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Ryan Lee
Writing 39C
6 December 2019
Social media was initially conceived as a way for users to keep in touch with friends both
near and wide; allowing people to maintain friendships and be happy due to more friends and
being socially connected with others. However social media has come to contradict its intended
goal by causing many users to feel inadequate and depressed after prolonged usage of it, due to
experiencing the symptoms of FOMO. FOMO (Fear of Missing Out), is the anxiety resulting
from people worrying that they are missing out on social activities that their peers engage in.
This anxiety causes people to compare their social lives to those of others, often resulting in
perceived social inadequacy due to the negative thoughts a person develops about themself.
FOMO1 is a widespread issue that continues to become more problematic as social media's
influence expands. However, it is a tricky problem to regulate, as legislation does not directly
address such newly acknowledged issues as FOMO at a pace fast enough to keep up with the
whether legislation is truly effective in their methods of limiting social media use, as numerous
loopholes in mediating media usage exist, such as the use of different accounts, devices, etc. A
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In this article, I will be discussing FOMO in terms of social media use by adolescents, and
resulting negative feelings, such as depression, etc. For more context on FOMO's influence and
symptoms, verywell mind's article, "How to Deal With FOMO in Your Life" briefly summarizes
the issue (Scott, 1).
https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-cope-with-fomo-4174664
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better solution to the issue would be parental intervention, which could include restricting the
amount of time an adolescent is allowed on social media, serving as a supportive figure who can
help them through their troubles resulting from social media, or any other action that would be
most effective towards the individual in question. This solution-though not perfect-allows for the
most optimized approach towards each adolescent's individual differences because parents
generally understand their children's personalities and know the most effective ways to help
them. Therefore, this paper will provide an overview of the reason legislation would not be the
best solution, along with an explanation parenting as the most effective solution.
The issue of social media facilitating FOMO is not one to be overlooked, it is a serious
problem that stems from the way the adolescent brain works. Research has shown that social
media activates the same responses in the brain as other addictive activities, such as gambling,
drawing a connection to social media and addiction (qtd. McSweeney, 1). The connections to
gambling and social media usage may seem exaggerated, but their implications align with the
rise in excessive social media use. This issue particularly applies to unhappy people who use
social media in an attempt to improve their mood. Generally unhappy people seek a fast way to
improve the way they feel, making social media a prime candidate for them to attempt to do this
with. Because social media triggers the pleasure center of the brain, users are likely to return to
social media for instant gratification in the future, despite their later feelings of increased FOMO
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. Given the scientific data proving that social media is indeed addictive, this concern is further
exacerbated by studies proving that adolescents value risk over reward in making decisions.
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This is similar to a scenario of a gambler continuing to spend money despite losing money
later; the pleasure center of the brain is activated by the excitement of the activity, causing them
to return to it later in order to feel good again despite the later consequences.
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These studies show that adolescents' prefrontal cortex (area of the brain that exercises
self-control and judgment) is less developed than that of adults, making them prone to engaging
in risky behavior that could result in perceived social rewards (qtd. Hooper, et. al, 1). This paired
along with the addictive nature of social media shows how difficult it is for an adolescent to stop
With the issue of FOMO having roots in an adolescent's brain development, some
governments have attempted their own solutions through passing ineffective laws that fail
because they do not attempt to work with adolescents' natural tendencies and focus on strictly
limit the media consumption that people under 16 years old could have. The law-commonly
referred to as the shutdown law-aims to lessen gaming addiction by restricting children under 16
from playing online games after midnight (Jiyeon Lee, 1). However, the law has not only been
contested as a violation of the rights of affected people, but has proven to have many loopholes
in terms of what the law aims to achieve. Most notably, the law only applies to online games,
having no influence over console games which do not require an internet connection to play.
Additionally, the law can be bypassed when teens make an online game account and claim to be
above the age limit. Clearly the law could not address every way that games could be played, and
overall failed to provide quantifiable data to prove the effectiveness of such action.
Though the issue discussed in this paper's solution is FOMO in relation to social media
usage, the shutdown law's attempted solution to online gaming addiction holds similar facets
towards the idea of promoting legislative action towards limiting excessive social media usage
that causes problems for adolescents. South Korea's attempt was unsuccessful and lacked
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sufficient proof of the shutdown law's effectiveness due to loopholes essentially rendering the
legislation ineffective and immeasurable in terms of its success. The same loopholes would make
legislative restrictions towards social media ineffective and nearly impossible to measure the
success of, and would fail to restrict every method in which social media could be consumed.
Such legislative action would also be fiercely be met with opposition in America as an issue of a
violation of human rights. This example illustrates the limits of legislation; it can make laws in
an attempt to solve a problem, but cannot address every way the rule could be bypassed, and
would likely be made far after the underlying issue has already become widespread and serious.
This strengthens my argument that despite the obvious limitations to parental intervention in
their childrens' feelings of FOMO, it is the current best solution to the issue in the face of a
Parental mediation is arguably the best way to reduce instances of FOMO, however it too
has its flaws. Some parents are too busy to effectively monitor their teenagers' social media
usage, therefore the solution cannot become a standard for every person experiencing FOMO.
Subsequently, busy parents may struggle to keep up with the many new updates and forms of
social media3, which further complicates the ability for them to understand the various forms of
media and help their teens. However, the biggest issue in parental mediation is its lack of
standardization. Some parents may be strict on the issue, while others may take a lenient and less
involved approach to the problem. Similarly, issues of parents being literate in media and
understanding the complexities of it are factors that can hinder parental abilities. It is difficult to
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This article contains 21 social media sites (both new and old) that will be prominent in 2020.
The purpose of this is to illustrate the overwhelming amount of social media outlets that parents
would be expected to keep up with (Vikram, 1).
https://www.mobileappdaily.com/best-social-media-apps
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even find statistics on the number of media literate parents, further illustrating how complex
media can become, along with the difficulties of quantifying parental media literacy and what
constitutes such a term. Additionally, with few statistics on parental media literacy, it would be
difficult to standardize what parents should be taught and how to keep up with new trends.
Though solutions such as media literacy classes could be implemented for parents, busy ones
would not have the time or energy to attend such classes, and generally many parents would not
be predisposed to attend them, as they are time consuming and would possibly cost money. With
these issues, it becomes difficult to determine how parents should be educated, and then the most
cost-effective way. Perhaps the media could address the issue more prominently and bring public
awareness to it. But even then, news outlets or other potential ways to bring attention to the issue
would need a financial incentive to address it, presenting more problems that are out of the scope
Additionally, the question of how effective parental influence truly is will arise. Research
on parental influence has shown that parents who can strike a balance between maintaining a
loving relationship and a reasonable amount of control over their childrens' lives have the best
outcomes with their children, allowing them greater influence over them (qtd. Grusec, et. al, 2).
This further strengthens the idea of parents taking an involved and carefully catered approach to
addressing their childrens' issues. Parents who actively seek to individualize their approach to
moderating their children generally have effective authority. Given this information, it is clear
that the ability of parents to serve as the answer to the issue of FOMO is not an end-all answer. It
is simply the solution that has the most potential to reach the most people in a variety of ways.
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Despite the inherent flaws of parental mediation, it has the greatest potential of any
method to be the most effective at mediating FOMO. Parents know their children best, and
generally have a good idea of what would work best in terms of achieving their goal of reducing
FOMO, allowing them to customize their approach to best suit the individual differences of each
child. Different approaches towards handling an adolescent's experience with FOMO stem from
a parent's bond with their child, and the level of involvement they play in their childrens' lives.
A study on the ability of parents to cater their parenting style to their child shows that
consideration of individual factors such as personality, temperament, and many other factors is
what not only strengthens a bond, but allows their parental authority to be more effective (qtd.
Omer, et. al, 10-11). From this data, it is clear that the ability for parents to customize their
approach to parenting is crucial to developing a bond with their children that will allow them to
better understand their child and address the issue of limiting social media usage in a way that
best suits the child's individual tendencies. The individualized attention and knowledge of their
kids that parents can provide cannot be matched by that of any legislative action.
With this in mind, parents should pick the strategy they see best suited towards being
successful for their child. General solutions would be to limit social media usage or explain to
their kids why social media is a glorified depiction of the lives of people who post. Parents can
also help teens consider the consequences of excessive social media usage, something their
brains are not always scientifically predisposed to do. Because they have the experience and
ability to judge the situation from an experienced perspective, parents can illustrate to their kids
not only the fact that social media is an inaccurate representation of the lives of others, but the
consequences of believing this to be true that will affect their own perception of themselves.
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Adjustments to such solutions could be made, or even entirely different strategies could be
created. No matter the method used, the steps towards success remain the same: to not only
choose the best option to solve a child's FOMO, but to be involved in their child's life and see
that their efforts are successful. It is easy to simply implement a rule in an effort to solve the
issue with little effort, but the true route to success is to see it through and see that children
actually understand or believe in the efforts a parent is making. By fostering a relationship where
the child understands the intentions of a parent and respects the amount of time and dedication a
parent takes to do this, the child believes in the cause and fittingly puts in more effort to try and
FOMO have shown that families who communicate with adolescents reduce the severity of such
feelings. However, it should be noted that even in communicative families, these feelings were
high in adolescents who engaged in excessive social media usage, which reduced the time spent
with family (qtd. Favotto, et. al, 9). This study proves that parental communication can mediate
FOMO, however, it does indicate that media usage should be restricted in order to effectively
mediate the feelings of FOMO. Given this, it is clear that parents should not only act as a support
resource for their teenagers experiencing FOMO, but should limit the amount of time spent on
social media platforms. Teenagers who excessively use social media likely crave feelings of
social interactivity, which they supplement with social media use. However this would
exacerbate their already negative feelings and could culminate into symptoms of FOMO.
In conclusion, the issue of FOMO presents itself as a pressing issue that has no easy
solution. Legislative action would likely either be too late or have loopholes that could easily be
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bypassed by social media users, making the attempted solution unsuccessful. In addition to these
issues, parents often are not media literate enough to even know how they want legislation to
solve the problem, therefore leaving the issue up to lawmakers who may not be media literate or
quick to solve the issue. Given this, parents would be the best-but not perfect-solution. They
know what would work best in moderating their kids' social media consumption, they know how
they would react to such restrictions, and they can provide a level of individual customization
and care to the issue that legislative action simply cannot match. This solution would do more
than reduce FOMO through social media use, it would promote a culture of parental initiative in
childrens' lives and help strengthen bonds between parents and child. The resulting change in
parenting culture would help parents take action against other issues faced by their children, such
as bullying, stress, etc. Though none of the additional perks of better parenting can be foreseen
with absolute certainty, what is certain is that parental initiative in the lives of their children will
undoubtedly lead to benefits for both children and parents. Relationships will grow, parents
would become increasingly dedicated and proactive in their children's lives, and numerous
unforeseen benefits would arise from improved parental relations. With a parenting culture
promoting the growth of mentally healthy children, society as a whole would benefit from
healthy people, who could not only become productive citizens, but promote a culture of overall
well-being.
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