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Saviuc
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15 Things You Should Give Up
to Be Happy Life has love at its core. Embrace
love, and choose to experience joy.
An Inspiring Guide to Discovering Effortless Joy
Luminita D. Saviuc
Perigee, 2016
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Rating Recommendation
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8 Applicability Human nature has love at its core. Despite incidents when you have been harmed in
8 Innovation your mind or body, you can start over. Luminita D. Saviuc draws on her experiences to
suggest that you embrace love, let bygones be bygones and make every new day the
8 Style
first of a new life. getAbstract recommends her overly earnest but fundamentally
sound manual to those looking for ways to improve their life.
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Take-Aways
• You must give up 15 things to find happiness. Start with giving up the past, your
fears, limiting beliefs, excuses, resistance to change, blaming, complaining and
criticizing.
• And then relinquish other people’s expectations, defeatist self-talk, control, being
right, impressing or labeling others, and clinging to attachments.
• Once you conclude that you have had enough pain and suffering, you can have a
more fulfilling and fruitful life.
• Forgive what lies behind you, and appreciate what lies ahead.
• The person who gets most out of forgiving is the forgiver.
• Complaining encourages the illusion that your life cannot change unless the
outside world changes significantly.
• Wanting life to turn out exactly as you wish creates the potential for unhappiness.
• Happiness requires you to stop fixating on the past.
• The way you think and what you believe shapes your life.
• If you think positively, no matter how poorly life treats you, you can use every
opportunity to elevate yourself.
Summary
A Horrifying Experience
“The only salvation I
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ever needed was from Luminita D. Saviuc had a dreadful experience as a child. She confessed to her father
my own toxic thoughts that she had stolen some sweets – though she had not done so and was confessing only
and from my own self.” to shield her siblings. Her father put paper between her toes, doused it with gasoline
and set it on fire. She couldn’t walk properly for months.
She decided to recount this incident for one reason: For many years before she revealed
“It’s never too late to what she had endured, people told her that her ideas for helping others wouldn’t work
start all over. It’s never for people who’d suffered a troubled childhood.
too late to claim your
right to life and to She wanted to show that her ideas were effective for her despite her traumatic history.
happiness.” She lived with an alcoholic, abusive father for more than a decade. She never received
“love and nourishment” as a child. She had no confidence because she believed “self-
worth” came from wealth, which she lacked. She lived in badly maintained,
overcrowded orphanages with negligent supervisors. She faced ridicule as a teenager.
“Who you are Saviuc isn’t seeking sympathy. She wants to show that an awful past doesn’t determine
underneath it all knows your future. She says the past is the first of the 15 things you must give up to be happy.
no limits, no fear and no
limitations.” Here’s the list:
The moment you conclude – as Saviuc did – that you’ve had enough pain and suffering,
you can begin working toward a more fulfilling, fruitful life. Learn to let go. Commit to
“Happiness can never
come from attachment forgiving what lies behind you and appreciating what lies ahead. You can work toward
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to transitory things. It great happiness if you make a promise to yourself to stop fixating on the past. Instead,
can only come from make the most of the present.
letting go.”
If you push to make life to turn out exactly as you wish, you are creating the potential
for unhappiness. Learn to think in ways that enliven you and don’t bring you down. If
life was painful in the past, use your energy to try to heal yourself. Try to accept what
“We are creatures of happened and what you confront in the present. Only with acceptance can you create a
habit. Most of us live our new, hopeful tomorrow.
lives on autopilot,
allowing our old People think that the moment you choose to forgive someone who harmed you, that
programming, our past person gains from your generosity. In actual practice, the person who gets most out of
fears, excuses and forgiveness is the forgiver. Forgiveness allows you to achieve peace and
limitations, to run, craft
tranquility.
and shape our lives.”
Don’t concentrate only on what went wrong. Seek what you can learn from your
experiences. Look for the positive instead of the negative. Feel gratitude toward those
who treated you shabbily. They have shown you how not to act. When you start
“We have around acknowledging life without reservation, life in turn will accept you.
60,000 thoughts per day
and…most of these
thoughts are negative.” 2. “Give Up Your Fears”
To experience joy and embrace your life, discard fear. You have a limited amount of
time to live. Just before you die, you will realize what you really value. You will
recognize that only love matters and that fear has no substance. But you don’t need to
“There is no peace in wait until death to gain this insight. Every day, you can leave behind yesterday’s
pointing the finger and fantasies and create a more vibrant life. You can abandon the things you feared and fill
making others your life with affection and happiness. You can give up what no longer benefits you and
responsible for how you reaffirm your ability to love. Strive to see the world as a child does. Examine the world
feel and for what your with curiosity and affection. You will find that fear exists only in the future or in the
life looks like.” past. Stay in the present.
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“Complaining, just like Legendary musician John Lennon said that life has two “basic motivating forces, fear
blaming and criticizing, and love.” All other feelings are subcategories of those two emotions. With love, you
sucks us dry. It… experience happiness, delight, satisfaction and peace. With fear, you feel anxious, sad,
continues to feed this depressed and tired. Love and fear can’t coexist. Discard fear and use love to navigate
false idea that our lives your life.
will never get better
until outside circum-
stances start to change.” 3. “Give Up Your Limiting Beliefs”
You shape your life based on the way you think and what you believe. If pessimism and
despair dominate your mind-set, your life will follow a similar pattern. If you believe
yourself unworthy of better things, life will treat you accordingly. You fashion your life
“The use of labels creates as it exists with your thoughts. You can change your life using the same technique. By
a veil in front of our altering your patterns of thinking and what you choose to say, you can change aspects
eyes, impairing our of your life.
sight and causing us to
see the world as either
4. “Give Up Your Excuses”
black or white, good or
bad, rich or poor, You might find that instead of doing things you want to do, you look for reasons why
worthy or unworthy, you shouldn’t try them. Are you sure these perceptions about yourself and your
and then treat everyone capabilities are valid? Examine why you think you can’t do something. Replace those
according to the values reasons with arguments that will help you concentrate on why you can achieve a goal.
we give to each label. Do something every day to help you move toward your objective. Don’t agonize about
the exact steps to take. Concentrate on your destination and why getting there is
important. Leave the rest to life itself.
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Being alive requires change. If you fight change, you won’t experience life. Understand
“Your past doesn’t have yourself and then you can appreciate yourself. Strive to comprehend how you see
to equal your future,
change and why you try to avoid it. Consider the benefits you gain from embracing
unless you want it to.”
change, rather than thinking about potential bad outcomes. Suffering comes from
resisting change, rather than from change itself.
Make a list of all the things for which you’d like other people to accept responsibility
and the reasons why. Pardon them all for their failures, and start doing what you want.
Make space in your heart for affection and tranquility.
7. “Give Up Complaining”
Complaining makes you feel deprived. It encourages the illusion that your life can’t
change unless the outside world changes significantly. Trust that your perception of the
world depends on how you feel internally. Try to understand why you need to
complain. Once you have that insight, you can abandon complaining and move to a
state of inner contentment.
Instead, bring your energy to the effort to add tranquility to your life. That will build
your ability to forgive the people, incidents and places that have brought you pain.
When you stop evaluating yourself negatively, you gain the ability to see the rest of
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Instead, trust in life’s wisdom to give you what you need. Don’t accept every dark
possibility that comes to mind. Look to your inner wisdom. Tend yourself as you’d take
care of a plant in your garden. Consider your goals as if they are seeds. Spread them
widely, provide the right moisture and leave the rest to life. Do what you need to do,
and let life take its own course.
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If you always push to prove the superiority of your viewpoint, you can harm your
friendships and undermine the way others feel about themselves. Try to view
everything in its proper perspective.
The Earth belongs to you and everyone else on it. No one has any special merit that
entitles him or her to more than anyone else. Some people may know more than others.
Some have more wealth. That doesn’t mean you should treat them in a special way. It
just means that they have lived in different environments and have faced different
circumstances. Stop categorizing. Treat everyone equally.
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these thoughts harmed her, she turned her back on them. Today, she no longer fights
the past. She made peace with it so she could open herself to the promise of the
present.
Human nature has love at its core. As you age, you add layers of “societal conditioning”
that mask your identity. You begin to experience life through a prism that highlights
fear and gloom. Despite incidents during which you have been harmed either in mind
or body, you can choose to start over. Embrace love, let bygones be bygones, and
choose to experience joy once again.
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