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Cause and Effect
Cause and Effect
As a child I had believed it was all easy. When I was hungry there was food or when I
was bored there would be something to do. But as I started maturing things slowly changed.
Watching my parents struggle to put food on the table every day slowly entered my vision. I was
no longer able to ignore situations that happened around me. Now, as an adult, I can look back
and see the struggle in full view. I can see how different situations with my family made me the
From the beginning, I always noticed how strong my mother was. She was determined to
do the very best for our family no matter what. Many points in my youth, she would work two
jobs and stay awake after a long shift just to see me. We were her priority and even if she only
slept a few hours a day she would spend time with us between jobs. Her determination to
succeed for our family is something I will always cherish and strive to duplicate.
Even though my mother always tried her best for us does not mean others did as well.
Growing up, I had five older brothers that were only concerned for their own wellbeing. After
school, I would come home to find the house filled with smoke that was coming from their
rooms. While they were babysitting me, they would have girls in their rooms with no idea of
what was happening on the other side of the door. One specific memory I have is one of my
brothers falling asleep in bed with a cigarette. Memories like these make me more responsible
with what is going on around me and to have more consideration for others.
Sadly, my brothers were not the only negative influence in my life. Since I was adopted,
my father’s side of the family decided that I was not really theirs. This was apparent because at
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family gatherings, I would be shunned to the back of the kids’ section and left without goodies
everyone else had. Many of my childhood memories at my grandmother’s house are filled with
tricks and teasing that ended with me hiding until I was due to be picked up. As an adult, I sadly
have little to no relationship with any of these people, but I can say that because of them I make
sure to include everyone in everything. I have found that I reach out and befriend many people
Whether influences are positive or negative, they happen. It is what we do with them that
makes the most difference in life. I always dislike thinking that much of my childhood was
depressing, so instead of seeing the negatives I try to flip it into what I can learn from it. Yes, my
father’s family might not have been the nicest to me, but instead of always being sour about it, I
try to refrain from acting like them. This also goes along with my brothers’ carelessness when it
came to our family. The person I am today is strong, confident, and caring. This is all true