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hello classmates and good morning ma’am I
am happy to see you again
now i am here to present my report entitled,
Interpersonal Relationship
and the emergence of wisdom
i am going to begin with the need of
positive relationships at our workplace
i am also going to talk about the
benefits of positive relationships
i will also give you some important tips
on positive relationships and finally i
will leave you all with a choice
and we'll talk about the ultimate choice
that you have as a teacher
or as a colleague
well to begin with
why should we think about positive
relationships or maintaining interpersonal
relationships at workplace
simply because nobody of us likes
negativity
nobody of us likes to envision an
atmosphere where there are quarrels or
there are negativity or there is back
biting or there is some complaints and so on
so basically any workplace or job as we
have already seen
it is full of people who have different
identities or different personalities
now due to this diversity of people and
personalities
there might arise some conflicts or
difference of
opinions which are found in every
workplace but what happens is
when this difference of opinion or
conflict leads to some annoying or
irritating behavior on someone's part
or there are some quarrels or conflicts
it automatically
generates some stress or negativity
which is not desirable at any cost
because in the long run it affects
your mind
personal health, students and the entire
institute
you might say why should i bother
let it be
but then
i don't think why bother approach will
be adequate always
there will be some day which when you
and your colleagues need to take some
constructive actions and find solutions
for everlasting peace and happiness of
all of you
so what i suggest is that the positive
relationships
is the ultimate remedy due to many
reasons
the first reason is that we are
basically teachers
and teaching is basically a profession
about doing the best for and giving the best
to our students
we all exist and serve
to help our students
so i i feel that
giving something good to students is a
collective responsibility and nobody
can do it alone
you may be great you may
be positive but then
the entire teamwork is really needed to
give them
the best in education
another reason
which i strongly feel is
salary that we earn through our hard
work is something which feeds the
stomach
we know we can get comfort and luxuries
through our salary
but then it is positive workplace
relationships which
key use ultimate satisfaction that means
it feeds the heart
so that's why positive relationships are
needed
another one more important reason is
the synergy which is created
stephen covey who is the famous author
of the famous book
the seven habits of highly effective
people
he says very nice words
he says that
synergy
is better than my way or your way it is
our way
so as you can see if there is
positivity amongst colleagues
some nice interpersonal relationships exist
in the atmosphere of the
institute
it will lead to a great synergy
if people get united
it may lead to very stronger results
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to see into the
definite benefits that everybody gets
let us refer to
every benefit that is given to every
individual and staff member
see as far as an individual that means
you as a person
are concerned
positive relationships at
a workplace
make you feel good deeply satisfying and
more connected to the workplace
it also gives you the support of
co-workers whenever you are
facing stressful times
it generates
strong personal bonding
with you among you and your colleagues
it leads to more happiness
positivity and job satisfaction
as far as team result is concerned staff is
concerned
I feel that positive relationships can
lead to familiarity
and a big amount of friendship which
is built amongst teachers
it also leads to trust, respect,
collaboration and accountability on the
part of various top members
it helps you to create harmonious
atmosphere in your staff
it also makes it easy to work together
for all of us
to go next it also gives some
benefits to students and institute
particularly
because we know we can understand it
very well that a happy teacher can
teach in a happy manner a happy teacher
is one who can serve students in a
better way
so having positive relationships at your
workplace
it includes relationships with your head
or principal with colleagues and you're
with your students as well
it leads to
improved quality of teaching
and learning because you are happy from
within so it definitely leads to the
development of students
as far as an institute is concerned
there is no doubt about it that the
positive relationships at any workplace
leads to the progress and success of any
institute
it creates more positive energy and
makes the atmosphere very welcoming
it makes it easy for an institutional
members to solve various issues through
cooperation and teamwork
well this was about benefits
now let us see how we can cultivate
positive relationships how we can
maintain interpersonal positive
relationships
i have divided the steps into four parts
the first part is
build relationships the second is
strengthen the relationships
the third is protect your relationships
and the fourth is
finally maintain and prosper your
relationships
to begin with the first part you can
take you can keep it in your mind that
we are beginning to build something
create something
see, building anything strong and
positive takes some time
so likewise as far as building
relationship is concerned
you should try to know the interests and
hobbies of your people
at your workplace and also find
something common
which all both of you or all of you may
enjoy together
so please try to relate to socialize and
interact with
all people at your institute don't go
for groupism or
pair go for the unity of the
entire staff members
don't wait for others to make the first
move
see charity begins at home
likewise any good thing begins at home so
instead
of waiting for someone to call you
or instead of waiting for someone to
start relationship with you
please join please connect to all people
on your own
so connect with them, know them better
and spare time amidst hectic schedule
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i know we all are very busy with our routine
but then, if you want to build a good
relationship be it with staff members or be it
with your students you need to spare some
time
another thing which i would suggest is
show some care
and concern for their feelings and
well-being
i am talking about both
colleagues and students
see we are ultimately human beings we may
be intelligent
but then we are human beings so please
show some care and concern for others as
well
also try to celebrate because it's not
necessary that you should go and come
back
by working only celebrate some memories
create some memories with people
share their happiness whenever
colleagues or students are happy
share their happiness
please value and respect to them because
everybody of us has something
which makes us worthy of respect so try
to respect your colleagues and students
on the ground on the basis of whatever
little they can offer to you
i will suggest you that if we want to
begin with level 2 strengthen your
relationships
please support your colleagues or the
students about any work or matter
because we are social beings and
that is the world cannot exist without
the support of
each other so sympathize when people are
troubled at your workplace
help whenever they need it
express gratitude
you would say
why should i express gratitude because
it mean
since we take everything for
granted we are very busy with our things
so we sometimes
forget to express our gratitude
I would like to
give you an analogy of a fan as we know
as the science says as we know
even a child knows that air exists
anywhere in the world
but then in order to feel that air we
need to switch on the fan
so feelings are there everywhere between
two people but then
when you express gratitude it makes it
receptive it makes one receive those
feelings in a better manner
so please express gratitude
please praise
appreciate or admire your colleagues or
students likewise
learn to compliment on their
achievements
say some encouraging words whenever you
get chance whenever someone has done
a good task please say encouraging words
you can also leave
a note or a token of appreciation which
will indeed make
another person very happy
to go to level 3 protect
well we need to understand the term protect
relationships
first of all
i know that for a majority of people
if they are good in the nature if they
are good by the nature and they are
happy and positive
almost life goes on and no conflicts
take place between people who work with
us
but then i mean something very important
by protecting relationships
there might be some minor issues i mean
difference of opinions
in our hearts there might be some past
memories
which make us a hesitant to connect
emotionally with other people
so it is regarding this that i am
talking well you may have some
differences with your colleagues
but even if the differences are
irritating or offensive
don't get involved unless it affects you
directly
sometimes we react very soon
so please
stop
reacting think about how you are
reacting and consider
is it really any of your business you
might feel that you need to react at
that very moment
but then think is it really of your
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business another thing another question
that you need to ask is
do you really need to get involved
see
there are times when we
involve in fun we involve in
mockery of someone we involve in making
fun of someone but then
please try to restrict yourself as far
as your emotions are concerned
as far as protecting relationships is
concerned this is also very much
important
see we are human beings and when we are
working together there are there may be
times when we need to
indulge in some conflicts so whenever
conflicts take place
if someone is angry or not in a good
mood when he or she approaches you
and out of anger out of his extreme
anger
he crosses a certain level of disrespect
don't start quarreling
don't argue or don't be judgmental
if you are a human being if you are an
intelligent human being
please show some understanding because
there might be some reason for his or
her anger
so try to calm him or her down even if
he or she
is unreasonable simply agree to him or
her at that very moment
so that you can avoid a big potential
conflict
so if it is possible please stop
discussion at that very moment
you may change the subject or wait till
that an
another person comes down don't discuss
that
what issue that at that very moment
please
try to go walk away
this is a very important thing it is
said
that gossip is the cancer of any
workplace
and i agree to it so i would suggest you
to avoid gossip or backbiting
see we are teachers and i think as
far as professionalism is concerned
backbiting and gossip are something
which does not which do not suit us
so please keep in mind that even if you
feel like sharing some juicy or spicy
information with someone
please keep it in mind that we are
teachers and doing such things
helps no one in our organization so if
possible
avoid unnecessary gossip or backbiting
you can also convince your staff members
or colleagues to do the same
at any cost in any situation
don't start spread discuss
gossip or rumors about parents students
and most importantly don't discuss or
backbite your colleagues with students
parents and other colleagues
if you feel that people around you are
discussing something negative or they
are involved in some go see for backbiting
you may point it out very gently
that why don't we talk about something
else let's talk about something else
you can change the topic in your wise
manner and you can walk away as well
so finally, what you need to keep in
mind is nip a gossip in the body itself
see there is no point in going on
talking about various kinds of gossips
because it ultimately
wastes your time and potential so nip a
gossip in the bird itself
another thing which i would suggest
is try to stay away from negativity
see we are human beings i am
also one of you so i know that there are
times when we
we have to be negative
we become negative automatically
sometimes
but then as far as possible please stay
away from negativity
and the symbolic picture of gandhiji's
three monkeys
tells us a lot don't listen to anything
bad or negative
don't see anything bad or negative or
don't speak
anything bad or negative so try to avoid
or minimize your exposure to negative
people
information or influences don't let
negative things said about you get under
your skin
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don't take rumors random discussions
points personally
don't rationalize hurtful behavior if
someone
behaves in a very rude manner with you
don't take it to your heart
even if it is deliberate assume that it
is not so for your own peace of mind
well there is
some caution
as far as making fun of
colleagues is concerned
use humor appropriately
tease or joke with someone only if he or
she can take it in the right spirit
take into account his or her feelings
before poking fun
a person may feel bad when you make fun
of him so make sure that you
take into consideration his nature as
well as his probable response
this is a very important thing please
leave futile expectations
we are human beings and we might expect
some appreciation from others when we
have performed something good
but then don't complain about getting
into too much respect
recognition or appreciation
your good work is always going to be
noticed
at some point of time or other but for
the time being if your work is not
noticed
that's fine don't complain about it and
be mature
be wise don't expect someone else's respect
or recognition or appreciation
well you can definitely offer try to
uncover what is bothering someone
people around you may be bothered about
something they may be worried about
something
so whenever you find that people are not
in the normal mood
of everyday life then please try to
offer
a hand to help and an ear to listen
somebody might be troubled
so try to help them by doing so
if you can't give at least forgive
this is the least we all of us can do well if
you were wronged or
insulted or are holding an old grudge
with your colleague or co-workers or
students
please move beyond it in the past
if someone had created an undesirable
issue to you
please forgive and go ahead because
nothing matters more than the peace of
mind
somebody had told you something before
five years just for two minutes
and just after saying that that person
has already forgotten it
then why are you remembering it for the
last five years now it is occupying
unnecessary space in your mind and heart
so please try to
forgive that person please forget that
thing whatever bad incident that occurred
with you please work closely with all people
even
though they have insulted you in the
past please show your support
please show your support always to that
person even if he or she insulted you or
did bad with you in the past see when
you forgive
you don't change the past but you change
the future
so please keep this in mind if you want
to be happy please try to forgive
level 4 the last level is
maintain and prosper your relationships
the picture says it all so please try to
mentor people at your workplace in the
areas of your strength
you might be strong in some
technological areas or in some personal
habits
so please try to mentor others as far as
your strength is concerned
you can share with your students and
colleagues the up-to-date knowledge on
the latest trends
technology updates unique skills
knowledge techniques lessons experiments
experiences ideas advices
and tips on what works and what does not
work
you may suggest effective plan and
actions this will lead to
the benefits of all of you
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i would draw your attention towards this
fact kindness
costs nothing it is said be kind
for everyone you meet is fighting a hard
battle so please
remember this always and make people
realize
that they are important to you at any
point of time and you value them really
you can show a gesture of kindness and
humility whenever you find an
opportunity
you can take on additional roles and
responsibilities
willingly you can swap a duty if
possible
if it is possible you can definitely do
it you can offer to give a bit of a
break to a colleague who is very tired
what stephan covey says is really worth
noting he says
we can truly understand one another and
move the relationship forward
only when we try and put ourselves in
another's shoes
so please try to understand the scenario
the situation through which
your colleague is passing
be flexible
and receptive try to see brighter side
of any issue or event
try to be open-minded
try to learn to
compromise
allow others to do and be their best
don't restrict
don't force your thoughts on them
have
positive and supportive interactions
with all
not a few selected people
maintain the
dignity of
all people at all times it includes your
students as well
try to create finally an atmosphere of
trust
at your institute
as you sow
so shall you deep the newton's
newton's third law of motion i think
would help us understand this point
what newton suggested in this third law
of motion was that for every action
there is equal amount of
strong and natural reaction similarly
what do i what dwight the eisenhower the
former u.s president says will help us
to understand this point
he says let us do unto others as
we would have them to do unto us
so
when you behave with someone in a
particular manner please remember that
you will be
treated in the same manner
finally
i would tell you please value all your
relationships
because our relationships are like this
glass mosaic
it needs much time to build this
beautiful mosaic
likewise similarly it takes much time to
build
any strong relationship but out of anger
or out of any misunderstanding
when you do this it means you are
breaking that mosaic you are
you are throwing a hammer on that glass
so that will lead to nothing but
but the ruins of that so that means your
relationship
might be spoiled because of some little
misunderstanding
or because of your anger so please learn
value
learn to value all your relationships
i would leave you with a tip to remember
that is
it's not a singular action which
develops a trusting relationship
because multiple actions over an
extended period
help to earn trust you need to do
multiple actions to build a trust in any
relationship
but you need to remember that you can
always do something to
improve any relationship so try to do it
and finally positive relationships is
something which does not happen
automatically
but it will take both time and effort on
your part
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well finally let me show you a choice

that you have
all men and women are born live
suffer and die what distinguishes
us one from another is our dreams
whether they be dreams about worldly or
unworldly things
and what we do to make them come about
we do not choose to be born we do not
choose our parents
we do not choose our historical epoch the
country of our birth
or the immediate circumstances of our
upbringing
we do not most of us choose to die nor
do we choose the time and conditions of
our death
but within this realm of choicelessness
we do choose how we live so
it's up to you how to make relationships
whether to build relationships or to
make or more relationships it's all up
to you
you decide how you live
so if you want to stay happy at your
workplace and live a healthy life
please choice please go for positive
relationships
so these words of joseph epstein are
extremely valuable for all of us

let us depart with a wake-up call change

things around you by changing things
inside you
this is something which we need to
reflect upon if we want to build
a very positive and harmonious
relationships with our colleagues
and our students

so that's it thank you

very much
i am sure all of you must have got some
valuable tips from this session
Thank you