Breakup of an intimate relationship and

9 best stratgies to cope with it .

I personally had a breakup after two and half years relationship.A few days before our breakup,I bought
a plane ticket for him so he could visit his family because he had not seen them for a while.when he
left,a few days later,he said that he was going to stay there for some more time.After a month ,he
phoned me while I was at work in Seekcapital buisness company, saying he is not coming back.At that
time and afterwards i went through deep feelings of hurt and dissappointment but eventually
acceccpted it.Then I came by an idea to share my feelings and stratgies that I adopted to cope with this
whole mental stress with people out there

The intimate relationships are marked by speculation of resources such as shared interests,
professions,friends, cultures ,dialects and self disclosures.with the passage of time there is more
exchange of activities,knowledge and memories.All these resources which we invest in developing an
intimate and longterm relationship arise as major barriers to surmount while ending a relationship and
following psychological adjustment.Naturally,individuals who had dated their partners for short time
experienced less distress than those who developed a longterm relationship.

After the end of an intimate relationship a person is overwhelmed with disappointment,sadness and
constant craving for their lost it makes the person obssessive about that relationship which is associated
with even more distress and may lead to major depression.people experience feelings of hurt,frustration
and loneliness,trouble sleeping and intrusive thoughts.

9 best strategies to cope with breakup:

1)Start thinking about annoying aspects of your ex:

In a study by brenner and vogel ,it revealed that people have tendency to recall positive and negative
thoughts involving their previous relatioship and those people who had more positively valenced
thoughts about their previous relationship experienced great loss of self concept and negative
postdissolution adjustment compared to those who had more negative valenced thoughts about their ex
relationship.so,in context of ex relationships positve valanced thoughts are more harmful to mental
wellbeing as compared to negative valanced thoughts.So spend more time on thinking about annoying
qualities of your ex and com to see that there is a better match for you out there.

2)Put your feelings in writing:

Research has established that .Expressive writing is a well suited intervention to cope with
breakup.when we write about the positive aspects of breakup it gives us an internal feeling of self
comfort ,confidence ,happiness ,empowerment ,optimism and leads to decrease in negative
outcomes.so it is best recommended to do journaling to cope with intense emotions postdissolution.

3)Speak up about your feelings:

Dont keep your feelings to yourself and let them go.Talking about your feelings is an equally effective
tool to mange them.Always talk to your supportive friends and family members,it will make you feel
comfortabe and relieve your pain.It is always advised not to isolate yourself after the end of a
relationship as it makes the condtion worse.

4)Dont blame yourself:

Though it is natural to blame yourself postdissolution but always try to not let it in and understand
personalizing the loss will let you nowhere.No one goes into a relationship to get it fail instead there are
conflicting needs that take it to end which is no one's fault.

5)Dont compromise your self care:

Try to make a healthy routine and ensure that your bsic needs are being met.Sleep well and Eat a
healthy diet which includes fruits,vegetables and fiber and exercise daily as it lessens the stress and
makes you feel better.

6)Think about the positive aspects of being single:

It is recommrnded that think about the positive outcomes after a breakup instead of getting
overwhelmed by negative thoughts as it will make you fee better.Now you can priortize your own
needs,you can do travelling,eat what you want and spend more time with family and friends.

7)Keep yourself busy:

Being busy helps you distract from negative emotions postbreakup and helps in forgetting things.now
you can feel in a healthy way to divert your focus

8)Stay away from unhealthy stratgies :

To cope with breakup a person becomes very vulnerable to unhealthy lifestyles which can cause self
harm and are unhelpful.So always avoid drugs,overeating and temptation to take revenge as it makes
you out of control and results in adverse consequences

9)Don't lose trust in relationships:

Although a person feels very hurt postdissolution and it is easy to assume that all people are decietful
and can not be trusted but always keep in mind that believing in this way deprives you of opportunities
for a great relationship in future so always think positive and remain optimistic