ETHICAL DILEMMA

Should parents monitor teens’ social media activities?

An ethical dilemma for parents is whether to monitor their teens’ social media activities.
Teens spend a large part of their day online engaging in behaviors that have implications
for their health and well-being.

It’s important to set the ground rules when you as a parent first give a smartphone, tablet,
computer, or other electronic devices to a teen, including that they will be monitored until
they are old enough to understand their obligations online.

Teens may unknowingly become involved in potentially dangerous behaviors online

through chat rooms, instant messaging, and emails.

It’s important to have conversations with teens to be sure they’re aware of the warning
signs and what to do when they feel a predator is in their lives.

Another reason to monitor teens’ online activities is to teach them about cyberbullying.

Cyberbullying threatens the safety and security of teens. It can create harmful effects,
including depression, anxiety, anger, shame, fear, frustration, low self-esteem, poor
grades.

The case for monitoring

The key issue is to teach your teen responsible behavior and that actions have
consequences. The following lists good arguments for monitoring.

 Communicating with a teen about social media limitations can build responsible
behavior and they learn to be accountable for their actions.
 Monitoring their behavior can help deal with problems such as sexting and
cyberbullying that can be harmful to their growth and development.
 Monitoring can help to control predatory behavior that threatens a teen’s well-
being.
 Discussing online behaviors can be used as a teachable moment to explain what’s
meant by respecting others and how online behaviors promote civility in
relationships.
 Trusting parents is a key issue in strengthening the bond between teen and parent.