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Body Language
1. Eye contact
If you want your body language to show you’re listening to another person,
make eye contact. But limit it: An overly aggressive eye lock can be read as
threatening. “When you give more than 80 percent, the person you are
communicating with will feel uncomfortable,” explains Janine Driver, author of
the New York Times best seller You Can’t Lie to Me. Give too little (40 percent
or less) and it can be a sign of deceit. The magic number? 60 percent, or a little
more than half. “Give them eye contact, then slightly glance away.”
Knowing these body language tricks will give you exactly what you want from
life.
2. Crossed arms
Crossing your arms? Others may read that to mean you’re distant, insecure,
anxious, defensive, or stubborn, according to Barbara and Allen Pease in The
Definitive Book of Body Language.
But arm crossing has its pluses, too. Driver points out that it can make someone
better at sticking to a difficult task, citing a study that found adults who crossed
their arms and then were asked hard math questions were 30 percent more
likely to keep trying to solve them than those who kept their hands on a table.
“The act of crossing your arms utilizes both your left and right brain, creating
higher cognitive function,” says Driver.
So the next time you confront someone with a tough question and they cross
their arms, don’t assume you’ve made them mad; they might just be trying to
come up with an answer.
4. Crossed legs
If you sit with your legs crossed, ankle over knee, you’re confident and
dominate, says Driver. Known as “figure four” in body language circles, Driver
says when you sit in this position you’re opening up your “power zone,” or the
nether region. “We have three areas on our body where we open up when we
are stress-free and relaxed: the neck dimple, belly button, and ‘naughty bits,’”
she says. It’s a predominantly male movement but Driver says women are
beginning to sit like this more and more.
Crossing your legs at the ankles while seated is known as the “ankle lock” and
can mean you’re holding back, uncertain, or fearful, making it common in
interview situations.
And ladies, if you want to appeal to a man, cross your legs at the knees.
According to the Peases, men voted this their favorite position for seated
women.
7. Smiling often
Making a habit out of smiling and laughing during conversations and
interactions with other people can result in positive outcomes. When smiling at
another person, you can increasingly improve relationships. “Evidence shows
the conclusively that smiles and laughter build the immune system, defend the
body against illness and disease, medicate the body, sell ideas, teach better,
attract more friends, and extend life,” say the Peases. In their book, they say
that this is part of the reason being funny or having the ability to make others
laugh can be found attractive by so many people.