I’m Introvert, so when I step out from crowd. It just for recharge my self.

I take this time for

introspection and assessing my principle. I always take the time to understand my motivations that
allows me to use my strength to pursue what I want, I love, or to make my lovely people feel happy.

I like to focus on detail, spend more time thinking about here and now rather than dwelling on the past
and worrying about the future.

About my friendship, I need and take time to build enough trust with new friends to open up and feel
natural. When I’m with frinds that I trust, I know how to relax, shedding rules, traditions and my
expectations.

Actually I care deeply about other people, particularly my closest frends and family. I’m action oriented
and tend to show my care through action rather than discussing feelings or expressing sentiments.
Because I grow up in family that gengsi to express their care through words

In my friends assessment, I am a relaxed person I mean, I rarely to complain with my life, non
judgemental

I tend to be “doers” rather than “dreamers” because

I like challenge but, Actually my biggest challenge is facing planning for the future. I think find
constructive ideals to base my goals on and working out goals that create positive principles is no small
task. Just like I am still confusing about after I graduate, it will continue my study to master degree or
apply for a job at any company. I prefer plan actions and behaviors as contributions to a sense of
identity, building portofolio of experiences.

I can handle phrased commentary and valuing it as another perspective to help push my passions in new
direction. but if the comments are more biting and less mature, i can be bad, I can be temperamental.

I don’t like live in environment that tightly held traditions and strictly enforced procedure , I mean not
tradition

I ever read book belongs to Stephen Covey, The title is the 7 habits of highly effective people, he said

“The way we see is source of the way we think and the way we act”

“open mind is able to see the other point of view”

“when we open our mouths to describe what we see, we in effect describe ourselves, our perceptions,
our paradigms. When other people disagree with us, we immediately think something is wrong with
them, but in fact, people see things differently, they look through the unique lens of experience”.

Paradigm shift

Paradigm shift move us from one way to seeing the world to another way.
I remember a mini paradigm shift from my friend’s enperience in bus. People were sitting quietly-some
reading newspaper, some lost in thought, some resting with their eyes closed. It was calm and peaceful
scene. Then suddenly, a man and his children entered the bus. The children were so loud and
rambunction that instantly the whole climate changed.

The man sat down next to my friend and closed his eyes, apparently oblivious to the situation. The
children were yelling back and forth, throwing things, even grabbing people’s papers. my friend was
automatically very disturbing. And yet, the man sitting next to my friend did nothing. So it was difficult
not to feel irritated, my friend could not believe that he could be so insensitive as to let his children run
wild like that and do nothing about it. Taking no responsibility at all. It was easy to see that everyone
else on the bus felt irritated, too. So finally, with what my friend felt was unusual patience and restraint,
my friends turned to him and said, “sir, your children are really disturbing a lot of people. I wonder if you
couldn’t control them a little more?’

The man lifted his gaza as if to come to a consciousness of the situation for the first time and said softly,
“oh, you’re right. I guess I should do something about it. We just came from the hospital where their
mother died about an hour ago. I don’t know what to think, and I guess they don’t know how to handle
it either.

Can you imagine what my friend felt at that moment?, his paradigm shifted, suddenly he saw things
differently, because he see differently,he felt differently, he thought differently, and behave differently.
His irritation vanished. His heart suddenly full of the man’s pain. His feeling of symphaty and compassion
flowed freely. and he turn to ask to the man, “Oh your wife just died?, I’m so sorry about it, canyou ell
me about that, or what can I do to help?” Everything change in instant.

Practice the pause

I recently came across this image and story and had to share it with you

The man in the picture doesn’t know that there is a snake underneath, The woman doesn’t know that
there is a stone crushing the man.

The woman thinks “I am going to fall and I can’t climb because the snake is going to bite me. Why can’t
he use a little more strength and pull me up?

The man thinks “I am in so much pain, Yet I’m still pulling you as much as I can. Why doesn’t she try and
climb a little harder?.

The moral is you can never see the pressure to other person in under and the other person can’t see the
pain you’re in. This is life, whether its with work, family feelings or friends we should try to understand
each other a little more. Try to the see situation from the other person’s point of view. Put your self in
their shoes, learn to think differently, be more open to other perspective and opinions, A little kindness
and patience goes a long way. Everyone we meet is fighting their own battle, some you will never hear
about. You may other people would be more understanding and compassionate and helpful to you, so
be all those things for other people.
Lori Descheno once gave some priceless advice, she said “practice the pause, pause before assuming.
Pause before accusing and pause whenever you’re about to react harshly. You might avoid saying things
you’ll later regret. Be kind to each other.

Self improvement,

Warren buffet one said : “the more you learn the more you earn”. That is so true. Look at successful
people like bill gates, steve jobs, elon musk, oprah, mark Cuban, and any other highly successful human.

They are successful because they use their time right. They are successful because they are lifetime
learners, they commit to learning new things every single day.

Warren buffet, one of the wealthiest humans on the planet is famous for reading more than five hours
every day

Bill gates reads one book per week

Mark Cuban three hours a day

Oprah, well she’s just obsessed with books.

Notice the common theme here, successful people never stop learning.

Think about this, you have eighty six thousands four hundred dollars to spend every single day, but
when the day is over, the money disappears, you can’t give back, when you try to spend all of the
money before they disappear when you try to use it wisely, thet’s best you could the sad part is we only
had 86400 second per day and most people take this time for granted, most people let this time
disappear without a second thought we’ll never get this time back, we must use it right we must be
productive we must use our time to do things that we love or to prepare our life, so with this benefit
something with more things in hours instead of wasting your time meaningless things used to learn new
things

The time you spend playing video games or party with your friend will never come back

Once you use that time it’s gone forever, use time your wisely, read books study hard and learn as much
as you can, most people give up on their dreams because it gets too far