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Nick Kemp - Session With Laura - Annotated Transcript
Nick Kemp - Session With Laura - Annotated Transcript
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Transcript and commentary by Joe Kao
The metaphorical explorations in this session include discussing other spontaneous emotions (i.e.
inappropriate laughter), relationships (would she jump on Sir Lancelo ho e?), and also movement
(would she take a giant leap, or freeze and stay on the plane?).
Each of these metaphorical domains laughter, relationships, movement overlaps with crying and
emotional intimacy in one way or another:
In the Provocative Change Works way of working, this all happens in a rapid, free-form,
improvisatory manner. What can seem like off-the-wall humour, or a surreal non-sequitur, is actually
an indi ec a of o king i h he clien e en ing i e
Nick also does a lot of work in this session on shifting he clien state by conversationally changing
the sensory qualities of her representations (what in NLP are called submodalities ).
In the process, it becomes increasingly difficult for her to think about her issue in the rigid, closed off
way that she used to. B he end of he e ion he become mo e and mo e fl id quite literally
(she becomes visibly emotional and sheds some tears).
Transcript Commentary
Nick: So... what's the problem? The classic PCW opening question, which
contrasts with most traditional, goal-oriented
coaching models.
You look like some sort of stewardess in an Nick is working in the here and now, going with
airport. "Exit doors! Gangways!" [Mimes being his instant reactions to the client, in a friendly,
a flight attendant followed by a pause] Yeah! good-humoured manner.
Nick: Did you see the film Bambi? Nick immediately goes for a cultural, universal
reference.
Laura: A long time ago maybe.
The film Bambi i tangentially related to her
Nick: Did you cry when Bambi died... when i e i a famo film hich ha made many
Bambi's mother died? people cry), but i ome hing ha a little
outside of her mental framework (she probably
Laura: No, I don't think so.
a n hinking of Bambi hen he cho e hi
Nick: Oh, did you laugh? topic to work on).
Nick: Alright, so do you laugh at comedies? A quick confusion induction, where the
categories are swiftly reversed in every
Laura: Yes. question, until the client blurts out the opposite
of what she intended to say.
Nick: Do you cry at tragedies?
Laura: No
Laura: No.
Nick: Do you laugh when you see an accident in Nick again focuses on an area which is just
the street? outside of the topic Laura is wanting to work
on, but which is still thematically related.
Laura: No, I don't laugh.
Here he asks her abo inappropriate
Nick: Are you sure? laughter another e on e hich he can
consciously manufacture or consciously control.
Laura: Yes.
Laura: It depends what happens in the end. By focusing on one, he is indirectly working
with the other.
Nick: Well he slipped over and died. See it's
funny! He was looking everywhere. Scanning all
around. Paying attention. Got a laser tape to
measure what he's looking for. Suddenly [clap]
he's gone. It's funny! It's funny!
Nick: You laughed! Okay, if he slipped over, and The use of mime significantly increases the
he just broke both arms, and they were in im ac of Nick o d and it evokes strong
plaster. [Mimes both arms being in plaster emotional reactions in the client (i.e. lots of
casts] It's funny! Yeah. It's funny! Alright, if his laughter).
neck was in a big plaster, so he couldn't move.
Would it be tragic, or would it be funny?
Nick: And up, there it goes. There it goes. So...? Nick vividly paints an exaggerated, absurd
You want to be one of these women that are... e ion of he clien goal hich n dge he o
"Ohhhhhhaaahhh!" Tears! "How are you clarify (to herself and to Nick) what she actually
today?" "Ohhhhhhhhaaahhh!" Wail! wants and why she wants it.
Dehydrating. Dehydrating. Yeah.
Nick: You want a horse? Horse? [Mimes Nick takes the horse idiom literally.
cuddling a horse]. Very open-minded here.
What colour would it be? He then asks a series of questions to get her to
associate into the metaphor.
Laura: Brown.
Laura: Four.
Nick: You don't want to be with anyone else? Alluding to her willingness to experience
emotional intimacy, both with herself and
Laura: No. others.
Laura: What?
Nick: But if you saw him coming towards you. The innuendo increases engagement, and stops
Armour gleaming in the sun. Hair in the wind. things getting too cerebral/dissociated.
Big sword! [Raises an eyebrow to Laura at the
innuendo]. It's a metaphor! Would you invite
him. Or would you just say - "stay away"?
Nick: [Mimes one hand talking. Mimes his other Nick turns the abstract, dissociated word
hand talking back. Mimes hands kissing]. di c ion in o a ca oon-like show of
intimacy between the two hand-puppet
Yeah! What's the first thing you'd say? characters.
Nick: Are you interested? Yes or no? The tone of the playful improvised dialogue
shifts as Nick cuts to the chase. Does she want
Laura: What are you looking for, with the fair in imac o no He ge ing he o be more
maidens? defini e abo ha he illing o e e ience
within this metaphorical domain.
Nick: I'm looking for a good time.
Again the willingness to leap on the horse
Laura: What would you like to do?
with Lancelot is a metaphorical parallel with
Nick: You sound like an NLP person. her willingness to be intimate with her own
feelings, and to be emotionally intimate with
Laura: This is in my blood. others.
Nick: Okay, so what's the problem? Nick asks her to reformulate the problem, to
check how she is representing it to herself after
the work done so far.
Nick: You probably are! You're probably Said with a twinkle in the eye.
correct!
Nick: Well it's probably just as well. Alluding to the benefits of the problem.
Nick: Well it might be that's how it's gonna be. Going universal.
Laura: Well, more like, that so far it's been like Laura attempts to frame her situation more
this. optimistically ha i onl true up until now.
Nick: [Mimes pouting again] "That sucks! I'm Exaggerate and mimic the client.
not happy" [Mimes raging at the gods] I'm not
happy! Thirty-five years of this! [Reads notes
and rages at the gods more] "Thirty-five
years!". Yeah!
Laura: Approximately.
Nick: Give or take. [Pause Nick ead La a Ignore the client. This takes the pressure off the
notes some more] God, this is depressing client, and also builds up a sense of expectancy
reading. [Pause] Blimey. [Pause] There is a little and impatience for when the session will
smiley face in there somewhere. Yeah. begin again Thi gi e he hole in e ac ion
more dynamic energy.
"I want to jump off the aeroplane" it says here. Nick finds a metaphor in her notes, which
[Mimes being a flight attendant again]. sparks the next part of the session.
Nick: Alright. By yourself, or with somebody Insisting on making explicit the presence of
else? another person with her, so that it becomes a
vivid part of her inner representation.
Nick: [Pause]. Who's on the shortlist? Fixate on one thing. The tension has been
ratcheted up, and Laura is becoming at a loss
for how to answer.
So if o clo e o e e if o hink abo Nick suddenly shifts gears and begins a PCW
hi if o hink abo he hole hing no metaphor elicitation.
ha he hole hing like a o hink
about it now?
Nick: Well, it might be better to stay in the Playing de il ad oca e - encouraging the client
aeroplane. o go in he o o i e di ec ion o ha he e
just said.
Laura: Uh-uh [no]. Laura is becoming very definite about what she
wants and ha he doe n an . This is a
typical response to PCW work there is less
and less wishy-washiness as the client becomes
increasingly adamant, definite and insistent
about their own experience.
Nick: The Universe just declares this is how it Going universal this talk of the universe shifts
i ho and on ho and on her internal representations, and tempts her (in
thousands of people are floating through the he i i of la ing de il ad oca e o acce
ai hile one emain a iona ha he i e i j ho hing a e .
Laura: [Laughs]
Nick: Ten of ho and of eo le hile one Ratcheting up the tension again exaggerating
emain a iona h nd ed of ho and of the difference between movement and being
eo le hile one emain a iona still with vivid, contrasting representations.
millions of people hile one emain
a iona [pause] o no o no And after encouraging her to stay still (by
playing de il advocate), he then suddenly flips
it around and gets her to focus on taking a leap.
Some hing change e ickl and ome Catch-all truisms about change and movement.
hing ake a li le bi longe ome ime i
ef l o mo e and ome ime i ef l o Universal cultural reference to first man on the
stay still... when Lance Armstrong landed on moon (with a possibly accidental renaming,
he moon he aid One mall e fo man which adds to the surreal confusion).
one mall e fo a man one gian lea If
o e e o ake a gian lea ha o ld ha Evoking big, vivid representations of space,
be like? astronauts, stars and planets.
Laura: Uplifting
Nick: If o e e o ake a gian lea ha Nick intonation varies with every question,
would that really be like? even when the words are the same. This invites
Laura to process the meaning of the words
differently with each repetition.
Nick: If o e e o ake a eall gian lea Laura is becoming more emotional at this point.
what would that be like?
Nick: [Puts puppet back on] And open your eyes Laura is being asked to process the question
When i ligh e ha ha like in a man
[Speaking through the puppet When i different ways as possible eyes open, eyes
ligh e ha ha like closed, through a puppet, from the distance,
with different words being stressed each time.
Laura: [Laughs] Lighter!
This increases the sense of fluidity and
Nick: Clo e o e e When i ligh e ha
movement she has around the issue.
that really like?
Laura: I libe a ed
Laura: Good!
Take another dee b ea h in no ice hich Notice what made it better and ha
foo i he mo ela ed foo and no ice hich made it worse this presupposes that this
hand i he mo ela ed hand and mo e issue has changed and can change ha i
o head abo one inch and ake a dee never been set in stone.
b ea h in no a o e li ening o hi
no ice ha make i be e and ha make As the final, closing piece to the session, Nick
it o e no ice ha made i be e and gets the client to sort fo ha useful, for
ha made i o e and begin o no ice ha diffe en , and for ha igh fo he .
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