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10 LIFE
LESSONS I
LEARNED
FROM
SURVIVING MY
20S
March 6, 2014 • 13 minute
read • by Mark Manson
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n my 20th
birthday, I got
drunk and peed
on some old ladies’ front
lawn. A cop saw me and
stopped me. Fortunately, I
talked my way out of going
to jail that night. I already
had an arrest record, but
he didn’t bother to check.
My 20s started out with a
bang.
2. YOU CAN’T
FORCE
FRIENDSHIPS
There are two types of friends in
life: the kind that when you go
away for a long time and come
back, it feels like nothing’s
changed, and the kind that when
you go away for a long time and
come back, it feels like
everything’s changed.
3. YOU’RE NOT
SUPPOSED TO
ACCOMPLISH ALL
OF YOUR GOALS
Spending the first two decades of
our life in school conditions us to
have an intense results-oriented
focus about everything. You set
out to do X, Y or Z and either
you accomplish them or you
don’t. If you do, you’re great. If
you don’t, you fail.
4. NO ONE
ACTUALLY KNOWS
WHAT THE HELL
THEY’RE DOING
There’s a lot of pressure on kids
in high school and college to
know exactly what they’re doing
with their lives. It starts with
choosing and getting into a
university. Then it becomes
choosing a career and landing
that first job. Then it becomes
having a clear path to climb up
that career ladder, getting as
close to the top as possible. Then
it’s getting married and having
kids. If at any point you don’t
know what you’re doing or you
get distracted or fail a few times,
you’re made to feel as if you’re
screwing up your entire life and
you’re destined for a life of
panhandling and drinking vodka
on park benches at 8AM.
5. MOST PEOPLE
IN THE WORLD
BASICALLY WANT
THE SAME THINGS.
In hindsight, I’ve had a pretty
rollicking 20s. I started a
business in a bizarre industry
that took me to some interesting
places and allowed me to meet
interesting people. I’ve been all
over the world, having spent
time in over 50 countries. I’ve
learned a few languages, and
rubbed elbows with some of the
rich and famous and the poor
and downtrodden, in both the
first and third worlds.
6. THE WORLD
DOESN’T CARE
ABOUT YOU
The thought that is so
frightening at first glance — “No
one cares about me!?” —
becomes so liberating when one
actually processes its true
meaning. As David Foster
Wallace put it, “You’ll stop
worrying what others think about
you when you realize how
seldom they do.”
7. POP CULTURE IS
FULL OF
EXTREMES,
PRACTICE
MODERATION
8. THE SUM OF
THE LITTLE
THINGS MATTER
MUCH MORE
THAN THE BIG