Marriage

is not just
lust,
and the woman
is not merely
pleasure and
enjoyment

by Shaikh Abdul-Aziz ibn Abdul Allah Aal-Shaikh

Head of the committee of the Major Scholars
and the Permanent Committee
for Islamic Research and Fatawa

Source: Published in Saheefatul-Madeenah

6 Rajjab 1428 issue no: 16158

Translated by Shawana A. Aziz

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Some Muslims maintain a wrong perception of
marriage - a perception which is far from its true and
real purpose.
Some look at it as merely fulfilling desires! - and
thus, although they may have implemented the legal
contract, their intention with the marriage is not stability
or commitment.
(So) he marries her with the intention to divorce her - i.e., within
himself he marries for a specific period. Although he may not
disclose it but he is marrying her because of his desire for her and
not for the sake of contentment with her. He considers her as (an
object of) mere lust and therefore he is always at the verge of
separating from her and bringing someone else.
So, he is a husband but within himself he also holds the
intention to divorce and he only wants to fulfill his pleasure from
the woman - This (act) is being dishonest with the woman, it is
deceiving and misleading her.

If a man was to propose his daughter or sister and he knew that the
man had no other purpose other than this (i.e., to fulfill his desires),
he would not allow the man to marry her- but he does what he
wants with the daughters of others - this is betrayal, cheating and
deception.
It is for this reason that Islam had prohibited Mut’ah
marriages (temporary marriages), which is a predetermined
marriage for an agreed upon set number of days. Such marriage
were prohibited due the immorality/corruption it contains.

What one does not like for his daughters,

he should not like it
for the daughters of other Muslims.
Some travel to places for the sake of a predetermined marriage for
specific days or months and deem it to be a contract. They take
such matters easy and so fall into sin.
There are those who marry a number of women before the
Eddah (waiting period) ends. So he marries more than ten women
in the same month without any concern for the (rulings and
conditions of the) Sharee'ah contract.

A Muslim should have prudence (and be mindful of the harms that

result from his actions). He should not aim to fulfill his desires
through ways that are against the Sharee'ah. He must discipline
himself with Islamic manners, and look at the daughters of other
Muslims with the same (respect and regard with which) he looks at
his own daughters and sisters. He must respect people's honor.
(It is ironic that) he does not restrict himself from harming
the daughters of others and does not bide by the Sharee'ah
principles - while he is not pleased if someone else does the same
with his daughters Why such inconsistency? Where is the justice
and integrity?
… … these are dangerous matters and a Muslim must not fall into
it.

Those who travel and marry against the system and fall into sin,
perhaps abandon their wives and do not return to them after she
has conceived and given birth to his offspring. This puts the
Muslim generation into danger! Some of them take easy (the
responsibility of having a) wife and children and thus big troubles
result from such deceitful marriage.