Title:

What Does It Mean To �Self Improve?�

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716

Summary:
Self Improvement has become mainstream. In the last few years, since I have been
writing articles and submitting them to article sites, I�ve noticed that the
category of �Self Improvement� has been showing up lately when it was never there
before. To me, this is very good news.

But what does it really mean to �Self Improve?� What are we really improving when
we self improve? And what �self� are we improving?

We each have two �selves� � our wounded self and our core Self...

Keywords:
self improvement, self help, personal growth, motivation, emotional healing

Article Body:
Self Improvement has become mainstream. In the last few years, since I have been
writing articles and submitting them to article sites, I�ve noticed that the
category of �Self Improvement� has been showing up lately when it was never there
before. To me, this is very good news.

But what does it really mean to �Self Improve?� What are we really improving when
we self improve? And what �self� are we improving?

We each have two �selves� � our wounded self and our core Self. Our core Self is
our true self, our natural soul self � our essence. Our core Self is our passion,
our joy, our gifts and talents, our ability to love, our creativity. We come into
this life as our core Self, and when this Self is loved and valued by our parents,
we continue to naturally grow our God-given gifts and talents and manifest the
fullness of our beings. This Self wants to improve by learning the skills necessary
to fully express itself.

But when this Self is not seen and valued in the way we needed, we create an
alternative self, a self we hope will have control over getting the love we need
and avoiding the pain we can�t handle � a self to help us feel safe. This is our
false self, our wounded self, our ego self. This self is filled with the false
beliefs that we absorbed as we were growing up � beliefs that end up limiting our
true, core Self. This self does not needs improving � it needs healing.

The term �self improvement� can sometimes be a bit misleading, because we do not
want to improve our wounded self. We do not want to improve on the ways we lie,
manipulate, and avoid in our attempts to have control over getting love and
avoiding pain. We don�t want to improve on our many addictions to substance and
processes. We don�t want to improve on our anger, our compliance, our withdrawal
and our resistance.

We want to heal it.

Healing and improving are not the same thing.

We can certainly self-improve when it comes to skills. We can improve in sports, in

art, music, writing, cooking. We can improve our health and wellbeing by improving
our diet and exercise program. We can improve in the knowledge we need to be more
successful regarding work and money. We might be able to improve our relationships
by learning new communication skills. But what if acquiring new knowledge and
skills does not improve our health, or our ability to earn money, or our
relationships? And what if learning new skills does not bring us more joy and inner
peace? It may mean that we need to heal the underlying fears and false beliefs that
cause us to be anxious, depressed, stressed, guilt-ridden, shamed, withdrawn,
angry, blaming, or sad.

Sometimes Self Improvement just means practicing a skill, and others times it means
that we need to participate in a deep healing process. For example, many people try
to improve their health by losing weight and exercising. But if their food
addictions are covering over unhealed pain, they might not be able to just change
their diet. They might need to open to a healing process in order to eventually
improve.

If you are really trying to self improve but find yourself stuck and unable to
progress, or find that you have no joy or inner peace, you might want to open to
the possibility that unhealed pain and beliefs are blocking your progress and
causing your pain. It is easy to improve yourself when there is nothing blocking
the way. But if you have old false beliefs about your adequacy and worth, these
beliefs may be blocking your ability to take loving action in your own behalf. All
your efforts to self improve will not bring you the satisfaction you are seeking if
you have beliefs that are keeping you limited in fully expressing your true, core
Self. If you are stuck, then you need to seek out a healing process, such as the
Inner Bonding process we teach, that will move you out of the fears and beliefs
that limit you. Healing these fears and limiting beliefs will open the door to
improving your life in all ways!