Amy and Mark,

Following are samples of the various ceremony script components - openings, readings, vows, ring exchanges, unity,
and more. These are just examples, please don’t feel limited by what you see here.

Processional/Entrance

The officiant and groom enter first, either through a side door or down the aisle, and wait at the altar. They can either
enter together, or with the officiant first, followed by the groom. One variation has the officiant enter from the side and
the Groom walk down the aisle first in the procession. In this, groom may either enter alone, escort his mother to her
seat, or escort both mothers to their seats, before taking his place.

The groomsmen and bridesmaids usually walk down the aisle in pairs, either starting with the two who will stand
farthest from the bride and groom, and ending with the maid of honor/best man, or starting with best man and maid of
honor, working outwards. A modern alternative would be for the officiant, groom, best man, and groomsmen enter
from a side door in a line, with the bridesmaids and maid of honor proceeding down the aisle unescorted. Then the ring
bearer, followed by the flower girl, and finally the bride and her father (or other close family member). The bride walks
on the left side. If the bride's escort is her father, he leads her to the front of the aisle, then takes his seat next to the
bride's mother. A popular traditional option is to have the bride’s escort stand for a moment as the officiant asks "Who
gives this woman to this man in marriage?" to which he responds "I do," or "Her mother and I do." Then the bride steps
forward as the escort takes his seat.

The "Hand Off"

This is an option where the escort, after answering the question, actually "hands" the bride to the groom. In the simplest
form, the escort, with his right hand, takes the brides right hand from his left arm and places it in the groom's left hand.
(Reminder tip: "Right, Right, Left, Left") Groom takes a step forward during the transition to accept the hand off. A more
elaborate hand off has the escort shake the hand of the groom first, kiss the bride on the cheek second, then hand off
the bride to the groom.

Following the hand off, bride usually passes her bouquet to the maid of honor, then faces the groom and places her left
hand in his right *OR* after passing the bouquet, the bride and groom face the officiant, turning later in the ceremony
to face each other. Ceremony begins.

Note: It is not required for either the bride to be escorted, or for the bride to be "given away". While very traditional,
both should be considered personal preference.

A more modern variation of the processional uses two aisles, with bridesmaids entering from the left and groomsmen
from the right. Typically in this option the bride is not escorted. Instead, bride and groom walk down separate aisles,
both last in the procession, and they meet at the front. Ideally, the two aisles should be in a "V" formation from the
back, coming together at the wedding point. Room layout, however, may require a variation, as two back corner doors
may not be available. Seating is arranged to accommodate and surround the two aisles. If there is a pre-opening

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question, rather than the "who gives this woman" question, it would be a mutual question like ”Are you both, this day
and before all present, ready to accept each other in marriage?"

While the pattern of traditional processionals is somewhat culturally standard, the bride and groom can alter sequence
and/or design of the processional to fit their preferences and personalities.

Opening/Greeting

The opening is usually a greeting to guests, combined with some sentiment of the occasion - either generic or more
personal. In some weddings, the opening is directed to the bride and groom rather than the guests, and the focus of the
opening is more along the lines of inspiration to the couple, for the commitment they make.

"Dear friends and family, we are gathered here today to witness and celebrate the union of ________________ and
_____________________ in marriage. In the years they have been together, their love and understanding of each other
has grown and matured, and now they have decided to live their lives together as husband and wife."

"Dear friends and family, we are gathered here today to witness and celebrate the union of
____________________________ and _________________________ in marriage. Through their time together, they
have come to realize that their personal dreams, hopes, and goals are more attainable and more meaningful through
the combined effort and mutual support provided in love, commitment, and family; and so they have decided to live
together as husband and wife.”

"To all present I say: We are gathered here, not to witness the beginning of what will be, but rather what already is! We
do not create this marriage, because we cannot. We can and do, however, celebrate with __________ and ___________
the wondrous and joyful occurrence that has already taken place in their lives, and the commitment they make today."

"Ladies and gentlemen, family and friends, we are gathered here today to witness and celebrate the joining of
____________________________ and _______________________________ in marriage. With love and commitment,
they have decided to live their lives together as husband and wife."

"Welcome everyone. ____________ and ___________ have chosen you, those special and important to them, to
witness and celebrate the beginning of their life together. Today, as we create this marriage, we also create a new bond
and new sense of family - one that will undoubtedly include all who are present here today."

"We are here today to join _________ and __________ in a life of mutual commitment. It is fitting and appropriate that
you, the family and friends of __________ and _________, be here to witness and to participate in their union. For the
ideals, the understanding, and the mutual respect which they bring to their life together had their roots in the love and
friendship and guidance you have given them. The union of two people makes us aware of the changes wrought by time.
But the new relationship will continue to draw much of its beauty and meaning from the intimate associations of their
past."

"________ and _________, today you are surrounded by your friends and family, all of whom have gathered here to
witness your marriage and to share in the joy of this special occasion. Today, as you join yourselves in marriage, there is
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a vast and unknown future stretching out before you. The possibilities and potentials of your married life are great; and
now falls upon your shoulders the task of choosing your values and making real your dreams. Through your commitment
to each other, may you grow and nurture a love that makes both of you better people, a love that continues to give you
great joy, and also a passion for living that provides you with energy and patience to face the responsibilities of life."

"___________ and _____________ - Today you enter as individuals, but you will leave here as husband and wife,
blending your lives, expanding your family ties, and embarking upon the grandest adventure of human interaction. The
story of your life together is still yours to write. All those present have come to witness and celebrate your love and
commitment this day - eager to a part of the story not yet told."

Reading

A reading usually highlights the importance of marriage. The reading can include a definitional statement, quotes from
literature, poetry, or something personal from the couple being married. Below are some of the more popular readings
used:

"True marriage is more than joining the bonds of marriage of two persons; it is the union of two hearts. It lives on the
love you give each other and never grows old, but thrives on the joy of each new day. Marriage is love. May you always
be able to talk things over, to confide in each other, to laugh with each other, to enjoy life together, and to share
moments of quiet and peace, when the day is done. May you be blessed with a lifetime of happiness and a home of
warmth and understanding."

"Marriage is a vital social institution. The exclusive commitment of two individuals to each other nurtures love and
mutual support; it brings stability to our society. For those who choose to marry, and for their children, marriage
provides an abundance of social benefits, as well as obligations - a "social institution of the highest importance."

"Love should have no other desire but to fulfill itself. But if your love and needs must have desires, let these be your
desires: To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night. To know the pain of too much tenderness.
To be wounded by your own understanding of love; And to bleed willingly and joyfully. To wake at dawn with a winged
heart and give thanks for another day of loving; To rest at the noon hour and meditate love's ecstasy; To return home at
eventide with gratitude; Then to sleep with a vision of the beloved in your heart and a song of love on your lips."

"___________ and ____________, remember to treat yourselves and each other with respect, and remind yourselves
often of what brought you together. Take responsibility for making the other feel safe, and give the highest priority to
the tenderness, gentleness and kindness that your connection deserves. When frustration, difficulty and fear assail your
relationship, as they threaten all relationships at some time or another, remember to focus on what is right between
you, not just the part that seems wrong. In this way, you can survive the times when clouds drift across the face of the
sun in your lives, remembering that, just because you may lose sight of it for a moment, does not mean the sun has gone
away. And, if each of you takes responsibility for the quality of your life together, it will be marked by abundance and
delight."

"May you always need one another, not to fill an emptiness, but to help each other know your fullness. May you want
one another, but not out of lack. May you embrace one another, but not encircle one another. May you succeed in all
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important ways with each other, and not fail in the little graces. May you have happiness, and may you find it in making
one another happy. May you have love, and may you find it in loving one another."

"No other human ties are more tender and no other vows more important than those you are about to take. Both of you
come to this day with the deep realization that the contract of marriage is sacred as are all of its obligations and
responsibilities"

"Ultimately there comes a moment when a decision must be made. Two people who love each other must ask
themselves how much they hope for as their love grows and deepens, and how much risk they are willing to take.
Commitment may well be a fearful gamble. Because it is the nature of love to create, a marriage itself is something
which has to be created, such that as we come together in marriage, we become a new creature."

"When you love someone, you do not love them all the time, in exactly the same way, from moment to moment. Such is
an impossibility, and even a lie to pretend to. And yet this is exactly what most of us demand. We have so little faith in
the ebb and flow of life, of love, of relationships. We leap at the flow of the tide and resist in terror its ebb. We are
afraid it will never return. We insist on permanency, on duration, on continuity; when the only continuity possible, in life
as in love, is in growth, in fluidity - in freedom, in the sense that the dancers are free, barely touching as they pass, but
partners in the same pattern."

Apache Blessing:
"Now you will feel no rain, for each of you will be shelter for the other. Now you will feel no cold, for each of you will be
warmth to the other. Now there will be no loneliness, for each of you will be companion to the other. Now you are two
persons, but there is only one life before you. May beauty surround you both in the journey ahead and through all the
years, May happiness be your companion and your days together be good and long upon the earth."

"The only real security is not in owning or possessing, not in demanding or expecting, not in hoping, even. Security in a
relationship lies neither in looking back to what was in nostalgia, nor forward to what it might be in dread or
anticipation, but living in the present relationship and accepting it as it is now. Relationships must be like islands, one
must accept them for what they are here and now, within their limits - islands, surrounded and interrupted by the sea,
and continually visited and abandoned by the tides."

"___________ and _______, the time has come to forget all the stress of planning this day and simply enjoy your friends
and family who have gathered to spend this day with you. This group of loved ones will, likely, never be together in the
same place again. Through quiet reflection and nostalgia, think about how each person has touched your life and why
they are here with you today."

The Prophet, Kahlil Gibran:

"You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore. You shall be together when the white wings of death
scatter your days. But let there be spaces in your togetherness, and let the winds of the heavens dance between you.
Love one another, but make not a bond of your love; let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your soul. Fill
each others' cup but drink not from one cup. Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf. Sing and
dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone. Even as the strings of a lute are alone, though they
quiver with the same music. Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping. For only the hand of Life can contain
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your hearts. And stand together yet not too near together: for the pillars of the temple stand apart, and the oak tree and
the cypress grow not in each other's shadow."

"________ and ________, today you choose each other before your family and friends, to begin your life together. For
all the tomorrows that follow, you will choose each other over and again, in the privacy of your hearts. Let your love and
friendship guide you, as you learn and grow together. Experience the wonders of the world, even as patience and
wisdom calm the restless nature. Through your partnership, triumph over the challenges in your path. Through the
comfort of loving arms, may you always find a safe place to call home."

Vows

Vows may run from traditional to customized. Below are examples of some common vows. Feel free to add your own
embellishments, loving words, funny promises (I promise to take the trash out!) and inside jokes. Also, couples may like
pieces of several of the vow examples, while not finding any one example that completely reflects their preferences.
Pieces from several can be blended together to make the "perfect" one.

There are 3 formats or "styles" for vows (and also ring exchanges):

1. Echo - Officiant says "Please repeat after me", then reads the vow one line at a time, with participant repeating each
line, one line at a time, until the vow is complete.

2. I Do - Officiant begins with "Do you", then reads the entire vow, followed by the participant's response of "I do"

3. Recital - a more personal vow, spoken from memory while looking directly into the partner's eyes, and without
prompt by officiant. This format can be tricky, especially if the vows are long and complex. A written text (cheat sheet)
tucked in a sleeve for backup is a good idea for this option.

"Do you ____________, take _____________ to be your lawfully wedded wife, promising to love and cherish, through
joy and sorrow, sickness and health, and whatever challenges you may face, for as long as you both shall live?"

"Do you ________________, take _____________, to be your partner in life and sharing your path; equal in love, a
mirror for your true self, promising to honor and cherish, through good times and bad, until death do you part?"

Do you ____________, take __________ to be your (wife/husband), to have and to hold from this day forward, for
better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until
death do you part?"

"Do you _________ choose _________ to be your partner in life, to support and respect (her/him) in (his/her) successes
and as well (his/her) failures, to care for (him/her) in sickness and in health, to nurture (him/her), and to grow with
(him/her) throughout the seasons of your life together?"

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"Do you _____________, accept _______________ as your lifemate and one true love, promising to share in all that life
offers and suffers, to be there for (him/her) in times of need, to soothe (him/her) in times of pain, and to support
(him/her) in all endeavors, big and small."

"I __________, accept you __________, as my companion and my (wife/husband). I promise to care for you, honor you,
and cherish you, for as long as we both shall love."

"I take you to be my spouse, in equal love, as a mirror for my true self, as a partner on my path, to honor and to cherish,
in sorrow and in joy, till death do us part."

"I take you as my wedded [wife/husband], to share my life with you, and pledge that I will love, honor, and care for you
in tenderness and affection in all the varying circumstances of our lives."

"I acknowledge my love and respect for you and invite you to share my life as I hope to share yours. I promise always to
recognize you as an equal individual and always to be conscious of your development as well as my own. I shall seek
through kindness and understanding to achieve with you the life we have envisioned."

"I promise to always be there for you, to shelter and hold your love as the most precious gift in my life. I will be truthful
and honor you. I will care for you always and stand by you in times of sorrow and joy."

"I, [Name], promise you, [Name], that I will be your [wife/husband] from this day forward, to be faithful and honest in
every way, to honor the faith and trust you place in me, to love and respect you in your successes and in your failures, to
make you laugh and to be there when you cry, to care for you in sickness and in health, to softly kiss you when you are
hurting, and to be your companion and your friend, on this journey that we make together."

"I, (Bride/Groom), take you (Groom/Bride), to be my (wife/husband), to have and to hold from this day forward, for
better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until
death do us part."

"I, (name), take you, (name), to be my [opt: lawfully wedded] (husband/wife), my constant friend, my faithful partner
and my love from this day forward."

I pledge to you endless strength that you can count on when you are weak. I'll be your music when you can't hear, your
sunshine when you can't see, or your perfume when you can't smell. You'll never need to look further than me. I'll be
your days and nights when you need them filled, your spark of life in the darkness, your hope when you're down and
out."

"In the presence of our family and friends, I offer you my solemn vow to be your faithful partner in sickness and in
health, in good times and in bad, and in joy as well as in sorrow. I promise to love you unconditionally, to support you in
your goals, to honor and respect you, to laugh with you and cry with you, and to cherish you for as long as we both shall
live."

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"I (name), take you (name) to be my (husband/wife), my partner in life and my one true love. I will cherish our union and
love you more each day than I did the day before. I will trust you and respect you, laugh with you and cry with you,
loving you faithfully through good times and bad, regardless of the obstacles we may face together. I give you my hand,
my heart, and my love, from this day forward for as long as we both shall live."

"I, [name], choose you [name] to be my [husband/wife], to respect you in your successes and in your failures, to care for
you in sickness and in health, to nurture you, and to grow with you throughout the seasons of life."

"I, (name), take you, (name), to be my partner, loving what I know of you, and trusting what I do not yet know. I eagerly
anticipate the chance to grow together, getting to know the (man/woman) you will become, and falling in love a little
more each day. I promise to love and cherish you through whatever life may bring us."

Exchange of rings

First question is how many rings? Some ceremonies only involve the groom giving the bride a ring. The next question is
who will be speaking during the ring exchange? First option is for the one placing the ring to speak their line as they
place the ring on the other's finger. In a one ring ceremony, the groom speaks the line while placing the ring on the
bride's finger. In the two ring ceremony, this is followed by the bride speaking the line while placing the ring on the
groom's finger. Often, the ring statement by groom/bride is recited (memorized), with or without prompt from officiant.
This works well for one liners like "With this ring, I thee wed". For longer ring statements, echo style works well. Some
couples like to give a response to receiving the ring, so examples of those are also provided. Second option is for the
officiant to read a meaningful quote, such as the importance and/or history of the golden band, either before or as the
rings are exchanged. This can either be followed by bride/groom statements, or rather instead of. While statements are
traditional, it is not required for bride and groom to speak during ring exchange.

"I (name) give you (name) this ring as an eternal symbol of my love and commitment to you."

"With this ring, I thee wed."

"Through this ring, I accept you as my (wife/husband), now and for all time."

"I give you this ring, as I give to you all that I am, and accept from you, all that you are."

"With this ring, I thee wed, and with it, I bestow upon thee all the treasures of my mind, heart, and hands."

"I give you this ring as a symbol of my love and faithfulness. As I place it on your finger, I commit my heart and soul to
you. I ask you to wear this ring as a reminder of the vows we have spoken today, our wedding day."

"This ring is a token of my love. I marry you with this ring, with all that I have and all that I am"

"I give you this ring as a visible and constant symbol of my promise to be with you, for as long as I live."

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"I give you this ring as a symbol of my love for you. Let it be a reminder that I am always by your side and that I will
always be a faithful partner to you."

"I have for you a golden ring. The most precious metal symbolizes that your love is the most precious element in my life.
The ring has no beginning and no ending, which symbolizes that the love between us will never cease. I place it on your
finger as a visible sign of the vows which have made us husband and wife."

"(Name), I give you this ring as a symbol of my love. As it encircles your finger, may it remind you always that you are
surrounded by my enduring love. "

Response (optional):
"I will forever wear this ring as a sign of my commitment and the desire of my heart"

"I will wear it gladly. Whenever I look at it, I will remember this joyous day and the vows and commitments that we have
made."

(Officiant, before or as rings are exchanged)

"Wedding rings are made precious by our wearing them. Your rings say that even in your uniqueness you have chosen to
be bound together. Let these rings also be a sign that love has substance as well as soul, a present as well as a past, and
that, despite its occasional sorrows, love is a circle of happiness, wonder, and delight. May these rings remind you
always of the vows you have taken here today."

"You have for each other a golden ring. This most precious of metals symbolizes that love is the most precious element
in your life together. The ring has no beginning and no ending, which symbolizes that the love between you will never
cease. You place these rings upon each others fingers as a visible sign of the vows which, this day, have made you
husband and wife."

Declaration of Marriage

The officiant will say something like "By the power vested in me by the State of _______, I now pronounce you husband
and wife. You may now kiss (Traditional: You may kiss the bride”.) Then the first kiss and introduction of the newly
joined couple to the attendees: "Ladies and Gentlemen" (or) "Family and Friends", then “I present to you" (or) "For the
first time" (Mr and Mrs optional)______________ and _____________ _________________

Note: Traditional introduction uses only the groom's name (i.e. "Mr and Mrs John Doe")
More contemporary: Groom's first and last, bride's first ("John and Jane Doe")
Introduction is generally suffixed by "husband and wife", "newlyweds", or something similar.

Other Options

Unity Traditions:

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There are a variety of Unity traditions that may be included in a ceremony. Some are old and some are recent, but unity
traditions are growing in popularity. Below are some examples:

Unity Candles: The bride and groom each take a lit candle and simultaneously light a third larger "unity candle." They
may blow out their individual lights, or leave them lit, symbolizing that they have not lost their individuality in their
unity.

Sample reading for candle ceremony:

(prompt)And now, ______________ and __________, it is time to light your candles.
(Alternate) And now it is time to light the candles of unity.

(During Candle Lighting) On this day you make a new light together, symbolizing the two becoming one. May you also
continue to recognize that separateness from which your relationship has sprung. May the lights of your own special
lives continue to feed the new flame of love which will fuel your future together -- through all its hopes and
disappointments, its successes and failures, its pleasures and its pains, its joys and its sorrows -- a future filled with the
warmth and love of the flame you share today..

Variations: All guests are given a candle, and the first guest's is lit. Guests pass the flame until all are lit, and then the
bride and groom together light their unity candle. This variation typically includes a proclamation that this ceremony
represents the unity of friends and family supporting the couple in their marriage.

Rose Ceremony: A simple unity ceremony where the bride and groom exchange roses. Other variations: the families
exchange roses, the bride and groom exchange roses with their families, the bride and groom exchange roses, then
present their mothers with the roses.

Wine Ceremony: The bride and groom each take a carafe of wine and pour it into a single glass, which they both drink
from.

Water Ceremony: The couple each pour a different colored water into a single glass, creating a third color.

Sand Ceremony: Similar to the water ceremony, the bride and groom both pour different colored sand into a glass. A
common reading used for sand ceremonies (can be adapted for water, too): "Life’s moments are as grains of sands,
forever moving and shifting with the winds of time. Today, ________ and __________, you are making your eternal
commitment to one another, blending the sands of your lives together. The separate vessels of sand you each hold
represents your lives up to this moment. And from this moment on, as with the sands you now blend together, you shall
become one - a family created."

Salt Ceremony: Indian weddings often include a salt ceremony, where the bride passes a handful of salt to her groom
without spilling any. He then passes it back to her and the exchange is repeated three times. She then performs the salt
exchange with all the members of the groom's family, symbolizing her blending in with her new family.

Breaking Bread Ceremony: The bride and groom tear off pieces of bread, and then each eat a piece. Sometimes the
bread is also shared with family and friends. It symbolizes their future as a family together.
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Garland Ceremony or Lei Ceremony: The bride and groom exchange garlands of flowers. This is a common part of Indian
weddings, where the ceremony is called varmala or jaimala, and represents a proposal by the bride and acceptance by
the groom. It also represents their new unity, blessed by nature. In Hawaiian weddings, the bride and groom typically
exchange leis. The families may also exchange leis with the couple. Leis represent the love and respect you have for the
person you are giving it to, and the unity of the new family.

Circling: In Eastern European ceremonies, the bride and groom circle the altar three times, which are their first steps
together as husband and wife. In Hindu ceremonies, couples circle the fire seven times, sealing their bond. The
unbroken circle represents the unbroken commitment to each other.

Poetry, special music, photos, videos, audience participation rites, etc., can also be tastefully added to a ceremony for
that personal touch.

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