HOW TO UNCOVER YOUR PERSONAL VALUES AND

REINVENT YOUR LIFE!

https://blog.iqmatrix.com/transforming-values

There are Two More Types of Values that are Worth Exploring…

Family values.
 What does family really mean to me?
 What does family give me?

Money values.
 What does money really mean to me?
 What does money give me?

Step 1: Discover What You Truly Value in Life

Death as a means to live.

 What would I do if I only had six years to live?
 What would I do if I only had six months to live?
 What would I do if I only had six weeks to live?
 What would I do if I only had six days to live?
 What would I do if I only had six hours to live?
 What would I do if I only had six minutes to live?

Insight. What values stand out?

Patterns. What patterns am I seeing?

People you admire.

 Whom do I admire?
 Why do I admire these people?
 What values stand out?

Sacrifice. How much am I willing to sacrifice to live my values?

 Step 2: Piece Together Your Value Hierarchy

Discovering values. What do I want most in life? What is truly

important right now?

Experience.
 What would this ultimately give me?
 How will that make me feel?

Importance.
 Why is that important to me? Or…
 Why is that feeling important for me?

Meaning. What does this really mean to me?

Feeling. How does this make me feel?

Rules. What causes me to feel this way?

Why. Why is that important?

Next of importance. What’s next most important to me?

Most important value.

 Which of these values is truly the most significant in my life
right now?
 If I could only experience one of these values, which value
would it be?
 Which value is the next most important that I absolutely cannot
live without?

Modeling other people.

 What kind of human being is this person?
  How do they live their life?
 What are some typical choices and decisions that they would
make?
 How would they prioritize their life and circumstances?
 Do I feel comfortable being this person? Why? Why not?

Step 3: Explore Your Moving-Away Values

Moving-away values.
 What feelings do I seek to avoid most?
 What don’t I want to ever experience?
 What next will I seek to avoid most?

Step 4: Run an Ecology Check

Service. Does my moving-toward value hierarchy serve me well?

Alignment with goals. Does it align with the goals I would like to
achieve?

Integration with life’s purpose. Does it integrate into my life’s

purpose?

Consistency with beliefs. Is it consistent with my beliefs and

convictions?

Alignment with ideal. Is it aligned with the kind of person I am

seeking to become?

Six human needs. Does it satisfy all my six human needs at the
highest possible level?

Inner harmony. Does it create inner harmony, fulfillment, and

peace?
Decisions. Does it allow me to make better decisions?

Moving-away values. What about my moving-away values? How do

I feel about them?

Conflict. Do any potential conflicts exist?

Clarify Your Goals

Goals. What would I like to do and achieve in life?

Passion. What are my deepest passions?

Purpose.
 What do I feel is my life’s purpose?
 What kind of person do I seek to become as a result of fulfilling
this purpose?
 What goals would I like to achieve that are aligned with this
purpose and with the kind of person I would like to become?

Importance of goals.
 Which of these goals are most important to me right now? Why?
Pick one or two goals.
 Why do I want to achieve these goals?
 What are my underlying reasons for achieving these goals?

Identify Potential Conflicts

Cultivating values. What values do I truly desire to cultivate and live

each day?

Alignment with goals. Which of these values are aligned with the
goals I would like to achieve?
Alignment with ideal. Which of these values are aligned with the
type of person I would like to become?

Alignment with purpose. Which of these values are aligned with my

life’s purpose?

Compatible with relationships. Which of these values are

compatible with my relationship with my partner?

Compatible with important areas of life. Which of these values are

compatible with other important areas of my life?

Living with values.

 What has to happen for me to live these values each day?
 How could I begin this process starting today?

Organizing the value hierarchy.

 How must I organize my value hierarchy to ensure that there
are no conflicts?
 What values must be eliminated or moved down in my
hierarchy?
 What values must be added or moved to the top of my
hierarchy?
 In what order must I rank my values to clear the path to my
goals?
 What benefits does this order of values provide me with?
 How will this restructuring process benefit me in the short and
long-run?

Cost.
 What is it costing me to hold onto my current values?
 What will it cost me in the long-term?
 What am I potentially likely to miss out on?
  What kind of conflict will I continue to experience as a result of
holding onto these values?
 How will this affect me emotionally, spiritually, financially,
physically, and socially, now and in the future?

How to Remove Moving-Away From Value Conflicts

Rules.
 What needs to happen for me to feel love?
 What needs to happen for me to feel rejected?
 How can I make the experience of love easier to attain?
 How can I make the fear of rejection more difficult to
experience?

Concluding Thoughts

Modeling questions. What would a person with these values choose

to do in this situation?