Samy:

If I had given ears to your advice last month, Elissa,

If + subject + past perfect  We use to establish a hypothetical condition in the past
my heart wouldn’t have been hurt so badly, but I didn’t.
subject + modal verb + perfect form (have + past participle  active voice)
(have been + past participle  passive voice)
 We use this to establish the hypothetical result in the past
If I hadn’t returned to Peru, I would have already finished my PhD and would have gotten
a position at an American university.

Now my pain is devastating me.

I simply shouldn’t have accepted that invitation.
SHOULD/SHOULDN’T + HAVE + PAST PARTICIPLE  We use this structure to express a regret.

My life is ruined.
Elissa:
I told you, Samy.
If you had listened to me, you wouldn’t be in this situation now.  mixed conditional
Past perfect for the hypothetical situation in the past
Would + base form of verb for possible result in the present

If you were sensible, you wouldn’t have made the decision…  mixed conditional
Past simple for the hypothetical situation in the present
Modal verb + perfect form for hypothetical result in the past