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Sexual Timing:: The "Missing" Ingredient
Sexual Timing:: The "Missing" Ingredient
Sexual Timing:
The “missing” ingredient
Hi James,
Back home, we use to have sex and make love all the
time, no fuss. Since I arrived here, I have been going
back and forth a few times for vacation, we still had
good sex. Since I have been back in October last year,
I noticed a slight change.
While I was out, she has been very busy with in our
in-laws, work, night classes, gym, etc. We spoke last
week and she told me that she has just lost interest in
sex totally.
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Hey [C]
Interesting situation.
What kind of female is she (i.e., shy, full-of-energy, lazy, happy, depressed, not many
friends, confident, dominate, bitchy etc)?
What do you think makes her so special? What is she passionate about?
What does she complain about? (as far as the relationship or life in
general, or you)(other than god and sex talk)
Is there something else that she said that really stood out?
How did you meet her? And what was it that made her go crazy over you (fall in love)
initially?
Was there a special move you put on her? (or did she initiate the contact)
Warmly,
CR James
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Hi James,
5. What really stood out from what she said is that she
is frigid now.
Also, at the time when I called her, I told her then she
is coming, to pack the sexy outfit I always liked
seeing her with in her bag, to maybe relive our hot
times. She told me-" I’m coming up, I have so much to
do, I have to study for exams in May, I have to get
things together before I leave, sell stuff, etc and
you want me to pack a stupid outfit, for what, for
sex? I cannot think of sex right now. I have too much
to do before I come up to you. I’m very cold to it
now. Why God invented it? Why? Just like that, for
someone to be thrusting in and out of me like
that? That’s sick!!"
WELL, WHEN I FIRST MET HER WAY BACK, SHE WAS TALKING
ABOUT IT LIKE THAT, EXACTLY. IT'S LIKE HISTORY
REPEATING ITSELF, OR MAYBE SHE HASN'T SEEN ME FOR 8
MONTHS...
[C]
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Hey [C]
As far as her anger towards sex, I wouldn't take it as her natural views.
Because what some guys naturally do is ask the woman things like 'Why do you feel God
shouldn't have creating it?' or 'Why do you feel that a guy thrusting in and out of you is
bad' and other questions like that. And all that does is keep her in that mind state longer...
A good way to look at it is by thinking of all women as having a percentage of time when
she is receptive for sex talk AND non-receptive for sex talk...
So 30% of the time she could be receptive AND 70% she could be non-receptive
When you identify the non-receptive time, it will make a lot of sense to just back off...
22% of the time she is receptive to sex talk (or discussions of sex)... THEN over time
15% of the time she is receptive to sex talk (or discussions of sex)... THEN over time
7% of the time she is receptive to sex talk (or discussions of sex)... THEN over time
You could literally (and some guys have done this unintentionally) program her into
hating sex with you – or with any guy!
Timing is important.
When a woman is saying bizarre things like that (i.e. Why did God create sex?), just take
it as an indication that now is a bad time for sex talk…
(Let’s face it - it’s possible for a woman to get to the point where she is body-shaking
cumming like crazy!)
And NEVER take it as her true feelings - even though she may sound very convincing...
Even though she may think she will always feel that way...
(As long as she has a brain that allows her to absorb your words and nerve endings in her
body, she can reach orgasmic levels she never knew existed!)
It's kind of like being at a funeral, and all of sudden your favorite comedian enters the
church and starts telling jokes... Chances are they won't be funny...And in your 'time of
stress' you might say something like 'That guy is a moron. He’s actually not funny at all.
All comedians are jerks in their own way... Who was the idiot who invented stand-up
comedy’ and so on...
But a few days later -- when you are in a better frame of mind -- you may watch the
comedian perform again, and laugh like crazy...
STEP 2: Build you value (all the tactics and stuff scattered
through the ebooks and reports)
STEP 3: Build the sexual tension (all the tactics and stuff
scattered through the ebooks and reports) - In most cases,
building your sexual value creates the tension automatically -
especially if she 'feels' the change...
STEP 4: Introduce the topic of sex slowly (if you are uncertain
of her mind state) then gradually increase it to the point where
the initiation is obvious (not as calculated).... (it's no
different then having sex. Unless she is extremely horny, the
average sensible guy won’t just ram his penis in her and start
plowing away fast and hard from the very beginning - so it's a
good idea to take the exact same approach when getting her open
to the idea of sex -- if you are talking that kind of approach
[Direct Conversation-Driven Sexual Tension Building] -- introduce
the topic/idea of sex slowly and build the conversation about
it.)
Your case is a little unique b/c when she is far away and you can't really ‘measure’ her
mind state at the time she receives your letter or email...
Plus not seeing her and being with her doesn't give you the same 'full' understanding of
her experiences and what she is going through as if you were with her...
There have been times when I sent my fiancé a sexy email while she was at work and
nothing happened... and it some cases, it appeared to actually piss her off...
On the other hand, I’ve sent emails that had her hot and horny throughout the whole day
to the point where she couldn't think of anything else...to the point where that was the
only thing on her mind - having wild sex...
So the formula to creating a horny woman via email is NOT what the message says
(directly)...
The formula is sending the email that cheers her up (non-sexual) or identifying a pre-
existing happy mode and then sending a value building (if necc.) and then the sexy
email... [Steps 1 through 4 from above]
So it's good to look at it as a time-focused strategic process of sending Lust Signals (or
signals that cause a very predictable emotional response)...
The issue IS NOT her being a woman that doesn't have the biological capabilities to
enjoy sex like every woman on earth to the point where she is angry with God about why
it is exists...
The issue IS not knowing the potentially sexual-value decreasing affects of non-strategic
TIMING...
So again whenever a woman is in one these crazy ass irrational moods, it's best to move
the subject to something else (affecting the percentages) and/or communicating to her in
some way that her feelings are limited to her current feelings (NOT how she always
feels)
'Oh honey, I understand if thinking of sex RIGHT NOW is a bad idea. After all you've
been working hard and this and that is going on...'
So you say something that has an 'element of understanding' (empathizing with her -
showing her that you understand her emotions) which she'll accept because that's
obviously her primary focus at the time BUT it also gets her to accept that her views are
limited (time-based) to her current mode....which is VERY VERY IMPORTANT
because the last thing you want is for the woman to program herself into believing she
actually hates sex - to the point where she begins to feel this way all of time... in which
case, you have to start an approach of reminding her of times when she has proven that at
the RIGHT TIME she can enjoy sex...
She has the memories to prove that at the RIGHT TIME she can enjoy sex.
Warmly
CR James
SuperHappySex.com
LustSignals.com
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Hi James,
[C]