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Table Of Contents
Hey, what’s up? ........................................................ 5
Preamble ................................................................10
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It’s All About Skill.....................................................65
Positive Thinking ......................................................66
Take Yourself to Your Happy Place..............................69
Attributes You DON’T Need........................................70
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When You Meet Up .................................................129
Don’t Be Boring On a Date ......................................130
Let Her Chase You..................................................131
The Kiss................................................................132
How To Take Her Home ..........................................134
Sex or Friends .......................................................136
The End of the Beginning ........................................137
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Hey, what’s up?
Hi, my name is Nick and I think I can teach you one thing
or two about attracting women.
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What I wanted was something that actually HELPS me
getting better, not leaving me even more clueless.
… and I did!
This got me thinking… There are some men out there who
seem to get most of the women that are around, while
most men seem to get hardly anything or are just
“friends” with women.
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What if I was to model the very successful men out there,
the ones that always had at least 3 or 4 women on the go
at the same time. What if I was to do exactly the same as
they did, would I have the same success?
The funny thing was that I expected every man who was
really successful with women to be very good-looking or
have a handsome baby-face, be at least over 6 foot tall,
drive a nice car and sort of wealthy.
Nobody was!
None of these men had those traits. That was really weird
let me tell you.
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While every guy out there was trying to be very nice,
polite and friendly to a woman he was trying to court in
hopes that eventually she will like him too … it never
happened. He always ended up as being rejected with
“well you know, let’s rather be friends, you’re such a nice
guy” or “you are just too good for me, you will find
somebody else”.
… but really, I’m not too good for you, I like you and want
you!!
So what is it?
But I don’t want to tell you right now what that secret
thing is that seems to attract almost any woman … I am
going to LEAD you to the answer throughout this book.
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This way, you will feel much more like you deserve it and
you will also be able to look through the looking glass the
other way.
Welcome to StreetSmartDating!
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Preamble
After you are done reading this dating manual, you will
see the code of the matrix and have all the core essentials
down to meet and attract women on a daily basis.
This is why I want to give you something you can use and
that will help you right now. Not in a months time, not
next week … TODAY!
Most other books about dating don’t have that edge and
only tell you what works in general.
That’s why this book only covers what you really need to
know. It is almost like a crash-course or dating women in
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a nutshell. It’s ideal for someone who doesn’t really know
where they are with attracting women and wants to know
where they should start. This is the perfect place.
Of course, this isn’t the only book available, like I said this
is the raw basics. If you want to know more about how to
attract women, what to say to them, how to say it and so
on, then I suggest you get my killer program called
Advanced Dating Series or study my other programs
available from my website.
But first you will need to make sure you understand the
principles outlined in this book … otherwise the advanced
programs won’t mean anything to you.
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Most importantly, you need to make sure you are willing
to succeed. If you think something is not worth trying
then you are guaranteed never to understand the
concepts or gain new skills. Things are hard work at
times, but that doesn’t mean they can’t be done. If you
find something hard to grasp, it just means you will get
more satisfaction at the end of it. If you are too negative
and too skeptical not to even give things a solid try, then
I’m sorry, but I can’t help you.
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Part 1: The Bigger Picture
My story
So you see, at first I went for being the nice guy and
using my personality to show I was attentive and caring,
just like most guys out there who don’t get it. It
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didn’t take long before I realized that women found nice
guys boring.
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I realized that I had to start looking at everything from a
different perspective and pay attention to more detail. So
I figured that I had to turn it around.
What I mean is, unless you really stick it out, you will just
be another failure. Everything takes time and usually the
harder it is, the more rewarding. I had to work very hard
at figuring all this out, but it paid off.
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the basics down. Fortunately, you don’t have to because I
have done all the hard work for you already.
But to get the most out of this, you will need to put in
some effort as well and learn and apply it.
Think of all the people you have known who did martial
arts, piano, ballet or whatever? How many of them gave
up after just a few months? A lot I’ll bet. But those who
stuck it out probably became pretty darn good at it. And I
will bet they gave up because they didn’t make the same
kind of progress that they did when they started. Once
you have read this manual you will be so much better
than before, but to get really good and make your success
with women shoot through the roof you just need to stick
at it.
Right now, I have the core stuff together that can make
anybody successful with women. It’s not looks and it’s not
money … it’s something completely else and I will show
you exactly what it is.
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I really do know what works and what doesn’t, that’s why
I want to give you only the core fundamentals and
concentrate on results.
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to do it, this my friend is like having a personal remote-
control for your life!
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Now I’m an not an arrogant jerk towards women (ok
maybe sometimes ☺) but you need to realize that there is
a huuuuuuuge difference between what works when it
comes to attracting women, and what is generally
perceived as good social behavior.
Now you can’t just walk into a bank and shoot everybody
just to get some cash. Not only because it is illegal, but
also because you just don’t do that.
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If you didn’t see the point of certain rules, you brake ‘em
but would get into trouble for doing so.
But what about when you wanted to date that special girl
you had a crush on? How were you going to achieve that?
Should you act like you always did around your friends?
Should you do something different?
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Now look:
Why?
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It is highly advanced cutting edge material that I believe
is the best in the world.
Will you change YOUR goals or morals from reading my
book?
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Men v Women
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• Why are women not as interested in a cars
performance as guys?
Just because we are men and they are women you say?
Well, I think that’s obvious … but why?
Why? Because if you put all the pieces together, you will
see that women are emotional creatures! They need to be
stimulated emotionally to do something with you.
Cold facts don’t work here, it’s all about driving her
emotions nuts until they go wild. This is the key!
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No point talking about what car you drive, how much
money you got or how big your biceps is…you have to be
able to press her emotional trigger buttons that create
attraction!
Get it?
Allright then …
So let me ask you this: If I just gave you lots of lines that
work … at some point you will run out of material. Then
what?
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Because I figured out how the code looks like. I know
WHERE her emotional trigger buttons are, the ones that
make any woman attracted to you within seconds!
Simple…
Get it?
Women LOVE that shit! In fact, they will giggle, smile and
tell you how full of yourself you are but they just got
attracted to you!
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Remember that women never go for the nice guy. Nice
guys always finish last! Pay attention to what she does
(such as dating a jerk or asshole) and not what she says
(such as “I want a man who treats me like a princess”).
Don’t think just because she hasn’t told you anything yet
that she isn’t attracted to you. If she laughs, lets you kiss
her, hits you on the arm and calls you a bad boy with a
huge ego … she absolutely loves what you are doing so
don’t stop it.
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Part 2: The Fundamentals
About Attracting Women
The Magnificent 7
There are seven basic things that attract women. All but
one are truly important, which is the last one. Anyhow,
here are the seven basic things that attract most women
on this planet.
1) Wealth
Meaning how much money you have and how much you
earn. Women wouldn’t mind having a partner who has
lots of money because he would be the perfect provider.
But this need is purely a survival strategy and hasn’t
changed over centuries. The most common reason why
women (or gold-diggers) like a wealthy man is pretty
obvious: Because they can buy lots of stuff like hundreds
of shoes, clothes and jewelry … or generally speaking,
provide a better lifestyle. They also are attracted to the
idea of never having to work or worry about money
anymore. Does that mean you can’t get a beautiful
woman if you are poor? Dude, you couldn’t be more off
here. Women do prefer rich guys over poor guys, but
even if you DO have money, it doesn’t mean jack.
2) Looks
Most women say they want a guy that is cute and tall. If
you look like a Brad Pitt or Johnny Depp, women will get
attracted to you instantly. Now the problem here is that
looks alone give you a lot of attention and is NOT really a
crucial factor in how successful you are. Same goes for
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height: You don’t need to be tall to become a ladies-man.
Why do you think most of the guys that are really
successful Playboys or Ladies-Men are not rich, not tall
and don’t have model-looks. To be honest, some of them
I am close friends dress like shit and don’t even shower
before going out. You really need to come off this trip that
looks will give you a huge edge in this dating game
because it’s just not true!
3) Power
4) Fame
5) Status
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doesn’t have status. Here’s another slick trick: If women
see other women eyeballing you or trying to get your
attention, your status rises instantly in the eyes of ALL
women. This is because women tend to follow, and if they
see other women being interested in you, then you must
be sexy for every woman. Get it?
6) Talent
7) Personality
Your personality is the ONLY thing that you can tweak and
improve in a short amount of time. I mean you won’t get
rich overnight and you certainly won’t grow two more
inches if you are an adult.
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Your personality decides whether or not a woman will
ultimately want to be with you and love you.
We are not rich, not tall and certainly don’t have model-
looks. I don’t even have a car as I type this.
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But I was a struggling nice guy like many of you guys
reading this, and all I could do at this point was to fix and
enhance my personality that it would attract women in
the near future … and it worked!
I’m not richer, not taller and not more handsome than I
was before, but my personality is absolute killer!
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• Humor – Make a woman laugh and she will eat out
of your hand. If you can make women smile, giggle
and laugh, it will bypass their bitch-shield. They can’t
give you attitude either because you lowered their
guard since they are laughing. It will also make you
an interesting and fun person to hang out with.
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guessing. Say things she wouldn’t expect , make
spontaneous decisions and don’t reveal everything
about yourself early on. All this will make you so
much more interesting. Every woman kinda knows
how men behave or how her past dates went … so
you have to show her that you are NOT like them. By
being spontaneous, unpredictable and a little
mysterious, you instantly come off as different and
special, making you seem a hot and interesting man
in a woman’s eyes.
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• Be rebellious – If you follow all the rules, you are
boring and predictable. Rules are here to be
broken…and which woman doesn’t love a wild,
rebellious and adventurous guy? She will try to tame
you, and that’s half the fun right there for every
woman on this planet. They don’t like the nicey-nice
guys who they KNOW they can get anytime, they
want the rebels, the bad boys of the jungle!
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waaayyy to seriously. No need! Just relax, play it by
your own rules and do what YOU want. You will come
off so much more confident, sexy and as a challenge.
Why?
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You can now make almost EVERY woman get sexually
attracted to you, so I want you to go for the type of
woman you always wanted!
Get it?
No!
She goes out with the guy that makes her feel sexually
attracted!
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That’s one of the many secrets of this dating game! I’m
glad I taught you this just in time.
So let’s continue…
Women will give you some attitude and behave like a brat
sometimes.
Buy why?
Their decisions are not based on pure logic but rather how
they feel at that given moment.
“Yeah, BUT…”
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The problem here isn’t really the bitching itself, but how a
man reacts to it. If you can’t handle the situation and let
her act like a brat, then she will get annoyed because you
LET her do it.
It’s just like when women get annoyed at you when you
ASK a woman on a date “where do you want to go?” or
“what do you want to do?”.
Get it?
In other words…DRAMA!
Men don’t really have that need, but you will have to
know how to handle a woman when she gets emotional.
You will have to let her know that she can do that with
every other guy, but not you.
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They test you, they really do. And they do it all the time!
You have to make sure that you let her know what your
rules are, and how far she can go and what you tolerate
and what not.
It’s all about respect anyway: if you let her know, then
she will accept it and respect your decision.
If you don’t put your foot down, she will walk all over you
because you LET HER DO IT!
Women don’t have any respect for nice guys that act like
wimps, so behave like a man!
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their problems with (mostly relationships and men) and
basically consider you as her personal girlfriend.
…and you were still waiting for the right moment to kiss
her and tell her how you really feel about her. Or maybe
you even did, and she just said that she needs some more
space and needs to think about this.
If you try to kiss her, she will turn her head, if you want
to go on a date with her, she will NOT treat it as a date
but like a get-together with one of her girlfriends where
you chat about girlie stuff over a cup of coffee.
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It all leads back to when you first met her because that’s
when you lay out the ground rules and the foundation of
the emotional connection between the two of you.
They will look at you and see that you are a “nice” guy
indeed, but they just don’t feel sexually attracted to you.
But because women don’t tell you to fuck off if you didn’t
behave like a complete jerk, then she will let you be
friends with her.
“You know, you are a nice guy, but I just got out of a
relationship … but we can still be friends”.
But it’s too late now. She has made up her mind about
you already. It’s also a nice way of saying “I’m not really
attracted to you but you are so sweet, I can’t possibly
give you a rude rejection because you are so nice”.
They will ALWAYS date the bad boy, the guy that our
society likes to call a menace, a bad influence and a jerk!
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Does that mean you have to become a jerk to get
women? Hell no! You just need to take what works for
jerks, ditch everything what nice guys do and add the rest
from StreetSmartDating … and you are made!
But just to get this over one last time: Please, PLEASE
don’t fall for the oldest trick in the book and believe that
you should be NICE to women to become successful … in
reality and on the street, it just doesn’t work!
Ok look…
I want to reveal the real secrets right now and that will
give you an incredible advantage.
Allright, think about this for a moment: Why is a good
first impression so important?
Once a woman has made up her mind about you, you are
literally screwed! See, I get so many emails from guys
saying…
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“Hey Nick, I met this woman and I think I blew it by being
nice and clingy and she said she only wanted to be
friends. I even tried to kiss her but she always turned her
face away. What can I do to win her over?”
You will have to start dating other women and get your
skills up to speed. I have tried winning a woman over with
some form of jealousy and I’m not even going to lie here
… it does work!
But the only way you can win a woman over AFTER you
screwed up, is if you have top-notch game. And if you do
have amazing skills, you won’t screw up like this in the
first place.
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That’s why you will have to make sure you get it right
from now on … and from the start!
Once she has this image of you planted in her head, you
can’t change it. If she sees you as a guy who is sweet but
only girlfriend material … it will stay that way.
It happens instantly!
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They don’t really say yes, they only say no or “I wanna
see more…” … and in 99% of the cases, she will sleep with
you and tell her girlfriends “we had sex last night … but it
just happened”.
You know, like it was YOUR fault for letting her sleep with
you because she wanted to see what is going to happen.
• If you act needy and clingy, she will get annoyed and
reject you.
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Can you see where I am getting at here?
Here’s a great example. Let’s say she asks you for some
money to … I dunno … buy some make-up or hand cream.
If she wants some money from you and all you can say is
“yeah sure … here’s some extra”, then she will think “oh
that was easy … he’s not a wimp is he?”
“Look, I’m not just going to give you money to spend. But
you can pay me back with an ice-cream ok?”
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angry with her if she constantly asks you to do things for
her, just laugh about it and be cool.
Most guys try the nice and caring approach because they
think that she will leave them and they couldn’t cope with
that. If you show that you don’t follow the same patterns
as the rest of the male population then she will see that
you are sexy and different.
Just Be a Man
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Simple: They are not REAL MEN!
Women don’t just want any type of guy, they want a real
man. A man that has most of the attractive qualities
women are looking for to brand you as sexy. You know, if
you see a beautiful woman you get attracted and wouldn’t
mind kiss or sleep with her … so don’t deny it!
Be a man!
They know that we think about sex all the time, they
know that men can be dirty pigs … BUT … if you try to be
all nice and DENY that you are not like all the other guys
out there, she will wonder why?
Heck, she might even think you are gay if you act all
nicey-nice at the same time.
You will have to SHOW her that you are not like all the
others. Do you now how to do that?
The real reason why there are way too many wussbags,
wimps and nice-guys but so few real men out there these
days is simply because our society has changed.
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changed and created a lot of men that aren’t attractive to
women because of their new-age behavior.
And the bad boy jerk and macho will ALWAYS lose to the
girl because it’s the nice, polite and feminine guy that
deserves to get the woman because he really does care
about her and listens to all her problems.
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But women really WANT a real man, that’s why they hang
out with the guys they shouldn’t really be with. It’s
attraction that counts!
Okay…
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males will all have to wait in line behind him and the
females will all fight to ensure he fathers their offspring.
But this isn’t really the most important point here. You
see, just like in the animal kingdom, there are a few men
out there who get all the women, and the rest don’t get
anywhere.
A real man!
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about where he was and generally treat her mean. The
woman of today wants a real man with certain qualities to
feel attracted to (remember, it isn’t just strength like in
the animal kingdom or good-looks, money, politeness etc
like you have been told by society) … here they are again
in a short version:
Like the wise man said: Fake it till you make it!
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“Awww that’s so sweet of you to say so, but I’m seeing
someone. You’re a really nice guy you’ll meet someone
who’s perfect for you soon.”
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The reason for this is pretty obvious. Generally speaking,
rich people are portrayed as attractive, healthy, good
natured, well mannered, interesting and generous. Poor
people are portrayed as scruffy, evil, untrustworthy,
unhealthy, aggressive and cold hearted.
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Part3: Looking Through
The Looking-Glass The
Other Way
Everything Has a Reason
In all these tests and games both men and women are
looking for the same thing. Sex.
Women want sex from the same man who can be faithful
and loyal to her. Men on the other hand want many
different partners and don’t want to be tied to any
particular woman.
Respect Yourself
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you want to change it all and look like Johnny Depp, think
hard about each factor of your body.
For example, you are in the worst case scenario. You are
5’ 4”. You weigh 250Ibs and all of it is fat. You wear
tracksuits and sneakers all the time. Your hair is a mess.
What about all that extra body weight? Lose it. If you
weigh that much, not only is it bad for your health, you
are letting women slip through your fingers. Start by
exercising everyday and reducing what and the amount
you eat gradually. Of course if you have a few extra
pounds then this shouldn’t pose any real problem, but
being obese will.
Sort out your hair. Keep it short and wash it at least once
every 2 days.
The reason you want to make sure that you don’t dress
too smart is so that you show a woman you’re not trying
too hard. Dressing differently shows you have originality
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and women will assume you’re different and more
interesting that everyone else simply because you dress
differently.
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to her and what prevents you from feeling to down if you
get rejected is self-image.
The Attitude
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• What if she says something and I cant think of an
answer?
• What if people see me talking to her and think I’m
desperate?
• What if she laughs at me and then goes and tells her
friends that some loser tried to talk to her?
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Never take it personally. Far too many people do this and
its counter productive. You can leave this situation feeling
more confident. First, this situation has shown you that its
not all that bad and your worst thoughts never even came
close. Second, you can make her see that she has just
turned down a hot payer, which will make her very
frustrated, by just keeping your relaxed and chilled
attitude.
“Aw you’re so cute. You are just like my little bratty sister
… you have about the same eye color”
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“Look I’m sorry I didn’t mean to snap at you, I’ve had a
hard day and some jerk was bugging me in the mall
earlier” etc etc.
Tell your friends and other people that you meet about
the bad experiences if there are any. You can stretch the
story out and give everyone a really good laugh. You
might even tell it to a girlfriend or on a date that this bitch
insulted you and then you hit back with a sharp
comeback.
There are some women who are very picky and set in
their ways. In the short time you meet them you might
not be able to convince them that you are the man of
their dreams as they may assume because you dress a
certain way, you’re not their type. Don’t worry about
women like this. If you have the opportunity to speak to
them over a longer period of time you will probably be
able to prove them wrong. Don’t change your style or
image for the woman, just stick with a style you’re
comfortable with.
Try to think about the things that don’t really make any
sense. Think about women’s love for bitching. Attracting
this girl might not make any logical sense and that is why
you have to grasp this new approach to attracting her. By
persevering with what works, you can gradually begin to
understand what attracts women. Keep doing what works
and ditch what doesn’t work.
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Going back to the male way of thinking, a male will decide
what kind of woman he wants. In the same way that in
nature a female will grow attractive feathers, display
bright colors and sound a strong mating call, so will
females in human society. Why do you think the attractive
girls get all the attention and the fat ugly ones spend all
their time on the shelf? Because as in nature, males will
want to mate with the best looking females. This is also
true of females.
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What does everybody else say to her?
What is would she find interesting/funny that she least
expects right now?
If you dress, walk, talk, act and dance just like every
other average guy out there, the woman you’re trying to
pick up will automatically assume that you are just a
regular guy.
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because different women are attracted to different
attributes, these are more like tools. You choose what
attributes you want to display to a woman to attract her.
This isn’t true. It was because you didn’t have the right
charm or game. To put it another way, your game is just
a set of skills that you have and use when you meet
women.
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clothes to impress her or gain 20lbs by working out in the
gym, you just have to learn a new skill.
Positive Thinking
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her friends told her she insisted that things would never
work out for her and trying would only result in failure.
There are many ways you can use positive thinking, but
I’m going to stick to just the one that I use. I relax, close
my eyes and picture myself as a success. I ask myself
some questions about it but most importantly I will make
sure that the answers are also things that I want.
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• What clothes will I be wearing?
• What will I be doing?
• What job will I have?
• Will I be smiling?
• What will my posture be?
• How will I talk?
• Who am I with?
• Where am I?
• What is the weather like?
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Take Yourself to Your Happy Place
What was the last really happy memory you had? You
might have been at the beach, out with a friend or maybe
watching something funny on TV.
What was the feeling like? If you don’t really remember it,
try and think of things that would bring back the memory.
If you find the song that gave you that feeling at that
time, then you can use it as a trigger to bring back those
feelings you had. Find the piece of music that brings those
feelings back and play it to yourself in the morning with
your eyes closed. Let the song form pictures and images
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of the first time you heard it. Then use that positive
feeling to walk up to women with confidence.
When you find the things that made you feel good, look
for others. If you find a song that makes you feel upbeat,
savor it and listen to it before you get on the bus to work
so you feel good about approaching a woman.
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Don’t show her that you’re needy. This is frustrating and
unattractive. A woman wont want a man who worships
the ground she walks on and has to have her with him or
talking to him all the time.
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show a woman that you are insecure about your own
opinions and you’re not at ease with other people
having different views than your own.
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Part 4: The Techniques
and Methods that Attract
Women
Hot Women Have Heard It Before
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everyone else does. Sadly for her, she gets far less of
what she really wants in a partner than everyone else.
Her real wish is to meet someone that will take control of
her, put their foot down when they ask for something
they want, tease her about being such a little bitch and
toy with her about it.
If you meet a girl who looks like a spoilt and beautiful rich
kid, don’t backhand her across the face and tell her to
shut up. This wont work. A far more effective way, and a
way to also show that you are light hearted and funny is
to tease her about herself. If you approach her and the
first thing she says to you is a request, it’s probably a
test.
You reply:
“And what’s wrong with your arms? Are they tired from
buying all that stuff you don’t really need?”
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Be relaxed and funny about it, you’re not trying to insult
her or make her angry just tease her. She will probably
open her mouth and gasp and then laugh, which means
she likes what you said.
If you were to tell her to give you her number and you
still haven’t had a chance to work your magic, she might
say something like this:
Respond with:
The Timeline
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commit. WRONG. Too many guys make this mistake when
they try to attract a woman.
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they don’t push the right buttons to turn a woman on.
Maybe they aren’t funny or cheeky enough. Maybe they
didn’t show they were confident enough. Whatever it is it
makes a woman think:
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everything that a woman asks, just like with a spoilt and
bitchy woman don’t let her push you around by giving her
all the things she asks and hints for.
Spot all the little tricks she tries to pull, for example,
women wash their hair all the time, it’s the oldest excuse
in the book. She could wash her hair anytime, so don’t let
her make you think its something you have to give way
to. If she has to rush to hospital, her father has just died
or she has glandular fever, don’t expect her to rush over
to your place, she wouldn’t be any fun anyway. She might
of course try things like saying she has to look over things
for work tomorrow or go shopping because she hasn’t got
anything to eat. These are tests and you need to show
they haven’t worked on you.
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much as you want an attractive woman, the woman you
are trying to attract wants a confident in control man.
But of course, these hot women are women all the same.
They might not get very many guys they are attracted to
in their lives, but they are still women with needs.
But if you were a hot girl and you wanted to find out if
this man is going to be able to control you and stop you
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from throwing tantrums, how would you go about it?
Would you ask him directly?
You must make sure you use your skills at the right time.
Don’t use them too often either, or they will just become
meaningless.
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If a hot girl tries to kiss you first, say “Hey, not right now,
you’ve got something in your teeth” Being smooth is vital
here, don’t come across as arrogant and unhappy, tease
her about it and then shortly afterwards you go to kiss
her.
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Be a Man
Don’t let anyone tell you that women like kind, sensitive,
emotional and caring men. Whilst they might like to be
treated well and have fun with a man women always
prefer masculine men over feminine men.
Think of all the badboys and real men out there. Why do
they get so many women? If they are rich and famous
that is usually a side issue, but why do you think so many
women prefer guys like Colin Farrell than guys like Bill
Gates? Bill Gates wears boring clothes, he sits in an office
all day, he doesn’t get dirty, he doesn’t get physical, he
doesn’t like thrills. Colin Farrell stars in action movies,
he’s rough, daring and even if he was poor women would
much rather sleep with him than poor old Bill.
Teasing Women
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Here is a way you might tease a girl on a date. When you
are walking take her hand for a few minutes, then take it
away and tell her:
“You cant hold my hand just yet! I don’t know you well
enough.”
This implies she was the one that started holding your
hand as you were walking and she was the one that was
being to forward. This totally messes with a girls ideas
about you and she will find it pretty funny.
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Of course she will know that you like her deep down but
the doubt will toy with her mind so you can tease her
constantly with this method and not have to actually be
there.
“Heck no! I’d leave you like a shot. Actually, I would sell
or you’re clothes and then leave you.”
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How to be Funny
The main thing is laughter makes her feel good and shows
that you are clever. In adult life, we laugh only about
10% compared to when we were infants. She has
probably had a difficult day with boring people that cant
even be mildly interesting. Having a guy making her laugh
will certainly draw her attention to you.
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Men who try to say funny things without having a
humorous personality will just come across as jerks. TV
personalities are notorious for doing this. Think of award
ceremonies and the like, where celebrities like Madonna,
Paris Hilton, Mick Jagger and the rest, will all have jokes
written for them that they reel out. How often have you
felt like telling them to just shut the hell up? Now
compare that with people like Eddie Murphy, Billy
Connolly and so on. They are funny because they know
how to actually BE funny, not just say jokes.
Learn to develop a plan for when you meet a girl that you
like. If she likes what you do initially and seems to be into
you think how you will develop that. You can try:
If you don’t have a plan, the chances are you will slip into
the same old routine. You might keep the funny act up for
a while but you will let her down when it really counts and
she will lose interest quickly.
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Murphy and Chris Rock. Try watching sitcoms that have
been written by comedians and cult comedy series. For
example, The Office and Extras by Ricky Gervais are two
of the funniest shows on the planet. Friends is just a little
too feminine to be good humor and everyone watches The
Simpsons so you need something original.
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“Right here? You know kids might see us if we do. I
think we should wait a while, at least until we are
alone.”
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woman actually wanting to be your friend. It means
she just doesn’t want anything to do with you, but a
woman isn’t going to tell you that straight.
NOTE: Don’t try this with VERY hot women who you
need to break down gradually. They already have a
good idea that you’re attracted to them, so toy with
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them a lot more and avoid giving any signals that you
find them attractive.
More Tips
“Yeah, you know I like you and we’re having a good time,
but I have to go now. Call me tomorrow and we can fix
something up for another day.”
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“I really like him, we seem to get on really well, then why
isn’t he calling me all the time and wanting to spend a lot
of time with me?”
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“If you don’t give me what you want, them I’m going to
have to hurt you. And I don’t mean just rough you up or
be rough, I mean really hurt you. I’m talking about
tickling you.”
If you act all tough and serious when you say this a
woman will love it. She likes the fact you can be strong
and authoritative, but you’re not a brute and you like to
be playful.
And anyway, you cant say that you are confident and
sexy to a woman, you have to show it. Here is how you
do it.
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What is Good Body Language?
1. Posture
Keep your back up and straight so that your head is
up. This will also help you to walk tall and it makes
you appear taller. Many people stoop and slouch
which makes them look shy and afraid. Walk with
good posture and a woman will be able to see you
are confident.
2. Chest
Put your chest out slightly. Show off your masculine
and firm pecks. This is helped by having a good
posture and in turn also helps you to have good
posture.
3. Feet
Don’t stand with your feet too close together. Allow
them to be just less than shoulder width apart. If
you have large shoulders, don’t stand too far apart
so that you look like you have back pain. Don’t tap
your feet or raise your heels, this is a sign of
nervousness.
4. Hand Movements
Keep hand movements smooth and simple. Don’t
bring your arms or hands above your head or start
flailing them around. This is another way to hit
something or someone and look like a complete
moron.
5. Facial Expression
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Look happy and relaxed. Give gentle and cheeky
grins when you say funny and rude things to her to
show her you’re not arrogant. Try to keep your facial
expression cool and calm, don’t look too excited or
amazed.
6. Personal Space
Don’t invade her own personal space. Lean back
slightly when you talk and draw her in. Leaning
forward can make you seem needy or too desperate.
7. Arms
Keep your arms unfolded. This will make you look
open and relaxed. Folded arms usually means
someone is feeling threatened. As with your hands
keep movement to a minimum and make any
movement slow, small and subtle.
If you watch every James Bond film ever made, you will
never find him laughing or goofing around. He is the
epitome of suave and cool. Try to be like James Bond. The
body language and the sex, not the killing.
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Reading Her Body Language
If a woman plays with her hair it’s a sign that she finds
you attractive. If she twirls the ends of her hair round her
fingers its usually a way of saying she is aroused and in
turn she is try to arouse you.
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signs in several women and when I didn’t see them I was
pretty disappointed. But then I quickly found out that they
were in fact VERY, VERY attracted to me.
Keep smiling and grinning if you ever get hit with a tricky
put down. I think I better just give you some examples of
conversations where women try to catch men out. So
here we go:
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Her: (Shocked and trying not to laugh) Do you say
that to every girl you meet?
You: Nope, I’ve never said that to any girl. And I’ve
seen some REALLY short skirts.
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And there are many more that you can probably come up
with. Just have lots of fun.
Try telling her that you are not the type of guy that just
sleeps with anyone and joke about her trying to get you
into bed. She will find this funny especially if you already
know her and the conversation is naturally heading
towards sex.
Don’t Be Predictable
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Needy is bad, but it is also predictable. An attractive girl
will expect this from most men so surprise her. Don’t
keep touch her all the time, especially when you’re
getting to know her. Mix it up and use your skills
sparingly.
• Low
• Slow
• Calm
• Distinct
Make sure that you finish every word your saying. Don’t
try to skip words and skip the annunciation of others, if
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you do, then you will sound like you’re nervous and that is
bad when talking to a woman.
Be Persistent
No does not mean “No” it just means “Not right now”. It’s
also a way for her to say subtly:
The key is simple. Don’t give up when She says “No”, just
keep persisting and she will soon say yes. Just don’t keep
ASKING, ask through your actions.
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Have you had a lot of girlfriends?
You: No, but that doesn’t mean you couldn’t lose a few
pounds.
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Her: Do you look at other women?
Okay…
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• Bars and clubs. These are probably the easiest
places to meet women. Women that go out with
girlfriends are generally speaking, single and looking
for a guy. If you can approach a woman on the
street, this should be easy.
You now have a choice. You can decide at this point you
don’t want to approach women because its all too new to
your or you can grasp the challenge and become a player.
You will do one or the other, I guarantee it.
This is what you have been building up to. This is why you
need to understand what women like, what women want
and how to act around women.
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So where can you find these hot women? Slow down, first
you need to think what type of women you want to meet.
I live just a few minutes walk from the city and there’s
always loads of young women shopping late night on
weekdays or in the afternoon at the weekend. Go out into
your local mall or head into town and start looking around
for what type of women hang around in different areas.
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simply so they could stay in town till 4am and not have to
worry about paying a months salary for a taxi home.
Even if you don’t live near a huge city like London, New
York, Los Angeles, think about a large town with a
population of around 50,000 population. I’ve been to
loads of places like these and there’s always a good few
nice looking women around.
If you can guess roughly what will happen when you meet
on a date with a woman, or she is coming over to your
house, then you will be able to make the right finish
touches so you can control what will happen. This is all
about taking control, and women love that remember.
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• Make sure you always have at least two condoms in
the house that HAVENT been used. I have ripped one
on one occasion, so now I always make sure I have a
backup.
An extra edge
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Get interesting books on your bookshelf. Don’t have
romance novels and books about macroeconomics, get
something interesting. Why not have a book on how to be
a great lover or something dark and masculine like The
Football Factory. Put something up there that will intrigue
her and make her ask lots of questions.
Try to learn some magic tricks. Magic tricks are again all
about delivery. Presenting a magic trick to a woman can
show her you are interesting and can hold her suspense.
Whilst she is watching the trick she will be wondering
what will happen next, almost hanging on your every
word. Go and find some simple card tricks on the internet,
or maybe something you can do with a stuffed rabbit.
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Part 5: Solving the Puzzle
Most people think there is some magical line you can just
say to a woman and she will fall head over heels for you.
If I am honest … this is true to some extent.
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But it’s not one single line … one line just gets her
hooked. If you string more of them same kind together
though, THEN the magic happens: she gets attracted.
The simpler, the more effective they are. Have you ever
tried or seen this kind of approach:
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These are all terrible lines. It’s been used a thousand
times. If you are going to ask a woman for help or
offering them drinks, you are as lame as your line sounds
like: AWFUL!
The best way of breaking the ice without looking like you
are hitting on her is to ask for her female opinion about
something.
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you say, just how you say it. Be clear, slow and distinct.
Remember your voice tone. Don’t act nervous and start
with anything formal or serious. Make sure that you either
have a serious and relaxed approach or if you are being
confident and cheeky you are relaxed and funny about it.
Say it with a little grin. No ear to ear smiles like you are
trying to sell her something. Look calm and sexy.
I can guess how you will feel. You will start feeling REALLY
nervous, relax it passes. If you cant talk to women you
find attractive in the street, just start talking to every
woman you meet, even if you’re not attracted to her. I
was doing some late night shopping in the supermarket at
1 am. The girl at the till was about 10-15 years older than
me and just average looks. But I still had a quick chat
with her just to get that bit extra experience. Since it was
late I just said:
She smiled and said she enjoyed this time of night and
couldn’t sleep anyway. All I had to do was make a couple
of comments while she was putting my card in the pin
machine and in just a few seconds of chat I’d boosted my
confidence and improved my skill.
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Keep talking to everyone. If you are too nervous to
approach women, then work on everybody else. You see a
senior citizen at the bus stop talk to them. If you are on
the train and there’s a guy across from you, find out if
he’s got a personality. Most people who have friends like
to make new ones. I’ve found the ones that don’t, aren’t
very interesting. If you talk to people it will help you
prepare for the jump of moving from just seeing women
and then actually approaching them to talk.
All those puzzle pieces I have revealed for you are about
to come together.
Yes, you have to get your butt over there and start with a
line.
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His feet just don’t want to move. His stomach starts to
tense, he gets nervous and just stands there until the
opportunity is gone.
You just don’t have a clue how she will react. So in other
words, you do not have the experience to calmly walk
over there and say a line that you have used in the past
with great success.
This way you are just talking and it doesn’t look like you
are hitting on her. You will also avoid the boring “Yes” or
“No” answers and suck her into a stimulating
conversation.
Okay…
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1. Walk over and plant yourself next to her
5. Now she is hooked but wait for her response and heat
up the attraction immediately with…
6. So what about you? Are you a real girlie girl and you
spend what … how many hours in front of the mirror?
You see, by giving you a killer line like this that I have
tested already and is guaranteed to work for almost
anybody to break the ice, I will take away all your fear of
approaching.
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• Hey, listen … I need your opinion about something.
See… [pause] would you ever get some guys name
tattooed on your body? Get this … my little sister
met this dude who is like 30 years older than her …
Then after only 2-3 minutes, she will be ready to give you
her number.
Then you cut the conversation short and tell her you need
to run. Example:
“Hey listen, I really need to run and get this sorted out
before the mall closes, but we should continue this
conversation. Here, tell ya what … let’s swap number …”
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Then you hand her your cell-phone and let her type in her
number. Don’t wait for her to agree or say something
when you say “swapping numbers” … just do it!
The key here is to not let her answer or take charge, but
to just TAKE her phone number without asking for it.
Nice guys will always fail this one and hand out their
phone number without taking hers. Women know that,
and they also know that they will NEVER call if a guy gives
out his phone number without getting hers.
Women never ever call a guy the first time, that’s a man’s
job.
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Always make sure that you either trade them, or only
take hers. But from experience please double-check if the
number she gave you is the right one by calling her cell.
Sometimes she will give you a fake one to get rid of you
(meaning you made a mistake in the beginning or didn’t
create enough attraction), or simply can’t remember hers
correctly and made a mistake (it can happen, I can’t
remember my number either *lol*).
But once you have her number in your cell, get the hell
out of there.
LEAVE!
Don’t stick around, just hit the road, seriously! Say “it
was nice meeting you ... I give ya a call and then we can
sort something out, okay? Cya then” and just leave.
Don’t kiss her, don’t hug her or say “you’re really nice, I
hope we can go on a date”.
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Just get outta there before you mess something up.
In fact, she WANTS you to ask her for her number so she
can give it to you. She does want to, but it is you who
needs to make the move.
If you don’t go for it, she will think “hmm, maybe he just
wanted to chat…what a pitty, I would have given him my
number”.
Don’t just beat about the bush, ask for it! Maybe you
were asking her about eyeliner and you can drop this into
the question. Also, break the conversation up in the
middle of things going well, just like with a phone
conversation with a girl you’ve been out with:
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Just be straight and forward about it and she is bound to
give you her number.
If she says she doesn’t have a phone … call her on it. It’s
a test.
Just hand her your cell and let her type in her digits from
her cell-phone, ring it once to confirm and you got
yourself a date!
The Call
Once you got her number, call her the next day. But if
you are new to this, I would give it 1 day in between
before you call … just to let her know that you are hard to
get and not a needy wimp.
The most important rule you have to remember when
calling a woman is keep it short!
I know it is very seductive to let her emotions go and just
keep talking for over 15 minutes.
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So you give her a quick call, make her laugh a little bit,
fluff for 2-3 minutes and then CUT the conversation short
again just like you did when you got her number.
Don’t say:
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the women to see me again. Don’t copy anything directly
here but rather use them as a guideline to help you work
out what you should say in your own situation so you can
structure your own.
Her: Hi
Her: Hi
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Her: LOL. Okay.
You: Yeah ok, I’ll get some stuff done and I can get you
there, okay? Don’t be late!
You: Cya.
Don’t try to get to know her on the phone (what job you
do or what kinda hobbies you have) … just a little small
talk is fine but keep the real conversation for your date.
Keep her on her toes and be a little bit interesting and
mysterious so she really does want to meet you again and
find out more.
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happens to work that time you asked her out. No biggie,
really.
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Now listen up: You only need 3 messages to arrange a
date with a woman. The first one asks how she is and
gets the attraction going. The second one is serious and
straight to the point as in “why don’t you come and meet
me tomorrow etc”. and the third one is to confirm the
date.
Then you confirm the date like “ok, cya there at 7pm.
Nick” and then show up for the date because she will.
Most times girls are late too so you can start busting her
balls for that right away.
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The First Date
If you get a girls number and set up a first date, don’t use
it as the beginning of a relationship, use it as an
opportunity to decide if you really want to see this girl or
not.
Try to make her realize that she is there not because you
want to spend time with her, but that you want to get to
know her better. The date is almost like an interview to
see if you like her and this shows you are not hooked on
her.
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• You don’t need to take her out to dinner. In fact, this
is the WORST idea for a first date.
Now, the idea of a date is to spend time with her and get
to know her.
c) Have a coffee
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But you also need to make it look like you are a challenge
(hard to get), not needy for sex and don’t see this as a
classic date but rather as a get together.
This is why she “can keep you company because you need
to do X in town anyway”.
This works especially well when you are dealing with very
attractive women … you know the type that get hit on at
least 49 times a day.
But on that date, make sure you tease her, bust her balls
and treat her like your little sister. Forget all that formal
dating stuff with flowers, dinner dates etc.
It won’t work.
The tips and techniques from this book though have been
tested many many times and work every single time!
Why? Because if you pull this off it will make you look
different, interesting and sexy in a woman’s eyes.
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Let’s have a deeper look at why every guy seems to think
it is a good idea for a date. You may think a good date is
taking her to the theatre, buying her a rose and then
going to a fancy restaurant. But how can you work your
magical charming skills in a theatre or eating a plate full
of pasta that you can’t pronounce the name of?
Take her to a market that sells funny junk stuff. You can
make clever remarks about what is on sale. There will be
a different kind of atmosphere there than the usual classy
department stores.
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• Show her that you are not going to just be a friend by
avoiding buying her gifts and taking her to expensive
places early on.
• Don’t make too much contact at first. Let her get into
you and then make occasional contact after that.
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way the back of my hair looks” make a joke about it and
tease her for worrying.
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“Man, I can’t believe that Big Brother show. I think that
Nikki maybe lied about her age. I think she’s just a 9 year
old with fake titties. You throw tantrums like her?”
If you ever see a woman and you think she is far too into
herself to respond to your casual charm, take it up
another level and start teasing her and acting
disinterested. You will be amazed at how well it works. It
makes her mind go crazy again. “What, he doesn’t like
me? Does he think I’m not that attractive?”
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The Kiss
I can answer the first one right away: You can have a
woman ready for a hot kissing session within around 3
minutes of meeting her the very first time. This is even
BEFORE you have gotten her number.
So let’s make this one easy for you. If she meets you
again, she WANTS to kiss you.
Forget all the mumbo-jumbo about psychology and “she
needs to be ready first” yadda yadda crap.
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The only way you can kill this attraction is if you go back
to being a nicey-nice guy and bring her flowers on the
date.
This is exactly where you want her. Now, to kiss her you
need to make a smooth transition from talking, playing
and teasing to touching your lips with hers right?
Don’t say a word for about 5 seconds and look into her
eyes. I know this sounds cheesy and corny but I’m not
stupid … I know what I’m doing here.
You see, women have seen all those movies as well and
they KNOW what’s coming. But the trick here is, that she
WANTS you to kiss her … and by signaling her what is
coming, she will not pull her head back.
All they want is that you don’t storm the doors like an
inexperienced kid who has never kissed a woman.
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This really is so freakin’ easy, really.
So just go for it because if she comes on a date with you,
she wants to be kissed. Just don’t make the mistake and
wait with the kiss after 1 or 2 hours into the date,
otherwise she will think you are a wimp for not even
trying.
So you have spent some time with her and had great fun
on your first date or get together. Now you want to see
her naked and take her clothes off.
It’s time to go to your place.
First of all, you should have kissed her already before you
decide to go to your house. This is key!
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The best technique to get a woman to your place is to
rent a DVD or buy some food and cook dinner at your
house.
That’s it.
You see, years ago guys used the now infamous line
“wanna see my stamp collection” and it worked.
Or, you can set up the second date at your house and tell
her to bring the chicken and you will get the pasta sauce.
Then, she will gladly follow you home where you can
escalate things on your couch, get physical with her and
sleep with her.
But don’t forget: No glove, no love! So always use a
condom.
Now really, this is much simpler than it looks like. All you
have to do is spend around 2-3 hours with her on a date,
kiss her, then get her home where you can relax, cuddle
and then slowly let things escalate until she gets so horny
she doesn’t want you to stop.
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Sex or Friends
When you get stuck in the friendship rut, you will struggle
to get out of there. And I mean struggle. The sexually
interested category is far easier and more rewarding,
although beware, you can fall out of that category if you
don’t stay alert.
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also a good way of attracting her at the beginning of a
relationship.
But if you have had sex with her, make sure you give her
a text the next day, otherwise she will think you have just
used her for sex.
But don’t fall back to being a needy wimp and nice guy.
Keep the attraction up and never forget what you have
learnt!
That my friend, is when you know you are truly getting it!
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There’s still lots to learn.
http://www.streetsmartdating.com/advancedseries
BUT the only way you will get the most out of it is if you
have understood and worked on the material from this
book. For now, I recommend that you get yourself out
there and start to practice on what you know. Remember,
just talk, you don’t have to take it any further.
But go and practice a bit first before you make the next
step.
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Wishing you success
Your buddy
Nick
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