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our first child is born, the partner who makes less money will quit his or her job and stay home with the
child. Well now, that s an interesting way to decide who will do the childcare!
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Steve: Yeah, its unusual, but it really makes sense. We definitely want someone home with our kids ...
Karen: Oh yeah.
Steve: ... and if Karen is the main breadwinner at that point, why should she stop working? It'll be better
for all of us if I stay home.
Karen: Yeah. And the reason that we put in so many rules about money is that, in our experience, a lot of
problems are caused by arguments about money.
Steve: Oh yeah.
Karen: So we decided to make a budget every year. And we put that in the contract, too.
Host: Hmm, well, I'm curious, do you spend a lot of lime checking up on each other to see if the rules are
being followed?
Karen: No, not at all. And we don't argue about them, either.
Steve: No. As a matter of fact, I think we spend less time arguing than most couples because we both
know what the other person expects.
Karen: Yeah, and we can spend our time doing things we enjoy and just being with each other.
Host: What happens if one of you breaks a rule?
Steve: So far, that hasn't been a problem.
Karen: No. Hasn't happened.
Steve: Because weVc agreed on them already.
Host: But what if, say... alright, here it says Karen will cook the meals …” What if you don’t want to
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Host: Tm curious, do you spend a lot of time checking up on each other to see if the rules are being
followed?
Karen: No, not at all. And we don't argue about them, either.
Steve: No. As a matter of fact, I think we spend less time arguing than most couples because we both
know what the other person expects.
Karen: Yeah, and we can spend our time doing things wc enjoy and just being with each other.
Caller 3: Well I think it's a great idea! You know what? I bet there'd be a lot fewer divorces if eve^one did
this. Most couples don't know how to open up and talk about their problems. We've all seen it, right?
They let small things bother them and they may or may not say anything at the time, and then they finally
blow up and have a big fight. And then the problem gets worse 'cause they don't know how to say rm w
sorry afterwards. I think a contract like this could be a really helpful way to teach couples how to talk
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give him a divorce for that, would he? No way! So, legally, this contract is just a bunch of words. It has
no power.
Caller 5: Yeah. I know a lot of people might think that this contract idea is crazy, but 1 think ... I think it
could be useful to help couples decide if they really SHOULD get married. I mean, a lot of couples, when
they get married they do it, you know, because they're all in love with the other person and so on. But
they don't look carefully at who the person is, really. I mean, they rush into things without thinking. And I
think this contract would make both people think a lot more carefully about their expectations and, you
know if marriage is the right thing to do.