Managing Anger

Lesson 1: The Different Types of Anger

By Ms. Joana
School Counseling Intern
Lesson 1: The Different Types of Anger

Lesson 2: Coping Skills

Lesson 3: Controlling Our Emotions

Lesson 4: Putting it all Together

 Identifying Anger
ASCA Student Standards Learning Objectives

1. Students will learn and be

M 1. Belief in development of whole
able to define three types of
self, including a healthy balance
anger: passive aggression,
of mental, social/emotional and
open aggression, and
physical well-being
assertive anger.

B-SMS 7. Demonstrate effective

coping skills when faced with a 2. Students will be able to
problem recognize when they are
experiencing anger.
What is Anger?

There are three types of anger which

influence how we react in a situation
that makes us angry. These are:

● Passive Aggression
● Open Aggression
● Assertive Anger
 The 3 Types of Anger
Passive Aggression Open Aggression
This comes out in things This comes out in
like becoming silent fighting, bullying,
when you are angry, accusing, shouting,
sulking, procrastinating bickering, sarcasm and
(putting stuff off you criticism. Open
need to do), and aggression comes from a
pretending “everything need to be in control.
is fine”. Passive Sometimes the anger can
aggression comes from a be taken out on property
need to be in control. or even on ourselves.
Assertive Anger
It means thinking before
you speak, being
confident in how you say
it, yet open and flexible
to the ‘other side’. It
means being patient; not
raising your voice;
communicating how you are
feeling emotionally, and
really trying to
understand what others
are feeling.
How to Identify Anger
You can identify anger by knowing
what is triggering you. Below are
some examples of possible
triggers.Your triggers may be
different.

Pay attention to your thoughts

and how your body feels when you
are angry. Those are other ways
you can identify what is
triggering you.
Other Activities You Can Do
 Wrap Up
Today, you learned three different types of anger, which are
● passive aggression
● open aggression, and
● assertive anger

These influence how we react in a situation that makes us angry. You

also learned how to identify triggers that make you feel angry.

The good news is that there are

different ways you can manage anger
and overcome it! We will be
learning about those coping skills
in next week’s lesson. Stay tuned!
Managing Anger
Lesson 2: Coping Skills

By Ms. Joana
School Counseling Intern
 Coping with Anger
ASCA Student Standards
M 1. Belief in development of
whole self, including a healthy
balance of mental,
social/emotional and physical
well-being
B-SMS 2. Demonstrate
self-discipline and self-control
Learning Objectives
1. Students will recognize
the purpose of coping
skills for dealing with
anger.
2. Students will identify at
least 2 coping skills to
manage anger.
 What are coping skills?
Coping skills are ways to deal with
your feelings and stressful
situations in a healthy way.

When we don’t deal with our feelings and

stressful situations in a healthy way, we
may hurt ourselves or others with our
words or actions, like the examples we
learned in last week’s lesson.
You can Manage anger!
Although anger can be an overwhelming feeling, there
are many things we can do to manage our anger. Below
are some examples!
More coping skills
Activity
Music
&
Meditation
 Wrap-Up
Today, you learned about coping skills and what you
can do to release stress when you are feeling anger.

Next week, we will learn about control and how that

relates to dealing with anger.
Managing Anger
Lesson 3: Controlling Our Emotions

By Ms. Joana
School Counseling Intern
 Controlling Our Emotions
ASCA Student Standards Learning Objectives

M 1. Belief in development of whole

self, including a healthy balance of 1. Students will understand the
mental, social/emotional and physical
meaning of self-control.
well-being

B-SMS 2. Demonstrate self-discipline

and self-control 2. Students will identify at
least 2 strategies for
B-SMS 7. Demonstrate effective coping self-control.
skills when faced with a problem
 What is it?

Self-control means being able to resist immediate temptations and avoid acting on impulse
in order to achieve more important goals, such as learning or being kind.

Having self-control helps you in all areas of your life. But it’s especially
important when it comes to socializing. Being in control of your actions and
reactions helps you fit in and make friends.
 What Self-Control May Look Like
Self-control plays out in different ways, depending on the situation and setting we
are in. Here are some examples of what self-control looks like:

In class: Kids wait to be called on instead of blurting out answers. They take time to think
about what the teacher said.

In social groups: Kids handle gentle teasing without bursting into tears. They come up with
better ways of reacting.

In stores: Kids keep from grabbing something they want off the shelf. They ask if they can see it
or touch it.

At recess: Kids wait their turn to use the slide instead of cutting in line. They might decide to
use the swings instead.

At home: They wait until the other person is done talking so that they don’t interrupt
conversations even when they’re dying to say something.
Point at the things you can control
today
What Can We Control?

FOCUS TIME & ENERGY ON
THINGS YOU CAN CHANGE
-Take a list of things you
can do that will help a
situation that you are
worried about. Making
progress toward any of your
goals will ease the tension
felt by other worries.
Self-Control
LET GO OF THINGS YOU
CANNOT CONTROL
-Make a mental note of things
you are currently worrying
about that you cannot control.
Vow to omit the time you think
about those things. Some
people and some things are not
going to change, regardless of
our efforts. Don’t waste time
worrying about those things.
How to
EXPECT THE BEST WITH
POSITIVE THINKING
-Imagine the things that
worry you working out for
the best. Pretend it has
already worked out and try
to feel those feelings. It
can’t hurt to imagine the
best possible scenario
rather than imagining the
worst, which we do so often.
More Strategies for self-control
Activity
 Wrap Up
In this lesson, you learned all about
self-control. You learned what it means, what
happens when we don’t know how to self-control
and what to do to not only self-control but
also manage our anger.

Next, we will wrap-up these lessons by

reviewing everything we have learned about
anger management.
Managing Anger
Lesson 4: Connecting the Dots

By Ms. Joana
School Counseling Intern
 Recap of Previous Lessons
ASCA Student Standards
M 1. Belief in development of
whole self, including a
healthy balance of mental,
social/emotional and physical
well-being
B-SS 9. Demonstrate social
maturity and behaviors
appropriate to the situation
and environment.
Learning Objectives
1. Students will be able to
differentiate between 3 types
of anger.
2. Students will identify
strategies for self-control.
3. Students will be able to
identify coping skills to
self-regulate.
 Types of Anger
Passive Aggression: Open Aggression: Assertive Anger:
Many don’t like to admit Many people have a Assertive anger is a
that they are angry, tendency to lash out in healthy way to deal with
because they don’t like anger and rage, becoming anger by being
confrontation – this is physically or verbally controlled and
called passive aggressive and can confident, talking and
aggression. oftentimes hurt listening, and open to
themselves or others. help in dealing with the
This is called Open situation.
Aggression.
 Coping Skills
Coping skills are ways to deal with negative feelings and
stressful situations in a healthy way.

Examples include:

● Breathing exercises
● Count to 10
● Take a walk
● Stretch your muscles
● Bounce a ball
● Write in a journal
● Squeeze a stress balls
● Talk yourself down
● Play with a pet
● Take a nap
● Exercise
● Listen to music
 Self-COntrol: COntrolling Our Emotions
Self-control means being able to resist immediate temptations and avoid acting on
impulse in order to achieve more important goals, such as learning or being kind.

FOCUS TIME & ENERGY ON

THINGS YOU CAN CHANGE

-Take a list of things you

can do that will help a
situation that you are
worried about. Making
progress toward any of your
goals will ease the tension
felt by other worries.
 Wrapping Up
As you learned in these past lessons, there are different
types of anger that we experience in different settings.

Remember that we all experience anger from time to time, but

it is important to be able to identify when we are
experiencing these feeling and practice coping skills that
can help us self-control.

Now, you all have the tools necessary to manage anger. I

hope you enjoyed these lessons and continue to practice the
activities we did throughout these lessons at home.