The most important thing I
got, and that's what concerns me most. He points out that the element of surprise is found in most
of these relationships and some of them may be expensive, and this is linked to human awareness
and seriousness in the future link and intelligence.

The experience of Raed Sadak, the owner of the workshop, with the Internet was different.
"Some people don't see flaws in some of their problems," he says. `` Our customs and traditions
require that I only associate with a girl from my city, and by virtue of my stay in the UAE and
the volatile situation in Syria, I have no way to search except the Internet, and I succeeded in
reaching some families living here or in Jordan, and after several failed attempts, I got to know A
girl with all the specifications that I am looking for, and after 6 months of electronic
conversations I made clear my desire to marry and agreed, and when we gathered or a meeting of
direct acquaintance, shocked and rejected me after I learned that I am a patient with a very
simple degree of diabetes. `` I did not mean deception or I refused to tell her the truth. I did not
expect this disease to disturb her thinking because it is not of a chronic degree. I am struck by her
immaturity. While I expressed my interest in her essence and morality through the ten that we
formed through conversation, she showed an interest in form and phenomena.
Despite all the experiences agreed upon, it is not always shocking to be negative on the ground.
This is what happened with Louay Esmat, a technical engineer, when he decided to rely on
himself in the choice of his partner, went to the Internet and became testing girl after girl, until
he found someone to look for and because she was living in a European country he could not see
for 4 consecutive years, discovered During which most men feared, his girl loved shopping a lot
and spent hours of her time shopping and pursuing fashion. "Despite my fear of this habit, I
decided not to stand up too much and complete the journey," he says. He adds: Once our
marriage a year ago, she began to discover new beauties in her character, and that the picture I
drew about her as a wasteful girl, was only a reflection of another beautiful picture of a girl
sacrificed and able to the extreme limits of the circumstances of her husband.

Confirms d. Ibrahim Safar, an expert in social psychology, said that the real problem in online
dating is the creation of love between the two parties, no one can be sure that the other party
loves or manipulated, and the image formed by this person through the conversation is not the
title of a successful marriage. According to Safar, what drives people to rely on this type of
relationship is the attempt of each party to identify the other's hidden and facts, while some rely
on it temporarily for mutual admiration soon ends when the relationship and words of love
become duplicates, or as a way to kill time as a result of an emotional vacuum The result of most
of these motives is failure with the exception of a few marriages, which are not without surprises,
which sometimes amount to shock, because there is a big difference between reality and fiction,
where the young man does not find his girl with the same morality, beauty or behavioral
commitment, and vice versa.