INFJ is thought to be the rarest Myers-Briggs personality type, making up only 1-3 percent of the

population. “INFJ” is an initialism that stands for Introversion (I), Intuition (N), Feeling (F), and
Judgment (J), which describes the INFJ’s core characteristics. Both introverted and people-
oriented, emotional and rational, thoughtful yet at times spontaneous, INFJs can feel like walking
contradictions. They read others well and easily “see behind the mask” that people unconsciously
wear; ironically, however, INFJs may struggle to understand themselves. Their reactions and
behavior sometimes confuse even their own sharp intuition.

The INFJ personality contains many layers and is indeed a trove of secrets. Private and
mysterious, INFJs will reveal those layers slowly — if ever at all! Let’s dive into some of the
“secrets” of the rarest personality type in the world. Here are ten of them.

‘Secrets’ of the INFJ Personality

1. On a different wavelength

INFJs may feel like perpetual outsiders. That’s because most people aren’t on the INFJ’s
wavelength, explain Antonia Dodge and Joel Mark Witt of Personality Hacker. The INFJ’s
dominant function is Introverted Intuition (Ni). (A type’s “dominant function” is the main way
that type processes information and interacts with the world.) Introverted Intuition
subconsciously notices patterns; INFJs, specifically, notice patterns related to human nature,
because their secondary function is Extroverted Feeling (Fe), which orients them toward people.

Although not necessarily a “magic” power or a psychic ability, using their intuition can feel that
way because it works subconsciously. Sometimes INFJs will have hunches or gut feelings they
can’t explain. The INFJ may know something without quite being able to put their finger on why
or how they know it.

This “sixth sense” can be difficult to explain to others, so INFJs often give up trying. This may
leave them feeling isolated and misunderstood.

2. Highly perceptive of others

To be an INFJ is to read others well, grasping their emotional states and motivations in mere
seconds. But others don’t seem to “get” INFJs as easily as they “get” them. INFJs often wish for
someone to understand them as well as they understand others.

INFJs are highly perceptive of others, but they don’t just remember their coworker’s birthday or
how they take their coffee. In fact, as big-picture thinkers, these small details may escape even
the most observant INFJ! People of the INFJ personality use their intuition to penetrate below
the surface. They get into other people’s heads and figure out what makes them tick. They often
know when someone is lying even to themselves. INFJs aren’t consciously aware of how they
know so much about other people — and they’ll probably never reveal just how deep their
knowledge runs.
3. Absorb other people’s emotions

It’s not unusual for INFJs to absorb other people’s emotions. They don’t just sense the emotions
of others — sometimes they actually feel them in their own bodies.

According to Dodge, no other personality type does this quite like the INFJ. Some INFJs even
report absorbing the emotions of strangers. An INFJ may suddenly feel grumpy, only to look
around the room and discover a grumpy-looking person has just walked in. The closer the person
is emotionally to the INFJ, like a spouse or a best friend, the more likely it is that the
INFJ will absorb that person’s mental state.

To feel not only your own emotions but also those of other people can be overwhelming. But the
INFJ’s ability can be used to bring healing and comfort to others. “The ability to
unconsciously absorb other people’s emotions with very little information to go on — how is
that not a superpower?” Dodge told Introvert, Dear. “INFJs have the ability to get inside the
suffering of others and tell them it’s going to be okay.”

4. Amazing long-range forecasting abilities

At times, INFJs feel like prophets or psychics, as what they predicted comes true. But INFJs
don’t necessarily have a crystal ball. Rather, their Introverted Intuition helps them see the big
picture, notice patterns, and make predictions for the future based on the patterns they’ve
observed. They see what could be — not necessarily what will happen with absolute certainty.
Nevertheless, mature INFJs have honed their forecasting abilities well.

5. Both emotional and rational DASHWOOD – odrednica

Although sensitive and emotional, INFJs often mistype as INTJs, their “Thinking” twin. Due to
their third function, Introverted Thinking (Ti), they paradoxically can be quite analytical
and scientific. They may enjoy careers in technology, the sciences, and research. Because
Extroverted Feeling is their second function and Introverted Thinking is their third, these two
functions are fairly balanced in the INFJ. Indeed, INFJs don’t outwardly appear as emotional as
the ENFJ or ESFJ, whose Feeling function is dominant. It’s said that the INFJ can be “too
emotional for the Thinkers but too logical for the Feelers.” But this common sense comes in
handy, making INFJs balanced and well-rounded.

6. Creators of deep emotional intimacy

In the presence of strangers or casual acquaintances, INFJs might seem reserved and shy. In
reality, INFJs are extremely relational — it just might take a while for this side of the INFJ to
come out. Because they feel other people’s pain and joy, they’re able to truly walk in another
person’s shoes. Their ability to empathize creates strong bonds of intimacy — perhaps one of the
greatest strengths of this personality type.
7. True introverts

INFJs are sometimes called the “extroverted introverts” or even ambiverts. They get this
nickname because they can be passionate, enthusiastic, and talkative when in the presence of
someone they feel comfortable with. Likewise, when they’re fighting for a cause they believe in
— like asking people to sign a petition to end animal abuse — they may come across as
extroverts. However, INFJs are true introverts who prefer a small circle of friends to a large
network of casual acquaintances. And introverts by definition need plenty of downtime to
recharge their batteries.

8. Sensitive to conflict – DASHWOOD - odrednica

Due to Extroverted Feeling, INFJs have a strong need for harmony in their relationships. They’re
always striving to build rapport with others — and they value people who do the same in return.
When conflict arises, especially in close relationships, the sensitive and emotional INFJ may
become extremely distressed. They may have trouble sleeping or concentrating, perhaps even
feeling the stress of the conflict physically in their bodies through headaches, muscle aches, an
upset stomach, etc. !DASHWOOD – odrednica ekstremniji oblik

Konstruktivno vs klasični sukob

This doesn’t mean INFJs should avoid conflict altogether (although, unfortunately, many of them
have a learned tendency to do just that). INFJs can learn to set healthy boundaries and stand up
for their needs. And perhaps better than many other personality types, they can do this in a
diplomatic way using the warmth and understanding that flow naturally from their Extroverted
Feeling.

9. End up in one-sided relationships

Many INFJs are great listeners because they truly care about others, and as introverts, they rarely
feel the need to hog the spotlight. Likewise, they enjoy helping others understand their emotions
and grow. They’re nicknamed “the counselor personality” for a good reason. Although these
abilities allow the INFJ to create a level of emotional intimacy in their relationships like few
other types can, it also means INFJs tend to get ensnared in one-sided relationships.

One-sided relationships occur when others take more than they give. For INFJs, a one-sided
relationship might look like someone frequently venting to them but not listening to the INFJ in
return. Or someone taking advantage of the INFJ’s willingness to help. Or it could simply be that
the other person gets more enjoyment out of the relationship than the INFJ does; when this
happens, INFJs are inclined to just go along with it, not wanting to hurt the other person’s
feelings. Unfortunately for the INFJ, these relationships get exhausting and emotionally draining.
It’s important that INFJs learn to choose balanced relationships that make them feel good, too.
10. Looking for their soulmates

INFJs desire to connect deeply with others. Shallow, one-sided relationships won’t do. Likewise,
because they’re introverts, they have limited social energy. So INFJs look for friends or a
romantic partner who are their “soul mates.” These are people who truly click with the INFJ and
can feed their very real need for authentic connection, intimacy, and meaningful conversation.
However, INFJs often struggle to create the kind of relationships they desire. When they do find
people with whom they truly connect, it feels like a miracle.

Are You an INFJ?

Some of these secrets are things a lot of people will identify with, and every INFJ is going to be
a little different. If you can relate to most of them, however, chances are good that you’re an
INFJ. Want to be one hundred percent sure? There’s an easy way to find out: Take this free
personality assessment from Personality Hacker and see your personality type in minutes. 

INFJ at a glance
People with INFJ preferences are generally compassionate and creative. Some even say they’re
quietly inspiring. They tend to enjoy helping others grow and develop. They’re typically
idealistic and love to let their imaginations run free. People often see them as sensitive and
reserved.

INFJs at their best

People with INFJ preferences see the meaning and connections between ideas, relationships, and
interactions. They love symbolism and metaphors. They generally have a lot of empathy for
others and tend to be compassionate and sympathetic—their feelings can be intense. They
encourage harmony and are good at motivating others.

INFJs and stress

People with INFJ preferences get stressed by conflict, indecision, or too much noise. They
dislike negativity from others, criticism of their ideas, and anything that disrupts the harmony
around them.

When they’re stressed, they may start to feel that everyone is against them and withdraw
emotionally. At times of extreme or prolonged stress, they tend to fixate on details they normally
wouldn’t notice and may start to overindulge in activities such as eating, cleaning, or exercise.
INFJs and relationships

People with INFJ preferences tend to have a gift for intuitively understanding relationships and
complex meanings. They often have a lot of empathy for others, allowing them to easily
understand the feelings of their partner, peers, family, and friends. They’re sometimes seen as
private or mysterious, but often friendly to those they’ve just met. However, they’ll only share
their complex inner thoughts with people they’re close to.

INFJs at work

People with INFJ preferences often enjoy work that helps people. They like designing innovative
programs and creating new approaches, but they’re also motivated by helping others develop.
They usually work well in a positive, friendly environment where they can set their own
schedules to allow them to fully explore and organize their ideas—they need quiet time to do
their best work! Despite their independence, they like to have opportunities to share their work
and collaborate with others. They’re likely to be attracted to careers in teaching, social good, and
the arts.

They tend to rely on hunches and trust their instincts. After they’ve thought something through,
they’ll share their plans or ideas with others on a need-to-know basis. It can be difficult to
change their minds on something they’ve already committed to. They’re motivated to make a
difference in the world, often one person at a time.

Common careers
 Social science research assistant
 Writer
 Physician’s assistant
 Biomedical engineer
 Surgeon
 Pathologist
 Survey researcher
 Multimedia artist or animator
 Interior designer
 Family physician

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The INFJ Personality Type

INFJs are creative nurturers with a strong sense of personal integrity and a drive to help others
realize their potential. Creative and dedicated, they have a talent for helping others with original
solutions to their personal challenges.

The Counselor has a unique ability to intuit others' emotions and motivations, and will often
know how someone else is feeling before that person knows it himself. They trust their insights
about others and have strong faith in their ability to read people. Although they are sensitive,
they are also reserved; the INFJ is a private sort, and is selective about sharing intimate thoughts
and feelings.

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What does INFJ stand for?

INFJ is an acronym used to describe one of the sixteen personality types created by Katharine
Briggs and Isabel Myers. It stands for Introverted, iNtuitive, Feeling, Judging. INFJ indicates a
person who is energized by time alone (Introverted), who focuses on ideas and concepts rather
than facts and details (iNtuitive), who makes decisions based on feelings and values (Feeling)
and who prefers to be planned and organized rather than spontaneous and flexible (Judging).
INFJs are sometimes referred to as Counselor personalities.
How common is the INFJ personality type?
INFJ is the rarest type in the population. It is the least common type among men, and the third
least common among women (after INTJ and ENTJ). INFJs make up:

 2% of the general population

 2% of women
 1% of men

Famous INFJs
Famous INFJs include Mohandas Gandhi, Eleanor Roosevelt, Emily Bronte, Carl Jung, Fyodor
Dostoevsky, Florence Nightingale, Shirley MacLaine, Jimmy Carter, and Edward Snowden.

INFJ Values and Motivations

INFJs are guided by a deeply considered set of personal values. They are intensely idealistic, and
can clearly imagine a happier and more perfect future. They can become discouraged by the
harsh realities of the present, but they are typically motivated and persistent in taking positive
action nonetheless. The INFJ feels an intrinsic drive to do what they can to make the world a
better place.

INFJs want a meaningful life and deep connections with other people. They do not tend to share
themselves freely but appreciate emotional intimacy with a select, committed few. Although
their rich inner life can sometimes make them seem mysterious or private to others, they
profoundly value authentic connections with people they trust.

How Others See the INFJ

INFJs often appear quiet, caring and sensitive, and may be found listening attentively to someone
else’s ideas or concerns. They are highly perceptive about people and want to help others achieve
understanding. INFJs are not afraid of complex personal problems; in fact, they are quite
complex themselves, and have a rich inner life that few are privy to. They reflect at length on
issues of ethics, and feel things deeply. Because Counselors initially appear so gentle and
reserved, they may surprise others with their intensity when one of their values is threatened or
called into question. Their calm exterior belies the complexity of their inner worlds.

Because INFJs are such complex people, they may be reluctant to engage with others who might
not understand or appreciate them, and can thus be hard to get to know. Although they want to
get along with others and support them in their goals, they are fiercely loyal to their own system
of values and will not follow others down a path that does not feel authentic to them. When they
sense that their values are not being respected, or when their intuition tells them that someone’s
intentions are not pure, they are likely to withdraw.
INFJ Hobbies and Interests
Popular hobbies for the INFJ include writing, art appreciation, cultural events, reading,
socializing in small, intimate settings, and playing or listening to music.

Facts about INFJs

Interesting facts about the INFJ:

 Least common type in the population

 On personality trait scales, scored as Sincere, Sympathetic, Unassuming, Submissive,
Easygoing, Reserved and Patient
 Among highest of all types in college GPA
 Among most likely to stay in college
 Most likely of all types to cope with stress by seeing a therapist
 Highest of all types in marital dissatisfaction
 Personal values include Spirituality, Learning, and Community Service
 Commonly found in careers in religion, counseling, teaching, and the arts

Source: MBTI Manual

Quotes About INFJs

"These seclusive and friendly people are complicated themselves, and so can understand and
deal with complex ethical issues and with deeply troubled individuals."

- David Keirsey, Please Understand Me II

INFJ Strengths
Practical insight. Some people are visionaries while others are down-to-earth problem solvers,
but INFJs manage to straddle the line between both identities—and they usually succeed
masterfully. INFJs are insightful thinkers who see through situations and people effectively and
enjoy developing practical strategies for action. 

Compassion. As a Feeling type, you might expect an INFJ to show compassion—but what sets
them apart is that their empathy comes with a sharp intuitive edge. They are quick to recognize
worry and unhappiness in friends and loved ones, even when outward signs of distress are not
visible to others. INFJs are uniquely capable of detecting unspoken and unacknowledged
suffering, and are called into action by their instinctive ability to see beneath the surface.

Keeping the peace. Mediating disputes is hard work, but INFJs have an astounding ability to
help heal the rifts that divide people. They intuitively sense the real suffering that anger can
cause if left to fester, and because they are good listeners they are quite effective at helping
warring parties find workable solutions that will satisfy the needs of all. And they do it with great
energy and determination.

Decisiveness. For INFJs, obstacles exist to be overcome and no problem can outmatch the
strength and resilience that these types possess deep inside. INFJs follow through on their ideas
with conviction, and have the willpower and decisiveness necessary to see projects through to
the end. INFJs live for the opportunity to solve problems and bring about positive change in the
world.

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INFJ Weaknesses
Overlooking details. No matter how practically-oriented they aspire to be, INFJs have a
tendency to get so caught up in theorizing the big picture that they forget to account for some of
the precious details that can separate success from failure. Details always matter, and while
INFJs may recognize this in principle, in practice they aren’t always as diligent about the small
stuff as they should be. 

Intensely private. Despite their loving and sensitive natures, INFJs have a tendency to close
themselves off from the world and don’t give people the chance to know them or see the
wonderful qualities they possess. Even in their relations with family and trusted friends, INFJs
can be enigmatic. When they are feeling frustrated or introspective, they may retreat from social
contact without so much as a word of explanation, which can throw others for a loop.

Conflict averse. INFJs dislike conflict intensely and will usually intervene to stop it, but this is
one area where their perspective can get distorted. INFJs often fail to recognize that conflict can
actually serve a useful purpose, allowing a good process of give-and-take to be established and
giving all parties the opportunity to resolve their problem forever. INFJs would be wise to
acknowledge the value of open and honest dialogue, instead of automatically assuming that all
squabbling is harmful.

Sensitive. Once an INFJ has made up their mind, they tend to be very confident in their
conclusions and may not have much tolerance for those who continue to dissent. When someone
challenges their conclusions, they can react very strongly and are especially vulnerable to
criticism.

INFJ Growth and Development

In order to reach their full potential, INFJs should:

Question their intuition. INFJs have outstanding instincts for the most part, but sometimes their
intuition betrays them when they are dealing with others. When something is bothering them,
INFJs will often withdraw into the safety of their own heads rather than speaking openly about
what they are feeling; conversely, they seldom express their feelings of love, affection and
appreciation as directly as might be expected given the depth of the emotions they experience.
To improve their communication habits, INFJs should go out of their way to share their feelings
—both good and bad—with others regardless of how uncomfortable it makes them feel to do so. 

Give others the benefit of the doubt. INFJs are insightful, instinctive and persuasive. But
despite the enormous effort that INFJs invest in developing and selling their concepts and ideas,
sometimes dissidents will remain. INFJs sometimes become disenchanted with those who refuse
to accept their conclusions, and they will convince themselves that their opponents have hidden
agendas and are acting in bad faith. When situations like this arise, INFJs should try to accept
that total consensus is impossible and that some will continue to hold contrary viewpoints. In
situations like this, both sides should simply agree to disagree and move on. 

Let others agree to disagree, too. When tensions are high and arguments are heated, INFJs will
do all they can to restore lost cohesion and tranquility. But their love of harmony and aversion to
division is so powerful that INFJs refuse to accept that sometimes the best way to end disputes is
to bring them out into the open, where bridges of understanding can be built. On balance, INFJs’
dislike of conflict is a good thing. But their efforts to play peacemaker might be more successful
if they would concentrate on keeping the lines of communication open when disagreements arise
instead of always trying to sweep everything under the rug. 

Make connections with extraverts. Because sharing with anyone outside a small trusted circle
goes against their instincts, too often talented INFJs choose to keep their gifts wrapped up and
hidden even though they have much to contribute. But INFJs would benefit by cultivating
friendly relationships with extraverted people whenever possible. Opposites attract, and there is
no doubt that being around more naturally open and communicative people can help bring INFJs
out of their shells and out into the world where others can benefit from their intellect, empathy
and compassion. 

Slow down! INFJs are productive and effective when they make a concerted effort to focus on
one project at a time. But their fertile imaginations frequently undermine their efforts to stay on
the straight and narrow, and they will often start new projects based on fresh inspirations before
old ones are finished—and, before they know it, they will find themselves buried under an
avalanche of work. There is really nothing INFJs can do to moderate the pace of their
inspirations, but if they constantly remind themselves to slow down and take things one at a time,
they may be able to resist the urge to go off on tangents at least some of the time. 

The INFJ at Work

At work, the INFJ is focused on the task of bettering the human condition. INFJs are dedicated,
helpful, and principled workers who can be relied on to envision, plan, and carry out complex
projects for humanitarian causes.

Although they are typically driven by lofty ideals, Counselors gain the most satisfaction from
their work when they can turn their ideas into reality, creating constructive change for other
people.

INFJs are typically organized and prefer work that allows them to complete projects in an
orderly manner. They are often independent and tend to prefer a quiet environment that allows
them the opportunity to fully develop their own thoughts and ideas.

The ideal work environment for an INFJ is harmonious, industrious, and oriented to a
humanitarian mission, with co-workers who are similarly committed to positive change. The
ideal job for a Counselor allows them to use their creativity in an independent, organized
environment to develop and implement a vision that is consistent with their personal values.
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Top Careers for the INFJ

The top driver for INFJs in choosing a career is the opportunity to do something that is consistent
with their values. Often, INFJs choose careers in helping professions like health care, education,
or counseling. INFJs are thinkers by nature and appreciate careers that allow them to use their
intellect on problems that interest them. Often, these are people problems, for instance in
psychology, but INFJs can also be found in other areas of the sciences and even engineering.

Many INFJs have a creative streak which can be seen in the top INFJ career trends. Working
with language is especially popular for INFJs, but they can also be found in various fields in the
arts.

Top career choices for INFJs include:

Health Care

Health care careers are a wonderful opportunity for INFJs to combine their deep caring for the
welfare of other people with their often formidable intellectual capabilities. Many INFJs enjoy
the sciences and find it extremely satisfying to put their scientific knowledge to use in helping
others. Sample health care careers for INFJs include:

 Physical Therapist
 Public Health Educator
 Family Physician
 Occupational Therapist
 Psychiatrist
 Physician Assistant
 Massage Therapist
 Nutritionist
 Medical Researcher
Counseling and Social Service

INFJs are typically wonderful listeners and deep, insightful thinkers when it comes to personal
problems. They have a high degree of intuition about people and a deep well of patience in
dealing with sticky emotional situations. All of these qualities make them talented,
compassionate counselors, social servicepeople, and religious workers. Sample counseling and
social service careers for INFJs include:

 Clinical Psychologist
 Counselor
 Social Worker
 Speech Pathologist
 Clergy

Sciences

INFJs often enjoy the intellectual challenge of the sciences, and can be found in scientific careers
that relate to their values. Sample science careers for INFJs include:

 Social Scientist
 Genealogist
 Food Scientist
 Environmental Scientist

Business & Law

INFJs are often found making the business world a little more human, in HR, training, or the
more humanitarian professions within the law. Sample careers for INFJs in the business and
legal fields include:

 HR Manager
 Corporate Trainer
 Environmental Attorney
 Legal Mediator

Education

Although teaching in front of a classroom is a typically Extraverted activity and can be a

challenge for more Introverted INFJs, they often find it deeply satisfying to help children and
adults grow and develop. Education careers that involve working with smaller groups, or one-on-
one, are an especially good fit. Sample education careers for INFJs include:

 Elementary Teacher
 Special Education Teacher
 School Counselor
Language and Arts

Many INFJs love the expressive quality of language, and they typically have the focus and
concentration necessary to be excellent writers and editors. Other areas of the arts appeal as well.
Sample artistic careers for INFJs include:

 Librarian
 Translator
 Editor
 Technical Writer
 Writer
 Graphic Designer
 Animator
 Interior Designer

INFJ Careers to Avoid

It is important to note that any personality type can be successful in any occupation. However,
some occupations are well suited to the natural talents and preferred work style of the INFJ,
while other occupations demand modes of thinking and behavior that do not come as naturally to
this type. Occupations that require the INFJ to operate outside their natural preferences may
prove stressful or draining, and often sound unappealing to Counselors who are choosing a
career.

The following occupations have been found to be unpopular among INFJs, based on data
gathered from surveys of the general population.

 General Contractor
 Electrician
 Engineering Technician
 Mechanic
 Surveyor
 Farmer

 Real Estate Broker

 Sales Manager
 Restaurant Manager
 Property Manager
 Financial Manager
 Factory Supervisor

 Military Officer
 Police Officer
 Firefighter
 Paramedic
 Medical Records Technician
 Cook
The INFJ on a Team
INFJs are creative solvers of people problems, and bring innovative ideas for fostering human
potential. They are usually perceptive in observing the talents of others, and good at encouraging
teammates to contribute their skills. They are mindful of group process, listening attentively to
the opinions of others and synthesizing varied priorities to create a unified vision. Because they
prefer to accommodate all points of view, Counselors may have trouble on very competitive or
conflictual teams.

On a team, the INFJ acts as a source of quiet inspiration and vision, and provides clarity of
purpose to the group. INFJs seek meaning and truth, and will reflect on ideas to create a deeper
understanding. Although they don’t often call attention to themselves, they can provide insight
into the ethical and humanitarian issues at hand, and can often elegantly articulate the group’s
mission. Counselors work best on a supportive team where they can consider issues of ethics and
values and act with integrity. Teams which move to act quickly without taking time to reflect
may alienate the INFJ.

The INFJ as a Leader

In leadership positions, INFJs motivate others by sharing a positive vision. Counselor leaders are
often quiet and unassuming, but win other's dedication through their own hard work, strong
principles, and inspiring ideas. They are at their best when guiding a team to commit to a
common vision, and when creating organizational goals to benefit people. They are insightful
and creative, and bring a sense of confidence and commitment to projects they believe in.

Because INFJ leaders are often motivated by personal values, they do best in organizations with
a mission consistent with these values. Their challenge is to keep their ideas and initiatives
realistic, and to consider practicalities as they plan for change.

INFJ Career Stats

 More likely than average to be a stay-at-home parent
 Show one of the lowest gender wage gaps, with female INFJs earning 87% of what male INFJs
make
 Average salary is $36,575, lower than the average for all the types
 Less likely than average to manage a large team

INFJs and Other Personality Types

Kindred Spirits

People of the following types are more likely than most to share the INFJ's values, interests, and
general approach to life. They won't necessarily agree on everything, and there's no guarantee
they'll always get along, but they're more likely to feel an easy rapport and have plenty of things
in common.

ISFJ

The Protector

INFJ with ISFJ

INFP

The Healer

INFJ with INFP

INFJ

The Counselor
INFJ with INFJ

ENFJ

The Teacher

INFJ with ENFJ

Intriguing Differences

People of the following types are likely to strike the INFJ as similar in character, but with some
key differences which may make them seem especially intriguing. The INFJ may find people of
these types particularly interesting and attractive to get to know. Relationships between INFJs
and these types should have a good balance of commonalities and opportunities to challenge one
another.

ISFP

The Composer
INFJ with ISFP

INTP

The Architect

INFJ with INTP

INTJ

The Mastermind
INFJ with INTJ

ENFP

The Champion

INFJ with ENFP

Potential Complements

INFJs may not feel an immediate connection with people of the following types, but on getting
to know each other, they'll likely find they have some important things in common, as well as
some things to teach one other. Although people of these types may not attract the INFJ initially,
their relationships present a lot of potential to complement and learn from one other.

ISTJ

The Inspector
INFJ with ISTJ

ESFJ

The Provider

INFJ with ESFJ

ENTP

The Visionary
INFJ with ENTP

ENTJ

The Commander

INFJ with ENTJ

Challenging Opposites

People of the following types present the most potential for personality clash and conflict with
the INFJ, but also the best opportunities for growth. Because people of these types have
fundamentally different values and motivations from the INFJ's, initially, it may seem impossible
to relate. But because they are so different, their strengths are the INFJ's weaknesses, and if they
are able to develop a relationship, they can learn a tremendous amount from each other.

ISTP

The Craftsman
INFJ with ISTP

ESTP

The Dynamo

INFJ with ESTP

ESTJ

The Supervisor
INFJ with ESTJ

ESFP

The Performer

INFJ with ESFP

INFJs in Love
In relationships, the INFJ is supportive and guided by a sense of integrity. The INFJ's interest in
human development applies to their mates as well, and they are encouraging of their partner's
dreams, aspirations, and achievements.

INFJs want to maintain harmony in their relationships and are highly motivated to resolve
conflicts. They tend to be creative problem-solvers and look for the emotional core of an issue to
create a meeting of the minds. Although they desire cooperation, they are not willing to go along
with an idea that does not feel authentic to them. When it comes to their core values and ethics,
they are unwilling to compromise.
INFJs want a high degree of intimacy and emotional engagement, and are happiest when they
feel they are sharing their innermost thoughts and feelings with their mates. INFJs value a
partner who respects their deeply held values and ethics, and one who appreciates their creativity
and inspiration.

INFJs as Parents
As parents, INFJs are devoted and loving. They tend to form strong bonds with their children and
are very closely tuned in to their emotional states. Counselor parents naturally see the
possibilities in their children and encourage them to develop their potential.

Although they support their children in their individual interests, INFJ parents are firm
disciplinarians, particularly when it comes to moral or ethical concerns. They are concerned with
their children's emotional health and spiritual development, and want to create a nurturing
atmosphere that promotes growth and well-being.

INFJ Communication Style

INFJs are reserved about communication, and often keep their most treasured ideas and insights
private. They are oriented to values and connection, and will search for meaning in the
information they take in. They think deeply and often need time to process and evaluate before
they are ready to share their ideas. They seek validation and will take the time to appreciate
others and their ideas. They are often talented at making connections to bring people together
and integrate ideas, values, and human potential.

“Zastupnik” osobnost
Osobnost Zastupnika vrlo je rijetka i čini manje od jedan posto stanovništva, ali bez obzira na to
ipak ostavljaju svoj trag na svijetu. Oni imaju urođeni osjećaj idealizma i morala, ali ono što ih
razlikuje od drugih tipova iz skupine idealista je odlučnost i određenost – Zastupnici nisu
nezaposleni sanjari, nego ljudi sposobni za poduzimanje konkretnih koraka kako bi ostvarili
svoje ciljeve i ostavili trajni pozitivan učinak.

Zastupnici su skloni smatrati da je pomaganje drugima njihova svrha u životu, ali iako se ljudi s
ovim tipom osobnosti mogu pronaći u napornim akcijama spašavanja, kao i u dobrotvornom
radu, njihova prava strast je pronalaženje srži problema, tako da ljudi uopće ne moraju doći u
situaciju da budu spašavani.

Pomozite mi da vam pomognem

Zastupnici zaista imaju vrlo jedinstvenu kombinaciju osobina: iako mirno govore, imaju vrlo
jake stavove i neumorno će se boriti za ideju u koju vjeruju. Ljudi s ovim tipom osobnosti su
odlučni i imaju jaku volju, ali će rijetko tu energiju koristiti za osobnu korist. Zastupnici djeluju
kreativnošću, maštom, uvjerenjima i osjetljivošću, ali ne da bi bili u prednosti, već da bi stvorili
ravnotežu. Jednakost među ljudima i karma su vrlo privlačne ideje za Zastupnike te oni naginju
vjerovanju da ništa neće pomoći svijetu više nego uporaba ljubavi i suosjećanja za razbijanje srca
tiranina.

Svaki čovjek mora odlučiti hoće li hodati u svjetlu kreativnog altruizma ili u tami destruktivnog
egoizma.

Martin Luther King

Zastupnicima je lako povezati se s drugim ljudima, imaju talent za topli i osjećajan razgovor u
smislu ljudskosti, radije nego čistu logiku i činjenice. Ima smisla što ih njihovi prijatelji i kolege
smatraju relativno društvenim osobama, ali bilo bi dobro da zapamte da je Zastupnicima ponekad
potrebna samoća kako bi se opustili i napunili energijom i ne bi se trebali previše uzbuđivati
kada se Zastupnici iznenada povuku u sebe. Zastupnici vode računa o tuđim osjećajima i očekuju
da se ta usluga uzvrati – to ponekad znači dati im prostor koji im je potreban na nekoliko dana.

Živi da bi se borio još jedan dan

Zapravo, najbitnije je da se osobe Zastupnici sjete brinuti o sebi samima. Strast njihovih
uvjerenja ih može nositi preko njihove točke loma, a ako je njihova revnost nekontrolirana, mogu
postati iscrpljeni, nezdravi i pod stresom. To postaje naročito vidljivo kada se Zastupnici nađu
izloženi sukobu i kritici – osjetljivost ih prisiljava da učine sve što mogu kako bi izbjegli te
naizgled osobne napade, ali kad su te okolnosti neizbježne, mogu uzvratiti na vrlo iracionalan,
beskoristan način.

Za Zastupnike svijet je pun nepravde – ali to ne mora tako biti. Ni jedan drugi tip osobnosti nije
prikladniji za pokretanje ljudi kako bi se ispravila pogreška, bez obzira koliko velika ili mala
bila. Zastupnici samo trebaju imati na umu da dok su oni zauzeti brigom o svijetu, trebaju se
brinuti i o sebi.

Strengths & Weaknesses

Advocate Strengths

 Creative – Combining a vivid imagination with a strong sense of compassion, Advocates use
their creativity to resolve not technical challenges, but human ones. People with the Advocate
personality type enjoy finding the perfect solution for someone they care about. This strength
makes them excellent counselors and advisors.
  Insightful – Seeing through dishonesty and disingenuous motives, Advocates step past
manipulation and sales tactics and into a more honest discussion. Advocate personalities see
how people and events are connected. They are then able to use that insight to get to the heart
of the matter.
 Inspiring and Convincing – Speaking in human terms, not technical, Advocates have a fluid,
inspirational writing style that appeals to the inner idealist in their audience. Advocates can
even be astonishingly good orators, speaking with warmth and passion. This is especially true if
they are proud of what they are speaking for.
 Decisive – Advocates’ creativity, insight, and inspiration are able to have a real impact on the
world. This is because they are able to follow through on their ideas with conviction, willpower,
and the planning necessary to see complex projects through to the end. People with the
Advocate personality type don’t just see the way things ought to be; they act on those insights.
 Determined and Passionate – When Advocates come to believe that something is important,
they pursue that goal with a conviction and energy that can catch others off-guard. Advocates
will rock the boat if they must. Not everyone likes to see this, but their passion for their chosen
cause is an inseparable part of the Advocate personality.
 Altruistic – These strengths are used for good. Advocates will not engage in any actions or
promote beliefs just to benefit themselves. They have strong beliefs and take the actions that
they do because they are trying to advance an idea that they truly believe will make the world a
better place.

Advocate Weaknesses

 Sensitive – When someone challenges or criticizes Advocates’ principles or values, they are
likely to receive an alarmingly strong response. People with the Advocate personality type are
highly vulnerable to criticism and conflict. Questioning their motives is the quickest way to their
bad side.
 Extremely Private – Advocates tend to present themselves as the culmination of an idea. This is
partly because they believe in this idea, but also because Advocates are extremely private when
it comes to their personal lives. They use this image to keep themselves from having to truly
open up, even to close friends. Trusting a new friend can be even more challenging for
Advocates.
 Perfectionistic – Advocate personalities are all but defined by their pursuit of ideals. While this
is a wonderful quality in many ways, an ideal situation is not always possible – in politics, in
business, in romance. Advocates, especially Turbulent ones, too often drop or ignore healthy
and productive situations and relationships, always believing there might be a better option
down the road.
 Always Need to Have a Cause – Advocate personalities get so caught up in their pursuits that
any of the cumbersome tasks that come between them and their ideal vision is deeply
unwelcome. Advocates like to know that they are taking concrete steps toward their goals. If
routine tasks feel like they are getting in the way – or worse yet, there is no goal at all – they will
feel restless and disappointed.
 Can Burn Out Easily – Their passion, impatience for routine maintenance, idealism, and extreme
privacy tend to leave Advocates with few options for letting off steam. People with this
 personality type are likely to exhaust themselves in short order if they don’t find a way to
balance their ideals with the realities of day-to-day living.

Romantic Relationships
“Love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.”

Nelson Mandela

When it comes to romantic relationships, Advocates take the process of finding a partner
seriously. Not ones for casual encounters, people with the Advocate personality type instead look
for depth and meaning in their relationships.

Advocates will take the time necessary to find someone with whom they truly connect. Once
they’ve found that someone, their relationships will reach a level of depth and sincerity of which
most people can only dream.

Getting to that point can sometimes be a challenge for potential partners, especially if they are
impatient types, as Advocates are often perfectionistic and picky. People with this personality
type aren’t easily talked into something they don’t want. If someone doesn’t pick up on that, they
are unlikely to be forgiven, particularly in the early stages of dating.

Even worse is if their partner tries to resort to manipulation or lying, as Advocates will see right
through it. If there’s anything they have a poor tolerance for in a relationship, it is a lack of
authenticity.

Is This for Real?

Advocates will go out of their way to seek out people who share their desire for authenticity, and
out of their way to avoid those who don’t, especially when looking for a partner. All that being
said, people with the Advocate personality type often have the advantage of desirability. They
are warm, friendly, caring, and insightful, seeing past facades and the obvious to understand
others’ thoughts and emotions.

One of the things Advocates find most important is establishing genuine, deep connections with the
people they care about.

Advocate personalities are enthusiastic in their relationships. There is a sense of wisdom behind
their spontaneity, allowing them to pleasantly surprise their partners again and again. These
types aren’t afraid to show their love, and they feel it unconditionally.
Advocates create a depth to their relationships that can hardly be described in conventional
terms. Relationships with Advocates are not for the uncommitted or the shallow.

When it comes to intimacy, Advocates look for a connection that goes beyond the physical. They
prefer to embrace the emotional and even spiritual connection they have with their partners.
People with this personality type are passionate partners.

Advocates see intimacy as a way to express their love and to make their partners happy. They
cherish not just the act of being in a relationship, but what it means to become one with another
person in mind, body, and soul.

Friendships
“The most I can do for my friend is simply be his friend.”

Henry David Thoreau

There is a running theme with Advocates, and that is a desire for authenticity and sincerity – in
their activities, their romantic relationships, and their friendships. People with the Advocate
personality type are unlikely to go for friendships of circumstance. They avoid situations like
workplace social circles or chatting up their local baristas, where the only thing they really have
in common is regular contact.

People with this personality type seek out others who share their passions, interests, and beliefs.
They create friendships with people with whom they can explore philosophies and subjects that
they believe are truly meaningful.

Closed Book and Speed Reader

From the start, it can be a challenge to get to know Advocates, as they are very private. Advocate
personalities don’t readily share their thoughts and feelings, not unless they are comfortable and
feel that those around them can be trusted. Since those thoughts and feelings are the basis for
Advocate friendships, it can take time and patience to get to know them.

Meanwhile, Advocates are very insightful and have a particular knack for seeing beyond others’
disguises. They are able to interpret others’ intentions quickly and easily and weed out those who
they deem incompatible.

In friendship, it’s as though Advocates are searching for a soulmate, someone who shares every facet of
their passions and imagination.
Advocates are often perfectionistic, looking for ultimate compatibility. They also look for
someone with whom they can grow and improve. Needless to say, this is a tall order, and
Advocates should try to remember that they are a particularly rare personality type. Even if they
find someone compatible in that sense, the odds that they will also share every interest are slim.

Advocates must learn to meet others halfway and recognize that the kind of self-improvement
and depth they demand is simply exhausting for many types. Otherwise, they may end up
abandoning healthy friendships in their infancy in search of more ideal compatibilities.

Like Finding a Needle in a Haystack

Further complicating things is Advocates’ ability to passionately and clearly express themselves.
These traits can lead to a lot of (unwanted) attention and popularity. Their quiet, determined
idealism naturally draws influence. Advocate personalities, however, tend to avoid seeking
power over others – and the people who are drawn to that type of power.

Advocates will find themselves more sought after than they’d ever care to be. This makes it even
more difficult for them to find someone with whom they truly have an affinity. Really, the only
way to be counted among Advocates’ true friends is to be authentic and to have that authenticity
naturally reflect their own.

Once a common thread is found, though, people with the Advocate personality type make loyal
and supportive companions. People with this personality type encourage growth and life-
enriching experiences with warmth, excitement, and care.

Additionally, as trust grows, Advocates will share more of what lies beneath the surface. If those
ideas and motives are mutual, it’s the sort of friendship that will transcend time and distance,
lasting a lifetime.

Advocate personalities don’t require a great deal of day-to-day attention. For them, quality
trumps quantity every time. Over the years they will likely end up with just a few true
friendships, built on a richness of mutual understanding that forges an enduring link between
them.

Parenthood
“My instinct is to protect my children from pain. But adversity is often the thing that gives us
character and backbone.”

Nicole Kidman

As parents, Advocates will tend to look at their relationships with their children as opportunities
to learn and grow with someone they care about. They will also work to achieve another
important goal – raising their children to be independent and all-around good people.
These types are devoted and loving toward their children throughout the parenting relationship.
However, what Advocates really look forward to is being able to communicate and relate to the
people they helped to raise, as equals.

Be Unique, Just Like Me

As their children grow, Advocates will likely try to project a great deal of their own beliefs onto
them. They will demand the same sort of integrity and honesty that they demand from
themselves. Advocates may even find themselves “guilting” their children into following their
path in their weaker moments. Despite this, Advocate personalities will also push their children
to think independently, make their own choices, and develop their own beliefs.

Advocate parents want to raise children who are ethical, creative, and kind.

If all this independence is taken to heart, it can cause some trouble for Advocate parents as their
children move into the more rebellious phase of adolescence. This is especially true if their
children choose beliefs that go against what their Advocate parents hoped they would believe. In
this case, Advocates are likely to feel like their children are pointing out their flaws by following
another path, a hurtful thing to such a sensitive personality type.

A Job Well Done

Ultimately, though, Advocate parents will realize that these conflicting beliefs aren’t a sign of
their failure. Rather, they are a sign of their success in raising someone who learned to form their
own ideals. As they grow, Advocates’ children will also come to appreciate the combination of
independence and integrity with which they were raised.

Advocates strive to make sure that their children grow up with a firm understanding of the
difference between right and wrong. Parents with this personality type encourage their children
to fight for a cause they believe in, striving to be the best they can be. If they feel that they have
accomplished this goal, Advocate parents will be satisfied with what they’ve accomplished
together with their children.

Career Paths
“It’s better to fail while striving for something wonderful, challenging, adventurous, and
uncertain, than to say, ’I don’t want to try because I may not succeed completely.’”

Jimmy Carter
Advocates are likely to find that most corporate career paths are not designed for them, but for
those focused on their status and material gain. However, people with this personality are able to
find work that suits them in just about any field.

In fact, Advocates are likely to face the opposite problem. Many struggle to begin a career early
on because they see ten wildly different paths forward, each with its own set of rewards. This can
be appealing but also heartbreaking, because picking just one means letting go of so much else.

Truth, Beauty, Purpose

Advocate personalities need to find meaning in their work and to know that they are helping and
connecting with people. An Advocate working as a Ferrari salesperson, for example, is highly
unlikely.

Their desire to help and connect makes careers in healthcare – especially the more holistic
varieties – very rewarding for Advocates. Roles as counselors, psychologists, doctors, life
coaches, and spiritual guides are all attractive options.

Advocates’ needs don’t end at meaning, though – any productive work can be meaningful, as
any productive work helps someone, somewhere. Advocate personalities crave creativity, too.
They strive to use their insight to connect events and situations, creating real change in others’
lives.

For Advocates, money and Employee of the Month simply won’t cut it compared to living their values
and principles.

Two Roads Diverged In a Yellow Wood

These needs are hard to meet in a corporate environment, where Advocates will be forced to
manage someone else’s policies alongside their own. For this reason, people with the Advocate
personality type are more likely to find independence in a leadership position, or by simply
creating their own business.

If they choose to go the independent route, they will focus on applying their personal touch,
creativity, and altruism to everything they do. This can be the most rewarding option for
Advocate personalities. When they step out of the overly humble supporting and noncompetitive
roles they are often drawn to, they can move into positions where they can grow and make a
difference.

Advocates often pursue expressive careers such as writing, effective communicators that they
are, and author many popular blogs, stories, and screenplays. Music, photography, design, and
art are viable options too, and they all can focus on deeper themes of personal growth, morality,
and spirituality.

Where Advocates struggle is in work that doesn’t take personal needs into consideration, is
overly repetitious, or promotes conflict. Jobs with these traits will leave Advocate personality
types frustrated and unfulfilled. They can also struggle under the criticism and pressure that
comes with jobs in corporate politics or sales.

Advocate personalities are clever and can do well in any of these fields. To be truly happy,
however, they need to be able to work in a way that aligns with their values and allows them
some independence. They need opportunities to learn and grow alongside the people they are
helping and contribute to the well-being of humanity on a personal level.

Workplace Habits
Advocates have pretty tall demands when it comes to a satisfying work environment. Not only
do those with this personality type need to be able to express their creativity and insight, they
also need to know that what they are doing has meaning.

People with this personality type need to know that their work helps people and promotes their
own personal growth. Their work must be in line with their values, principles, and beliefs all the
way.

Oftentimes, the best way for Advocate personalities to achieve this is not to have to answer to
others’ rules at all. Instead, they should strive to be their own boss, neither above nor below
anyone else, just directly interacting with the people and ideas that are important to them.

All that being said, Advocates are a clever and inspired group. With a few of the right conditions,
almost any position can be made to work for them.

Advocate Subordinates
As subordinates, Advocates are likely to do poorly with strict rules, formal structures, and
routine tasks. People with the Advocate personality type value cooperation and sensitivity. The
more open-minded and personal their manager’s style is, and the more they feel their personal
input is considered, the happier they’ll be.

Advocates act on their convictions, so when they do something, it’s something that has meaning
to them. If those actions come under criticism, especially the unwarranted kind, their morale is
likely to tank spectacularly.

A manager’s values need to be in line with the Advocate’s for both sides to work well together.
Though usually idealistic, if their work environment does not line up with their values, people
with the Advocate personality type can become angry and bitter. But if it’s a balance they can
handle, with a little encouragement every now and then, Advocates will work hard and thrive.
People with this personality type are more than capable of handling tasks and workplace
relationships.

Advocate Colleagues
As colleagues, Advocate personalities are likely to become quite popular. They are likely to be
seen as positive, eloquent, and capable friends. Among their greatest strengths is the ability to
identify others’ motives and defuse conflicts and tension before anyone else even senses a
disturbance.

Advocates are likely to place more importance on working together over efficiency, encouraging
hard work, and helping others when needed. While this is usually a strength, there is a risk that
others will take advantage of Advocates’ desire to get things done. Coworkers may do this – on
purpose or without realizing it – by shifting their tasks onto their more dedicated Advocate
coworkers’ desks.

It should also be remembered that, at the end of the day, Advocates are still Introverts, and this
kind of popularity isn’t always welcome. They will need to step back and act the lone wolf from
time to time, pursuing their own goals in their own ways. An unhealthy version of this tendency
may pop up if Advocates sense that their values are being compromised by a more ethically
relaxed colleague.

Advocate Managers
As managers, Advocates often dislike using their power. Individuals with this personality type
prefer to see those who work under them as equals. They do this by focusing on coordinating
tasks and supervising people, leaving the facts and details to others. They work hard to
encourage others, not to crack the whip.

That’s not to say that people with the Advocate personality type have low standards – far from it.
The Advocates’ sense of equality means that they expect their subordinates to be as competent,
motivated, and reliable as the Advocates themselves.

Advocate managers are sensitive, understanding, and fair, able to appreciate individual styles and
to make accurate judgments about others’ motivations. However, if an employee’s actions or
attitude undermines an Advocate manager’s ethics or values, they will find little comfort in these
qualities.

People with this personality type have no tolerance for lapses in reliability or morality. But, so
long as no such lapse occurs, Advocates will work tirelessly to ensure that their subordinates feel
valued and happy.
Conclusion
“In the end, it’s your actions, how you respond to circumstance, that reveals your character.”

Cate Blanchett

Few personality types are as passionate and mysterious as Advocates. As someone with this
personality type, your imagination and empathy make you someone who cherishes their integrity
and deeply held principles. Unlike many other idealistic types, however, you are also capable of
turning those ideals into plans and executing them.

Yet Advocates can be easily tripped up in areas where their idealism and determination are more
of a liability than an asset. There are many areas in life where you may face challenges that, at
times, can even make you question who you really are. Anything from navigating interpersonal
conflicts, confronting unpleasant facts, pursuing self-realization, or finding a career path that
aligns well with your inner core can cause internal frustration.

What you have read so far is just an introduction – and less than five percent of what we can tell
you about the Advocate personality type. You may have muttered to yourself, “Wow, this is so
accurate it’s creepy,” or, “They know more about me than people I’m closest to.” You may even
be a little uncomfortable because you are really not used to being understood.

This is not a trick. You felt understood because you were. And no, we did not spy on you –
rather, we spent years studying Advocates’ life stories, experiences, and responses to hundreds of
our surveys. Step by step, insight by insight, we discovered exactly how Advocates think, and
what they need to reach their full potential.

This is how we know that many of the challenges you’ve faced (and will face in the future) have
been overcome by other Advocates. You are not alone in this. You simply need to learn from the
mistakes and successes of others.

But in order to do that, you need a roadmap that fits your needs. Life is too short to stumble
around grasping at scattered and contradictory advice that may work for 95% of the population,
but not you. We now need to go much deeper into the Advocate mind and answer, “Why?”
“How?” and “What if?”

Are you ready to learn why, as an Advocate, you act in the way you do? What motivates and
inspires you? What you are afraid of and what you secretly dream about? How can you unlock
your true, exceptional potential, while also staying true to who you are?

Our Academy provides a roadmap toward a more focused, confident, and successful you. It’s not
for everyone – you need to be willing to challenge yourself, to face your fears, and to ask and
answer questions you haven’t asked yourself before. This is not a quick-fix solution, nor an easy
shortcut. Our goal is to help you grow and become the person you are meant to be, not to simply
give you a comfortable mask to put on.

Are you ready to begin your journey? Then continue to the next section. We’ll be waiting for you
in the Academy.