PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP

MEMBERS:
KHATELYN ZAMORA

CHESTER DELA CRUZ

VANESSA BALISCAO

KAYCE MIRASOL

WHAT IS PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP?

The type of relationship which is closely associated with a person and which can
only have meaning to this person.

Attachments

Secure attachment

• when the primary caregiver is most of the time present and available and
when all the emotional needs of an infant are met, providing a sense of a
security to the infant.

• will grow up with a more secure and stable relationship

Avoidant attachment

• when the primary caregiver is cold and detached, and even unresponsive to
a child's needs.

• A child who experienced this style of attachment will often times experience
unstable relationships in the future.

• The posibility of isolation is real for people who have this type of
attachment.

Anxious-ambivalent attachment

• when the primary caregiver is not consistent in terms of presence and in

meeting a child's emotional needs.

• separation anxiety, mixed feelings beween hesitancy and commitment when

entering into meaningful relationships.

LOVING HAS A GENETIC BASIS

• Unconscious assessment of another person’s genes through their physical

appearance

• Genes are usually determinants of good health

• Both male and female are often attracted to symmetry

 • Pheromones – an odorless chemical found in urine and sweat can be
detected by the nose, are involved in the assessment of a future mate, an
indication of a person’s immune system.

• Women are also attracted to men who smell similar to their father.

• Preference of individuals to marry somebody who resembles one or both of

their parents.

Variables related to strengthening Commitment

1. Accumulation of all rewards of the relationship

support from the partner; sexual satisfactions; emotional, financial, and

physical security; adventure; and novelty

2. Temptation of alternative partners

the presence of possible alternatives for another partner can rock the
relationship and destabilize the commitment of a couple.

3. Investments made by the couple in the relationship

may include time spent together, common beliefs and experiences, mutual
experiences with mutual friends, and bearing children. Religious beliefs
reinforce commitment.

Spoilers to Commitment

1. Criticism
there is the absence of unconditional positive regard for each other in a
relationship

2. Denial of the existence of conflict

When one party eludes the presence of a problem and refuses to discuss it,
as if belittling the problem, it will result in frustration on the side of the
other party
3. Contempt

Someone who looks down on the party as inferior does not give
unconditional positive regard, and aggravates the situation by expressing
superiority over the other. “ultimate expression of disillusionment and
highly predictive of “divorce” or separation.

Three Stages of Falling In Love

by : Helen Fisher

1. Lust – is driven by the sex hormones, testosterone, and estrogen.

2. Attraction – lovestruck phase, which involves neurotransmitters in the

brain such as dopamine, norepinephrine, and serotonin.

3. Attachment – long-lasting commitments are exchanged, and may lead to

raising a family. Oxytocin believes to promote intimacy; vasopressin which
promotes longterm relationships.

Love

• Love is a feeling of deep affection, passion, or strong liking for a person or thing.

1. INTIMACY

• IT IS CLOSENESS BETWEEN PEOPLE IN PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS.

• “That lovely moment when someone understands and validates us.” – Reis,
Clark, and Holmes (2004) and Reis and Shaver (1998)

• “It is an absolute human certainty that no one can know his own beauty or
perceive a sense of his own worth until it has been reflected back to him in the
mirror of another loving, caring, human being.” John Joseph Powell, The Secret of
Staying in Love”

• Being open and vulnerable to that person whom we deeply trust, who we feel
connected with, and who values us with unconditional positive regard – Rogers
• Communication is a key component in developing intimacy, where self-disclosure
is practived.

2. commitment

• Is an act of deciding to consistently fulfill and live by agreements made with

another person, entity, or cause, and where the values of integrity and respect
serve as a guide to one’s behavior and thinking.

• Commitment in a love relationship is expressed continuously in caring and

loving actions for the beloved.

• Commitment is saying YES, you are into this relationship and will stick to it
for as long as possible.

3.Passion
• Is the intense state of being that drives and consumes a person to pursue an
interest, a vision, or a person.

• terms of romantic love, passion connotes sexual attraction, as well as intimacy.

• The eighth type of love is the absence of the three components and is referred to
by Sternberg as “non-love”.

The Rozenberg Quarterly Several theories related to attraction and liking:

1.Transference Effect

Our past relationships can therefore affect our current interactions with people.

2.Propinquity Effect

Proximity promotes familiarity and hence, liking, this can also be true if we do not
like a person.

3.Similarity
it is a strong factor in friendship and in the selection of a mate because it
promotes intimacy, trust, empathy, and long-lasting relationships.

4.Reciprocity

The more we are liked by someone we equally like, the more we behave in ways
that promote mutual feelings of liking.

5. Physical attractiveness

Physical attractiveness connotes positive health and reproductive fitness, which

are both essential to human survival.

6. Personality Characteristics and Traits

• Empathic persons and socially competent persons Happy and cheerful

disposition, poised, and can present themselves well, outgoing, ad sexually
warm and responsive.

• Integrity, income potential, and stability of men Attractiveness and

Vitality of women

Responsibilities in a Relationship

1. Be responsible for what you think and say to the other person.

2. Be responsible for what you promise to do or not to do.

3. Ensure the relationship is mutually beneficial.

4. Respect the other party or parties involved.

5. Be ready to provide support when needed.