The Subtle Art Of Not Giving a Fck

Summary part 2

“The Subtle Art Of Not Giving a F*ck Summary”

Manson begins “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck” book with the
story of a man who for most of his life was a complete failure.
Society labeled him a loser.

This man, Charles Bukowski, achieved success in his career as

a writer, but that did not stop him from being a loser. In his tomb is
inscribed the following message: “Do not try”.

The story of Bukowski is present in many books, films, and seminars

that preach to overcome your difficulties and become great.

You cannot give up. Never giving up has become a cliché of the self-
help market and continues to be repeated to exhaustion.

Manson tells us that this positive advice for self-help is actually

contributing to your unhappiness because it makes clear all that you
do not have, essentially saying that to improve, you must first feel
awful about who you are.

Manson insists that the conventional “positive thinking” approach

teaches us that we need to ignore many things – good cars, perfect
bodies, a big house.

But every day we are bombarded with images coming from the
television or computer that show us other people who have such
incredible lives. We begin to believe that feeling anxious, sad or
unsatisfied is simply unacceptable, which makes us feel even worse
with these emotions.
So Manson presents an alternative theory. As the desire for a better
life causes a negative effect on our emotions, we must accept the
negative aspects of our life.

We need to get used to our limitations and failures.

Doing so will bring us more positive experiences because when we

are no longer afraid of the pain of our negative experiences, we
become able to challenge ourselves without allowing anything to
stop us.