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By Sumbye Kapena
To break bad habits, don’t give yourself to other peoples limiting labels (definitions about one’s self)
What is self-image?
1. Your behavior matches and will always be consistent with your self-image
2. it’s the blueprint of your behavior hence one can’t behave for a long period of time in a foreign and
unfamiliar behavior.
Why should I reject negative labels? They are based on wrong assumptions and bear unrealistic
premises e.g.
a. One is born with a weakness which they have been identified with.
b. They take inclinations and rumors as facts
c. It’s usually a representation of complex aspects of your real life.
i.) Personality distinctions. Introverts vs. extroverts
ii.) Right brain vs. left brain people. Right brains persons a good in arts(music, poetry, painting
etc.) while left brained people are good in technical and practical fields e.g. Math, sciences
and mechanics
iii.) Gene heredity
d. Negative labels assume ones performance matches with their ability and capacity.
Thomas Edison - Said to be “dull” to learn.
All these men have influenced the world positively
Bill Gates - Failed in college.
with their works and innovations, which was a result
Albert Einstein – Thought to be retarded.
of their resolve to defy the odds despite all the labels
Ben Carson – Always bottom in college.
and names they were given.
e. If you have a weakness in a certain area then you’re weak in all areas.
Being specific is key when it comes to tackling such issues i.e. I have been lazy in house work/
assignments/farm work, I have a habit of heavy drinking/ smoking a lot/playing too much, I don’t
have much material wealth, I have been poor in relationships(friends, family, society etc.)
N/B Don’t enter into arguments and debates that don’t solve nor change anything: they derail
the process of eliminating these habits.
For change to be felt and achieved, one has to challenge the thinking styles that hinder one from getting
the results.
Making an action program for change to achieve change is necessary in order to;
1. Avoid debate about whatever happens thereafter. It also shows you believe you can change,
become open to suggestions and ready to be helped and focus on changes towards more
positive habits.
Decisions made have to be encouraged with strengthening reasons.
2. Set positive goals. Phrasing my goal statements focusing on what I want to achieve than to
discard.
3. Identify easily accessible means. Finding affordable, more productive and readily available
means to aid the process of change has a greater and more fruitful impact than finding
expensive and hard to access sources.
4. Make adjustments in the way you spend your time. Planning my time as well as making
necessary adjustments ensures there is equilibrium and room for more activities.
Furthermore, it makes one become more involved and open while carrying out the set
activities personally, socially, spiritually, work and career-wise.
Un-confronted fears are the cause of most habits. Some of un-confronted fears may be as a result of;
ATTITUDE. Achieving change comes with adjusting ones attitude towards challenges.
Tolerance of pain causes one to go through this pain with courage, they may also seek help on what to
do to avoid pain and reduce its level in the future and also realizing that feelings come from what you
tell yourself about particular events.