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Many children do not see themselves as victims of sibling incest, and many families and
professionals fail to recognize the abuse.
Their story startled the nation. In February 2011, 19-year-old twins Kellie and Kathie
Henderson, sitting on the stage with Oprah Winfrey, told their horrific story of 10 years of
sexual abuse by two brothers and, eventually, their father. Motivated by the desire to inspire
other incest victims to come forward and report such abuse, the Hendersons revealed the
often-shocking details of their experience, six years after a neighbor in whom they had finally
confided rescued them.
This story of sibling and paternal sexual abuse reflects a social problem that is far greater
than acknowledged by official statistics, policymakers, and service providers (Finkelhor,
1980). Known as incest, family sexual abuse is shrouded in secrecy and social stigma.
Hidden from relatives, communities, schools, and neighbors, incest is underreported,
underrecognized, and often goes unpunished, leaving child victims to suffer in silence and
adult survivors to manifest myriad psychosocial problems (Daie, Witztum, & Eleff, 1989).
Sibling sexual abuse is the least recognized form of incest, while sexual abuse by related
adults in a family receives the most attention. Meanwhile, victims of sibling abuse remain
unseen, waiting to be found and helped. Social workers are in a unique position to lead the
effort to uncover the injuries of sibling incest and promote a climate that supports victims in
disclosing their experiences and receiving appropriate services.
The prevalence of sibling sexual abuse in American society is not well documented.
Researchers estimate that the rate of sibling incest may be five times the rate of parent-child
sexual abuse (Finkelhor, 1980). These rates are based on reported incidence, and incest is
known to be underreported. Sibling sexual abuse has been dismissed as “child’s play” in
many cases and/or as a normal aspect of sexual development. More recent research has
documented the traumatic, long-lasting, and damaging effects of sibling incest (Carlson,
Maciol, & Schneider, 2006; Weihe, 1997). When sexual acts are initiated by one sibling
without the other’s consent, sibling incest is, most often, a serious and secret problem.
Consistent with other forms of child sexual abuse, there is an evolutionary aspect to the abuse
such that in the early stages of the relationship, the sexual nature of the behaviors is less
apparent, hidden in special hugs and games and play wrestling. A young naïve victim is
unlikely to recognize these ostensibly benign behaviors as inappropriate.
Typically, there is a progression of the behaviors, evolving over time to increasingly explicit,
invasive, and perhaps even coercive sexual activities. These behaviors are more likely to be
experienced negatively or as “wrong” by the victim. However, a victim’s participation in the
activities to that point, the closeness in age with the offender, and the lack of a generational
boundary between victim and offender too often lead to the victim’s confusion about
responsibility for the behaviors. Clever offenders can use this sense of complicity to amplify
feelings of mutuality and exacerbate feelings of guilt and shame for the victim, inhibiting the
likelihood of disclosure and thus maintaining the secret.
As the abuse progresses and a victim grows aware of the meaning of the behaviors, he or she
may become a reluctant participant and attempt to resist. However, the secret is protected
because offenders use coercive strategies, such as threats of exposure and subsequent
punishment and/or physical retaliation for exposure, to ensure the victim’s silence. Victims
who feel guilt and shame in the context of a nonsupportive family are unlikely to feel
sufficiently safe to confess misbehaviors for which they feel responsible.
There is evidence that many victims carry the secret into adulthood, remaining confused
about issues of mutuality and consequently feeling ridden with guilt, shame, and low self-
esteem (Ballantine, 2012; Carlson et al). The secret can be so buried that adult survivors fail
to connect the incestuous behaviors of their childhood with current life problems such as
depression, anxiety, poor job performance, and interpersonal difficulties.
Today, teachers and medical professionals are better trained to recognize indicators of sexual
abuse and manage aspects of reporting. However, most attention is focused on adults as
perpetrators with less awareness of the possibility of same-generation abuse. Teachers may
have more opportunities to observe sibling dynamics in school settings, but unless they are
sensitized to the dynamics of sibling incest, they are unlikely to discern indicators that could
lead to uncovering the secret.
Similarly, professionals who work with troubled adults are likely to overlook the possibility
of sibling sexual abuse as a contributing factor because the victims themselves fail to connect
their current problems with their previous, and possibly ongoing, incestuous sibling
relationship. It is not uncommon for victims to minimize the importance of the incestuous
behaviors as an embarrassing part of childhood. Consequently, professionals fail to assess for
sibling sexual abuse because adult survivors are reluctant to relinquish this shameful and
seemingly irrelevant aspect of their childhoods. Since sibling sexual abuse may not be on the
radar for the client, professionals aren’t cued to its existence as part of the client’s experience
and consequently fail to reach for it.
Once social workers acknowledge the possibility of sibling incest as a factor in a client’s life,
efforts to promote disclosure can commence. Clearly, these efforts must be beyond a typical
question-answer assessment process. As described previously, there is considerable pressure
on victims to maintain the secret of sibling sexual abuse, and in cases involving young
children, awareness of sibling incest as a problem may not yet exist. Adult survivors of
sibling incest may not connect problems they are currently experiencing with their abusive
history, rendering self-disclosure unlikely. Efforts to promote disclosure must be indirect,
supportive, and relevant to the client’s age and the setting in which services are provided.
If a disclosure of sibling sexual abuse is made, timely, coordinated responses are important.
In cases of child disclosure, reports to Child Protective Services (CPS) must be accompanied
by therapeutic services. Involvement of both CPS, and potentially the criminal justice system,
can disrupt the family, cause the child to engage in self-blame, and/or result in the removal of
the offending sibling. Without competent therapeutic services throughout the aftermath of
disclosure, a child can be further damaged by the disclosure. Ideally, a child advocate or case
manager can ensure that the process of legal and therapeutic intervention is coordinated and
responsive to the multiple needs of the child victim. At the same time, child offenders require
specialized services and assistance through legal and treatment systems.
Adult disclosures rarely involve the criminal justice system and often occur in the context of
therapeutic services. Issues of mutuality, self-blame, guilt, and intricate family relationships
must be addressed in a sensitive, supportive manner that follows the survivor’s readiness to
undertake active resolution of relationship issues with the offender, parents, and other family
members. Effective treatment typically involves mobilizing survivor strengths and social
support networks. To ensure maximum effectiveness, clinicians serving adult sibling incest
survivors should avail themselves of the growing body of knowledge and skills specific to
this population.
Final Thoughts
Sibling sexual abuse is an insidiously destructive social problem characterized by secrecy,
shame, and concealment. As the horrific story of the Hendersons was widely broadcasted,
viewers were made aware of the problem and the human toll it takes. Increasing public
awareness of the problem to encourage other victims to disclose their secret spurred the
Henderson sisters to appear on national television. They were trying to help other children
avoid the damage that they experienced.
While it is likely that public awareness was increased somewhat by the Henderson twins
telling their story, it also is likely that such awareness will be short lived. The very nature of
sibling incest is so abhorrent to much of the public and to many professionals who could play
a significant role in realizing the goal of helping victims and survivors that they don’t want to
believe it exists. By incorporating heightened awareness of sibling incest with proactive
approaches to intervention, social workers can begin to combat this hidden social problem.
Victims can be helped to disclose their secrets earlier, leading to better treatment outcomes,
and survivors can be helped to resolve mental health and behavioral problems. Social workers
can be instrumental in uncovering sibling incest on both societal and individual levels. As
historical advocates for populations with problems that society ignores, social workers can be
the leaders for the hidden population affected by sibling sexual abuse.
— Margaret Ballantine, PhD, MSW, LCSW-R, is an assistant professor of social work at the
State University of New York (SUNY) at Plattsburgh.
— Lynne Soine, DSW, MSW, LMSW, is an associate professor and chair of the social work
department at SUNY Plattsburgh.
Settings and Prevention Strategies
The following are proactive strategies to promote and support disclosure of sibling sexual
abuse according to service settings.
• Routinely explore sibling relationships and types of play with siblings through the use of
puppets, student artwork, and storybooks about siblings.
• During interactions with parents, ask about siblings and their relationships.
• Be alert to cues such as special bonds, wariness to discuss relationships, efforts to protect
another sibling from criticism, or avoidance of focusing on sibling relationships.
• Fully explore family context, boundaries inside and outside the family, extent of chaos
and/or emotional volatility in family, parental roles and supervision of children, and the
presence of implicit or explicit sexuality.
• Reach for and normalize connections between current problems and childhood sibling
relationships.
• Explore self-esteem issues with clients, keeping in mind the possibility of sibling incest and
the legacy of shame and guilt derived from perceived mutuality in the incest behaviors.
• Develop and implement training for staff of a wide range of agencies regarding sibling
incest.
— MB, LS
References
Ascherman, L. I. & Safier, E. J. (1990). Sibling incest: A consequence of individual and
family dysfunction. Bulletin of the Menninger Clinic, 54(3), 311-322.
Ballantine, M. (2012). Sibling incest dynamics: Therapeutic themes and clinical challenges.
Clinical Social Work Journal, 40(1), 56-65.
Caffaro, J. V., & Conn-Caffaro, A. (2005). Treating sibling abuse families. Aggression and
Violent Behavior, 10(5), 604-623.
Carlson, B. E., Maciol, K., & Schneider, J. (2006). Sibling incest: Reports from forty-one
survivors. Journal of Child Sexual Abuse, 15(4), 19-34.
Daie, N., Witztum, E., & Eleff, M. (1989). Long-term effects of sibling incest. Journal of
Clinical Psychiatry, 50(11), 428-431.
Finkelhor, D. (1980). Sex among siblings: A survey on prevalence, variety, and effects.
Archives of Sexual Behavior, 9(3), 171-194.
Weihe, V. R. (1997). Sibling abuse: Hidden physical, emotional, and sexual trauma.
Thousand Oaks, CA: Sage.