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They see a big success and want to know how he did it, believing
(and hoping) they can do the same following a quick bullet list.
But real change, the author says, comes not from the outside in, but
from the inside out. And the most fundamental way of changing
yourself is through a paradigm shift.
The first three habits indeed deal with yourself because it all starts
with you.
The first three habits move you from dependence from the world to
the independence of making your own world.
Habits 4, 5 and 6 are about people and relationships. The will move
you from independence to interdependence. Such as, learning to
cooperate to achieve more than you could have by yourself.
Ironically, the more you focus on the things you can control, the
more your abilities and skills improve. Which in turn will further
enlarge your circle of influence.
To start mentally shifting your focus into the circle of influence the
author suggests you stop using “if” sentences such as “if only I had…”
and start using instead “be” sentences, such as “I can be more..”
Beginning with the end in mind means being clear about who you
want to be and where you want to go.
Habit two is based on imagination and on the idea that two different
forms of creation exist: mental creation and physical creation.
The mental creation comes first, and the physical creation follows
the mental one.
Covey says that if you are not clear about the mental creation of
where you want to be you are the mercy of randomness and
circumstances.
Covey recommends that as much as you think about your life goals,
you also think about who you want to be.
When you have that clear, you can draft principles and values in
accordance to that person (check Principles to see Ray Dalio’s).
With your principles and values clear you will approach life and all
the events in your life with a high level of clarity and confidence.
Aligning Life and Principles
To make sure your life goals and personal principles are aligned
Covey recommends you write a personal mission statement.
If you follow the steps of Habit 1 and 2 then you have your values
and life goal very clear.
This means you know what are your priorities.. And which are not.
Once you have a burning desire to become and do what you want
your yeses will also clearly show what are your nos. That’s the
bedrock of prioritization.
The Time Quadrant
To effectively manage your time you should spend most of your time
on non urgent and important tasks.
This way you will rarely have to deal with urgent and important
tasks, which heighten your stress and often deliver sub-bar results.
To achieve this level, you must first acquire three essential character
traits:
1. Integrity (sticking with who you are: feelings, values)
2. Maturity (expressing your ideas and feelings with a balance of
courage and consideration)
3. Abundance mentality (life is no zero sum, there’s plenty for all)
1. Ignoring
2. Pretending to listen
3. Attentive listening
4. Empathic listening
Even most good listeners stop at the third level of attentive listening.
Attentive listening entails the following:
Habit 6: Synergize
A Team is Stronger Than an Individual
The idea of synergizing is that the whole of a well functioning team is
greater than the mere sum of its part.
He says it’s important you commit some time for each one
dimension. And he’s right
"Emotional Competencies and its impact on Professional Success"