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Child-Directed Interaction Skills
Child-Directed Interaction Skills
Praise appropriate behavior Causes the behavior to increase That’s terrific counting!
Lets the child know what you like I like the way you’re playing so quietly.
Increases child’s self-esteem You have wonderful ideas for this pic-
(they believe what you say) ture.
Adds to the warmth of the I’m proud of you for being polite.
relationship You are a great builder!
Makes both parent and child feel I like playing with you.
good!
Reflect appropriate talk Doesn’t control the conversation Child: I made a star.
Shows child you’re really listening Parent: Yes, you made a star.
Demonstrates acceptance and Child: The camel got bumps on top.
understanding of child Parent: It has two humps on its back.
Improves child’s speech Child: I like to play with castle.
Increases verbal communication Parent: This castle is fun to play with.
Imitate appropriate play Lets the child lead Child: I’m putting my baby to bed.
Approves child’s choice of play Parent: I’ll put my sister to bed too.
Shows child you are involved Child: I’m making a sun in the sky.
Teaches child how to play with others Parent: I’m going to put a sun in my
(e.g. basis of taking turns) picture too.
Tends to increase child’s imitation of
what you do
Ignore inappropriate behavior Avoids increasing bad behavior Child: (sasses parent and picks up toy)
(unless it’s dangerous or destructive) Decreases some behaviors Parent: (ignores sass; praises picking up)
Helps child notice the difference be- Child: (leaves table)
A. Turn your back, look away
tween your responses to good and bad Parent: (turns away until child comes back
B. Be silent behavior to the table) “Thanks for coming back,
C. Expect behavior to get worse at Let’s child know that the parent is now we can have fun playing together.”
first maintaining self-control Child:: (hits parent)
D. Return attention enthusiastically Parent: (GAME STOPS. This can’t be ig-
when child is neutral/positive nored.)
Direct:
Look at this.
Please tie your shoe.
Come here.
Avoid questions Allows child to lead the conversation That’s the blue one, right?
Many questions contain hidden What color is this?
commands Are you having fun?
Asking questions may seem like you You want to play with the truck?
aren’t listening or that you disagree What do you want to do?
with the child What are you making?
Avoid criticism or correction Criticism doesn’t work to decrease bad You’re being naughty.
behaviors I don’t like it when you talk back.
Attention often increases the criticized Don’t scribble on your paper.
behavior No, honey, that’s not right.
Criticism will lower the child’s self- Airplanes don’t fly underwater.
esteem If you don’t share, the kids at school
Frequent correction creates an won’t like you.
unpleasant interaction