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I’ve never had divorced parents. I have never been in any kind of situation that would make a kid my age
genuinely upset. I grew up with both of my parents and my three other siblings in a wonderful home. I
have always lived in a predominantly white neighborhood. All my neighbors, except for two homes, are
Caucasian, but it’s never crossed my mind. When I was a little girl, I’d never thought about color. When I
looked at my neighbors, all I saw were people. Not black, not white, just... people. I always thought we
were the same, that there was no difference between us. I desperately wish the whole world could look
through the eyes of my younger self and other children’s, so that their views could be wiped clean of the
dirt that has formed over them after so many years of hate and profiling. I wish they could see how
wonderful it was to not judge another by their skin. But it was all one big facade that couldn’t hold itself
against the truth the world holds. My eyes were looking through rose colored glasses that needed to be
removed. I used think race didn’t matter and that everyone was equal, but I was wrong. After all, how was
I to survive in this world if I didn’t know my place as an African American girl? How was I supposed to
fit into a world where we are said to be ‘loud’ and ‘uneducated,’ not ‘well-spoken’ and ‘polite’? I hated
what people were saying about ‘race’ this and ‘color’ that. But soon enough, these ideas became a part of
me, and I was enlightened. I had to come to terms with it at some point in my fifteen years of life. It’s
knowledge that I gained after cumulative experiences throughout my life, some of which caused me to
I was in first grade when it all began, though I find it shocking that I can recall these things that have
occurred so long ago. My big brown eyes were bright with excitement, my red shirt and overalls hadn’t a
wrinkle in sight, and I had taken it upon myself to make the fashionable choice of pairing my grey and hot
pink tennis shoes with the already startling outfit. My wild hair had been tamed into two puffs on either
side of my head with those things I used to call ‘ball hair ties,’ since there wasn’t an actual name for
them, though they were essential to any African American girl’s hair accessory collection. I don’t
remember if it was the first day of school, but I do know that it was within the very few weeks of it,
considering that fact that I was still very excited to spend hours upon hours in that building. So there I
was, perfectly pressed overalls and all. I entered the classroom and hung my pink backpack in my
assigned cubby. I said a cheerful hello to Mrs. Horne before taking my seat in class. Everything was great,
I did my classwork, I ate a snack, I colored. Then recess rolled around. I of course, being the follower that
I used to be, went with the other little girls to the playground. Typically, we would play a round of tag, a
game that would frustrate competitive little me since a large majority of the girls there couldn’t run to
save their lives. Many of us rejected the idea so another girl proposed that we should play ‘House.’ We all
excitedly agreed and began picking who would play what role.
After some of the chatter subsided, I decided to put my input into the game.
Everyone went quiet, when I said this, and it confused me. Moment’s later a girl who I remember not
being very fond of told me that I couldn’t be the big sister. I was a little firecracker back then, so of
course I questioned her with a why not? In all innocence, she explained to me that since I was brown,
I scanned all of the girls complexions that I was playing with, and registered the fact they were indeed all
white. I felt uncomfortable. I felt odd. Of course, a first grader doesn’t really contemplate something like
this for a long period of time, so I compromised and played as the “adopted” big sister. Many sessions of
House required me to be the adopted one, so it almost became routine for me to say that I was ‘adopted’
Flash forward to an instance in seventh grade when I was making my way to the bus loop, exhausted and
ready to go home. It had been a long day, and seventh grade wasn’t exactly my favorite year of school
(girl drama and whatnot), so I was ready to head home as quickly as I could. A scrawny white boy came
up to me with his group of white friends trailing behind him. The boy, who’s height required me to look
downwards, opened his mouth and with his squeaky adolescent voice, asked me what my name was. He
proceeded to list, if you will, ghetto and stereotypical black girl names while his friends laughed like the
group of idiots that I assumed they were (I should probably apologize for the not-so-subtle insults in this
story, I’m just really trying to channel the energy that I had on that specific afternoon).
Not in the mood for whatever this obviously sixth grade munchkin was doing, I continued the long walk
to the bus. I kept my eyes forward and my feet walking. I boarded the bus and went home, not batting an
Though I’ve decided to take a lighter tone to my experiences, there have been plenty of other times where
I’ve heard racial slurs hurled at me by white kids. Teachers have heard it, but chose not to do anything.
There’s been a few times where I’ve been told I “speak well” for my race. When I questioned this remark,
I was told to be thankful for the compliment. I’ve seen Confederate flags and people yelling the N word in
my direction. I’ve been commented on about my appearance, like my lips, my nose, my hair. I might have
seemed nonchalant about a large majority of these things when they were said to my face, but over time it
started to take a toll on me. I wanted to talk to someone about this scary world I had stumbled upon, but
everyone had a tendency to change the subject or say something along the lines of “it can’t be that bad,”
which is a phrase I’ve heard from a counselor, believe it or not. I felt trapped and hopeless. With all of
these thoughts bottled up in my head and no one to spill them to, I began to hate myself. I hated my skin.
I would get my hair straightened as often as I could, I would try and purse my lips so that they would look
smaller. I wanted to be like those white girls I saw at the cafeteria, with their pale complexions and blue
eyes. Believing that color defined who you were, I would dress like them and act like them. If someone
mentioned my color, I would try harder. Saying things I never would, doing things that made me feel
strange and wrong. I grew so exhausted from this, that I would often sit in my bedroom and cry as three
I hate myself.
The words grew louder and louder in my head until I couldn’t bear it. I wanted to hurt myself, as if
punishing my body would change my brown skin to the paleness that I desired.
I did everything I could to escape the idea that I was a part of a minority that wasn’t equal to the majority,
but nothing seemed to be working. With this realization, I finally began to accept myself over time. I dove
deeper into my culture, and I absolutely adore it. I’m doing much better now. I love my wild and
annoyingly knotty hair. I love my golden skin tone and the way it darkens in the summer to a rich brown.
I began to look around at those girls I used to envy years ago and I see them overlining their lips and
applying tanning lotion, as if getting three shades darker during the summer was normal. It makes me
laugh when I hear my white friends quote slang that I’ve heard from my black aunts and uncles when I
was young, like “period,” and “bae,” as if these terms are new and were served to them on a satin pillow.
Looking back at elementary to highschool, everything is going in a circle. Black culture is becoming the
“thing,” and being white is connotated in an awkward and somewhat insulting manner. All I can say to
this is, wow, how times have changed. I wish I could tell myself back then how the world is now. Of
course, not everything is perfect. There’s always going to be that one person who can’t seem to respect
another just because of their color or appearance, but if I could have avoided all of that pain and
exhaustion that plagued me, my days would have been filled with more bliss and happiness that I desired