How do I know anything about winning arguments?

Let me
count the ways (If you saw the slight pun I did there,
comment and let me know that you are my soul mate) –
One, I am a law student. Two, I am the middle child who is
always up for a good fight with my siblings (Spoiler Alert: I
lose the physical fight that ensues in the aftermath). Third,
I live with two cats, one of them an absolute sweetheart
and the other a feisty little fluff ball, who is always snarling
at me (Note: I also lose the fights with my cat so I know
both the sides of the story.) Fourth, did I tell you I am a law
student?
Anyway, so you see that I do love me a good fight and over
the years of observing and reading extensively on the great
debaters of our time, I have found some tools that will help
you turn every single argument in your favour and mind
you, these will not be your usual yada-yada.
But before I hand you the tools, here is the basic mindset
you should have –

 Respect your opponent, which means name calling

and swearing is out of question.
 Know that you are not there to fight, you are there to
engage and test your idea against the other person
 Always use a soft and slow tone with well timed
pauses to maintain the peaceful atmosphere
 Believe in your stance and come prepared to blow their
minds. (Get your statistics game on!)
  Know that changing your opinion and agreeing with
the other side doesn’t diminish you, rather it makes
you the larger person and shows your maturity.
Now, that we have got the basics out of the way, these
three tools will help you win any argument and will almost
always let you leave the room with more friends than you
entered the room with.

 Go small
o When I say go small in your argument I mean to
say that you need to make your points more
relatable and put them in contrast to day-to-day
happenings.
o The issue may be global, but in order to drive
home your point you need to illustrate it with
something your opponent/audience is familiar
with.
o If you are talking about climate change, you can
put the idea in contrast to say, an aquarium or a
small village.
 Inflect
o The goal of your arguments should NOT be to
make the other side feel inferior, it should be to
help them understand why your point is more
logical and for this you should do upward
inflection
o Upward inflection essentially is the way to
deflecting a particular person’s idea to a larger
idea, thereby disconnecting the other side with
 their points and making it less personal, which
results in zero clash of egos as now both of you
have realized that you are debating ideas and are
not the arch-nemesis of the other party.
 Be the question box
o As mentioned before, there are no right or wrong
sides in an argument, only differing point of views.
So, always make a genuine attempt in good faith
to understand the other side by asking questions
– How they got to the conclusion they have? Why
do they believe it? Etc.
o And after understanding their point of view you
can poke at the inconsistencies in their belief (in a
respectful manner)
Here we are! These three tools will transform your
argument to agreement and for a better understanding you
can watch these tools at play being used by most of the
world leaders, empire builders, strategians in their
speeches (Some of my favourite examples include -
Sadhguru, Trevor Noah, Ben Sharpiro etc.)
So, win that debate, dear!