Professional Documents
Culture Documents
Amanda Deyette
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Letter of introduction
On behalf of your child I would like to say ‘Thank you’ for taking an interest in
their education and wellbeing. The information in this guidebook is designed to help you
prepare for an Individualized Education Plan (IEP) meeting by reflecting on the hopes and
asked questions in relation to IEP’s, the rights of a child and the rights that you have as a
parent. As a parent you are the voice for your child. You have the right to ask questions,
ask for another perspective and to be fully involved in the decisions made by the
educational platform. When your child’s voice can not be heard, you are their voice.
regarding different subjects to make the education process fun and enjoyable for you and
your family.
We hope the information provided throughout the guide will help develop a
supportive relationship between your child’s educational team and yourself. Welcome to
the team.
Index:
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Table of Contents
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What kind of services are available? Can my child qualify for all services?
There are many services that are available and depending on the need of your child specific
services will be recommended. Examples of services that may be beneficial to your child
are:
• Extra time during exams • Use of technology
• Noise reduction headphones • An SCC during class
• Quiet space for work • Sensory related tools
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Are IEPs important to have?
If your child is having difficulties IEPs are important.
They focus on the strengths of your child and
measurable goals are determined with recommended
accommodations/ modifications to ensure progress in
your child’s learning environment.
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An IEP is broken into three main steps, the need, goal and objectives. The need is usually
a priority in one of the levels based on Abraham Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs
(physiological, security, love and me belonging, esteem and self-actualization). Goals and
objectives will help keep the focus on the desired outcome. The steps are broken down to
explain what will happen to reach the desired goal.
Needs:
• Based on the child’s struggles or difficulties
• Based on the idea that each behavior serves a purpose
• Written as: verb + behavior wished to be modified
Goals:
• Must be written for the client https://www.simplypsychology.org/maslow.html
• Must be written in a positive manner
• The focus is what you want the person to accomplish
• Aims at increasing, maintaining or diminishing a behavior
• Normally a year period time frame
• Written as (name + verb in future tense + desired behavior)
Objectives:
• Broken down steps to reach the
goal
• Shorter time frame, approximately
3 months
• Very specific
• Derived from the goals (short /
long term)
• Results are observable through
• Written as (name + action verb in
future tense + success indicator)
• SMART
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Systematic view
Adopting a systematic view during an IEP means taking into consideration all the factors
that are likely to influence your child’s learning. The four factors to consider are:
individual, family, social and everything school related (Education Quebec). The level of
interactions between the factors has an impact of the learning your child will experience.
Family: studies has shown that family dynamics and their level of contribution has a
positive impact on your child’s learning. By understanding the family life, the
multidisciplinary team can adjust and support the student/parents by recommending
community-based services if needed.
Social: Having knowledge of services that are offered in the community for your child or
yourself (ex: support groups) could have a positive impact on helping your child obtain
their objectives.
School related: Understanding the relationship between your child and the teachers may
increase or decrease the level of stress and learning opportunities for your child. Being
aware of the school environment and making sure they are aware of your child learning
style will help the educators adapt to your child’s needs.
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Systematic View Questionnaire
To understand the systematic factors in your child’s environment, we
provided you a questionnaire to reflect on. Use this space to write
questions, concerns or gather information to have a visual representation
of the environment that surrounds your child.
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What do I know about the school environment of my child?
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Systematic View questionnaire for my child
Perspectives differ from one person to another and sometimes its
interesting to get the point of view of others to get a full understanding
of the world around them. If possible, we encourage you to ask these
questions to your child and compare them with your answers.
Depending on the age and level of comprehensibility of your child you
may have to change the wording. You will be surprised with what you
can learn from your child. Use this information to express your opinions
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and concerns during the IEP meeting. answer-most-difficult-interview-questions/
What are the subjects you have most difficulties with? Why?
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What are your opinions on how we help you with your homework?
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How would you feel about meeting new people who are specialized in the
subjects you are having difficulties with?
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Who are you favorite teachers and why?
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Are there any adults in your school that you do not like or feel comfortable
with? Why?
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How can we support you when you need help? Agenda? Schedules?
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This is Normal
As a parent you want the best for your child and are willing to do whatever possible to help
your child succeed. From the moment you found out that you were having a child you begin
to imagine the future as a family and the process of planning for their future begins. This
is normal.
As your child grows and develops you notice that your child is acting different from peers
their own age. You might have shrugged it off
believing that all children behave and develops at
different levels or you might have made an
appointment with the pediatrician. Both
solutions are normal.
When you found out the development of your child
is not at par with his peers and testing was
recommended the feelings you felt were normal.
Once the testing was complete and you were told the
diagnosis of your child you might have been
overwhelmed with emotions and burdened yourself
with thoughts and questions. This is normal.
As your child grew and continues to grow did you
experience frustrations throughout the day towards
yourself, your child and the environment? Do you
feel that you need to be strong for your family? Does
many of your questions begin with the word WHY?
This is normal. https://www.counselingrecovery.com/
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Stages of Grief: Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
Elisabeth Kubler-Ross (1926-
2004), a Swiss- American
psychiatrist, was best known for
discovery of the 5 stages of grief,
which later was better known as the
‘Kubler-Ross model’. The Kubler
Ross model was first discussed in
detail in her internationally best-
selling book in 1969 titles ‘On Death
and Dying’. Kubler-Ross had a
difficult childhood from the start
being a triplet weighing a little over
2 pounds at birth, she developed a passion for the medical profession in her mid teens with
much resistance from her father. At the age of 16 she left the family home and worked a
series of jobs which brought her to volunteer working in hospitals and helping refugees
during World War II. When the war ended, she volunteered to work in communities who
was severely affected by the war. The artwork of butterflies carved onto the walls at
Maidanek concentration camp located in Poland, signifies those who were facing death.
The artwork influenced her studies and her choices throughout her life.
In 1962 she moved to the United states with her husband to teach at the University of
Colorado Medical school. Upon verifying the curriculum, she was surprised to find no
information regarding death and dying. It was one day with her class that a 16-year-old
client with Leukemia lashed out in anger that everybody was asking medical questions,
and nobody was asking about her personal life. This was a curiosity starter for Kubler-
Ross.
In 1965 she moved to Chicago to accept a position at the University of Chicago’s medical
school. A project began with theology students involving seminars and interviews with
individuals who are dying. In 1969, Kubler-Ross wrote ‘On death and Dying’ by using the
information gathered in the interviews and research to identify the 5 sages of grief that
people experience: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance.
Throughout her life Kubler-Ross published over 20 books and in 1977 she funded an
educational retreat called Shanti-Nilaya located in California. Around the same date period
she opened the Kubler-Ross Center to help patients with AIDS.
In 1995, after a series of strokes that left her partially paralyzed in a wheelchair she retired
to Arizona. In 2002, she moved to hospice care and peacefully died of natural causes with
the love of family and friends by her side on August 24, 2004. The National Women’s Hall
of Fame inducted her for her research on grief and grieving in 2007 (Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
Biography).
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The five stages are natural responses to grief and loss,
it is important to remember that everyone is different,
and no two reactions are the same. The stages are just
a pathway to help you identify your emotions and
possibly help you cope with life. There are no
prescribed order or time frame of the stages and its
https://preciousjourneygifts.ie/what-are-the- ok to go back and forth from one stage to another.
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Bargaining: The feeling of guilt is often related to the bargaining stage; you feel guilty
and begin the ‘if I only…’questions. You begin negotiating with a higher power or the pain
that you feel. Its difficult to advance in life because you feel that you can do more by
searching for answers.
Depression: Once in the present moment you begin to feel empty and alone on the inside.
You hide your feelings and your disappointments. You might push people aside thinking
they don’t understand what you’re going through. You eventually realize that things are
going to be different and you begin to find joy in your daily life. This is an important step
in the healing process.
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Self care: Reflection
Taking care of your family is probably on the top of your
priority list and having a child with special needs takes a lot
of preparation and planning. Finding the balance act
between the different roles that you play as a parent,
professional and an individual is often difficult which
normally results in your own self care put aside.
Self care is important to be able to fully give to those around
you. The family will survive for a brief period if you are not
there. It might seem that they cannot, but they will figure it
out. We encourage you to put an X next to the appropriate
box that you can relate to and use the box to add additional
information. Take the time to read the 7 pillars of self care to have a better understanding
on what you can do for yourself.
I am a:
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7 Pillars of Self Care
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Knowledge and health literacy: researching and wanting to learn about living a
healthy lifestyle, not listening and depending on others for information.
Mental Wellbeing: not scared of asking for help from a friend, co worker or professional
when you need it or using tools and strategies to improve your self esteem, satisfaction and
optimism.
Physical activity: finding some time during your day for some physical activity whether
going to the gym, walking the dog or putting on your favorite tune and having a dance
party.
Healthy eating: being aware of the foods you ingest will play a role in your over all
wellbeing in the present moment but also for the future. Make the right choice for you and
do not hesitate to do some reading or research vitamins, organic foods or new recipes is a
way to self care by being mindful what you put into your body.
Risk avoidance and mitigation: limit or avoid substances such as alcohol, drugs and
tobacco as well as toxic substances that you put on your skin (sunscreen, insect repellent).
By avoiding situations that make you uncomfortable and anxious you are showing yourself
that you matter and showing yourself self care.
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I Am Important
Are you wondering why information regarding self care, grief and questions about you as
well as your child is in this book? Any ideas? Take a few minutes to reflect and write down
your answers in the space provided below:
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An important part of being the voice of your child in the IEP process and their personal
life is self reflection. We are obligated by society to play by rules and norms depending on
the roles that we play. You, as a parent, fight for the right for your child to have the best
education, tools, strategies and resources available to make the learning process easier. If
you are tired or feel alone in the process how are you going to always give your 100% to
be the voice of your child? We have listed some questions for you to reflect on.
• Have you thought about your own personal needs, care and opinions?
• Your child counts on you to help them when they are down or has hurt themselves,
who do you count on?
• Do you feel that you have someone to count on?
• Who’s your life support?
• Are some days harder than others?
• Do you sometimes ask questions related to guilt or your parenting styles?
What are some questions that you ask yourself?
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We want you to know that we are here for you and these questions are normal. YOU as an
individual are important. You are more than a parent with a child who has a diagnosis. Its
essential for you to have a support system and to know that its ok to have off days and to
be sad.
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