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Introduction
I felt pleased that he [father] could understand ‘cos I never thought he’d
ever understand what it’s like, but he’s starting to listen and under-
stand and that’s good.
a Psychology Services, Church Lane, Heavitree, Exeter, Devon EX2 5SH, UK.
b The Tavistock Centre, London, UK.
c Orchard Lodge, Taunton, UK.
Previous studies
Only a few studies have sought to elicit whether children find family
therapy helpful (e.g. Marshal et al., 1989) and fewer to date have
explored children’s perception of the processes occurring within the
therapy room. The extent to which children participate in family
therapy sessions has been investigated. Some studies have found
that children speak far less than parents (see e.g. Friedlander et al.,
1985; Mas et al., 1985). The adolescents in Mas et al.’s (1985) study
tended to express themselves in terms of agreement or disagree-
ment. Postner et al. (1971) found that overall, therapists spoke
significantly more often to parents than to children. Cederborg
(1997) argued that the manner in which the parents and the ther-
apist related to the children placed them as subjects acting with
regard to the child. The child then effectively became a non-person
in terms of the status held within the session. She expressed
concern about the implications of this in terms of the potential
impact on the self-esteem of children who are symptom bearers.
Newfield et al. (1990) carried out an ethnographic study of families
whose involvement in therapy was the result of adolescent drug
abuse. The authors stated that some interviewees mentioned how
few adolescents feel free to talk while their parents are present.
The study
The aim of the study was to explore the nature of children’s expe-
rience of being in family therapy. We decided to interview children
directly following therapy sessions in order to explore their experi-
ences. We were guided in our approach by the work of Llewelyn
(1988) who has suggested that therapy can be usefully analysed in
terms of people’s experiences of helpful versus unhelpful events.
Once identified, significant aspects of these can be explored in
further detail in a collaborative way by means of the Comprehensive
Process Analysis (CPA) (Elliott and Shapiro, 1992).
Participants
Families attending two family therapy clinics in the south of
England were approached. Children between the ages of 11 and 17,
identified as the index patient (IP), with a range of presenting prob-
lems, were selected. Therapists were asked to approach families and
ask them to participate. Gathering a sample was problematic.
Although ethical approval was gained, some therapists expressed
concern about taking children out of their families – post-session –
for the interview. They expressed concern that this would disrupt
the therapy and/or unsettle or pathologize the referred child.
Method
Interviews with the children
Children were interviewed without their families on two occasions,
immediately after their family therapy sessions. Time between
sessions ranged from three weeks to two months. The children were
invited to discuss in general how the session had been for them,
what their expectations had been, what they felt about the therapist,
if the session had been helpful and other issues they chose to
mention. In addition, they were asked to try to remember whether
they felt that anything significant – positive or negative – stuck out
as having happened.
Video replay
If the children were able to identify a significant event, this event
was replayed to them using the video of the session. They were
asked to describe how they were feeling and what they were think-
ing during the therapy session. After the final interview, each child
was given a box of chocolates in gratitude for their participation.
Therapist interviews
Children’s therapists were also interviewed. They were shown the
same excerpt from the videotape and asked to describe their
Analysis
We employed a qualitative, inductive approach based upon
grounded theory methodology (Glaser and Strauss, 1968) which
involves repeated readings of the interview transcripts and allows
themes to emerge from the data. By constantly analysing the emerg-
ing themes for similarities and differences, themes are organized
hierarchically into several main categories to incorporate the
principal concepts emerging from the data (Glaser and Strauss,
1968; Henwood and Pidgeon, 1996; Pidgeon and Henwood, 1996).
Significant moments mentioned by the children were further
explored in detail, utilizing a Comprehensive Process Analysis
(CPA). The significant events identified by each child were located
on the videotape and then played back. Each child was then invited,
using a semi-structured format, to discuss these events. Briefly, they
were invited to discuss the events leading up to the significant
moments, the wider context and the impact of these moments in
detail. These two distinct methods were used to analyse the inter-
views; after the initial analysis, areas of overlap were considered. At
the end of the analysis, all the themes to emerge were found to be
subsumed within the following six broad themes.
Results
The main themes to emerge from the children’s interviews were:
Being heard
1 R = Researcher.
Bad reactions from other family members. Jane talks about the difficulty
she has in saying what she thinks during the sessions. She describes
how she has come to withdraw because her early experiences of
saying what she thought were not well received.
Jane: I think the first time I came er. . .I was bored, but I did actually talk
then, but the thing was. . . if I’d say something my Mum didn’t like,
my Mum burst into tears and then she wonders why I don’t talk
anymore, ’cos she just starts crying. . . and then I just end up feeling
guilty so I’m not going to talk if she’s going to be like that.
Concern about the consequences of speaking out. She goes on to say that
she does not feel she can speak because it will lead to her being
questioned afterwards by her family.
R: Um. . .so what makes it hard to talk here?
Jane: Because anything I say here, in front of my Mum or [mother’s
boyfriend], as soon as I get outside they’ll start asking me why I said
something like that.
This difficulty in expressing oneself was mentioned by Sue, who
thought that she had a responsibility to keep everyone in the room
happy. Trying to do this with the whole family in the room was expe-
rienced as extremely stressful.
Sue: I think throughout the whole session I feel uncomfortable anyway
. . .yeah, but I s’pose that time I felt particularly uncomfortable.
R: Right.
Sue: I sometimes feel threatened as well because there are a lot of people
around and I’m trying to say the right thing to keep everyone happy
and I don’t like to upset anyone and that’s why I’m always sort of
conscious of what I say and stuff.
R: Umm, so it’s actually quite stressful for you to go in there and worry
about what everybody else is thinking and. . .
Sue: Yeah, yeah.
Feeling free to say what you think. In contrast, for Ben, the therapy
room represents a place where he is free to say what he likes; he
does not feel responsible for monitoring his behaviour in order not
to upset other family members. It is interesting to note that the
wider context here is that Ben’s family was self-referred. They
viewed the therapy as somewhere to help them manage family prob-
lems and were very engaged with the therapeutic process.
R: Were there any times during the session when you felt uncomfortable?
Ben: Um, no not really I don’t think, it’s always interesting whenever I
come and I don’t really feel uncomfortable in the sessions because I
can say what I like, there’s not like, restrictions, no, it’s good.
Discussion
Some of the young people in the study mentioned that it was diffi-
cult to speak in the therapy room. One hypothesis is that chil-
dren’s reactions were influenced by their attachment style. An
insecure/avoidant style is associated with denial of past pain and an
avoidance of emotional or physical closeness. An insecure/ambiva-
lent attachment style is characterized by over-closeness, enmesh-
ment, and mutual monitoring and blurred boundaries. Byng-Hall
Acknowledgements
We would like to thank the children, families and therapists
involved for giving their time to this research so generously.
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